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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
You two are playing games .. so, if it's confusing, then to get clarity, you first have to stop playing head-games.
You contact him, then push him away .. and visa versa
What you are asking us is to give you the next move in a game of emotional manipulation and one won't come from me.
And playing is exactly what is happening .... you'll gain his interest by contacting him .. only to tell him you have a boyfriend, or you're not astrologically compatible .. which pushes him away, only for you to contact him again to reel him back in.
= being a Player of head-games from my perspective, one in which he apparantly is participating in ...
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Oct 08, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 705 · Topics: 18
(Re-write from the hidden post to fix my typos and better relay my argument)
Actually, I hate games. I don't see a Pisces liking games either. I think it was definitely emotional but not intentionally game playing. I was fearing he would only be interested in sex and so I did not give him the time but remained friends which was the reason for our initial e-meeting.
When I am in a relationship no other men exists. So, I didn't feel the need to put him first and he wasn't the first to contact me to see where I was (MIA). I did get back to him but I guess it was a day late and a dollar short. So, when I was no longer in my relationship I didnt feel the need to rush to him but I did increase my e-interaction.
I believe my ignoring the call and then confessing I'd been in a relationship pretty much that whole time didn't sit right with him. So, that's what set the stage for whatever it is we have. Unfortunately, I havent been able to redirect things on my own. Having just given up for one whole month he comes back with the pictures showing his chest and pecks knowing darn well that I would want him.
I don't want a sexual relationship and I don't know what he wants (wanted) either. I did ask him last night but he evaded the question. I'm open to a full-on relationship but truthfully I am looking for genuine companionship. The weathers breaking and its time to run the streets all day and night doing fun stuff. But, consistently not just once or twice throughout the summer.
Sex will always be a part of my world but I don't want to start something based on sex or lust. I notice that he is home most evenings and weekend nights. I'm sure he would love to get out and about. With that new body he won't have to wait long for takers and I want to put my bid in. But, not through lustful flirting. I see it going in that direction but I want to control myself. So, I am hoping for advice on dating this young Pisces man.
So, now what?
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Oct 18, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 2502 · Topics: 29
"You two are playing games .. so, if it's confusing, then to get clarity, you first have to stop playing head-games."
If you ask me, they both seem immature and mentally on the same level.
Carnal relationship. Go for it.
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Oct 18, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 2502 · Topics: 29
"Actually, I hate games. I don't see a Pisces liking games either."
Delusion is a wonderful drug.
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Oct 18, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 2502 · Topics: 29
I calls it like I sees it.
Help comes when we're finally ready to take off the blinders, ya know?
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Oct 08, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 705 · Topics: 18
I have no clue what games I'm playing. I was friends with him, he wanted to come see me, I declined because I thought he was young and would only want sex. What games...?
So, we continued being friends and I got into a relationship (not a crime) with someone who I thought was more suitable. I gave all attention to my boyfriend. Neglected my onsite profile, friends wondered what happened to me including young Pisces. He called and I was on the phone with my boyfriend so I didn't answer. Two days later I was online and he was and I sent him an IM asking what was up. What games...?
Within days we had a discussion on IM that led me to reveal my current relationship. He told me he was unaware that I was in one, well we weren't that close of friends. What games...?
So, after my relationship ended, I wasn't looking for sex, but I stopped neglecting my friends. At this point he was not feeling me. Either hurt that I gave another man a chance over him, or hurt that I ignored him for the call. What games...?
So, realizing that IM'ing wasn't going anywhere I would only try ever so often to IM him, he asked me about my bf and I told him we had broken up over a month ago. I decided to do our astro-comps discovered it was way harsh, shared it with him, he either thought I was strange or was upset that our comps read that way because he deleted me from his IM and Myspace. He was hurt. What games...?
So, I had IM'd him when he was mobile, he didn't know who I was because I was deleted form his buddy list and he re-added me. I never IM'd him once I realized he had to re-add me. Then a month goes by with no IM'ing. He pops into my IM feeling more confident due to his pictures and because I was never upset with him I remained a true (now more intrigued) friend. What games...?
Because I am interested he asked me to make a move, I suggested we meet, we never have yet. He ignored it. I think he expected me to say come see me tonight. So, I tried to regroup and ask him what he initially wanted from me hoping we could find a basis. He told me he was on the phone and would get back to me. He never did. I think he didn't know how or want to have that conversation. No clue. Games...?
So, today I was thinking about him and text him that I was expecting some conversation. I get "Lol". I am thinking he just doesn't know how to have this conversation. But, I could be wrong. Games...?
I don't see where I played games and I am not purposely being indifferent.
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Oct 08, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 705 · Topics: 18
(I need edit everywhere I go lol)
I struggle with believing age really doesn't matter. I believe that if I invite him to my home and sex happens that he will not desire anything else. At least if I ask him if he desires to be a hanging partner for the spring/summer and he declines I will know he just wants sex then I can choose if I want to experience him or not. But, truthfully, I want to know if he has that potential first without ruining it by jumping ahead.
I shared the astro stuff because I told him I would do it. Astrology has become an enormous part of my world since September 2007 and there is no one I feel I can't discuss it with. Friends, family, love interests... Since I told him I would be doing ours I figured it was only fair to share. If someone is doing something on me I want to know. More so, it was so awful that I couldn't resist. I'd never seen my comps with a man have so many Neg aspects and it was just funny in relation to the minor changes he's put me through.
If you want to read it at "love test" we're 8/25/75 and 3/10/86 (ouch at the baby, right).
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Oct 18, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 2502 · Topics: 29
If you want me to start talking, you better be prepared to go outside of your comfort zone. Some can deal with it; others feel like they're being shredded.
Otherwise, I'll just stay quiet.
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Apr 10, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 329 · Topics: 23
I don't see Miss A as playing games or otherwise being manipulative. I think archer's advice is right on target - invite him over to your place (I'd actually modify that and advocate something more along the lines of coffee or drinks) or delete him and move on.
I've put my lovers up on pedestals and thought they were all that and I wasn't worthy and I'm wondering if you're doing the same thing, Miss A. Remember he's 22 and that you haven't met him yet. The age thing could be a big deal, but it doesn't necessarily have to be. The not having met him yet could be a much larger factor in your decision as to whether or not something would work long term.
"Sex will always be a part of my world but I don't want to start something based on sex or lust. I notice that he is home most evenings and weekend nights."
I've got mixed feelings about this. Fair enough that you want a relationship, but do you really think you'll be able to develop that with a 22-year old who hasn't yet displayed the capacity to pull it together long enough to meet you in person? I'd say keep it sexual for now. See this as a great fling that can keep you both occupied during those evenings and enjoy it for however long it lasts.
[And yes, I recognize that I'm in a minority among the women here when it comes to believing that relationships can evolve from sex. I'm a glass half full kind of gal.]
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Oct 18, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 2502 · Topics: 29
"Calm down don't take your frustrations out on MsA, she's not asking you to tear her to shreds ..And further more do have to shredd her for her to understand your point. If not then maybe you should keep quiet"
Starfish, stop being a pretentious ass. I've offered my tidbits and offered to stay quiet, so I don't need to you bearing on me.
I have no frustrations to take out on anybody. I offer my perspective which can be harsh for some people. Hence the warning label.
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Nov 08, 2006Comments: 37 · Posts: 4746 · Topics: 283
If at all possible, tell him what you are basically saying here to us, or write it in a similar message. I think then he would be better able to see where you're coming from. From his perspective, i think it's a clarity, pride issue. And when a piscean's heart is hooked on something, it can be easy to lose faith if things get too sticky or complicated, or perhaps a feeling of indifference from another, even if only perceived. At this point in his life, his head may be in a different place, at least initially.. At any rate, a cynical, indifferent, non-communicative pisces is not very common. I agree, give him a reality he can count on and look forward to; perhaps invite him over or to some place more public, then play it by-ear.. Clear, decisive, open communication is vital, even if only on your part, for now. At this point, i think it's better to say too much, than too little. (btw, people first always; astrology second. One can never assume.)
Good luck to you..
MsA: My advice: RUN AS FAST AND AS FAR AS POSSIBLE! PISCES WILL DRIVE YOU INSANE!
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Oct 08, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 705 · Topics: 18
He just texted me. WTF!!!!
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Oct 08, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 705 · Topics: 18
The texts went like this"
From Him: Hey
From Me: Hey
And, that's all. Games, indeed.