Nothing spoils the taste of peanut butter like unr

First question: Have you ever suffered from "unrequited love syndrome"?

Second Question : So what do you do to avoid that..I mean is there a way to stop yourself from falling for someone who obviously doesn't care for you?

Third Question: If you find yourself in a situation where you are let's say "the object of affection" but you're not interested...do you always end up hurting the other person? I mean there must be an easier way out of this right?

hahaha yup hun ive fallen 4 sum1 pretty badly who i refused to c as being the bastard that he actually was. i only realized how insane he was when he stole the christmas presents from under my tree, i didnt believe the stolen cars or the switching of number plates 2 get free gas or the copious amounts of bud stashed in hiz car was really him... i guez coz he treated me like a queen at first and i always thought that was the true him... i guez females keep hopin..

but i do believ that girls often fall for the bad guy who they know is gona treat them bad because if it fails theyl know it wasnt them who was the reason.. the real shock to a female is when the guy you thought was a good guy treats you like shit... then ur just like shhyt r there any nice ones actually out there... when a good guy dumps you u think ur the worthless one! and we dont like to feel like that..

as for being the object of someone elsez affection is a killer... coz u feel so guilty i mean here is this person ready to give it all up 4 u... and your just like... ok? thatz cool we will c what happenz...

all i know is you cant force sum1 to like you who doesnt it has to come naturally

That's exactly my situation! It's so annoying. There was a guy I liked and I think he changed his mind about me. Now there's a guy who likes me and I know for sure I don't like him more than a friend. I feel his pain and can't do anything about it--and it sucks for all of us!

I'm dealing with the exact same questions: how can I get over the guy who can't reciprocate and how can I not hurt the guy who's interested? The answer is I can't avoid any of that. As long as we're human, even if we make an effort to be nice, we will ALWAYS end up hurting someone. We can't live and make EVERYONE happy. To accept that and do our best must be the key.

Compassion and empathy are important too, although not always possible.

I think the reason we do not like the person who's interested in us is b/c we are preoccupied with chasing after the one who doesn't like us. If you put two lonely people in a room then there's a great chance that they'll get together. I've been in this situtation a couple times. And, it's always one girl I want but can't really have and another girl who basically throws herself at me and I do not appreciate it. Although, looking back at one particular incident, I can completely see myself dating one of the girls I turned down. I don't think it's a matter of complete non-interest, but rather that we are focused on something else at the time.

It is human nature to want something we can't have. It's funny how we have created a whole discipline on logic yet we seldom practice it. The one thing I've learned from my experiences is that I should have chase after someone who doesn't like me and always give a chance to someone who does like me. I mean why bother chasing something you can't have? The bottom line is that you can't have it, so just give up. It's never a good idea to give up in life, but when it comes to relationships, I realized that you can't force things. It's not an exam where the harder you study the better you will do. You can't force people and it's hard to change them, so just don't try.

And, to stop yourself from falling for someone who doesn't want you. Just cut them out of your life, out of sight out of mind. That's what I do.

On a side note, I wish ppl on the cancer board will post more stuff. It seems like I spend much more time on the pisces board. Where are you intriguing posts mr.crabby?

BTW, peanut butter is DELICIOUSSSSS. No j/k, I don't eat much peanut butter. I like the taste of fish better 😉.

Yeah I guess then there's the idea that we should make people chase us too...Because the other person has to feel what they're losing is valuable. The truth is, if someone feels they "have you", why should they run after you?

I'm totally talking about dating terminology obviously.

Kafka

Why?

If person thinks that he have you, do that really make you belonging to him? Cmon girl, try to focus on different things that is funny. What is the worth of being with people when you only think BS about them?

Thank you guys for responding.I agree with most of what you guys had to say...
I just wish things were different...you always want what you can't have...😢

"Yeah I guess then there's the idea that we should make people chase us too...Because the other person has to feel what they're losing is valuable. The truth is, if someone feels they "have you", why should they run after you?"

Kafka: I agree with you...at least for some people chasing is the fun part, after they have you things get boring...I think each person should take turns in chasing the other one just to keep things interesting...chasing can be FUN...I should know...I've my venus in Aries...😉

Anyone care for peanut butter and mayo? My sisters used to eat this ALL the time...! The thought of it makes me gag...ugh. No thank YOU!

Dude, that's so disgusting. I can't even stand mayo on fries, forget about peanut butter.

um....excuse please - I am a "dude-ette" 😉 Yeah, it is disgusting - I'm with ya on that one Charlie!

My name isn't charlie, it's bob :p.

okay, how do u do the tongue smiley face?

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wow you really showed me how to do it!! how about putting a space inbetween the symbols so i know? thx... 🙂

Hey Bob....okay, you gots to do it like this. Go to your keyboard and locate the two dots key after the L - got it? great. Okies, now - use one of the fingers on your left hand and hold down the CAPS LOCK key. Using one of your favorite fingers on your right hand, hold down that key with the two dots on it : Then after that mission is completed - grab another finger and find the P key. You must also hold downz the CAPS LOCK key when performing this task as well.

ok, your turn 😛

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😛 die sucker

Kupo....go sit in the corner for not following directions. Haffo, you may come and sit up front next to me. I have some things that I need for you to do. 😉

So many tongues. What a woman can wish else?

For a man to know HOW to use what he has...simply having something means nothing!

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you know shift is a good alternate for the caps lock key. but thx for da instructions. I didn't know you had to capitalize the P, I guess you can't eat P's 😛.

A man with good armed tongue is a deadly weapon.

Not if he does not know how to use it.....it is not deadly my friend, it is a dud!

Forget about man, get a bottlebrush.

Crunchy is the way to go, on italian burger bread, with banana slices and a coco-coffee.

Unrequited love is the only kind.

Here's a question for you, how can love be unrequited? Doesn't the getting to the love stage require some affection from the other party? Otherwise, it's just a crush, like the orange juice.

I disagree with kupo kupo, love is internal, personal, it's a feeling, not sharing or any other bullshit found in psycho-pop.

Or maybe you're calling me a crush-having empty shell.

What I'm trying to say is that I hold the word "love" to mean the ultimate level of affection between two people. The emotion of affection can have different levels, starting from lowest level (like) and ending at the highest level (love). Now, to reach the stage of love, I believe two people must have to go through quite a bit, and it is almost impossible to reach love without two people sharing affection for one another at certain points in time. If somehow one person reaches the level or love while the other person have never ever shown ANY affection (as in the case of unrequited love). Then, that one person can't really say they're in love, but rather it's a blind attraction that they feel or simply a crush.

This is what I meant.

I don't understand what you mean by psycho-pop? You mean the lyrics we hear in today's pop music..?

i do take whoel wheat bread with peanut butter and mayo. it is okay as a quick fix breaker...

LOONEY!!! now i know forsure you are one heck of a "looney" bird lol jk!!!!! How do you really do it? I mean, eat PB&Mayo? I'm feelin a bit queeeeeezzy at the moment..must go.

Well i'm a blind attracted. Maybe your theory prevents you from having a one way thing, but i know i can know and love someone even if they don't care. Some people put up barriers for a while or just get to know others slowly. My feelings are there, they depend only on me.

Love is so simple, there are no rules.

I so agree with you Mr. SmartCrabby!

Love is so simple until WE give it rules, until WE call it a problem. Less is more and the more I learn the more I realize, Ignorance is truly Blissful.

Yeppers..we have our feelings and our feelings are always right for us - trust them, always! Feelings never lie.

Logic....Logic is overated big time. There is ALWAYS a way.