Pisces and reputation of swimming away?

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by PuzzlePieces on Sunday, September 10, 2023 and has 14 replies.
Where does this come from? It has not been my experience. Seems my experience is more about wanting a relationship right away.

First one I married. I’m not going to blame Pisces on the problems that happened. Maybe more immaturity, stubbornness, lying & cheating. I needed stability & we were young. It ended badly. I left him no swimming away by him.

Current guy. It was a stop & start but I can’t completely blame him. It was both of us. This time it appears he realizes what he missed out on. Jumped all over relationship.. reminds me of the first. ( but with honesty, being upfront) go figure.

Still the beginning I’m more cautious than he is lol

I’d say the Cap with Pisces Mars was more the swimming away type. But should we really blame that on the Pisces bits?

Maybe I’ll change my mind later but right now I’m wondering if my 12th house placements have something to do with these connections. It feels all warm & fuzzy and I haven’t had that in awhile. So think I’ll ride it out & see what happens.

Posted by IceStorm
I’ve had Pisces men swim away (after chasing me) and two of them later tried to swim back and said that they swam away because the intensity of feelings scared them. They tried to come back but by the time they came back I had moved on.
One had an Aries moon with Capricorn Venus, the other had a Leo moon and aqua Venus I believe. I also have a 12th house stellium so I’m not sure. I think relationships are like recipes.. mixing two ingredients together (two people) will result in different results because of the unique chemistry that those two ingredients produce.
I know that my sag mars often squares the sensitive Pisces placements, and mars square anything in synastry can be sexy but also uncomfortable at times. So I’ve just chalked it up as such.
Neither of these really chased me. The first we went on a blind date & that was it. We were engaged a month and a half later 😳 there was a lot of good but we should have waited & it was so volatile. Too young.

This one well the first time was so quick and I made assumptions that weren’t really based on him. He’s not the chasing type. We just ended up in the space again & he was like what happened before, things were going so good! Lol But we did more talking first this time & building. Now he’s put in a relationship on his FB status lmao.. asked if that was okay.

My ex Cap is definitely more the mold you are talking about. He would scare himself and run away. Then come back.. I misssss you 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ he’s been blocked 2 years, he just doesn’t listen.

I do well with Pisces placements. They seem not as clingy as the other water signs at least with me. This one is not all over me but in contact every day, and caring type, listening etc. and I’m grounding with all my Cap placements, plus exciting a little changeable with my Sag sun. This guy has some Aries so he’s a bit excitable but yet really sweet and relationship type guy. It’s just natural. We shall see where it leads, I’m the cautious one. I suppose the fire helps me lol along with the water. I also do seem to do well with those who need some grounding. They are attracted to that in me.

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I’ve had Pisces men swim away (after chasing me) and two of them later tried to swim back and said that they swam away because the intensity of feelings scared them. They tried to come back but by the time they came back I had moved on.
One had an Aries moon with Capricorn Venus, the other had a Leo moon and aqua Venus I believe. I also have a 12th house stellium so I’m not sure. I think relationships are like recipes.. mixing two ingredients together (two people) will result in different results because of the unique chemistry that those two ingredients produce.
I know that my sag mars often squares the sensitive Pisces placements, and mars square anything in synastry can be sexy but also uncomfortable at times. So I’ve just chalked it up as such.



Neither of these really chased me. The first we went on a blind date & that was it. We were engaged a month and a half later 😳 there was a lot of good but we should have waited & it was so volatile. Too young.

This one well the first time was so quick and I made assumptions that weren’t really based on him. He’s not the chasing type. We just ended up in the space again & he was like what happened before, things were going so good! Lol But we did more talking first this time & building. Now he’s put in a relationship on his FB status lmao.. asked if that was okay.

My ex Cap is definitely more the mold you are talking about. He would scare himself and run away. Then come back.. I misssss you 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ he’s been blocked 2 years, he just doesn’t listen.

I do well with Pisces placements. They seem not as clingy as the other water signs at least with me. This one is not all over me but in contact every day, and caring type, listening etc. and I’m grounding with all my Cap placements, plus exciting a little changeable with my Sag sun. This guy has some Aries so he’s a bit excitable but yet really sweet and relationship type guy. It’s just natural. We shall see where it leads, I’m the cautious one. I suppose the fire helps me lol along with the water. I also do seem to do well with those who need some grounding. They are attracted to that in me.

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Yeah I have Venus Virgo and sag mars, both squaring or opposing pisces, but with my Scorpio sun and cancer moon, I attract a ton of Pisces men initially, but we typically do better as just friends.. my sag mars is in my 3rd house of communication. The last Pisces I dealt with had a Virgo moon, and my mars squared both his sun and moon 😬😂 he said I was confrontational. 😅

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Lol. I have aqua moon & he has aqua venus. We both seem to need space & allow it, support it in the other. So that seems to work well. He is Pisces sun/moon & Saturn omg. I actually love Pisces moon. The Cap is Virgo moon too 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ it’s tough for me. My Scorpio daughter has Virgo moon too lol we have our issues but are super close too.

yeah didnt really notice that stereotype.

and i think generally people who act like that just aren't too interested in you anyway.

coz mine moved in with me after like 2 weekends (technically the 2nd date). my mars was too polite to ask what he's doing never leaving my place. and thank heavens for my good manners coz we just had a baby a little over a year together and hopefully we can get married this month.

personally, i drop people when they're too slow. who's attracted to that hesitation in a man anyway? like what you gonna check in with your 4 other options beforehand? yeah no, couldn't be me waiting around for that. weirdly enough, he's a taurus venus/pisces mars. suppose that makes him more decisive somehow 🤷🤷

tbh i'm actually the more unstable one. tried to break up with this dude once a month for the first 7 months we were together. but you gotta understand, i just got out of a bad relationship and was super paranoid.
Posted by virgoOPPP
yeah didnt really notice that stereotype.
and i think generally people who act like that just aren't too interested in you anyway.
coz mine moved in with me after like 2 weekends (technically the 2nd date). my mars was too polite to ask what he's doing never leaving my place. and thank heavens for my good manners coz we just had a baby a little over a year together and hopefully we can get married this month.
personally, i drop people when they're too slow. who's attracted to that hesitation in a man anyway? like what you gonna check in with your 4 other options beforehand? yeah no, couldn't be me waiting around for that. weirdly enough, he's a taurus venus/pisces mars. suppose that makes him more decisive somehow 🤷🤷
tbh i'm actually the more unstable one. tried to break up with this dude once a month for the first 7 months we were together. but you gotta understand, i just got out of a bad relationship and was super paranoid.
Lol!! I totally understand. I’ve been protecting myself for years. I think I did with him the first time too. We all have our shit. What you say makes sense. These two are boom I want you, I want a relationship. And honestly my long term relationships have always been like that. When I look back anyways.

The Cap was too damaged to figure it all out. And I’m so over his bullshit. That’s why I blocked him.
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yeah didnt really notice that stereotype.
and i think generally people who act like that just aren't too interested in you anyway.
coz mine moved in with me after like 2 weekends (technically the 2nd date). my mars was too polite to ask what he's doing never leaving my place. and thank heavens for my good manners coz we just had a baby a little over a year together and hopefully we can get married this month.
personally, i drop people when they're too slow. who's attracted to that hesitation in a man anyway? like what you gonna check in with your 4 other options beforehand? yeah no, couldn't be me waiting around for that. weirdly enough, he's a taurus venus/pisces mars. suppose that makes him more decisive somehow 🤷🤷
tbh i'm actually the more unstable one. tried to break up with this dude once a month for the first 7 months we were together. but you gotta understand, i just got out of a bad relationship and was super paranoid.





Lol!! I totally understand. I’ve been protecting myself for years. I think I did with him the first time too. We all have our shit. What you say makes sense. These two are boom I want you, I want a relationship. And honestly my long term relationships have always been like that. When I look back anyways.



The Cap was too damaged to figure it all out. And I’m so over his bullshit. That’s why I blocked him.
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eww i don't even wanna get started on cap men especially with pisces moon, wasted about 2 years of my life on that 🤢🤢
indecisive and might swim away when just flirting (aka can completely forget about you) but the opposite if actually dating
Posted by MysteriousHeart
I’ve only had three different experiences with Pisces men. Them swimming away and swimming back, the ones who lie about things like age and already being involved with someone and those who push for a relationship quickly.
The first Pisces I was with in my twenties…..he was quite a bit older. Late thirties, pushing 40. We had a lot of fun together, but he constantly swam away and would swim back like nothing had ever happened. He was not looking to settle down though or for any kind of committed relationship. He had never been married and never planned to.
The next one I dealt with when I was in my early thirties. He claimed to be 40, but I found out later he was actually 50. He would never admit to his real age and kept lying whenever I’d ask. He also pushed for a relationship, but I told him I could not be in a relationship with someone who lies. His age didn’t matter so much to me….the fact that he lied and kept lying about it did. I mean if you can lie about something so trivial then what else would you lie about?
The next one I met in my mid thirties and he was super nice though he was quite a bit younger than me. Only 21 when we met and that was not going to work for me so we just chatted as friends over the years. He would swim away and swim back constantly, but we still keep in touch from time to time. I never did find out what he was looking for. We never discussed it. I feel like he wasn’t looking for anything romantic….at least not with me and if he was I’d be quite surprised because he never gave any kind of hints that was what he was looking for.
The most recent one I met in my late thirties and the one I went on about on here. Looking back I’m quite embarrassed about it. I mean I didn’t know the circumstances at the time, but I should have put two and two together. He would constantly swim away and swim back. We would go months without communicating. Then he would pop back up again. He told me he was single with no kids. He only communicated on SnapChat with me which should have been my first red flag. Then he’d only communicate when he was away on business and staying in hotels. Red flag number two. We met up and regrettably was intimate. I found out later through my own research he was married with two young kids and his wife was actually pregnant with their third when we met up. Made me sick to my stomach. 🤢 All those months he’d go without communicating he was home with his wife and kids. I was so disgusted and felt so awful for his poor wife who I assume didn’t know and I can only imagine how many other women he was meeting up with while on business while his wife was home with the kids. I found their social media page after I finally found out his real name….something else he lied about to me. Their social media was filled with pictures of them together and their beautiful children….posts about them being the perfect Christian family, going to church every Sunday and his wife making posts about how thankful she was to have found such a godly man. If she only knew. 😔
Ugh that’s horrible about the last one. Well doesn’t sound like any of them was interested in an actual relationship. I am friends with a Pisces who I met online, but we lived too far away & honestly I was never interested. He has been a great friend to talk about other guys with lol and he talks about women with me too.
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Speaking of Pisces trying to swim back, just hung up from a 40 minute argument with the Pisces that I was infatuated with last year (Pisces sun/Aries Venus) . Lol he’s mad at me because Im maintaining boundaries and won’t let him come visit because I dont want to do the toxic long distance shit anymore 😅😂🤣 he was PISSED and screaming at me, I just calmly told him i wouldn’t continue talking to him until he calmed down.
Wow! What is his moon? I’ve never had a Pisces behave like that to me. Well my ex would freaking punch holes in walls but he wasn’t verbal with anger. More pushing my buttons because he liked to watch my fire fly 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️. Good for you on maintaining the boundaries!!
I think that reputation comes from Pisces not being upfront about wanting a mediocre relationship to end. If it wasn’t bad enough to get out with a bang, we kind of waffle about if, when and how to end it, or if it’s us, you, or the circumstances that keep us dissatisfied.

The good news is that it happens mainly with relatively new relationships. Once we are caught, we’re caught, so we need to be extra careful about who throws the bait.

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Speaking of Pisces trying to swim back, just hung up from a 40 minute argument with the Pisces that I was infatuated with last year (Pisces sun/Aries Venus) . Lol he’s mad at me because Im maintaining boundaries and won’t let him come visit because I dont want to do the toxic long distance shit anymore 😅😂🤣 he was PISSED and screaming at me, I just calmly told him i wouldn’t continue talking to him until he calmed down.



Wow! What is his moon? I’ve never had a Pisces behave like that to me. Well my ex would freaking punch holes in walls but he wasn’t verbal with anger. More pushing my buttons because he liked to watch my fire fly 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️. Good for you on maintaining the boundaries!!
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He has a Virgo moon. Lol he’s the one who said I was “confrontational” when it’s really him who lashes out at me then acts surprised when I shut the behavior down. I sometimes felt like I was dealing with a man child. He had some stuff in his childhood unrelated to astrology that I think has played a part in him becoming this way though. There’s nature (astrology) and then there’s nurture.. both play a huge part in how people show up in relationships.
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Yes maybe so. My ex is a Taurus moon. Or perhaps that Aries venus is acting out. Just seems more like an emotional reaction.
My Pisces man keeps breaking up just the past few months over minor disagreements 🙄 then he’s the one always coming back, each and every time, if that’s what you mean by “swimming away”
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I think that reputation comes from Pisces not being upfront about wanting a mediocre relationship to end. If it wasn’t bad enough to get out with a bang, we kind of waffle about if, when and how to end it, or if it’s us, you, or the circumstances that keep us dissatisfied.
The good news is that it happens mainly with relatively new relationships. Once we are caught, we’re caught, so we need to be extra careful about who throws the bait.

Thanks for the explanation. That makes sense. I’m similar with being careful. My aqua moon is hesitant to let my feelings out because it’s so hard to let go of them. That more manifests by making people show me it’s safe. Beginnings are so tough.

These Pisces moons seem to be a good complement for my aqua moon. Seem to cut through my bullshit lol once they know I’m interested that is. Almost like they feel what’s underneath. Not very many people get that.
Posted by nanochip
My Pisces man keeps breaking up just the past few months over minor disagreements 🙄 then he’s the one always coming back, each and every time, if that’s what you mean by “swimming away”
Yes ma’am. The Cap with the Pisces mars did that too. He’d get upset & go hide. Then come back because he couldn’t get me out of his head or is that heart? But really there were issues that we couldn’t get past & he wasn’t dealing with them no matter how many times we tried again. He never stopped I had to eventually block him. We had been together 8 months the first time, Then another 7 months then a bunch of times very short because it seems you end up in that place you have the problem each time you come back.

Also I hear a lot of people mention this with Pisces suns swimming away & coming back. Usually I think it’s before the relationship really gets off the ground as a real relationship.