Pisces ex-boyfriend and No Contact Rule

This topic was created in the No Contact forum by metaversus on Sunday, November 9, 2014 and has 4 replies.
My Pisces ex boyfriend contacted me after 3 days of me implementing No Contact. He said: Hey smile thinking about you. How are you? I did not respond.
I am a Cancer female in my mid 30's. He's three years younger than me. I am in love with him. We share(d) a deep emotional and physical connection. There is a great chemistry between us and our relationship had a familiar, easy, natural flow. We inspire each other and had been actively pursuing our passions more since we met.
The other night we had a long talk and he said he loves me (first time), but he doesn't see a future for us. He said he wants me in his life (several times), but he only wants a 'partial relationship' with me. This is right after he told me he had missed me and had been depressed about me. We had a fight and hadn't talked for a week before that.
About 3 months before we met his relationship ended with a woman he was with for 1 1/2 years. He was in the same position with her that I find myself in with him. He was in love with her and she was not in love with him. He told me he stuck around because even though he knew she wasn't in love with him, he got used to it and she still met his needs. He said had she been in love with him, he likely would So I have decided I do not want this kind of toxicity in my life and have implemented No Contact to empower myself and move on with my life, but I am still very in love with him.
My question is, can No Contact work with a Pisces man? Can they ever miss their ex enough to have a change of heart?
Before his text today, he had been pursuing me less and less, because I was usually the one to initiate. I chased him instead of letting it be vice versa, so he got comfortable with that, which made him value me less.
My friends think I should tell him something like "Sorry, I'm not really in any space to be your friend right now. I am looking for more. Hope you're well."
But everything I read says the only hope of ever getting your ex back is to implement No Contact. I tend to think this is the way to go, because at the same time I will be healing myself and moving forward while turning the tables on him to make him miss me.
So I'm wondering which way is the best approach with a Pisces man, in general.
If he doesn't want the same thing as you then why would you want him back?
He will still string you along.
If you doing no contact do it because you respect your standards and find a guy that wants all of you and not part of you.
You said you don't wang the toxic relationship so let it go.
What's meant for you will be for you and if a man wants you he will do what it takes to keep you.
Maybe he is just not the one for you.
Move on and a better man will come in your life where you don't have to play those games to keep him interested. It's obvious yall want different things. You can connect with anyone doesn't mean they are meant to stay in your life.
Since I know he is capable of a relationship, during this period of No Contact I am hoping he will realize he misses me and does want a relationship with me after all.
At the same time I will use nc to try and heal my heart and move on, so it's a win win.
I played a part in pushing him to the point where he had enough. By being a needy/clingy cancer I don't think he ever had a the Piscean space needed to realize his feelings for me.
Part of it is that I cannot just connect with anyone. Sometimes it takes years for me to connect with a man on this type of level.
I'd just like to know if No Contact can work with a Pisces man? Can they ever miss their ex enough to have a change of heart?
Showing you have standards makes any man give you a second look because you made it clear that you are not a toy.