livelovelife
@livelovelife
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password on cell
Nothing to do with being a Pisces.
A cellphone is a personal device nowadays with a lot of sensitive information on it.
What makes you think you have any right to check his cellphone, e-mail or bank-account?
Either you trust him, or you don't. Looking into his cellphone won't mean a thing.
A cellphone is a personal device nowadays with a lot of sensitive information on it.
What makes you think you have any right to check his cellphone, e-mail or bank-account?
Either you trust him, or you don't. Looking into his cellphone won't mean a thing.
Do u trust him?... If u do , don't let it bother u... But if u don't. the password is the Least of your worries. Maybe u should consider and take a look at your relationship in general. I get your point but immthe same way I Never let anyone even take a look or touch my phone. It's a Privacy issue.
If it's a trust issue ask yourself "is it just" the Password or it's the fact that you dont trust him in general. And also ask your self are u being overly possessive or jelous?... Its not healthy to be this way.
Just saying..
Gluck!
If it's a trust issue ask yourself "is it just" the Password or it's the fact that you dont trust him in general. And also ask your self are u being overly possessive or jelous?... Its not healthy to be this way.
Just saying..
Gluck!
Looking at the rest of her posts makes me think she doesn't trust him in general.
You're not married, drop it. If you don't trust him then move on. The question was a confrontation. You're not his wife, his mom so what he does with his own cellphone is his business.
You deserve to be with a man you can trust and if you can't trust him for whatever reason then you consider fixing your issues and/or dropping the relationship instead of choosing to be in a relationship filled with mistrust, it's miserable when there is no trust.
You deserve to be with a man you can trust and if you can't trust him for whatever reason then you consider fixing your issues and/or dropping the relationship instead of choosing to be in a relationship filled with mistrust, it's miserable when there is no trust.
Like everyone said, this is so not about the phone password. If he didn't have that, you'd have found something else to focus on and spin a 'is he cheating? hiding something?'.
There's an unspoken trust between partners and it's there, until you question it out loud. Then you have to come out with whatever issues you have regarding the other person, why you doubt it all, etc. You just did that by admitting you don't trust him. This distrust will destroy relationships if you don't get a grip on it.
Sure some people are idiots and cheat, I'm not denying that at all, but the way you went about this...
How do you feel now? Did it make you feel better? This is like that thing people do when they WANT to break up, they create issues and drama over nothing. Push it far enough and then in the end go 'See! I knew he wasn't the right one for me'. Stop testing people that do nothing wrong upon you.
The moment you feel the need to go through your partner's phone, is the moment there's something seriously wrong between you two. Say that he removed the password, you would go through his phone in no time, hunting for evidence or something that's not there. Sad really..
I test people too with the phone trust, I just want to know that if I want to I can look at it all. I ask them 'can I see your phone?' or better yet 'can I use it?'. That's ALL I need to know, I never do it but I need to hear you say it's ok. I just accept the phone and then give it back. I'll see right through your lying if you try anyway.
I do this ONCE by the way and that's that. I don't need a phone investigation to know something's wrong or to get information 🙂
There's an unspoken trust between partners and it's there, until you question it out loud. Then you have to come out with whatever issues you have regarding the other person, why you doubt it all, etc. You just did that by admitting you don't trust him. This distrust will destroy relationships if you don't get a grip on it.
Sure some people are idiots and cheat, I'm not denying that at all, but the way you went about this...
How do you feel now? Did it make you feel better? This is like that thing people do when they WANT to break up, they create issues and drama over nothing. Push it far enough and then in the end go 'See! I knew he wasn't the right one for me'. Stop testing people that do nothing wrong upon you.
The moment you feel the need to go through your partner's phone, is the moment there's something seriously wrong between you two. Say that he removed the password, you would go through his phone in no time, hunting for evidence or something that's not there. Sad really..
I test people too with the phone trust, I just want to know that if I want to I can look at it all. I ask them 'can I see your phone?' or better yet 'can I use it?'. That's ALL I need to know, I never do it but I need to hear you say it's ok. I just accept the phone and then give it back. I'll see right through your lying if you try anyway.
I do this ONCE by the way and that's that. I don't need a phone investigation to know something's wrong or to get information 🙂
Why oh why do people want cell phone carte blanche? Great. Open yourself up to butt hurt. Masochistic.
Posted by venusianbull
Why oh why do people want cell phone carte blanche? Great. Open yourself up to butt hurt. Masochistic.
Control pure & simple.
I want phone privileges just in name "yes you can if you want to" is enough for me. Never actually do it 🙂
I wouldn't like people to rummage through my phone either!
Im single and keep a password on my phone, if i were in a committed relationship i would not see the need to hide the password from my significant other. I never got the cellphone is off limits thing especially if every other part of your life isnt. Im not one to check anyones phone, but ive had individuals that were very protective of their phone which i never voiced concern but it was suspicious in my eyes.
Posted by Fire-Water
Im single and keep a password on my phone, if i were in a committed relationship i would not see the need to hide the password from my significant other. I never got the cellphone is off limits thing especially if every other part of your life isnt. Im not one to check anyones phone, but ive had individuals that were very protective of their phone which i never voiced concern but it was suspicious in my eyes.
I'm single too and I use a password but a cellphone is so interconnected that it can give anyone access to a multitude of things. Social media like Facebook and Twitter, personal and professional e-mail and messages, banking apps, my personal/school/professional files and pictures. Cellphones are often even used as an extra security measure for important websites such as government and taxes. Then it is not so much about trust but about security.
"If you have nothing to hide..." Vs. "People willing to trade their freedom for temporary security deserve neither and will lose both". Asking for access in this case is asking for temporary security.
I've had some really personal conversations with people through my phone. One time I gave my phone away to the girl I was dating she scrolled up a bit too far and read a few things a friend of mine only told to me and were really important to that person. My stupid mistake but it is what can happen.
The shit I got in with that friend was not worth putting her mind at ease.
Ever since then the personal conversations on my phone are off-limits to everyone but me.
Even if it is not the privacy of a friend, do you really want to know all the fear and doubts your partner has about you?
People change their opinions, like maybe he or she thought you were too snobby, too different, not a redhead or whatever. If he or she is still with you after all this time then chances are they don't care about it anymore but it can still mess up your current standing.
Posted by Nemesis
tigercap for president! yeay! 😄
Not running for it yet, but I'm working on it. 😉
+1 Tiger & Nemesis
Posted by OrmasPosted by venusianbull
Why oh why do people want cell phone carte blanche? Great. Open yourself up to butt hurt. Masochistic.
Control pure & simple.
I want phone privileges just in name "yes you can if you want to" is enough for me. Never actually do it 🙂
I wouldn't like people to rummage through my phone either!click to expand
Exactly, but hey if you want to see girlfriend giggling and friend laughing, go for it. Not like they're clutching it like it's platinum and darting fervent looks over their shoulder/taking it elsewhere to talk. THEN get bunged up.
It doesnt have to be one extreme or the other, if your living with someone and sharing expenses & living space why is that off limits? What if you guys shared a home and in that home there was one room where you could not enter, That wouldnt peak your curiousity?
Posted by NemesisPosted by Fire-Water
It doesnt have to be one extreme or the other, if your living with someone and sharing expenses & living space why is that off limits? What if you guys shared a home and in that home there was one room where you could not enter, That wouldnt peak your curiousity?
hey there are people who have seperate bedrooms....and don't feel rejected.....
but back to topic; that room might peak my curiosity - but i would not insist on being let in - either i am asked to enter or not. otherwise it is off limits. i respect that. i expect the same in return. personal space and privacy within a relationship are essential.
click to expand
I gave that example to make a point, its not about respecting that persons wishes which is easy its about determining whats off limits and whats not within reason. Now whats reasonable to you may not be reasonable to me, to me its black and white either its all on the table or its all off the table just pick one and im good with that. How can you say you have access to everything except this one thing over here, just doesnt make sense to me.
Posted by NemesisPosted by Fire-WaterPosted by NemesisPosted by Fire-Water
It doesnt have to be one extreme or the other, if your living with someone and sharing expenses & living space why is that off limits? What if you guys shared a home and in that home there was one room where you could not enter, That wouldnt peak your curiousity?
hey there are people who have seperate bedrooms....and don't feel rejected.....
but back to topic; that room might peak my curiosity - but i would not insist on being let in - either i am asked to enter or not. otherwise it is off limits. i respect that. i expect the same in return. personal space and privacy within a relationship are essential.
I gave that example to make a point, its not about respecting that persons wishes which is easy its about determining whats off limits and whats not within reason. Now whats reasonable to you may not be reasonable to me, to me its black and white either its all on the table or its all off the table just pick one and im good with that. How can you say you have access to everything except this one thing over here, just doesnt make sense to me.
Posted by NemesisPosted by SizzurpPosted by ianthepisces
the easiest way to get a pisces to stop lying to you is stop asking questions..
Seriously! It means someone is asking too many questions!!
+3. yeah....
stop the probing and digging (for something you probably won't like or appreciate) lol.click to expand
^^ just thought that quote was fitting. it kind of intertwines....
no matter how long you know somebody, or how well you think you know them; it does not mean you know every last fibre or notion of them. and vice versa. of course you??ll have a general overall sense of their character or behaviour, but can you say with 1000% honesty, you know a persons core? i don't care how often somebody says "i'm an open book". it is but one chapter or a few page
How does this apply, i never mentioned digging or probing or asking questions. Your soul LMBO c'mon
@OP:
Short answer for the sake of brevity... Neither of you trust one another, yes that's right. The OP doesn't because she is wanting to see what's on her significant other's phone, like a curious cat driven by suspicion. The boyfriend password protects his device because he doesn't want her digging through potentially revealing and sensitive information which is quite obvious. I don't buy that she has to earn his trust to remove a password, shouldn't some form of trust already be presently established considering they're a couple? Rhetorical. Anyhow, this sounds to me like a typical high school immature relationship which lacks needed healthy relationship pillars such as trust. If I had nothing to hide I'd hand you my phone, have you see that nothing on my end is "incriminating" and then tell you that I no longer trust you to make the accuser feel like an even bigger idiot.
Short answer for the sake of brevity... Neither of you trust one another, yes that's right. The OP doesn't because she is wanting to see what's on her significant other's phone, like a curious cat driven by suspicion. The boyfriend password protects his device because he doesn't want her digging through potentially revealing and sensitive information which is quite obvious. I don't buy that she has to earn his trust to remove a password, shouldn't some form of trust already be presently established considering they're a couple? Rhetorical. Anyhow, this sounds to me like a typical high school immature relationship which lacks needed healthy relationship pillars such as trust. If I had nothing to hide I'd hand you my phone, have you see that nothing on my end is "incriminating" and then tell you that I no longer trust you to make the accuser feel like an even bigger idiot.
Posted by livelovelife
So my pisces bf has a password on his cell. It seems like he changes it allot, so after observing this
For the past few months I confront him.
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He did that on purpose to test my trust...
He got mad and said when he feels I trust him that he won't have a password,
I don't believe him, it's too out there.... I don't
Feel in my heart that he's cheating, but i also don't want to be naive.... What do u Pisces MALEs think
Is up..... Then after 20 mins of
Arguing about it, he says can we drop it. Silence until
Now, it's been about an hour. Issue is still unresolved. All i asked him was why he had a password
And why he changed it so often. Then he
Blew up. What is ur
Presumption of what is going on in his pisces make mind?