Is this a setup or has he moved on?

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by DMV on Monday, April 28, 2014 and has 32 replies.
So i used to date a pisces, i slept with his friend (scorp). 4 years later, he wants to rekindle.
is he serious?
Setup
Set up and for obvious reasons. Even if it isn't about pride, the fact that you slept with his friends means he's less likely to respect you
I told him flat out that i have a hard time coming to terms with this because if i were in his shoes, id question my loyalty till the end of day. How could you even trust me?
his response: past is the past.
im still BS. something dont seem right.
Friend
Yall are just gonna fuck tho arent you?
So whats the problem
Why oh why did you sleep with his friend? Were you two dating while this went down or was it a later incident?
Posted by DMV
I told him flat out that i have a hard time coming to terms with this because if i were in his shoes, id question my loyalty till the end of day. How could you even trust me?
his response: past is the past.
im still BS. something dont seem right.


If that's your premise then perhaps the lesson is you learning how to forgive yourself if he has truly moved on from it. But until he proves that, keep him at arms length
Posted by AfternoonDelights22
Yall are just gonna fuck tho arent you?
So whats the problem


naw, he said he wanted more.
Posted by enfant_terrible
Why oh why did you sleep with his friend? Were you two dating while this went down or was it a later incident?


long story short, we were just dating nothing official. I made a mistake and here we are.
Posted by DMV
I told him flat out that i have a hard time coming to terms with this because if i were in his shoes, id question my loyalty till the end of day. How could you even trust me?
his response: past is the past.
im still BS. something dont seem right.


So why are you even talking to him? Would you like to rekindle with him or is he just somebody you used to know? [ some-bodeeeee ....]
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Posted by DMV
I told him flat out that i have a hard time coming to terms with this because if i were in his shoes, id question my loyalty till the end of day. How could you even trust me?
his response: past is the past.
im still BS. something dont seem right.


If that's your premise then perhaps the lesson is you learning how to forgive yourself if he has truly moved on from it. But until he proves that, keep him at arms length
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well ive forgiven myself for my mistake but if i were in his shoes, id still have a hard time trusting the other person. id forgive, but never really forget.
Posted by enfant_terrible
Posted by DMV
I told him flat out that i have a hard time coming to terms with this because if i were in his shoes, id question my loyalty till the end of day. How could you even trust me?
his response: past is the past.
im still BS. something dont seem right.


So why are you even talking to him? Would you like to rekindle with him or is he just somebody you used to know? [ some-bodeeeee ....]
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well, he called me and i was hearing him out, he sounded like he really wanted to get some things off his chest.
this thread is for my sanity when i replay this convo over n over again. I want to see if im being paranoid or not and then proceed accordingly.
im not interested in getting back together. that ship has saild. that dog dont fight.
BUT if he or whomever is up to some shit, i need to know how to proceed.
Posted by DMV

im not interested in getting back together. that ship has saild. that dog dont fight.



Why dont u just tell him this then and leave it be
Posted by AfternoonDelights22
Posted by DMV

im not interested in getting back together. that ship has saild. that dog dont fight.



Why dont u just tell him this then and leave it be
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saying "leave it be" to a scorp moon who smells something fishy is like giving a fat kid the keys to a bakery.
ive already committed my thoughts to this.
Posted by DMV
Posted by AfternoonDelights22
Posted by DMV

im not interested in getting back together. that ship has saild. that dog dont fight.



Why dont u just tell him this then and leave it be


saying "leave it be" to a scorp moon who smells something fishy is like giving a fat kid the keys to a bakery.
ive already committed my thoughts to this.
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But what does it matter?
Ya'll arent going to be together. So...?
What am I missing
idk what your missing.
Posted by DMV
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Posted by DMV
I told him flat out that i have a hard time coming to terms with this because if i were in his shoes, id question my loyalty till the end of day. How could you even trust me?
his response: past is the past.
im still BS. something dont seem right.


If that's your premise then perhaps the lesson is you learning how to forgive yourself if he has truly moved on from it. But until he proves that, keep him at arms length


well ive forgiven myself for my mistake but if i were in his shoes, id still have a hard time trusting the other person. id forgive, but never really forget.

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I see your point but look at it this way and ask yourself this: have you TRULY forgiven yourself? If forgiveness implies the slate is clean, then why should he have a hard time trusting, if that's how you see it. Simply, if there is to be mistrust, it would be from him being absent all those years and thus he's a stranger...which is understandable. Not forgetting, or wiping the slate clean, means the forgiveness is not whole and you haven't truly moved from it. Evidenced by asking the question. You'll bring the past to life. Try not to think about it and start fresh with him and see where it leads. _??_
Its basically just about the drama then?
Gotcha
Simply, if there is to be mistrust, it would be from him being absent all those years and thus he's a stranger...which is understandable.
hmmmmm this could be it.
Posted by AfternoonDelights22
Its basically just about the drama then?
Gotcha


i guess i want to make sure that the wool is not pulled over my head
Posted by fishinamaize
Posted by DMV
Posted by AfternoonDelights22
Its basically just about the drama then?
Gotcha


i guess i want to make sure that the wool is not pulled over my head


If you don't intend on getting back with him then there is no way for the wool to be pulled over your head.
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you sir are absolutely correct. ahh i now see what Delights was talking about.
if theres no contact there can be no room for fuckery.
why can't you just have fun with him and/or take his money or something?
but, of course, if you don't trust him, then he needs to go.
Posted by fishinamaize
If you don't intend on getting back with him then there is no way for the wool to be pulled over your head.


You obviously didn't date any/many Aries people.
I have dated and "wronged" a few Pisces and they won't forget...nor forgive so they will keep coming with jabs. Trust your gut, always!

I don't understand why you are carrying on about something that is long in the past. You are acting like this all went down yesterday.
So, do this mean that you haven't matured in 4 years at all?
A person gets what they look for ... and you are looking for problems.
Why can't he have grown a bit since then and decided that the air needed to be cleared between the two of you? ... or is that too grown up for you?
Posted by fishinamaize
Posted by Damnata
Posted by fishinamaize
If you don't intend on getting back with him then there is no way for the wool to be pulled over your head.


You obviously didn't date any/many Aries people.


What do Aries got to do with this?
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Wool? Pulled over your head? Oral sex with Aries?
NVM, my imagination got the best of me here smile). The wanna-be Piscean in me approves though.
Posted by P-Angel

I don't understand why you are carrying on about something that is long in the past. You are acting like this all went down yesterday.
So, do this mean that you haven't matured in 4 years at all?
A person gets what they look for ... and you are looking for problems.
Why can't he have grown a bit since then and decided that the air needed to be cleared between the two of you? ... or is that too grown up for you?


yeah he definitely sounded relieved to have had the conversation. He wished we had it sooner but that was on me. i was too chickenshit.
Posted by fishinamaize
You're gone too far this time, Damnata.
>Sad


Yeah, I'm sorry about outpisceaning you.
Deal with it.
I never said anything about pubes, Fish. Calm your feels.
They are Rams
Rams have wool
QED
Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
the little mad guy just made that so damn cute!


He looks like an Aries lol.

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