I'm never cool enough for Pisces males
This topic was created in the Pisces forum by xelaekys on Wednesday, February 24, 2016 and has 23 replies.
I keep finding myself attracted to 'cool' pisces guys. Edgey, fiercely independent males with confidence. I often try being into other types but I never find myself excited in the same way (if at all) as I am with these 'cool' guys. I am not trying to limit myself to Pisces, but I keep connecting with them and having the same thing happen (4 times in a row!).
The irony is that people are always telling me how cool I am. Generally I am all the things these types of guys want, but they ultimately want what I am to the extreme. For example, I am a musician, but they want a rockstar. I'm attractive, but they want model hot.
I'm also nice, which guys often mistake as weakness and insecurity. I don't have much 'game'. I wear my heart on my sleeve and if I'm into a guy I will let him know. It seems like expressing any kind of emotion to a male is a major turnoff. It's depressing for me because I don't know how to be any other way.
They always start out completely infatuated, acting like they actually want a real relationship. Super attentive, not wanting to stop communicating. Then suddenly they shift and decide they only like me as a friend. They stop being attentive and start treating me as an afterthought instead of a priorty.
It's like I'm the 'cool girl' who these Pisces guys ultimately see as a good friend or fwb, but not as someone for whom they can fall head over heels.
I keep getting hurt and it just makes me so sad. I do all this work to get myself back into a good place then 'he' appears and knocks me off my equilibrium so quickly.
I'm really not sure what to do anymore. Any advice?
The irony is that people are always telling me how cool I am. Generally I am all the things these types of guys want, but they ultimately want what I am to the extreme. For example, I am a musician, but they want a rockstar. I'm attractive, but they want model hot.
I'm also nice, which guys often mistake as weakness and insecurity. I don't have much 'game'. I wear my heart on my sleeve and if I'm into a guy I will let him know. It seems like expressing any kind of emotion to a male is a major turnoff. It's depressing for me because I don't know how to be any other way.
They always start out completely infatuated, acting like they actually want a real relationship. Super attentive, not wanting to stop communicating. Then suddenly they shift and decide they only like me as a friend. They stop being attentive and start treating me as an afterthought instead of a priorty.
It's like I'm the 'cool girl' who these Pisces guys ultimately see as a good friend or fwb, but not as someone for whom they can fall head over heels.
I keep getting hurt and it just makes me so sad. I do all this work to get myself back into a good place then 'he' appears and knocks me off my equilibrium so quickly.
I'm really not sure what to do anymore. Any advice?
Posted by MlleFisk
Maybe @hydorah can weigh in on this. Apparently he was cool back in 1998.
people who are really cool don't talk about "being cool"
NEXT
Posted by hydorahPosted by MlleFisk
Maybe @hydorah can weigh in on this. Apparently he was cool back in 1998.
people who are really cool don't talk about "being cool"
NEXTclick to expand
I didn't. If you re-read, I wrote I am attracted to cool and people tell me I'm cool. I never said I was 'cool'. ;P
Posted by killerwhalemoon
Your really boxing yourself in by being a little down over a few pisces men when we live on a planet blossoming with men who are NOT pisces and probably worth more of your time. Be optimistic.
Very true! But I have to wonder why this keeps happening with Pisces guys. I am a Cancer btw.
Posted by WestsidekodakPosted by MlleFisk
Maybe @hydorah can weigh in on this. Apparently he was cool back in 1898
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Actually yes, I had a bit of the "period gentleman" style during the 1990s.
Very true! But I have to wonder why this keeps happening with Pisces guys. I am a Cancer btw.
Just because your a cancer doesnt mean you have to date other water sun signs. Happiness with a man could be anywhere
Yes but that's not the point.
@sensitiveblue selfish maybe sometimes when wronged mostly but weak rarely[or on purpose]
at least for me and the pisces i know. We hide our strength and reveal it when others think we are chickens , it is the best defence i believe.
You never see it coming jajajajaja , it is passive and cheeky but who cares , most ppl do it anyway.
at least for me and the pisces i know. We hide our strength and reveal it when others think we are chickens , it is the best defence i believe.
You never see it coming jajajajaja , it is passive and cheeky but who cares , most ppl do it anyway.
Posted by xelaekys
I keep finding myself attracted to 'cool' pisces guys. Edgey, fiercely independent males with confidence. I often try being into other types but I never find myself excited in the same way (if at all) as I am with these 'cool' guys. I am not trying to limit myself to Pisces, but I keep connecting with them and having the same thing happen (4 times in a row!).
The irony is that people are always telling me how cool I am. Generally I am all the things these types of guys want, but they ultimately want what I am to the extreme. For example, I am a musician, but they want a rockstar. I'm attractive, but they want model hot.
I'm also nice, which guys often mistake as weakness and insecurity. I don't have much 'game'. I wear my heart on my sleeve and if I'm into a guy I will let him know. It seems like expressing any kind of emotion to a male is a major turnoff. It's depressing for me because I don't know how to be any other way.
They always start out completely infatuated, acting like they actually want a real relationship. Super attentive, not wanting to stop communicating. Then suddenly they shift and decide they only like me as a friend. They stop being attentive and start treating me as an afterthought instead of a priorty.
It's like I'm the 'cool girl' who these Pisces guys ultimately see as a good friend or fwb, but not as someone for whom they can fall head over heels.
I keep getting hurt and it just makes me so sad. I do all this work to get myself back into a good place then 'he' appears and knocks me off my equilibrium so quickly.
I'm really not sure what to do anymore. Any advice?
How old are you ? if I may ask
Posted by jimaras22
@sensitiveblue selfish maybe sometimes when wronged mostly but weak rarely[or on purpose]
at least for me and the pisces i know. We hide our strength and reveal it when others think we are chickens , it is the best defence i believe.
You never see it coming jajajajaja , it is passive and cheeky but who cares , most ppl do it anyway.
true about pisces
Posted by hydorahPosted by WestsidekodakPosted by MlleFisk
Maybe @hydorah can weigh in on this. Apparently he was cool back in 1898
Actually yes, I had a bit of the "period gentleman" style during the 1990s.
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sweet holy
Posted by Vegetta91Posted by BlondeAmbitionPosted by hydorahPosted by WestsidekodakPosted by MlleFisk
Maybe @hydorah can weigh in on this. Apparently he was cool back in 1898
Actually yes, I had a bit of the "period gentleman" style during the 1990s.
sweet holy
Wanna have kids with him?
)
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I'm too old for founding a family, I'm just a sugar daddy now
Posted by xelaekysPosted by killerwhalemoon
Your really boxing yourself in by being a little down over a few pisces men when we live on a planet blossoming with men who are NOT pisces and probably worth more of your time. Be optimistic.
Very true! But I have to wonder why this keeps happening with Pisces guys. I am a Cancer btw.click to expand
I dated 3 Pisces back to back. That was enough for me to just see a Pisces man and go the other way. 😆
It starts off all sweet and we can talk about anything yada yada some where down the line the relationships just didn't feel right.
Infatuation is just that....
You will need to form more of a bond with a man of any sign to really build a relationship. If you can get past the excitement of the newness of a person then you can start really forming a bond. So if you meet a man that gets REALLY into you fast, pump those breaks.
I've always felt scared of men that were really into me really quick, I would pull away completely bc just like a switch that interest flips off.
For me the only reason any Pisces guy has been interested in me is b/c I've formed a real friendship.
You will need to form more of a bond with a man of any sign to really build a relationship. If you can get past the excitement of the newness of a person then you can start really forming a bond. So if you meet a man that gets REALLY into you fast, pump those breaks.
I've always felt scared of men that were really into me really quick, I would pull away completely bc just like a switch that interest flips off.
For me the only reason any Pisces guy has been interested in me is b/c I've formed a real friendship.
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Lol, I just love it when so many people hate on Pisces! Just means we doing something right. This is now our season and to deny the undeniable truth is unbelievable. Shallow emotions will never comprehend the depth of the Pisces.
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Op, No worries, you got the right 'bait', you just need a stronger 'net' and you will have and keep you a Pisces Man. FYI, playing hard to get and making us work for it and put a lot of effort makes us want to stay and gives us time to build a strong spiritual connection with you, which is very important to a Pisces. Once that's done, it's a wrap. Lol....
Posted by hydorahPosted by WestsidekodakPosted by MlleFisk
Maybe @hydorah can weigh in on this. Apparently he was cool back in 1898
Actually yes, I had a bit of the "period gentleman" style during the 1990s.
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Please stop posing as a Virgo Man.
Posted by LittleStar
All Pisces men have a fantasy girl. If you aren't it, then you will never be "cool" enough.
And their fantasy is each something different.
fishinamaize made a topic about this, god I miss him.
The Pisces men I know are way more cocky than they have any justifiable right to be. No thank you.
Boost your confidence and go for a man who thinks you are cool without you having to try.
Boost your confidence and go for a man who thinks you are cool without you having to try.
Posted by DamnataPosted by LittleStar
All Pisces men have a fantasy girl. If you aren't it, then you will never be "cool" enough.
And their fantasy is each something different.
fishinamaize made a topic about this, god I miss him.click to expand
he posts as "mrpepperidge" these days
Posted by hydorahPosted by DamnataPosted by LittleStar
All Pisces men have a fantasy girl. If you aren't it, then you will never be "cool" enough.
And their fantasy is each something different.
fishinamaize made a topic about this, god I miss him.
he posts as "mrpepperidge" these daysclick to expand
smh
Typical cancer woman 'I'm not cool enough" pity me
As your sister water sign as a Scorpio you can have my Pisces man. He is utterly clingy, possessive, hard working and desperate to please. I know two Pisces/ Cancer relationships and the Pisces came after me behind their backs for years. Plus I am very close to the cancer's. I don't want the Pisces that came after me. I am a Pisces magnet and I am magnetized to them even more so than to cancer's. Though I adore the many crabs in my life.
I think that cancer's and Pisces are so similar that there's no benefit. But with Scorpio not only does Pisces get the water tenderness they receive equal enlightenment within strength, confidence and stability. Its perfect. Whereas a cancer reeks of insecurity. By no means are they weak but their emotionality and piscea vulnerability leads Pisces astray not necessarily to Scorpio for balance but anything sign that can at least give them the comfort of being grounded while simultaneously feeling free imaginatively. And may I argue that other signs can give them that sense and they may stick it out with those individuals longer than they should because of their strong emotional attachments. But with that said I'm no Pisces hog but no one can give them that perfect bond the way a Scorpio can provide. We don't give a sense. It is sense.
Having a Pisces husband I just want to mention some facts that drive me absolutely insane now but the thought of him passing would make me laugh out loud in nostalgia and gratefulness should he go before me.
He just turned 40 and I'm 31... Putting this on paper:
His smile/ laugh
His raging emotions
The beat he gets in his head when he hears a good song
The devastated look he gets on his face when I tell him to STOP I just need some space!
When we sleep in our king size bed and I'm on the edge on the bed because he refuses to move over. I look over and there's at least enough room for one or two other people to sleep with us.
Pisces are sweet souls. I've met and know MANY I truly believe there's no sweeter soul within the zodiac
If you get the Pisces cancer I just advice you as I've read your post... Put your heart out their confidently and love him. Expect him to return your feelings. Don't be insecure. Pisces are not weak but they ARE loving so tell them how you want to be loved! Some IMO mistake it as them being "followers" when in my experience its respect.
As your sister water sign as a Scorpio you can have my Pisces man. He is utterly clingy, possessive, hard working and desperate to please. I know two Pisces/ Cancer relationships and the Pisces came after me behind their backs for years. Plus I am very close to the cancer's. I don't want the Pisces that came after me. I am a Pisces magnet and I am magnetized to them even more so than to cancer's. Though I adore the many crabs in my life.
I think that cancer's and Pisces are so similar that there's no benefit. But with Scorpio not only does Pisces get the water tenderness they receive equal enlightenment within strength, confidence and stability. Its perfect. Whereas a cancer reeks of insecurity. By no means are they weak but their emotionality and piscea vulnerability leads Pisces astray not necessarily to Scorpio for balance but anything sign that can at least give them the comfort of being grounded while simultaneously feeling free imaginatively. And may I argue that other signs can give them that sense and they may stick it out with those individuals longer than they should because of their strong emotional attachments. But with that said I'm no Pisces hog but no one can give them that perfect bond the way a Scorpio can provide. We don't give a sense. It is sense.
Having a Pisces husband I just want to mention some facts that drive me absolutely insane now but the thought of him passing would make me laugh out loud in nostalgia and gratefulness should he go before me.
He just turned 40 and I'm 31... Putting this on paper:
His smile/ laugh
His raging emotions
The beat he gets in his head when he hears a good song
The devastated look he gets on his face when I tell him to STOP I just need some space!
When we sleep in our king size bed and I'm on the edge on the bed because he refuses to move over. I look over and there's at least enough room for one or two other people to sleep with us.
Pisces are sweet souls. I've met and know MANY I truly believe there's no sweeter soul within the zodiac
If you get the Pisces cancer I just advice you as I've read your post... Put your heart out their confidently and love him. Expect him to return your feelings. Don't be insecure. Pisces are not weak but they ARE loving so tell them how you want to be loved! Some IMO mistake it as them being "followers" when in my experience its respect.
earth for water
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