Pisces Men - so hard to figure out?!

so, i have been reading through the posts here for some advice, but can't seem to find anything to help so I thought I'd post. Long story short - this pisces guy I was dating - things were going great and then there was some confusion over an email that I sent, we cleared it up before he left for a business trip and said thing would return to normal. I did not hear from w/the same frequency but I did hear from him while he was gone. He came back and the communication stayed inconsistent. He has contacted me a few times to hang out but either I didn't get his text messages in time or our schedules didn't link up. It has now been awhile and throughout this period I have grew frustrated with him because we do not hangout like we used to and he is not communicating w/me like he used to. I basically feel like he is not making an effort. I sent him a text breaking up w/him and told him it was b/c I had not seen him in forever and I did not feel like he wanted to see me. He says , "maybe that's the best" but proceeds to ask me what I am up to today? I did not get this msg until the next day and I texted him explaining that and that I am so frustrated and that I feel like he is ignoring me on purpose bc he wants me to break up w/him bc he doesn't want to do it and that this situation is basically all his fault b/c it could be fixed but that he is not a good communicator. He immediately responds with, "but we can work this out, right? 🙂" I respond to him that I thought so - what did he think?" He then goes MIA and doesn't respond until the middle of the week, but says that "yes, we can work it out".

I am so confused this is so confusing...any thoughts on the situation?

Posted by ephflank
It has now been awhile and throughout this period I have grew frustrated with him because we do not hangout like we used to and he is not communicating w/me like he used to.

I would not expect much of anything to transpire from this situation. Unfortunately, it sounds like this one has been over with for longer than you think...

And honestly, we (Pisces Men) are not complicated creatures, nor are we confused or confusing...

--Jack

thanks! at least someone who is Pisces is being clear/direct! lol the situation is just weird. even weirder, he lurks around my profile but won't say anything.

Honestly, I don't think he is interested in you anymore. I do the responding to texts hours, or even days, after they were sent thing whenever A) they were sent at a time that my phone wasn't near me so I do not see them until that time or B) I have no interest in the conversation so it slipped my mind. Based off of the information you provided in your post, I think your Pisces feels as though you are attacking him and blaming him for everything rather than taking any responsibility/blame your self. Also, no where in your post did you say that you directly asked him whether he was busy or not, you are just assuming he is purposefully ignoring you when he could just have a lot on his plate, he is a businessman after all.

Furthermore, I would not take it too kindly if someone dumped me over the phone, let alone a text that basically reads I am leaving you and it is all of your fault. That action alone tells him A) he isn't worthy of being left in a better man than through text (actually through a phone conversation at the very least). B) you are telling him that you are the type to just throw in the towel if the going gets rough (this would make me feel as though if somewhere down the line, after I've fallen in love with, you would leave me at any moment because things have gotten "too hard". C) you are coming off as though you are nagging him to be more present.

He is a Pisces, we mirror people's behavior. Rather than what you see is what you get, many of our motto is what you see is what you give. You are inconsistent with him (you said yourself that you have gotten messages hours/days late) so he is being inconsistent with you. Also, from an astrological point of view, I think you two may have poor Mercury (communication) aspects between one another which may be causing the communication problems. If you are a Taurus, then your Mercury is either in Taurus, Aries, or Gemini, and if he is a Pisces, his Mercury is either in Pisces, Aries, or Aquarius. (Taurus is square to Aquarius)and(Gemini is Square to Pisces) if you two have either of these combinations, communication is going to be rough. Additionally, you two may have rough aspects between Sun/Mars (energies are out of sync) or Sun/Uranus (one wants commitment so the other rebels). Other aspects can cause this behavior as well, but these are the only two I remember off the top of my head. Good luck!

actually, i did ask him....he said he was just busy with work. But we are coming up on 2 months of us not being able to get together. It's not like it was 2 weeks and I was just decided to text him and break things off. I have been extremely patient but both ppl have to make an effort and it seems that I am the only one making an effort. I am one of the most reasonable people you will meet. All I ask is that I see a little effort on the other person's side and I don't see effort from him. I told him that if he communicated w/me we could probably work something out and that it was sad that it was coming to this when it is something that could be easily solved. That's when he asked if we could work this out...but then he disappeared for a few days. Like i said in my original post, this is a long story. I told a short version as not to overwhelm people.

I feel that something good has gotten horribly twisted and I don't a way out of it.

Posted by ephflank
thanks! at least someone who is Pisces is being clear/direct!

you're welcome...every now and again my aquarius mercury shines through the haze created by my overabundance of planets in pisces...

and i express myself 'clearly' ... 🙂

Posted by ephflank

the situation is just weird. even weirder, he lurks around my profile but won't say anything.

well, at least he's just lurking around your profile (at this point)...it could much worse, like your bedroom window or something...lol sorry, that probably didn't help very much...




--Jack

Posted by 88
oh,, for a moment I thought there were two Jacks.


I was getting confused. lol

i know, right! for a second EYE thought there were two jacks...i was like, damn when did i write all this—

never once did it cross my mind that two people could use THE SAME DISPLAY IMAGE!! lol 😛

--Jack

we were having a convo and he mentioned that i pulled away when he hugs/kisses me. I know that sometimes I can be distant and cold. I am actively working on that fact and showing my emotions to ppl. I didn't want to mess up something I was really enjoying due to my standoff nature. Being that it is hard for me to express myself I wrote him an email to clear up the confusion and let him know that I did not mean or think I was pushing him away and that I did like him and I wanted him to know that. He writes back and says that he does having feelings for me too, he enjoys spending time with me. He says that he had his friend cancel his trip to the states so that he could spend more time with me. However, while he cares for me he does not have feelings strong enough for a relationship, but that he wants to keep spending time with me and asks if I am free to meet in person to discuss things.

I write back that he has grossly interpreted my message and that I would be open to meeting up with him. This was around time he was leaving to travel out of town for work so we didn't get to meet up. However, if I am upset about something I have to get it off my chest. Otherwise, I can't sleep, i obsess over it etc....so I wrote him msg basically explaining that I was extremely hurt that he would ignore the person he has gotten to know, all the conversations we have had and just automatically throw some clingy girl stereotype on me and assume I wanted a relationship. One of things I really like about our relationship is that we were completely/blatantly upfront with each other. So for him to to just throw that to the side and started treating me like some clingy girl. That really bothered me and I felt that it was a lack of respect for me on his part. He responded that he was not expecting that sort of email, but that he didn't want to create any sort of confusion and that he hoped that we could just pick up where things were the last time we saw each other.

p.s. sorry to disappoint you guys but anytime anyone does not upload a pic of themselves the website uses a default profile pic.

my moon sign is capricorn. his is aquarius.

88 - You have a right to your opinion but I was not acting clingy at all. I don't chase him and the only reason I wrote him that email is that he complained that I pulled away when he hugs me etc (which was not true!) It's not like that email came out of the blue and I confessed my undying love, proposed marriage and said I wanted to have his babies! It was in reference to something he brought up in conversation.

To this day I don't contact him out of the blue. If he contacts me I respond but other than that I don't go after him.

JasonDeluca - I agree that there is a tug of war going on. The thing is, I feel like I'm trying and he's not.

Posted by 88
Don't be too stubborn, that was a lot of Drama in that email message.

If you are the only one trying then stop trying. You cant force him if he doesn't want to.

Pisces man are gentle, well most of them and they will run away from aggressive, dominant women. sorry.

i guess we will to agree to disagree. I don't find anything dramatic about that email message at all. It seems that pisces men want to be able to say what they want to say; and then expect everyone else to hold it in. It's funny you accuse me of writing a dramatic message and being stubborn but b/c you seem to be stubborn as well since I won't agree with you.

It seems that whenever I say I am over it in my mind and the last time where I told him specifically told him that, he pops up and is contrite about the whole situation. And b/c I do like him and feel like there is just some weird fog of confusion going on - I want to try and work through it, b/c we were really good together. I feel like if we could just get together and have fun this situation would be better.

p.s. the other thing about the situation that hurt's is that me putting my emotions out there on the table like that for someone was the first time I have EVER done that for someone. I feel like I am being punished for that.

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Posted by ephflank
It has now been awhile and throughout this period I have grew frustrated with him because we do not hangout like we used to and he is not communicating w/me like he used to.

I would not expect much of anything to transpire from this situation. Unfortunately, it sounds like this one has been over with for longer than you think...

And honestly, we (Pisces Men) are not complicated creatures, nor are we confused or confusing...

--Jack

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I agree.. not confusing or confused....... I'm sooooo sorry to say this but it sounds like he might be playing you 😢

Either that or he just isnt that interested and you might be something to play with when he's bored.