Is It Possible To Love Yet Not Like A Person?

Hey Ya'll,
It's Dreamy-Eyez, and I'm not going to talk about those bunch of yahoos at my workplace. I just had a question, which is also the topic. Is it possible to love somebody, but not like them? I use to think that it was absurd, but then again when couples are together, the love each other, but when they separate. . . very few would remain liking eachother. It's almost like the icing without the cake to hold it up, ya know? When my parents were together, my aunts and uncles told me that they were very much in-love, but then one day my mom had a change of heart and left him high and dry. Why? Well, she suspected him of cheating. My father is a rather simple man who believes that the man should be dominant, so he's a bit controlling. My mom, on the otherhand she doesn't trusts a soul and with that being a fact results in how my relationship with her is strained. She's the reason why my father and I aren't close. She divorced him when I was an infant and kept me away from him. She treated so bad that I felt like I was adopted or unwanted. I feel like she only likes me for what I can do for her, other than that, when something goes wrong I'm to blame. Sometimes, I think . . . she blames me for the way she's living right now. It slipped out of her mouth one day that nobody visits the house because of me, but it's really the other way around. She chases people away with the anger and paranoia that's fixed within her. She once told my sister, that she hates her life and I know she blames me for that too. Earlier today, she called my job yelling on the phone about her figurines that she packed away are missing and is blaming me for their unknown whereabouts. I thought she was losing it, because I never saw them nor touched them. She just started yelling, "Liar! Don't lie to me. Stop Lying!!!" I had no interest in getting angry because I had no idea of what figurines she was talking about. she should've labeled those things in the first place. Currently, I trying to findout if anyone is looking for a room-mate because I need to get out of her house for my own sanity's sake. Dreamy-eyez, out.

Dreamy Eyez.

People can't both love and hate someone. Those are two opposite emotions and cannot coexist. What you see in people as love and hate is not what you think they are. People show hurt/hate/sadness as a tool to control others and dominate them. This is how a person who felt acts: "I am hurt. They must feel sorry for me and turn their attention to me. When this happens, I can do whatever I want as long as they wont try to upset me more".

That's how things work.

And your mom is control freak pshycho. Tell her to see a doctor.

Of course they cant Brahn. They are smart enough to know that in situation of direct confrontation, no one will do what they want. So they choice the other way around.

LOL Brahn...

By the way, I think it is totally possible to love and dislike someone at the same time...Especially when you are talking about family. You love them for being family which is almost the automatic feeling, but you might not like their ways.

I have a cousin who I love but I can't stand to talk to her because she drains me so much emotionally. Good luck with your problem!

I love my mother...but SOMETIMES I just dont like her as well as my sister. I really feel that if these two woman were not related to me we probably would not be friends.

Hello Everyone,
How's things going with each and everyone of you? You know, Haffo. I sometimes think my mom has serious issues, and with some of the things she says and does to me, I try not to be hurt about it because I know that internally she's not happy and maybe she doesn't want anyone around her to be happy either. This past weekend, she did something that just pissed off myself and the rest of the family. My Uncle had a wedding this past weekend, and my mom and my sister attended the wedding. Family members are suppose to sit in front of the church, but my mom sat in the back of the church. Her actions only left everyone puzzled. Then, when it was time to go to the reception, she was suppose to be in the middle of the driving order that everyone was driving in, but she stayed behind everyone, then got lost. The whole family was worried sick. I was at home that evening because I had to work that day. While I was hope, the phone was ringing off the hook. All of my Aunt's and Cousin's called me to see if my mom may have called me to relay a message of her wherabouts since she didn't have a cell phone, but she never called me. Noone could enjoy the wedding reception nor get any sleep withing the following hours because noone knew if my mom and sister were okay. She didn't know her way around, so that had everyone thinking of all the dangerous possibilities. As I was recieving so many phone calls from family, I was tempted to worry and even cry, but I didn't because I kept telling myself that she was okay, and that my sister was okay. Hours have passed and I'm still sitting there recieving calls from my half hysterical family members. Noone knows where my mom and sister are. The day went on into night, then Sunday afternoon came about. My aunt called me and was furious. She told me that my mom and sister were okay because they were at her sister, Mary's house (who apparently didn't go to the wedding.) I dropped the mirror I was holding onto the floor and I was just disgusted. We were about to call the cops and file my mom and sister as missing. The whole time she was okay. My Aunt Mary and mom screened the attempted phone calls we made to them, but they never picked up. We were worried sick and she took us all for granted. I left early for work that day, and I'm working overtime because I don't want to see the stupid look on her face. What was even worst was that she thought it was funny that everyone was so worried. WHAT KIND OF MESS IS THAT!!!!

IS YOUR MOM A CANCERIAN WITH CANCER/LEO CUSP—?

It's Dreamy-Eyez,
Nah, my mom is an Aquarius who is self-centered, mean, superficial, and has major issues. I am currently going thru room-mates.com and going onto college campuses to check for any room-mate postings. I really need my sanity, and she's really losing my respect with some of the un-believable things she's done. Her siblings do not speak to nor visit her all that much because she has a personality that is as flippant as a two-faced quarter. She'll put up a nice facade just to get things out of you. She basically uses people as tools. My sister, (the Gemini) she cries to me about thinking that my mom doesn't care for her. I tell her that it's not true, but really my mom is all for herself. she teaches my sister nothing and now I'm feeling the pressure of playing the older brother and the father figure since my sister's father passed away.I hoping and praying that I find a room-mate because I can use the freedom. Dreamy-Eyez, out.

I'm not saying that all Aquarians are like that. I was tempted to go into that way of thinking, but I've met some cool Aquarians. My mom just needs therapy or something. She thrives on drama and is not a nice woman. This morning, she was talking to my Gemini sister of how she did it on purpose. Even after it became apparent that they reall, really love her. . . it's like as if that means nothing to her. I personally don't get her twisted ways. I just think that she's getting older, and she's miserable so she wants other to be in her company in that misery. I'm so ashamed of her that I nolonger go to family functions nor do I introduce my friends to her. She's a mean woman and I don't want her to hurt anyone who come to terms of loving or caring for me. So, could you all just keep your fingers cross that I find a room-mate. I'd really appreciate it. Dreamy-Eyez, out. . . again.

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