I don't get it

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M Ldy - Yeah I think you are right - People tend to think I don't lack in confidence because I don't show it but my self-esteem is not too good sometimes - Do you think Pisces are competitive when it comes to credit for something they've done? Like, when it comes to originality, I am a trend setter but no one gives me any credit for it. And I have my own language & make up words & then I'll hear it on the radio & I'll be like thats my word darn it!
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Haffo, maybe this will answer your question:

Because Pisces are so reflective, we continually probe to find the answers as to WHY it is, not WHAT it is. So, when we talk to people, we are more focused on pointing out to people why their behaviour, attitude, or mistakes take place. Though, we are pegged at being nurturing because we are so empathetic, in reality, we are the informers of truths to the natural state of beings.

People don't like to hear the truth, they don't want to be told when they err - which, we will undoubtedly tell them. But, our intentions aren't to point a finger and scold, though, that is often the way it is percieved - our intentions are to show people where they went wrong so an adjustment can be made to better their lives.

The old saying goes: "Don't like the message? Kill the messenger."

When we tell people these things, it's not normally articulate, we tend to harp and that becomes redundant and irritating. But, there is goodness in this . . .

Have you ever noticed how you can tell someone something, it appears as though you are disregarded, but, later, you notice that the person actually made that change in their lives? People want their egos stroked, they don't know who they are as clearly and so believe that what they NEED is for reassurance, even if it's superficial? That is their mistake, they don't need that, they WANT that, so they can continue with the same errs and not feel bad about theirselves. I see this every single day of my life. I will say something to someone, here, in real life, everywhere and the other person blows me off, like I'm clueless - but, then, a change takes place. The nail has been hit on the head and that is hard to digest - but, the change happens and to that I am grateful.

If an effective change can be made at the expense of another, than I would rather be that other, than the one who continues to ignore thyself in order to gain superficial affection.

So, in essence, people do listen, Haffo - they just won't say it in words, you have to watch to see if it's been applied to their lives. And, I've found that 99% of the time, it has been recieved and that person then becomes aware of themselves more clearly.

Cheer Up, I love you, mate.

Peace
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Then the simpliest solution is to make them shut the hell up if they don't know what I'm talking about or if they don't want to accept because it hurts their ego.

I really don't give a damn about what problems with ego people do have. I don't have moral limits, so I don't really care what needed to be done for "Oh don't hurt his/her feelings" stuff.

I'm not up to deal with people stupidities. If something wrong, then the wrong side have to shut the hell up, or defend themselves in sensible manner. Very simple. And if we are the ones who know the truth, then it WILL be known by most people I am near with.
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Haffo, "If something wrong, then the wrong side have to shut the hell up"

How simple that would be if we all realized when we are wrong. Just keep telling others WHY it happened, not THAT it happened and peace will be found, eventually. That is our purpose, to find closure in the end; and understanding WHY we do what we do will set us free.

Keep stroking, I understand where you are coming from all the time.