Pisces Man, Capricorn Woman

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by Placidd on Tuesday, March 12, 2013 and has 10 replies.
Me:
pisces sun
taurus moon
mars &venus in aquarius
ASC and pluto in scorpio
Hers:
Sun in capricorn
moon in aries
mars in cancer
venus in aquarius
ASC and pluto in scorpio
I'm in a pretty confusing situation right now. I've partially moved on, but I want to get another chance to do right the things I did wrong the first time around.
TL;DR: girl lost interest because I rushed things and believes friendship would be best, what to do now to get it back?
We met on 30 November of last year. when we did,we instantly had a connection, and became very close. during the christmas break she went back home to europe, and we kept in touch via skype. Our feelings for each other deepened as we got to know each other. When we both came back to college, things were great, except for the fact that I was rushing things. When she had told me that it made her uncomfortable because it was so soon to be acting like an official couple. I was uneasy at first but I made the adjustment and we became happy again for 2-3 weeks. Then came the struggle with the amount of time we spent together..In one of her past relationships she lost all of her friends because her boyfriend was extremely possessive. I felt upset every time she said that she wanted to go hang out with her friends because I felt she was spending more time with them than with me. I tolerated it because I didn't want her to feel like she did in that past relationship. Around the 4-month mark, we were becoming distant and having a lot of back-and-forth disagreements, and one or both of us would feel unhappy at the end of the night. We both could feel the distancing, but didn't address it (I didn't because I felt that all we needed to do was have more fun together). She asked to meet up with me one day and when I did she told me she felt unhappy and that she wanted the relationship to stop...I asked her what was wrong and she replied saying that she felt I loved her more than she loved me..And that sometimes she would be happy to see me, and sometimes she felt as if we shouldn't be together. I honestly felt the same about being hot and cold, but I told her that we liked each other the same amount, but it was too soon for me to be so expressive with my feelings. she also said that when she would text me saying she was somewhere, she was just telling me where she was, and that it wasn't an invitation, and It got to the point which she felt smothered..I was oblivious to that because she never addressed i
it directly, and I told her that she didn't tell me it was a problem until the very end, and that I was disappointed and that it wasn't really my fault we were in that position. I told her not to give up that easily, and that we would always work through the problems together. She asked for a two-week break to see how she felt and to have space because she felt smothered. I gave her the space, with no contact. I ran into her once, and she was happy to see me. Wednesday before spring break we met up and talked. I told her everything I thought of as a solution, but she told me that she had made her decision when we first had our talk, and that she didn't want a relationship. She thought her feelings would come back but she didn't have feelings for me anymore because she ???lost chemistry?? with me, and her friends told her that we are only two out of billions of people. She also said that she wasnt going to force herself to like someone even if that person was really good-looking to her (which she says I am). It hurt because I knew we didn't have a connection anymore but my feelings were still there, and I was kind of surprised to see her acting like she didn't want to hear any of what I had to say..I asked if she saw us getting back together in the future if things changed, and she said yes, but in the future. I told her that we actually may not get back together because Id be graduating in 1.5-2 years and I'd want to be in a strong enough relationship to withstand that milestone. I didn't want to say that but its too late now to take it back.. She said she would give me space and wouldnt talk to me until I was ready, and that maybe we could be close friends or fall out of touch. I agreed to it reluctantly, saying that maybe we could reconnect as friends and see where things go. I had a hard time dealing with it because I know she still cares about me, and she texted me happy birthday on the 8th, wishing me the best and to have fun over spring break. she was pretty much sending me away from the relationship "with a packed lunch and umbrella for the rain." I was a little sad because we went so well together and made each other so happy and now we arent together anymore, like the flip of a switch. I told her the solution to feeling hot and cold was to go out on more dates and do enjoyable things (which we didn't do much of, we both willingly moved to intimacy with one another), but she said that I couldn't change her mind. Recently she had been trying to ke
keep in touch with me by sending me a random picture from the internet over facebook, and I replied with one myself the next night. The night afterwards she gave a one-word response of ???awesome??, to which I left alone and I havent had any communication with her since. I dont plan on replying to any more of her messages or texts if she sends me any. Ive deleted all of our convos and pics, but not her number. Im not going to be using it but im sure I wont be tempted to talk to her any time soon. Honestly I do want her to change her mind because Im aware of the mistakes I've made and want to fix them, but I dont know what the best method of action is to be; either NC for a while, or stick with her as her friend and show her changes instead of just saying them (rushing, giving her space, and being a little less emotional). What'd be the best thing I could do when it comes to turning things in my favor, if there IS anything I can do? I know my feelings about her after I go back to college at the end of spring break wont be gone completely, and I wont be able to handle seeing her with someone else very well.




I know its a long topic..but im kind of confused and of all the girls I have met she has made me the happiest. Im not sure what to do if there is anything I can do, and any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated!
Ya I should have added them..
So Im guessing the only thing I can do now is to just move on, correct?
She told me she has made up her mind, but right now I am wondering if there is anything I can do (not in the near future) that could change how she feels..?
Your best bet at this point is get back to being the person you were when she first met you. Stop putting so much pressure on everything. You're a fish damnit! With mars and venus in aquarius!! You need to loosen the reigns and let things roll. It's beyond me how a Capricorn is teaching you this lol. That damn sign opposition in the moon/asc is fucking around with you. Stick to your essence.
If you can stomach being friends with her, do so. But be honest with yourself - are you going to be able to do that? Maybe you can, maybe not... only you hold that answer. She's being downright clear that she's not in a place for a relationship. I wouldn't take it personally, based on the connection you say you shared.
No more talking. All actions, be them passive or active. That's it. Words are cheap. Just like my cliches here. You have to decide what is worth it for you, what you are capable of, and what effort you are willing to extend into an unsure-bet.
This is so depressing! I had no idea... wow.
I'm a Pisces guy, I dunno what my other stuff is, the girl I'm talking to is also a Cap, and I also don't know here things, actually I don't even know how to figure that out xD
anyway, I made an acc just to post in this.
I'm also in a similar situation! We've been talking for months! Wow, this makes me not want to ask her to make things official on the first date anymore lol!
Very informative this... there's a part of me that feels that I should just learn from this and not think mine will become like yours Bat
Hello!, this forum is pretty interesting Big Grin
Must be your overwhelming assets.
How are cap females on receiving gifts even when you're not going out? It feels beta for me, but her phone broke and I want to buy her one.
I make it a rule not to buy a girl anything if we're not going out.
I'd search but, the advanced search just doesn't do anything for me.
I mean its really no big deal, doesn't feel alpha though. It's just money to me... not that important ^_^;;