I Love You. . . But . . .Stay Over There.

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Dreamy-Eyez
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Hello Everyone,
Now-a-days I'm just pushing myself to be more independent and staying true to myself more than anything other than holding things back and being un-happy. I really feel that 2006 is going to be quite a year for me. Anyway, just the other day my father stopped by my job and asked me to stop by his house, but I could not because I'm currently working 2 jobs. He got all upset and said, "I don't know why you are working yourself to death with 2 jobs. You need to quit doing that." Me? I just tuned him out,because my father is one of the people I hold at a distance due to his controlling nature. All he wants to do is dominate and control. When I was living with him a few years ago, he was controlling to the max. I mean, he wanted to change my last name, my style of dress, stop me from talking to the people I talk to, entering the bathroom while I'm showering and nag on how the way I do things. It was just insane. Sometimes I wonder who does he think I am. (His b*t*h?) I could not live like that so I moved out and made my dealings with him very limited. He assumed that we had a bond, but I was never raised by him nor do we get along. For me, it's always upsetting in dealing with him. Anyway, My question is that is it wrong to hold the ones who affect you negativily at arms length, regardless if they are loved ones, because I do and it's the only way I ever have peace.
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Yes, I have addressed him of his controlling nature, but my father just doesn't get it. Whenever people point out things that are a problem with him, he'd act like as if we're talking crazy. I've tried to get thru to him, but yet all I've ever gotten was a reaction that blew things over proportion. I would take a baby step, he'd take the issue to another continent. It's just a cycle that'll never find an alternative.