Male Taurus after Female Pisces advice

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by ConfusedBull on Sunday, December 13, 2020 and has 7 replies.
I'm going to try to keep this short. I work with this extremely wonderful lady and we ended up on a project together. I noticed her thought she was attractive but never in my mind would even consider getting involved with a coworker. We were in a lot of meetings together and I started to notice she made a lot of eye contact with me and I really tried to blow it off and be professional, but didn't ignore her otherwise. I just talked to her like you would anyone else and I started to feel like she was interested, but continued to keep it professional otherwise, but I did notice that I could really feel her emotions and I started to show her compassion and just really polite and gentleman to her. Out of nowhere I got this very real sense she felt jilted and hurt. I asked some lifelong female friends and they were certain she was interested in me and by this time I was starting to have interest in her as well. I eventually ended up asking if she wanted to have lunch sometime and she seemed very excited about it and told me to put something on her calendar. The first lunch meeting I showed up dressed nicer than normal, but she had to cancel due to a last minute meeting, she acted like she had really let me down (and I could feel it coming off her like you feel the sun on your skin) she rescheduled the lunch for all afternoon. I was blown away by this and of course didn't really know what to think other than the obvious. She couldn't make this lunch either and rescheduled and this happened a couple more times, but I stayed patient and always a gentleman and very understanding to her. Then 1 day out of the blue she became very distant and seemed like she didn't want to talk to me other than strictly business, so I just kind of took that lead and just kept it to small talk or work. After about 2 weeks she sends me this email that was very short and told me to keep it on the professional level and to not send her anymore personal communications. I honestly feared I may get into some sort of trouble, so I didn't initiate any conversations with her that weren't work related. Eventually things settled down and we became closer friends over about 6 months. Working from home all the time now, we would sometimes talk after a meeting was over (just the 2 of us) and things genuinely felt like she was into me again. She was giving all the signs a pisces gives that she was into me again, a lot of signs, it was undeniable. I asked me female friends about tjis again and they were 100% she was into me and that if I wanted her in my life I should be upfront about it. So I ended up asking her to go to lunch again but she never really responded and became distant though we still talk a lot because we work together. I backed off completely to give her space and time. It's been about a month and it feels a lot like she has no interest in me at all and only communicates the minimum necessary as far as work is concerned. I'm a contract employee and she is the project manager on the same project, she's done more for me in this year and a half period of time than anyone ever has in the workplace, since the second time I asked her to lunch she has made it clear she would help me get hired on permanently and offered to be a reference (I didn't ask her, she offered). I value her friendship so much, it's been really hard to think I may have offended her and driven her off. At the same time I've never felt so connected to anyone in my life. I've never dated or even courted a pisces before, but read a lot about astrology and 'think' I understand what's going on. I would do about anything to have her in my life and the vibe from her is so genuine and obvious most of the time, but I've read this is not a normal for pisces to be hot and cold. I value her friendship so much that I would never do anything to jeopardize that...

I figure I have to give it time and see what happens, I just don't want to lose her completely from my life...

I have put serious thought into and genuinely think she might even be a guardian angel.

What insight or advice can you give me to navigate this conundrum I'm in?
Your Pisces woman took the advice of some friends and chose to keep things professional until you're no longer working under her or with her. Someone just seeing the two of you having lunch together puts her occupation at risk and given the world economy, she's not going to risk it.

If or when you're no longer working together I'm certain that she'd be willing and happy to oblige. That's one scenario.

The only other that makes sense is she's currently dating someone else and doesn't want any bad karma. Pisces are really straight forward so... St least you are aware of where you presently stand.
she might have started to warm up to you again because you kept things professional for those 6 months. it didn't mean that she wanted you to ask her out again.
Thank you, I appreciate your feedback. That all makes sense.

Happy Holidays!
Let her come to you now. You’ve made yourself clear in your intentions and been respectful. So ball’s in her court. Don’t make any more advances per her previous reactions. If she wants it to happen, it’s on her. Just keep taking her queues. If it’s only friendship, keep letting it be a good friendship without blurring the lines. It sounds like she’s only at that place with you. Let her decide if she wants to cross it.
Her attraction (if it exists) towards you will only grow if you respect her wishes to keep things professional while you are collaborating on this project.
You should have asked her for a date, rather than for something that seemed like a working lunch. That was a trick I would not appreciate, as a Pisces. I could say a clear “no” to a date, but can’t refuse a working lunch, since networking is a must in many jobs.

Also....who are the “girlfriends“ you are talking to? Hopefully not colleagues of hers? Nothing more annoying than people giving you hints or appearing to know more than you do, about things that should be kept private.

So, if you want clarity, stop being shady.