Ignoring a Pisces man = more interest?

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by lotus on Sunday, May 5, 2013 and has 29 replies.
Why is my Pisces sun/moon man more interested in me when I ignore him for a few days? He panicks and calls nonstop after I ignore him for a few days, yet when I show him lots of interest, he pulls back and I have to ignore him all over again in order to get his attention.
Is he calling because he is afraid of losing my attention or because he really cares about me?
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Posted by juke
maybe he's the one who likes to initiate the attention-giving


Hmmm, Mars in Aries?
The question is, how do I amplify this? He's gone from calling once every 5 days (of me ignoring him), to every three days. He basically checks up on me and likes to talk about random stuff or invite me over to his place or to get together.
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Yeah Pisces guys are weird like that. And its funny because we know we do it.. We don't like it.. but it is what it is. What I'm thinking is he is looking for attention. He puts on a moody act (Which in a way is real).. An act of depression and aloofness which requires space. But once you give it and ignore him for a bit, he wants things normal again. I wouldn't put to much stock into from what I can tell. Its just his way of receiving attention from someone he cares about.
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I will go the opposite and say he is not as interested as one would be if he goes days without contact...it doesn't sound like a balanced relationship...gathering by your other post where he lacks initiating...and only *bites* when you ignore...sounds like a game play here where you need to pull away from him in order for him to show some *interest* attention...
Someone cares they keep in regular contact daily for a potential love interest with a Pisces...you won't need to pull away to get it...it would flow naturally between two people...as it should...
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Posted by Piscescorp
**He panics and calls nonstop after I ignore him for a few days***

This game ^^^^ you are playing is going to back fire on you.

If you are causing him to panic because you are playing mind games, to exercise control...
sooner or later he is going to swim away to a more calm and drama-free relationship.
There is nothing I like more than a peaceful relationship.



But why is he so desperate for my attention after I ignore him?
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Posted by juke
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Posted by juke
maybe confront him about it? gain some insight


why Juke? she just likes a lot of attention based on her threads she has created.
I think they are doing fine. maybe he doesn't have much to talk about for a couple of days, why does he have to be on the phone daily with her or several times a day.
It is draining, at least to me it is.



maybe he's being nice to not say outright what you're saying here, until he's pushed to a point where he has to spell it out for her.
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I've noticed that every time I contact him, he tends to take his time in replying or is brief sometimes (although both of these aspects have improved lately). When I ignore him and he contacts me, he becomes extra nice and accommodating.
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Me: I miss you and would like to have had you here with me.
He: smile
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Above text initiated by me about a month ago.
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Posted by Piscescorp
Posted by lotus



Me: I miss you and would like to have had you here with me.
He: smile
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and you didn't like the happy face? what is wrong with just a happy face of an answer?

Nothing is wrong. But no "I miss you too"?
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You sound demanding, relax a bit
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Posted by Piscescorp
3) will not say "I miss you if I am not feeling it" / if a day or two has gone by without seeing you or talking to you, I will be honest, I am not going to miss you. It takes more days to miss a person than just a few days.


I think this is an important point that most people don't like to accept. People like to hear their sentiments repeated back to them and expects the other person to actually be saying it from the heart. In reality, you're just pushing them into saying empty words. Not everyone is going to miss you when you miss them. Not everyone is going to feel like being loving when the other is. Not everyone is feeling the love when they're coerced into saying 'I love you, too.'
Sometimes, I respond like this just to keep from arguing with the other person, but other times, I just can't do it. Reltaionships and love are like a well built delusion that both people contribute to. Why put up acts instead of being honest? Idk.
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Oh my. I would not be able to handle a guy like that. I don't want one who will take me for granted, either, but I mean, it's not like all guys who aren't super sensitive would. I think being able to handle your emotions is a good start, unlike the guy who cries at a sunset. Hahahaha.
That was a funny video, though.
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Posted by lotus
He panicks and calls nonstop after I ignore him for a few days, yet when I show him lots of interest, he pulls back and I have to ignore him all over again in order to get his attention.



Isn't that how most human beings act ?
I'm pretty sure it is, regardless of sex or zodiac or whatev
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I find that my (ex)-Pisces did this as well towards the end. If he didn't hear from me all day he'd initiate contact- we spoke every day. Recently, we decided to be friends because I was looking to be in a relationship and he wasn't, but I haven't heard from him now in 2 days. Wondering if he'll contact me after not hearing from me for a while. However, when we were dating he would text me non-stop... Sigh.
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Posted by Piscescorp
@ Tiziani
But some women, including me are afraid to speak up and demand too soon in fear the guy runs away. lol
& you guys in fact do, if you guys are not looking for a more serious relationship.


This! As a woman, I would run away too if the guy spoke too soon.
The thing is, he is slowly becoming better at communicating with me and taking the initiative. I used to initiate most of the time, but now I just disappear for a few days and let him initiate. He also seems to reply to my messages right away most of the time now, which he didn't do before.
Basically he works extra hard to please me if I just disappear and let him initiate. He probably senses that something is wrong and is afraid to lose me. But my point is......is he actually afraid to lose the attention or to lose me because he has feelings for me?
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If it takes these games to get the action out of him, my personal opinion is that he's doing just enough action to keep you on the hook.
People in general won't risk losing something they are sure about. But they'll play these games with something they aren't quite sure about.
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Posted by lotus
Why is my Pisces sun/moon man more interested in me when I ignore him for a few days? He panicks and calls nonstop after I ignore him for a few days, yet when I show him lots of interest, he pulls back and I have to ignore him all over again in order to get his attention.
Is he calling because he is afraid of losing my attention or because he really cares about me?



In order for you to realize this .... you had to have deliberately ignored him.
No, Pisces don't panic when people ignore them, ordinarily ... so it becomes curious as to why you play this attention game with him.
Years ago, you used to play with your Scorpio professor, if I recall correctly ... and you would open your legs to him in class, and place your body against his to get him aroused ... then you'd come in here pretending to be confused and not understanding why this man would shake and breath heavy in your presence.
now, this is quite some years later ..... put still, you've come in here stating that you ignore a man to get him to come to you, and this coming to you he does in a panic .... which I know for a fact that under normal circumstances a Piscean of either gender isn't desperate for another.
if you ignore us .... we flip our fins at you
so, you either have fabricated a story or you're still a player
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Posted by lotus
Did you actually read any of my posts? I said that this guy shows interest in me when I ignore him and pulls back when I show him a lot of interest.




If I hadn't of read what you posted, then how would I have been able to address the issue of you ignoring him?
I would hope that the better things you have to do would be to practice using brain cells so you could sharpen your skills of observation and comprehension.
Again, though, no doubt, it will fly over your head again, but, worth saying for others to silently nod in agreement ..... in order for you to realize he does this, it would mean that you had to deliberately ignore him, which indicates you participate in playing games for attention.
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Posted by lotus
Did you actually read any of my posts? I said that this guy shows interest in me when I ignore him and pulls back when I show him a lot of interest.




Again, though, no doubt, it will fly over your head again, but, worth saying for others to silently nod in agreement ..... in order for you to realize he does this, it would mean that you had to deliberately ignore him, which indicates you participate in playing games for attention.
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So you're saying that I should be happy with the amount of attention he is giving me? Ignoring me for a few days after I become silent and then bombarding me with 5-6 phone calls and messages when he realises that we have not spoken for a few days?
Men don't respond to words.....they respond to actions it seems.
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I've actually noticed this trend with Pisces men as well. If you pretend like they do not exist, they get upset and think something of it. But when they ignore you, it's alright and dandy. I think this has just to with the moodiness and the need for alone time for Pisces. I get that because as a Cancer I am also moody and whenever we water signs get into one of our moods, we need to be alone to recover. With that being said, I wouldn't really take it personal. I think that's just how Pisces are. If you want a man who dotes on you 24/7, then you should probably try dating another sign.
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Is this really game playing, or a compromise between two people with different communications skills and needs? It could be that this actual arrangement suits him better.
If he was desperate for attention, he would contact you on a daily basis. If he doesn't like you (anymore), he would not contact you at all. You could certainly exclude these possibilities.
I think you are doing fine, Lotus.
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She is deliberately doing it, so i would assume it is a game she is playing. If he is anything like me he will tire of it at some point.
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Well, he's probably more like me (similar astro placements) and therefore I think he is happier now.
From Changingminds.org.: "The purpose of any game is first to benefit all those who have opted-in. Even though the game may seem dysfunctional from the outside, the players all get something from playing in it."
I love games smile!
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Posted by Piscescorp
@ Lotus

Hey girl, tell me how does he ignore you?
do you text him and he doesn't respond at all not even with happy face, or you call him and he ignores your calls, messages, etc.?

ORRRRR you guys did communicate but then the next day he just does not message you or call you at all?


Hey, I have sent a private message to you.
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Posted by Piscescorp
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LOL, I would definitely take the guy that does his detachment aloof thing than someone like ^^^^^.

Haha. Well, somewhere in between would be good for me.
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Well this sounds kind of similar but let's see if I can get some help for my situation, I met this guy some months ago through a mutual friend, never got his number. Fast forward to a few weeks ago he asks my friend about me and I told her it was okay if we exchAnged numbers. So he text me and we are talking. We hang out a few times and it was really fun. We did not get physical, we hang out talking til the next morning the two times we do hang out. So now, it seems like he has kind of distanced himself or it could just be me. I text him and he did not respond so Im kind of confused. We have had real in depth conversations and then this happens. So I wonder if I should just not text him and let him come to me or move on? Again yes I do like him but I want to make sure I am not being paranoid or should I give it some time?
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Posted by Ff1990
Well this sounds kind of similar but let's see if I can get some help for my situation, I met this guy some months ago through a mutual friend, never got his number. Fast forward to a few weeks ago he asks my friend about me and I told her it was okay if we exchAnged numbers. So he text me and we are talking. We hang out a few times and it was really fun. We did not get physical, we hang out talking til the next morning the two times we do hang out. So now, it seems like he has kind of distanced himself or it could just be me. I text him and he did not respond so Im kind of confused. We have had real in depth conversations and then this happens. So I wonder if I should just not text him and let him come to me or move on? Again yes I do like him but I want to make sure I am not being paranoid or should I give it some time?

Ohhh man... somebody just shoot me, already!
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So that means what??
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