Hi all! I don't even know where to begin. I'm a Scorpio and my ex is a Pisces, but I don't know anything about our charts. The problem is that when he gets stressed or depressed he will be pretty mean to me and then he will disappear and ignore my text. A few days ago his grandmother had a heart attack and I was trying to be there for him but he clearly didn't want me around which hurt my feelings. I just want him to talk to me because I need to know if he is okay. My problem is that I can be pretty clingy at times and he hates that. If he doesn't return my text I will send like 3-4 more until he responds. I don't mean to be clingy I just want attention from him but we are no longer together so he doesn't owe me anything. Sometimes he will be very sweet to me and other times he will be very cold. He lost his job a few months back, he needs to find a new living situation, and his grandma is sick so I understand that I am the last thing on his mind right now. I will tell him I love him and he will tell me back but I'm not sure if he still says it because he feels obligated or because he really wants to say it back. Pretty much what I am asking is what to do? I don't know if I should just move on or let him come to me when he's ready. I don't want to be with anyone but him and it has been that way since we met. I am deeply in love with him and I would like to marry him but I guess now is not a good time. We have talked about marriage before but it wasn't very brief. I asked him if he every thought about marrying me and he said that he has thought about it. I guess that gives me hope but then again I don't know what's in his head. I can't shake the feeling that this is the man that I am supposed to be with. I feel like God is teaching me patience and to except someone for who they are, which I do with him. Sorry if this doesn't make any sense I am now rambling and going off of the top of my head. If anyone has any questions about the situation please feel free to ask. I would also love if someone could give me any advice. Thanks in advance.
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Aug 03, 2006Comments: 73 · Posts: 3385 · Topics: 36
Listen, with everything you listed about your interactions with this man, can you tell me why you think you guys are meant to be together? You need to see that there is no "meant to be together". There are plenty of men in your lifetime you will claim this about, which pretty much negates the entire statement. He's someone you wish to make an effort with, but there is no "meant to be" about it.
I'd like to place a large reality slap on you, in the most caring way possible: he doesn't hate you, but he clearly doesn't know how to deal with your neediness, nor does it appear that he wants to. He has a lot of shit going on in his life - he will not be concerned with your petty issues of needing more attention, or worrying about your feelings of caring for him not being appreciated when his grandmother dies. How long were you guys together? It doesn't really matter why you broke up, I think it's pretty evident as I outlined above.
My advice is to pull way back. Let him seek you out if/when he decides to do that. Don't put your life on hold in the meantime. I have no idea how old you are, but you will end up looking back at the years you "wait" for him, as a waste of your own time.
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Oct 21, 2011Comments: 91 · Posts: 2252 · Topics: 23
When pisces are going through hard times we retreat and need to heal within, if others offer to help it kind of feels like you are invading our space with will most likely result in a snarky remark or silence, especially when we tell you we don't want you around. The man is dealing with a lot of stuff: lost is job, having to figure out a new place to live and then his grandmother's health issues.
The last thing he needs is your clinginess, I get it... you want to be there for him and as a pisces it would be hard for me to stay away because I want to give my support. The way to support him to to leave him alone and let him come to you. When he needs you, he will reach out. If not, you are just an obstacle in his healing process.
As far as him saying he loves you, it is a possibility he could be saying it to not make you feel bad or he can actually mean it. It is hard to say with a pisces.
This is a toughy when people are saying move on. If you truly love him and he loves you, it would seem like the ultimate betrayal if he is saying I need space and you are off trying to start things with another person. If I was him and I found that out, I would cut you out of my life. You wouldn't be dependable or the rock that I need (I'm a pisces sun and a Taurus moon and venus). So, I can't give you advise as to just give him space or to move on completely. You have to look inward and make that decision for yourself. I don't think he was being a douche, pisces deal with crisis (and the man is CLEARLY in crisis mode) in many different ways. He sounds like me in crisis mode. I wouldn't be surprised if he stays in bed all day. He needs time in his cocoon and will emerge (eventually) better. Now, when he emerges that is when he will decide if he wants you in his life or not. Not sooner than that, he has too much going on.
Good luck.
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Nov 29, 2012Comments: 0 · Posts: 316 · Topics: 16
Send him some good vibes and walk away in the other direction.
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Apr 07, 2011Comments: 0 · Posts: 1325 · Topics: 0
first of all what was the break up reason...need info first on this...
well he seems fine now, i decided to move on until he gets his life together..i can tell he's depressed and that hurts me!