pisces and capricorn..?

This topic was created in the Capricorn and Pisces Compatibility forum by xxixxi on Monday, January 13, 2014 and has 16 replies.
hello pisces people
this is the very first time of me posting a thing on this pisces forum
hope you don't mind me creating this thread
my question is..
are pisc and cap supposed to be a good match?
in general?

bit more info:
here a male pisc and a female cap
the cap is slightly older than the pisc
Ahh thank you smile

here the pisc is my brother..and he's married to this cap girl
it seemed they were very happy with each other..
but now, unfortunately their marriage is in danger Sad
I don't know.. I only can guess how hard it must be for my brother since I know he has a soft heart
I hope that things will work out between them.. but from what I have hear from him, it seems things are beyond repair..
and if things don't turn out well..then I hope that there is a way for me to comfort him.. or maybe I should let him be..leave him alone..I've no idea.. Sad
And what did happen?
Posted by eglantine
And what did happen?



I really cannot tell in detail since it's not about me.. must respect my brother's privacy to a certain extent
we hardly talk to each other..not that we are on bad terms or anything...we..well, are just different, I guess..like, we have really different kinds of communication style
but it doesn't change the fact that I care about him
anyways..
there is one thing I could & have guessed that might have hurt his marriage
but I've a feeling there's more to it..but I won't pry it out of him..unless he wants to come & talk to me
Posted by djbuck1
Uh oh. If a Pisces male is saying to someone close that matters in one of his other relationships are beyond repair, that's a very bad sign (in this case, for the marriage).
I wouldn't badger him, but sometimes a guy of any sign needs a little encouragement to talk ('Can't be seen as weak, you know). My suggestion would be to go beyond just saying you're available to talk every once in a while. I'd ask some questions. If he wants to open up, he will. And he will appreciate and remember that you were there for him.



when I talked to him the last time, I tried to say something like 'but you don't know yet.. you two are still living together..and you can talk to her..try to work things out with her..right?'
but my brother's answer way 'no, I don't think it would work that way.. honestly, I think it's all over.. yes, we're going to share the place for a few more months, but when those months run out, then I think everything will be really over'
I have never heard him saying something with this much of certainty..and that worries me..if you know what I mean
as I wrote in the above..we don't really talk much..well, I used to try to have a conversation with him..but he scoffed me off most of the time..and he really isn't a type of person who speaks things on their mind as they are..he's a quite private person
so I'm not so confident here that me trying to talk to him in order to comfort him is really going to work.. Sad
I'm quite worried about him
generally Pisces and cappies go along well, pisces likes cappy's sharp mind and wit, and cappy likes pisces gentle heart.
About your brother though, if has made up his mind then there is no way of changing it, and if he hasn't but he thinks she has than its the same way, he wont question her decision, he will respect that.
I doubt a third person should get involved into a 2 person relationship. I, as a pisces, wouldnt permit it. Its my feelings and nobody's business. I could imagine that your brother might think the same way.
You say you are worried about your brother, here is something that will hopefully give you some peace of mind: Pisces are able to detach from their feelings. He will use that when he feels his heart is broken (he is probably already doing that) allow him to swim (away) and retreat and regroup and he'll be fine!
Posted by scalpisces
generally Pisces and cappies go along well, pisces likes cappy's sharp mind and wit, and cappy likes pisces gentle heart.
About your brother though, if has made up his mind then there is no way of changing it, and if he hasn't but he thinks she has than its the same way, he wont question her decision, he will respect that.
I doubt a third person should get involved into a 2 person relationship. I, as a pisces, wouldnt permit it. Its my feelings and nobody's business. I could imagine that your brother might think the same way.
You say you are worried about your brother, here is something that will hopefully give you some peace of mind: Pisces are able to detach from their feelings. He will use that when he feels his heart is broken (he is probably already doing that) allow him to swim (away) and retreat and regroup and he'll be fine!



from what I have heard from him is that his wife doesn't even want to talk to him...and when he tries, she shrieks and acts all hysterical.. which really surprised me because well..I know this cap of his wife (of course, we get together at family reunions and such occasions) and she didn't really seem like a type to get all hysterical..
but well.. I'm a third party here and you never know what's really going on between a couple
and of course, I've no intention to intervene or anything along that line..that is not my job or position I can or should take
however, it saddens me..my brother's tone when he told me his wife didn't even want to talk to him at all..he sounded very defeated Sad
I hope what you wrote in the last paragraph is true and appears if/& when my brother has the bad day..
thank you for your input
Posted by xxixxi

here a male pisc and a female cap
the cap is slightly older than the pisc



Posted by djbuck1
It sounds like the two of them have already negotiated the end of the relationship.



it sounded so..

they were together about 1 1/2 year before marriage and been married for about 2 years or so
I don't know..the last time I met them they were happy together..but then it was more than a year ago (they live in a foreign country, so I stopped by when I was traveling)
I texted him last night before bed..and when I woke up this morning there was his..saying that he's managing okay..and wishes to come back to home (home country) soon
the last time I heard him he was even suicidal..
there's another trouble for him beside his failing marriage..and he seemed quite crushed
as I wrote I had no hand in the nuptial matter, but with his other problem..I think I tried my best to help him out..
if all things go down bad..and he finally comes home..I will try my best to be there for him
I am married to a Cap Woman, younger than me.
I would be devastated if she left me. I will never left her.
Theres times when Capricorn see same actions and dont like and then a piece of relationship can be stolen from their heart...
so my brother had been missing for a few days.. deleted his facebook, messenger, rid of his mobile phone, etc. I couldn't reach him .. and I was very worried.. because he'd talked of suicidal thoughts to me and I, in fact, received a call from him being in an institution
..thankfully, I myself have some first hand experiences regarding psychiatric wards, so I tried my best to give him sound advice.. within reach allowed to me
again, thankfully, he came back a few days later.. contacted me from his side.. I tried to comfort him but not asking too much questions.. thought what he might need was some time to himself.. feel out those feels..ride out those feels.. pains.. and reflect on himself and recollect himself..
his wife is definitely leaving him.. my brother told him that the wife was planning to live the house and the country where they were living..for a while..which my brother agreed to..because he told me that knowing that his wife was still within his reach, he couldn't stop contacting her..in turn, nagging her and just exacerbating the already bad situation.. so sort of out of sight, out of mind strategy is employed here..
I told him.. sometimes, there are different ways of caring for other person.. it's not always about marrying, living with the person (one you love) together for the rest of your life.. maybe, it's not together..but still be in each others' lives..and still care for each other.. it's not about possession.. you cannot force others..or possess other person in true sense.. and I speak this from my own personal experience, my brother.. let yourself have some time.. hold out.. maybe just two months or so.. now, things are so volatile.. the more you try, the more you will end up hurting yourself and her.. so take a step back.. and just let things guide themselves, let the time lead you.. have some time for yourself to feel, cry and heal.. and try to learn to care for someone..probably a new way you have not done so before..
I have not heard from him since.. but just this morning saw his message, saying that he keeps telling himself those sentences I told him.. 'not together, but in each others' lives..and still care for each other..live'
I'm not so good or great a person to give anyone advice.. but I want my brother to come out okay after this hardship.. life does throw so many things at us..
Posted by Lucciferi
If he won't even try to talk about it with her he's only hurting himself.
Generally, I see Pisces and Caps getting along.



he has tried to talk to her..but then his wife refused to do so..my brother said to me, that the more he tried to talk to her, the more repulsed his wife became towards him..
from what I have heard from my brother, the situation is beyond salvation..
my brother called her, emailed her, texted her, begged her to stay with him.. even became suicidal because of the thought his wife leaving him.. ended up being hospitalised in an institution.. his wife visited him, and there they had deep talks..but nothing got resolved.. after his discharge from the ward, my brother tried to reconcile with his wife, but it failed again..which led my brother move out the house they were living together.. and a few weeks after that, now the wife is planning to leave the country for a while..because it became too much for them to deal
so it seems, they have have talks.. but those did not come to a positive conclusion.. which I think, there's no point of going after the wife..I guess it'd more push her away and more not want to talk with my brother..
constant calls, emails, texts.. begging.. a psychiatric ward .. moving out.. leaving the country..
what else could be done and more? surely my brother cannot lock her up and try to initiate the talk she does not want.. it cannot be forced.. my brother's options have run out..besides step back and wait.. in my honest opinion
in the meantime.. I will try to help him go through this..as much as I can.. and if he wants me to.. he asks some space, then I will do that.. if he wants someone to listen to him, then I will be there..
after all, he's my brother.. going after his wife hurts him mentally, emotionally and physically..then I would advise him not to do so..for his own sake .. he can go try to talk to his wife when he's not suicidal or drinking constantly .. I'm pretty sure that his wife is scared like hell now, too.. imagine your ex husband kind of is threatening his wife by saying killing himself.. only to get her back.. what my brother is doing is not helping him at all and harmful to himself and the wife.. I say so even if he's my brother and I would've wanted to root him..
I think cappy woman and pisces man is a very good match if the cap has water in her chart and the pisces maybe some saturn influence (aqua/cap planets). I am cappy woman and I attract pisces men, but I have strong scorpio in my chart... is she doesnt have much water, but instead a strong air or fire influence... it can go south. Sorry about your brother.
Just tell him that other people understand what he is going through.
Capricorn women cope alot, then cope again and then comes a moment when they can bare anymore... they cant help it, and theres no coming back. For instance, with my wife, somethings she sees on and on, on my behavior, and then she doesnt accept that behavior, her mind cant help it, and then she says she cant accept that, cant cope with that, but well she has to live with that pain.......
I dont like this situations at all, little situations for pisces, with capricorn are big situations...
If I was in his situation, I dont know what I would do either, but I simple cant loose her, I will never left her.
Say you brother to send questions or text to you, PM me and I will reply.
I am not divorced but I understand the interactions.
I think it will do well. That's all I can say for now.

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