Jamiejean1021
@Jamiejean1021
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Noncommittal but jealous/possessive Pisces
Hm, I think you need to take a few things into account here. As you've said he's a "hit it and quit it" type of guy. Apparently he's normally respectful, polite, and only looking for casual sex. Have you two talked about exclusivity, or is it assumed? Do you know if he's dating other women? I only ask because you'e only been "dating" since January and he's not interested in saying that you're dating at all.
If you two have been friends for a while and are dating, it's a little odd that he's being standoffish about that. The jealousy thing is also a bit of a red flag too. Generally people react to others based on how they themselves react. Meaning liars generally think everyone lies, cheaters generally think everyone cheats etc. That's not to say that he's lying or cheating. I just wonder if he's talking to other women when too. Hence his outbursts whenever your texting slows down.
Additionally it's only been a couple of months. It generally takes 3 months or 90 days for people to get accustomed to one another. This is when the facades start to fade as well. So if he's jealous and possessive now, it's safe to say you can expect more of that in the future.
Speaking of which, it sounds like you two text often, no? If you receive good morning texts daily, it doesn't sound like you go long periods of time without hearing from each other. There really isn't any reason for either of you to feel a push-pull with that amount of frequency. If you're talking every day, just anticipate that he may not be as chatty sometimes.
My suggestion is to actually talk to him about the dynamic of your "dating" status. If he freaks out on you about it again, simply ask him, "So are we officially dating? Should I be talking to other guys? Are you talking to other girls?" If you want something exclusive, just tell him straight. I wouldn't wait on him to make that next step if that's something you want.
Side note/devil's advocate: If you're already hooking up with the guy, that means his needs are being met. Don't expect him to push more for an emotional bond with you. In general guys are looking for a physical connection per se. That's not to say that we aren't interested in an emotional connection, buuut it generally isn't our priority. That added to the fact that you're already friends, he's probably not thinking along those lines.
If you two have been friends for a while and are dating, it's a little odd that he's being standoffish about that. The jealousy thing is also a bit of a red flag too. Generally people react to others based on how they themselves react. Meaning liars generally think everyone lies, cheaters generally think everyone cheats etc. That's not to say that he's lying or cheating. I just wonder if he's talking to other women when too. Hence his outbursts whenever your texting slows down.
Additionally it's only been a couple of months. It generally takes 3 months or 90 days for people to get accustomed to one another. This is when the facades start to fade as well. So if he's jealous and possessive now, it's safe to say you can expect more of that in the future.
Speaking of which, it sounds like you two text often, no? If you receive good morning texts daily, it doesn't sound like you go long periods of time without hearing from each other. There really isn't any reason for either of you to feel a push-pull with that amount of frequency. If you're talking every day, just anticipate that he may not be as chatty sometimes.
My suggestion is to actually talk to him about the dynamic of your "dating" status. If he freaks out on you about it again, simply ask him, "So are we officially dating? Should I be talking to other guys? Are you talking to other girls?" If you want something exclusive, just tell him straight. I wouldn't wait on him to make that next step if that's something you want.
Side note/devil's advocate: If you're already hooking up with the guy, that means his needs are being met. Don't expect him to push more for an emotional bond with you. In general guys are looking for a physical connection per se. That's not to say that we aren't interested in an emotional connection, buuut it generally isn't our priority. That added to the fact that you're already friends, he's probably not thinking along those lines.
Posted by Jamiejean1021
and afraid of losing me
It's surprising that you are able to enter rooms without your head getting stuck in the doorway.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by Jamiejean1021
and afraid of losing me
It's surprising that you are able to enter rooms without your head getting stuck in the doorway.
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Wow... was that necessary?? Is it so conceited of me to think of the possibility that after years of a close friendship- combined with his recent messages asking me why I'm so distant, that he might fear losing our relationship??
Does insulting complete strangers give you some sort of ego boost?
Posted by Jamiejean1021Posted by P-AngelPosted by Jamiejean1021
and afraid of losing me
It's surprising that you are able to enter rooms without your head getting stuck in the doorway.
Wow... was that necessary?? Is it so conceited of me to think of the possibility that after years of a close friendship- combined with his recent messages asking me why I'm so distant, that he might fear losing our relationship??
Does insulting complete strangers give you some sort of ego boost?
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In other words, your head does get stuck ... and your nastiness is due to your head hurting so bad from trying to pry it loose all the time.
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