I think I understand Pisces but......

I met a Pisces about 2 years ago and have admired him from afar since then. He was in a relationship he was always saying cute little things that let me know he was interested in me but I knew he was taken. They have been broken up for a little over a month so now I'm trying to decide if I want to take the plunge and see him. I'm guilty of jumping in head first and hitting bottom too often. I don't wanna sink the ship so anyone have any ideas, I need them. He is quite the wild one but I'm no tame kitten either. I think we have good chemistry so far but I'm super leery about the male species in general after my last handful of experiences. He is Pisces Sun and Moon in Leo and I'm a Scorp Sun Moon in Gemini...Feel free to bash or destroy or tell me anything pleasant as well. Hit me....

Yah that's what I'm afraid of girl...I dunno... How long should I test the waters. I just was a rebound chick for two weeks. It was very unearthing. I just don't trust people anymore. They are crazy!!! He is so good looking and seems really into me but big BUT...How do I know about the rebound thing? Ok and not to be stupid but what is balk? I'm a country girl and some of the lingo on here has not made it to my part of the world. 🙂

If he ended a 2 year relationship a month ago, he's not healed from it and you may well be a rebound relationship. Thing is, you can't tell the difference when you're in a rebound relationship and I'm talking about him in this case. For now I think you should back off and just keep things friendly. Give him the space to deal with this break up and let him come to you and lead in terms of contact. If he's not approaching you to spend time together, he's not ready to pursue something more, which given how recently he got out of a relationship, might be wise. For now, do nothing and see how it plays out over time. That's your best bet. Good luck!

Thanks guys, he has come on very strong and went as far to tell me that he's falling for me today to which I did not respond, I can't lie I want to believe him but I can't at this point. He just stares at me.... We have been friends for the past two years and I may have not made myself clear on his past relationship... He is my age. His ex girlfriend is about 7 years younger and he admits to me she was immature in the way she handled finances. Their relationship was over four year period. Around 2 years they broke up for a year and a half, they got back together for the remainder of the time and about 6 months ago he proposed. Shortly after that he said things were falling apart and never the same after the break up. When he asked her to be "there" with him more often than on the weekends she declined and they both agreed it was a no go. I just went through this with another guy and he seemed to be head over heels to which I was stupid and believed him. I won't do that again. I'm trying to pump the brakes but it's hard he is gorgeous and very believealbe. The difference between these two guys was the last one was a Scorpio too. I was an idiot by believing someone of my own Sun sign, I know firsthand how they work... I can take it I was a dumbass, this one is a Pisces so I'm hoping has different intentions. It may boil down to the very same thing regardless of sun sign, but what you guys are telling me certainly helps. I hope this further explains the situation and gives you further insight into what advice to provide for me. THank you all more than you know!!!

Posted by jessejames
I'm guilty of jumping in head first and hitting bottom too often. I don't wanna sink the ship

You're doing it again

Posted by jessejames
How long should I test the waters. I just was a rebound chick for two weeks. It was very unearthing.

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Why are you rebounding? slow down. be a friend. Chances are he's just looking for attention after suffering a bruised ego...

oh wait... maybe it's you who is doing that

OK maybe so... I don't know I'm trying to keep them all at a distance but I do want a guy to be serious about me and it's so hard to gauge. I have a list of scratch off options just don't know which is the winner.

Posted by jessejames
OK maybe so... I don't know I'm trying to keep them all at a distance but I do want a guy to be serious about me and it's so hard to gauge. I have a list of scratch off options just don't know which is the winner.

oh you have a line going, huh. good luck finding the one who "wins" you

Ok point taken, you guys are good. I need the encouragement for real. I am tired of being the idiot.

i agree with Nem

you say you want someone to be serious about you... in order to find that i think you have to be serious about someone from the jump also and not just wait and fall for lines that men give you... believing they are serious. That's just fishing. You're bound to catch something but it probably won't be of much quality.

if you are serious about one person, you wouldn't have/need backups waiting in the wings...

Posted by jessejames
OK maybe so... I don't know I'm trying to keep them all at a distance but I do want a guy to be serious about me and it's so hard to gauge. I have a list of scratch off options just don't know which is the winner.

If he finds out there are "others" he won't be happy about that.

Posted by ianthepisces
I've never.understood this.rebound thing... Is it real?

I don't understand it either. If a person meets someone who they click with, it's usually on. It reminds me of the movie Swingers where the one guy pines for his ex for 6 months or something, but as soon as he meets Heather Grahm and they hit it off the ex girlfriend is totally forgotten.

If two people are single, even if ex's are hanging around, it shouldn't matter all that much if those two people connect and want to start something.

Maybe in divorce situations a certain amount of time is needed, but Idk if I really believe that either.

I don't think the amount of time in between really matters all that much. When I broke up with my ex, he was in another relationship a month later. He's very happy with her and they've been together for over a year now. Him and I were together for two years, too and he said during the break up he was going to propose soon. Not everyone does the rebound thing. They can find people they like in a short amount of time, especially if they knew the people beforehand. Also, even if it it a rebound, that doesn't mean it can't turn in to more. Honestly, you're the only person who can decide what risks you want to take. You won't be able to tell if he's rebounding on you or not. So, use your best judgment.

Some people like to have a plan B. This is where things get dicey. Because it's really playing with two different people's emotions and the person doing the playing is actually doing themselves a disservice by not making a freaking decision on what they actually want.

Adressing the OP, this may be the case since I think she said they have been flirting for 2 years. I hate to sound harsh, but if he really wanted her he would have done something back then. Idk, but a Pisces/Leo will likely not be alone for long unless they really force themselves to. Trust me, I know.

I'm not really trying to play with anyone's emotions as much as I am seeing who is the best for me. It does sound shady but then again you guys have no idea the messes I've been in in my past relationships. Me practicing slow and watch is mostly the direction I'm under. I have a pisces, leo x 2, a virgo and a gemini that all want a slice but it doesn't mean I'm gonna give it up. I just am baiting the hook for now.

Wow cowpuncher I think I love you! You hit the nail right on the head!