I've failed yet again...
This topic was created in the Pisces forum by naBULLy on Monday, January 5, 2009 and has 13 replies.
Yes, I haven't asked Mr Pisces out for a meal. How's useless! I'm angry with myself.
Mr Pisces came back from holiday after a month today...but I didn't get to talk to him. I'm all dressed up today.. style my hair...went to office extra early today...all pyche up for a month (telling myself I can do it)...wanting to catch some alone time with him so that I can have a conversation with him.
But when I reached my office...he was already there.
His side of the desk already had people. And his bag is occupying one seat beside him...hee...so I have to sit on the opposite side all by myself. Sad.
I have a bag underneath where he's sitting and I could just go up to him and take the bag and start a conversation! Ahhhhh....though I dun need the bag...I can use it as an excuse but i didn't. And later more people came in and started to chat with him. And there goes my chance...down to the drain. haha. He's very popular. I'm jealous that all the others get to talk to him. haha. But it's really my fault. I'm shy and introverted. But that's me, I can't help it.
I feel a bit disheartened. He doesn't notice my existence at all. Well, many people didn't notice me...I'm like a wallpaper. Sometimes I feel that I deluding myself when I thought he could be interested in me. I think I may be imagining too much because I like him.
Haha...finish my little rant here. I still hope to get to know him better...but I don't really want to go down the path of communicate with him through friendster. It reminds me how I failed the last time with the other Pisces. What can I do? I'm a shy, passive Taurus...and there's so much I can do.
Mr Pisces came back from holiday after a month today...but I didn't get to talk to him. I'm all dressed up today.. style my hair...went to office extra early today...all pyche up for a month (telling myself I can do it)...wanting to catch some alone time with him so that I can have a conversation with him.
But when I reached my office...he was already there.
His side of the desk already had people. And his bag is occupying one seat beside him...hee...so I have to sit on the opposite side all by myself. Sad.I have a bag underneath where he's sitting and I could just go up to him and take the bag and start a conversation! Ahhhhh....though I dun need the bag...I can use it as an excuse but i didn't. And later more people came in and started to chat with him. And there goes my chance...down to the drain. haha. He's very popular. I'm jealous that all the others get to talk to him. haha. But it's really my fault. I'm shy and introverted. But that's me, I can't help it.
I feel a bit disheartened. He doesn't notice my existence at all. Well, many people didn't notice me...I'm like a wallpaper. Sometimes I feel that I deluding myself when I thought he could be interested in me. I think I may be imagining too much because I like him.
Haha...finish my little rant here. I still hope to get to know him better...but I don't really want to go down the path of communicate with him through friendster. It reminds me how I failed the last time with the other Pisces. What can I do? I'm a shy, passive Taurus...and there's so much I can do.
ooops sorry thanks Hizaki
You need to be more confident in yourself. All I hear is "he will never be interested, I dont think he even notices me, hes so popular and Im so unpopular." You are already defeating yourself before you even get a chance to open your mouth. So by the time you get there, yes, all of your dreams of him rejecting you will come true. You are allowing yourself to fail so that way you can prove yourself right. If you want him, than show it to yourself than you CAN get him and he would be lucky to have you.
Enough with the negative talk, pisces needs a confident strong mate to really feel comfortable. If you are too self-concious and scared, we see that as weak and a turn off. If you dont believe in yourself, how can others believe in you? You should feel great about yourself, you are unique and there is no one else like you. You should see yourself as a treasure and others will feel the same. Shyness is a result of feeling inadequate and fearing rejection. You should not be shy. He is human too and not God. Treat him as such like you would treat any friend.
Enough with the negative talk, pisces needs a confident strong mate to really feel comfortable. If you are too self-concious and scared, we see that as weak and a turn off. If you dont believe in yourself, how can others believe in you? You should feel great about yourself, you are unique and there is no one else like you. You should see yourself as a treasure and others will feel the same. Shyness is a result of feeling inadequate and fearing rejection. You should not be shy. He is human too and not God. Treat him as such like you would treat any friend.
This may sound a bit ignorant but does this guy even like guys? Could this be why he's not really paying attention to you? If you know he's online such as facebook-myspace-friendster why not try being friends FIRST, keep it simple because you know eventually you 2 could potentially hang out, meet so you don't wanna come off as super confident when your really the shy type and use the whole online thing to build your way up, just a suggestion.
Also you may want to find something that helps build up your confidence, martial arts usually helps in this area but if your not the athletic type hmmmm wwww.meetup.com has all kinds of groups and social settings that you can join and meet up with like minded people that could help build up your social skills which of course will help build confidence
Also you may want to find something that helps build up your confidence, martial arts usually helps in this area but if your not the athletic type hmmmm wwww.meetup.com has all kinds of groups and social settings that you can join and meet up with like minded people that could help build up your social skills which of course will help build confidence
Is he an out and about gay, meaning he has no qualms with people in the office knowing?
You dont have to be extremely outgoing, I think subtle signs of interest will do just fine. Flash him a smile once in awhile, let him know you exist and your open to his persona...you can give off inviting vibes.
Sometimes shyness can look a lot like disinterest (I should know) so you have to be careful.
Sometimes shyness can look a lot like disinterest (I should know) so you have to be careful.
He just got back !!!!
Patience, Bull ..... he has to catch up with everything first. Just because you couldn't get his attention immediately doesn't mean you will never get his attention.
I agree with lovable_pisces (though maybe this is a female Fish-thing), that we NEED a person who is confident in themselves, to feel fulfilled in relationships.
You really don't have to do a lot .. you only have to take the Bull by the Horns withOUT any doubt of conquering.
Listen, I can only speak for myself with this one, being a Pisces person .... but, it's a rare day that I reciprocate attractions with people who show me interest. People, male and female, hit on me on a constant basis, or maybe not bold-flirts just making eyes .... and I pretty much ignore it. It doesn't mean I wouldn't be interested, it means ... we don't really react to people wanting us.
Again .. that's me ^^^^ .. but, I've heard other Pisceans say similar things.
It's quite possible that he is attracted to you, too .... but, it's normal for us not to react to flirts. This may sound concieted, but, it's also the truth, and certainly you have read this about Pisces people in the write-ups .... we have a waiting line, people are always wanting to hook up with us, and so we learn at a very young age to remain indifferent, sometimes even oblivious to people who are hitting on us.
In thinking about the above, and in knowing that Pisces people won't react to someone hitting on us 99% of the time, due to the overwhelming amount of desiring eyes we get ...... I'm thinking maybe what you should do at this time is back off from him, rather than pursue, even in friendship so you can see where his interest lies.
You know ... people come in here constantly and say we play these games but they aren't understanding that it's not a game of chase, just so we can pull away .... it's because we get so many offers, that we've learned to become numb to them.
However, when someone that we think is interested in us, that they pull away and step outside of the waiting line ... this gets our attention because now you are standing out from the crowd. And if we were interested in you, while you stepped out of line, then we will pursue.
If he likes you, and you pull away from interest in him .. he will pursue you, NotaBully.
Patience, Bull ..... he has to catch up with everything first. Just because you couldn't get his attention immediately doesn't mean you will never get his attention.
I agree with lovable_pisces (though maybe this is a female Fish-thing), that we NEED a person who is confident in themselves, to feel fulfilled in relationships.
You really don't have to do a lot .. you only have to take the Bull by the Horns withOUT any doubt of conquering.
Listen, I can only speak for myself with this one, being a Pisces person .... but, it's a rare day that I reciprocate attractions with people who show me interest. People, male and female, hit on me on a constant basis, or maybe not bold-flirts just making eyes .... and I pretty much ignore it. It doesn't mean I wouldn't be interested, it means ... we don't really react to people wanting us.
Again .. that's me ^^^^ .. but, I've heard other Pisceans say similar things.
It's quite possible that he is attracted to you, too .... but, it's normal for us not to react to flirts. This may sound concieted, but, it's also the truth, and certainly you have read this about Pisces people in the write-ups .... we have a waiting line, people are always wanting to hook up with us, and so we learn at a very young age to remain indifferent, sometimes even oblivious to people who are hitting on us.
In thinking about the above, and in knowing that Pisces people won't react to someone hitting on us 99% of the time, due to the overwhelming amount of desiring eyes we get ...... I'm thinking maybe what you should do at this time is back off from him, rather than pursue, even in friendship so you can see where his interest lies.
You know ... people come in here constantly and say we play these games but they aren't understanding that it's not a game of chase, just so we can pull away .... it's because we get so many offers, that we've learned to become numb to them.
However, when someone that we think is interested in us, that they pull away and step outside of the waiting line ... this gets our attention because now you are standing out from the crowd. And if we were interested in you, while you stepped out of line, then we will pursue.
If he likes you, and you pull away from interest in him .. he will pursue you, NotaBully.
Hizaki, I don't recognize the need for being humble when the amount of potentials are discussed in this reference.
To say ... "we get so many offers" .. wasn't thrown out there to make suggestion of conciet, though, as I mentioned, it would probably sound that way. It was for the purpose of explaining to Bull as to why the average Fish remains so indifferent, or cold even, when a person is expressing their interest in us. So, in this context, being humble doesn't apply because it's used as reference for a human behaviour.
Now, for a person to say the above quote in reference of making implications of boasting for attention purposes .... then being humble would come into my mind, as well.
To say ... "we get so many offers" .. wasn't thrown out there to make suggestion of conciet, though, as I mentioned, it would probably sound that way. It was for the purpose of explaining to Bull as to why the average Fish remains so indifferent, or cold even, when a person is expressing their interest in us. So, in this context, being humble doesn't apply because it's used as reference for a human behaviour.
Now, for a person to say the above quote in reference of making implications of boasting for attention purposes .... then being humble would come into my mind, as well.
Oh, you have to point these things out to me, Hizaki, if they are jokes because my mind isn't usually capable of comprehending humor ... if you say something to me, I can only think in literal terms.
However, if you point out to me that it is in jest ... then I'm able to put it into the "just joking" category and laugh.
However, if you point out to me that it is in jest ... then I'm able to put it into the "just joking" category and laugh.
Hey all, thank you for all the comments and advices, especially Hizaki for asking me to "grow some balls". haha! Thanks. I needed
Hizaki, approaching him and starting a conversation is not too difficult. In fact, let me count, I talked to him 4 times...and out of those four, three I initiated. Talking to him is pretty enjoyable, especially making him laugh. But the difficult part is that I feel pressured talking to him in a work environment with co-workers around. My fear is that others will be able to tell that I'm attracted to him. And the dilenma is that I want him to know I'm interested in being his friends.
And to answer Lady_M's question, I'm closeted...so is he (at least in the office). I'm trying to be as cautious as possible and don't put either of us in jeopardy. I'm not a very outgoing, active and extroverted person by nature and I think the people in my office know that. I'm worried if I get too close with him, others may just be able to tell.
"If you want him, than show it to yourself than you CAN get him and he would be lucky to have you."
Lovable_pisces, I trying to be more confident each day...not just for him but for myself too. I psyched myself up so much for the past month...but I got jelly when I sit him sitting with other co-workers. I dare not to approach him. I probably should just take one step at a time and not expect so much. My improvements are slow but I'm still determine to overcome my confident and security issues as I know that's why I failed so miserly previously with my ex-Pisces crush.
And hi tiki, I'm trying not to use too much of friendster and facebook stuff to communicate. They made me insecure not geting a reply. hee... But it is a good way to get to know people if they are shy. They how my sweet Pisces is getting to know more guys.
P-Angel, your advice is good. He just got back and I should just let it flow. But that's probably my only chance to get to talk to him face-to-face and that's why I'm a bit pissed that I didn't grab the opportunity. My goal is just to get his mobile number but I didn't. He left for his next project and so do I...I may only see him in 1-2 months time. Sad... But I'm glad I got to see him/his back...haha after so long.
Hee...I need to chew on all the advices for a while. I'm leaning towards P-angel's advice of being patient. It's more taurus. haha. We both are busy right now. I want to take it slow...at the meantime have to continue to build my confidence.
Hizaki, approaching him and starting a conversation is not too difficult. In fact, let me count, I talked to him 4 times...and out of those four, three I initiated. Talking to him is pretty enjoyable, especially making him laugh. But the difficult part is that I feel pressured talking to him in a work environment with co-workers around. My fear is that others will be able to tell that I'm attracted to him. And the dilenma is that I want him to know I'm interested in being his friends.
And to answer Lady_M's question, I'm closeted...so is he (at least in the office). I'm trying to be as cautious as possible and don't put either of us in jeopardy. I'm not a very outgoing, active and extroverted person by nature and I think the people in my office know that. I'm worried if I get too close with him, others may just be able to tell.
"If you want him, than show it to yourself than you CAN get him and he would be lucky to have you."
Lovable_pisces, I trying to be more confident each day...not just for him but for myself too. I psyched myself up so much for the past month...but I got jelly when I sit him sitting with other co-workers. I dare not to approach him. I probably should just take one step at a time and not expect so much. My improvements are slow but I'm still determine to overcome my confident and security issues as I know that's why I failed so miserly previously with my ex-Pisces crush.
And hi tiki, I'm trying not to use too much of friendster and facebook stuff to communicate. They made me insecure not geting a reply. hee... But it is a good way to get to know people if they are shy. They how my sweet Pisces is getting to know more guys.
P-Angel, your advice is good. He just got back and I should just let it flow. But that's probably my only chance to get to talk to him face-to-face and that's why I'm a bit pissed that I didn't grab the opportunity. My goal is just to get his mobile number but I didn't. He left for his next project and so do I...I may only see him in 1-2 months time. Sad... But I'm glad I got to see him/his back...haha after so long.
Hee...I need to chew on all the advices for a while. I'm leaning towards P-angel's advice of being patient. It's more taurus. haha. We both are busy right now. I want to take it slow...at the meantime have to continue to build my confidence.
And hopefully I'm who him looking for and one day I can give him happiness. =)
"If a hottie that I found super sexy showed undoubted interest in me, even in an annoying and obvious way I would sure as hell go for it However, if it was an average looking gal then desparation would be a turn off ... I know I am shallow."
Hee...I'm not hottie. But I do believe I'm charming person...but just that I'm also a private person...people have to dig a little deeper to see that charm.
hehe...
Hee...I'm not hottie. But I do believe I'm charming person...but just that I'm also a private person...people have to dig a little deeper to see that charm.
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