Pisces man - how much space? Do I chase?
This topic was created in the Pisces forum by TauRisser on Wednesday, November 10, 2021 and has 6 replies.
I’m a Taurus. A Pisces man I’ve known for a year recently started pursuing me (he's liked me since he met me but never acted on it until recently, but his now ex-fiance just broke up with him 3 months ago and they still own a business together).
He was messaging me all day, every day for weeks and wanted to see me every day (I sometimes couldn’t tho). When we talked about the fact I was getting scared cause I was starting to have feelings for him (I felt there were issues being caused for him be the ex at his business because of us seeing each other), he told me he’s not ready either because of loose ends with his ex. he emphasized he did NOT want to get back with her and that he was not interested in anyone else. That he still wanted to hang out and get to know each other and didn’t want to walk away from me. That he was never going to let me go.
Then he stopped texting and calling since, but when I see him, I catch him staring SO intensely at me… We both sing and he chose songs this past weekend that have me the impression that he wants me to chase him, (simply the best, the letter by boxtops, and there's nothing holding me back) but I was feeling like he needed space to sort through whatever he needs to do about the business and his ex, so I’ve been giving him space.
Things were like torture for both of us the first couple nights we saw each other and he would stare at me with such longing and almost sadness…. Then he started singing those love songs and it is getting less awkward. It was almost like it was before the distance… And he texted me after and then suddenly said “night” after a fun conversation that he started to turn a bit sexual… Self control?
He hasn’t texted in a few days now. I felt ok about it until today….I just miss him….I want to reach out but I want to give him whatever space he needs to sort things out. I know he feels strongly for me (he told me he loves me and loves my soul…. That I scare him because he respects me “too much” and doesn't want to hurt me)
We haven’t been physical aside from cuddling because it’s one of my boundaries unless we decide to become serious. He’s been very respectful of that throughout. On Saturday he stared at me so intensely for what felt like 10 minutes from across the room that I could only maintain eye contact for several seconds at a time. We were flirting and hugging, and everything seemed to be good, but I still know he needs time.
How often do I reach out or do I just let him start to chase again when he’s ready, and just keep seeing him when we are both out on the weekends for now? I want to honour what he needs, but don’t want to seem uninterested. I have so much respect for him and I genuinely just want him to be happy.
I know he’s all consumed with me when I’m around and I suspect he’s keeping distance so he can focus on the task at hand. I just miss him. I feel like he will be back for me. His feelings that developed for me over the last year aren’t just going to disappear right?
He was messaging me all day, every day for weeks and wanted to see me every day (I sometimes couldn’t tho). When we talked about the fact I was getting scared cause I was starting to have feelings for him (I felt there were issues being caused for him be the ex at his business because of us seeing each other), he told me he’s not ready either because of loose ends with his ex. he emphasized he did NOT want to get back with her and that he was not interested in anyone else. That he still wanted to hang out and get to know each other and didn’t want to walk away from me. That he was never going to let me go.
Then he stopped texting and calling since, but when I see him, I catch him staring SO intensely at me… We both sing and he chose songs this past weekend that have me the impression that he wants me to chase him, (simply the best, the letter by boxtops, and there's nothing holding me back) but I was feeling like he needed space to sort through whatever he needs to do about the business and his ex, so I’ve been giving him space.
Things were like torture for both of us the first couple nights we saw each other and he would stare at me with such longing and almost sadness…. Then he started singing those love songs and it is getting less awkward. It was almost like it was before the distance… And he texted me after and then suddenly said “night” after a fun conversation that he started to turn a bit sexual… Self control?
He hasn’t texted in a few days now. I felt ok about it until today….I just miss him….I want to reach out but I want to give him whatever space he needs to sort things out. I know he feels strongly for me (he told me he loves me and loves my soul…. That I scare him because he respects me “too much” and doesn't want to hurt me)
We haven’t been physical aside from cuddling because it’s one of my boundaries unless we decide to become serious. He’s been very respectful of that throughout. On Saturday he stared at me so intensely for what felt like 10 minutes from across the room that I could only maintain eye contact for several seconds at a time. We were flirting and hugging, and everything seemed to be good, but I still know he needs time.
How often do I reach out or do I just let him start to chase again when he’s ready, and just keep seeing him when we are both out on the weekends for now? I want to honour what he needs, but don’t want to seem uninterested. I have so much respect for him and I genuinely just want him to be happy.
I know he’s all consumed with me when I’m around and I suspect he’s keeping distance so he can focus on the task at hand. I just miss him. I feel like he will be back for me. His feelings that developed for me over the last year aren’t just going to disappear right?
what are his placements? what are yours?
I normally don't chase, the last young lady I dated had to tell me to chase her lol. Ill get busy and wont remember to call or text, I didn't go see my libra girl for 2 days and she was upset with me, so i think i understand what your feeling, but hey, I was busy. If he has feelings they won't disappear overnight unless you do something to upset him. If he is that interested i doubt he will stray, im very faithful and have never cheated. Why not text and say hi or ask how he is doing? He might be busy and would like to hear from you.
Posted by Mtnboywhat is your moon and mercury placement?
I normally don't chase, the last young lady I dated had to tell me to chase her lol. Ill get busy and wont remember to call or text, I didn't go see my libra girl for 2 days and she was upset with me, so i think i understand what your feeling, but hey, I was busy. If he has feelings they won't disappear overnight unless you do something to upset him. If he is that interested i doubt he will stray, im very faithful and have never cheated. Why not text and say hi or ask how he is doing? He might be busy and would like to hear from you.
Posted by Gem03Aqua, piscesPosted by Mtnboy
I normally don't chase, the last young lady I dated had to tell me to chase her lol. Ill get busy and wont remember to call or text, I didn't go see my libra girl for 2 days and she was upset with me, so i think i understand what your feeling, but hey, I was busy. If he has feelings they won't disappear overnight unless you do something to upset him. If he is that interested i doubt he will stray, im very faithful and have never cheated. Why not text and say hi or ask how he is doing? He might be busy and would like to hear from you.
what is your moon and mercury placement?click to expand
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