Pieces confusion!

I ment my Pieces man 3 years ago
I lived alone so he was at my house almost every night, well he tolled me he loved me after a month of seeing each other, i was a fool and believed him. since that moment we shared everything i had, i considered to be equally his. even paying for holiday and outing and trying to make him feel special and needed in every way. and after about another month he asked me to make list of the guys i had had sex with or he would break up with me, i was devastated and made the list, after that day he calls me a slut almost every day, i accepted the fact i had been with more men and he had only bin 6 including me - i took it cuz i mean i know i am not a slut and i am sure he was and is still just trying to excert power over me.
2 weeks later i see he is sending messages with an ex (he told me to cut contact with every guy on the list i had made, and some of them were childhood friends i had grown up with since our relationships had enden in high school) how did he think it was ok to talk to his ex when he told me to cut all contact with mine?
i began seeing what advatages he was taking of, he had a job yet i had been paying for everything, including the bills and the food that he brought his friends over to eat and just hang out at my house, who would leave it dirty and expect me to clean it - if i refused he would just leave the mess, once my living room had dirty plates and glasses full of mouldy food and spit in them for about a month and half until i finally cleaned it (he dint even say thank you). i told him i need a break once for 2 months he begged for me back saying he would change- he did he began to clean (when i told him it was his turn) - but again i have endured many of his "tests" to show him that i do actually love him and wont leave him again, accepting his flaws up untill his mother and father attacked me verbaly saying many hobble things so i refuse to see them,- i am still hurt. he never stood up for me infront of them, and now when i talk about it or try to, he dismisses me, but its really bothering me, he wont suport the woman he is living with and "loves"?
is he really that damaged from the "break" we took does he even really love me? or is he taking advantage of all things i have to offer him?
and why if Pieces men are so sensitive and loving won't he listen to how much his non suport is hurting me and making me feel unloved and used? how can i get him to talk to me and is it even worth it?
-Sagi

that is pretty bad, you should know what to do. I never asked about previous ex`s or people they slept with, it doesn`t matter, and you should never have to be called a slut for any of that...From the Wise words of Joan Rivers "A man can sleep around, no questions asked, but if a woman makes nineteen or twenty mistakes she's a tramp."....

You're mad because you present yourself as a doormat.... and he wiped his feet on the doormat?

I'm confused.

For the record - I'm not defending his gross behaviour. But yours is fairly awful too... for yourself. Treat yourself like a person first if you expect someone else to.

@ Jessgoogoo I love Joan Rivers!!! She tells it like it is.
@ Whatevie - I experienced the same thing regarding an exboyfriend. Have not heard from that Pisces again. He tried to move in after only knowing him a short while. Luckily I've learned my lesson on that one and I love living alone after many years of being attached. I have learned that people can only take advantage of you if you let them. So I don't let them. ANYMORE!

wow ... and then ...


::: shakes head :::

Posted by whatevie

.... i have endured many of his "tests" to show him that i do actually love him and wont leave him again, accepting his flaws ....

.... he dismisses me ....

You have no self worth, so why should anyone else treat as if you do? That is your issue here. You are baffled as to why he doesn't treat you better, when in reality, he treats you exactly as you wish him to, considering you are the director of your life.


There is something much, much worse than him dismissing you, and that is ..... you allow yourself to be dismissable, and don't seem to have any awareness that it's not him doing something to you, rather, you doing it to yourself.


Obviously, you're not an American .....

Posted by P-Angel

.... he treats you exactly as you wish him to ....

Let me rephrase that ... he treats you exactly as you permit him to ....

Posted by EusiveSoulll

Posted by whatevie
I ment my Pieces man 3 years ago
I lived alone so he was at my house almost every night, well he tolled me he loved me after a month of seeing each other, i was a fool and believed him. since that moment we shared everything i had, i considered to be equally his. even paying for holiday and outing and trying to make him feel special and needed in every way. and after about another month he asked me to make list of the guys i had had sex with or he would break up with me, i was devastated and made the list, after that day he calls me a slut almost every day,....

Did not read beyond this point.
Any comments are completely redundant for the bolded part speaks for itself!

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THIS.

Seriously, any guy treating you like this deserved a huge kick to the groin area.
If you stay with someone after they force you to do that, and insult you afterwards for it.. it's on you.