Pisces and I are finished but I tortured myself by looking at his twitter. Well he is aware and we discussed that our son passed when I was pregnant because his public acclimation for how he adored this particular girls body etc on Twitter and I didn't feel good enough for him. He promised me no matter what that he would never re-follow her but has chosen to re-follow her now even though her page is basically deleted tweets so there's nothing to follow. She deleted all her nudes and tweets. When he chose to go to her page and re-follow her he would have saw that there is nothing but just her name. Why to be hateful? I mean it's not like he's going to see anything she doesn't tweet anymore. Like I say this I feel is so hateful and disregarding to our son.
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Aug 04, 2015Comments: 2057 · Posts: 38091 · Topics: 1026
Everyone cope the way they cope.
Don't hate. Calm yourself. I am so sorry for your loss. Do you have tontorture yourself more? No. Just heal. ❤️
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Did you break up before or after you stalked his Twitter?
If it was after, it's most likely he made that promise to you out of respect for your feelings and since yall are done he's doing it for himself. If it was before consider him a lesson.
Don't torture yourself watching to see what he does taking it personally. If he isn't throwing it in your face he probably isn't doing it to spite you.
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Jan 19, 2013Comments: 1552 · Posts: 9503 · Topics: 11
You, my dear, stop accusing others --obsessively!-- of causing your misfortune. There is nothing to achieve by it, except making two people feel extremely uncomfortable with you, and avoiding their exposure to you by all means. No wonder she deleted what you saw of her.
Miscarriages happen every day and for no obvious reason...most likely the child had unknown, random gene defects which were incompatible with his development. It is sad that women in this situation often blame themselves (or other people close to them) for something that was entirely out of their control. Find someone who knows and helps women in your situation. Leave your ex alone, torturing him -and yourself- will not help.
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Jan 19, 2013Comments: 1552 · Posts: 9503 · Topics: 11
From NHS UK webpage:
Misconceptions about miscarriage:
An increased risk of miscarriage is NOT linked to:
a mother's emotional state during pregnancy, such as being stressed or depressed
having a shock or fright during pregnancy
exercise during pregnancy – but discuss with your GP or midwife what type and amount of exercise is suitable for you during pregnancy
lifting or straining during pregnancy
working during pregnancy – or work that involves sitting or standing for long periods
having sex during pregnancy
travelling by air
eating spicy food
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From the same page:
Causes of miscarriage
There are many reasons why a miscarriage may happen, although the cause is often not identified.
If a miscarriage happens during the first trimester of pregnancy (the first three months), it's usually caused by problems with the unborn baby (foetus). About three in every four miscarriages happen during this period.
If a miscarriage happens during the second trimester of pregnancy (between weeks 14 and 26), it may be the result of an underlying health condition in the mother.
These late miscarriages may be caused by an infection around the baby, which leads to the bag of waters breaking before any pain or bleeding. In rare cases, they can be caused by the neck of the womb opening too soon.
First trimester miscarriages
Most first trimester miscarriages are caused by problems with the chromosomes of the foetus.
Chromosome problems
Chromosomes are blocks of DNA. They contain a detailed set of instructions that control a wide range of factors, from how the cells of the body develop to what colour eyes a baby will have.
Sometimes something can go wrong at the point of conception and the foetus receives too many or not enough chromosomes. The reasons for this are often unclear, but it means the foetus won't be able to develop normally, resulting in a miscarriage.
It's estimated up to two-thirds of early miscarriages are associated with chromosome abnormalities. This is very unlikely to recur and doesn't mean there's any problem with the mother or father's chromosomes.
Placental problems
The placenta is the organ linking the mother's blood supply to her baby's. If there's a problem with the development of the placenta, it can also lead to a miscarriage.
Things that increase your risk
An early miscarriage may happen by chance. But there are several things known to increase your risk of problems happening.
The age of the mother has an influence:
in women under 30, 1 in 10 pregnancies will end in miscarriage
in women aged 35-39, up to 2 in 10 pregnancies will end in miscarriage
in women over 45, more than half of all pregnancies will end in miscarriage
Other risk factors include:
obesity
smoking during pregnancy
drug misuse during pregnancy
drinking more than 200mg of caffeine a day – one mug of tea contains around 75mg of caffeine, and one mug of instant coffee contains around 100mg of caffeine; caffeine is also found in some fizzy drinks, energy drinks and chocolate bars
drinking more than two units of alcohol a week – one unit is half a pint of bitter or ordinary strength lager, or a 25ml measure of spirits, and a small 125ml glass of wine is 1.5 units
Second trimester miscarriages
Long-term health conditions
Several long-term (chronic) health conditions can increase your risk of having a miscarriage in the second trimester. These are:
diabetes (if it's poorly controlled)
severe high blood pressure
lupus
kidney disease
an overactive thyroid gland
an underactive thyroid gland
Infections
The following infections may also increase your risk:
rubella (german measles)
cytomegalovirus
bacterial vaginosis
HIV
chlamydia
gonorrhoea
syphilis
malaria
Food poisoning
Food poisoning, caused by eating contaminated food, can also increase the risk of miscarriage. For example:
listeriosis – most commonly found in unpasteurised dairy products, such as blue cheese
toxoplasmosis – which can be caught by eating raw or undercooked infected meat, particularly lamb, pork or venison
salmonella – most often caused by eating raw or partly cooked eggs
Read more about foods to avoid in pregnancy.
Medicines
Medicines that increase your risk include:
misoprostol – used for conditions such as rheumatoid arthritis
retinoids – used for eczema and acne
methotrexate – used for conditions such as rheumatoid arthritis
non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) – such as ibuprofen; these are used for pain and inflammation
To be sure a medicine is safe in pregnancy, always check with your doctor, midwife or pharmacist before taking it.
Read more about medicines during pregnancy.
Womb structure
Problems and abnormalities with your womb can also lead to second trimester miscarriages. Possible problems include:
non-cancerous growths in the womb called fibroids
an abnormally shaped womb
Weakened cervix
In some cases, the muscles of the cervix (neck of the womb) are weaker than usual. This is known as a weakened cervix or cervical incompetence.
A weakened cervix may be caused by a previous injury to this area, usually after a surgical procedure. The muscle weakness can cause the cervix to open too early during pregnancy, leading to a miscarriage.
Polycystic ovary syndrome
Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is a condition where the ovaries are larger than normal. It's caused by hormonal changes in the ovaries.
PCOS is known to be a leading cause of infertility as it can lower the production of eggs. There's some evidence to suggest it may also be linked to an increased risk of miscarriages in fertile women.
However, the exact role polycystic ovary syndrome plays in miscarriages is unclear. No treatment has been proven to make a difference and the majority of women with PCOS have successful pregnancies with no increased risk of miscarriage.
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Jan 19, 2013Comments: 1552 · Posts: 9503 · Topics: 11
It is important to listen to experts who know abouts clinical investigation into the causes of miscarriage, and NOT rely on anecdotal and circumstantial "evidence".
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this makes no sense to me.
A fetus won't miscarry due to your inability to control your feelings about a single man who used to be yours.
How many other people are going around telling this to?
You're lucky that most people are nice enough not to laugh in your face.
My suggestion would be to stop running off at the mouth until you know what you are talking about, and to stop stalking a guy who clearly isn't interested in you.
And please, don't be so hateful and disregarding that you make another baby before you've finished maturing.
i have had Anorexia since age 18 but was in recovery for many years until pregnant and discovered his porn habits. I'm not saying that my sons loss wasn't my fault, I'm stating what triggered and contributed to his passing. When you have a long history of Anorexia, yes. And it was more than liking pictures it was the public tweets about how he wished he could have someone like her (which I am far from). I have never said that it wasn't my fault. Sorry for the misunderstanding