Pisces Woman

Ok ladies.
Had a relationship with this Pisces woman.
The crazy got a little out of hand and I broke things off. Tried to do it amicably, but she defriends on Facebook, blocks. Unblocks a month later and sends me a text asking how I'm doing which I ignore.
No contact for 6 months.
Recently, she's come swimming back into my life, asking how I'm doing, telling me about the things she's up to, how she's done this accomplishment and that accomplishment etc. . She's also dating another dude, sends a FR which I accept(probably creeped through my profile), and we're chatting like nothing happened.

Now, I am a Crab, and the usual crab caution is up.
So, in this scenario, is she:
1. Truly just being friendly and wanting to keep me in her circle as just friends?
2. Finding her new beau not up to snuff and seeing if there is a possibility of rekindling something?
3. Attempting to set me up to stick in the knife?

I can provide more details. Personal stuff will be PM (and please respect that its in PM).

I guess it depends on the level of cray-cray?

I just blocked an ex as I felt that I was holding on, and I needed him to vanish out of sight and out of mind right? he wanted to be friends, but I'm not ready... also he is a bit of an arse...

anyway, if, one day he stops being an arse and I am well and truly over him then I might extend an olive branch...

but there was no drama, I made a decision not to be friends logically, calmly and rationally... his reply "um, ok"

SMDH

Posted by mermaid0315
Questions: How old are you? and How old is she?

If you don't mind me asking.

We're about six years apart.

Posted by LilliLou
I guess it depends on the level of cray-cray?

I just blocked an ex as I felt that I was holding on, and I needed him to vanish out of sight and out of mind right? he wanted to be friends, but I'm not ready... also he is a bit of an arse...

anyway, if, one day he stops being an arse and I am well and truly over him then I might extend an olive branch...

but there was no drama, I made a decision not to be friends logically, calmly and rationally... his reply "um, ok"

SMDH

It wasn't a long relationship.
She got weird in a short period of time. Yes, there was sex after 4 dates. Head games started not long after, then a couple of jealosy plays on her part that I didn't take the bait, but did convince me to end things.
There was a lot of "chemistry", but things were moving really too fast for me.

Posted by MissFisk
My personal thoughts? Either #1 or #2. Number #3 isn't the "typical" Pisces style . Where's her moon, do you know?

Don't know the moon.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by LilliLou
I guess it depends on the level of cray-cray?

I just blocked an ex as I felt that I was holding on, and I needed him to vanish out of sight and out of mind right? he wanted to be friends, but I'm not ready... also he is a bit of an arse...

anyway, if, one day he stops being an arse and I am well and truly over him then I might extend an olive branch...

but there was no drama, I made a decision not to be friends logically, calmly and rationally... his reply "um, ok"

SMDH

It wasn't a long relationship.
She got weird in a short period of time. Yes, there was sex after 4 dates. Head games started not long after, then a couple of jealosy plays on her part that I didn't take the bait, but did convince me to end things.
There was a lot of "chemistry", but things were moving really too fast for me.

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yeah, pi's seem to move pretty fast & hard... but they seem to be okay once the crazy is out of their system and genuinely able to be friends with their exes providing things weren't nuclear wintered over.

hmmm, proceed with caution, but don't make the mistake of falling into bed with her again. thats pushing all the crazy levels up to warp speed

Posted by LilliLou


yeah, pi's seem to move pretty fast & hard... but they seem to be okay once the crazy is out of their system and genuinely able to be friends with their exes providing things weren't nuclear wintered over.

hmmm, proceed with caution, but don't make the mistake of falling into bed with her again. thats pushing all the crazy levels up to warp speed

There wasn't really a nuclear winter.
I made a clean break to cut out the drama.
Bedding her again is not in the cards. While I think that potential is there, contrary to the cat lady sites I don't look back.

As far as caution-don't worry, I'm a crab. Caution is our middle name 🙂

Thanks everyone for your feedback 🙂

Posted by Nemesis
what made you accept her facebook friend request?

There weren't any hard feelings on my part when I broke things off.
No harm in accepting the FR, because I have no intention of re-kindling anything.
Was a little surprised at the olive branch based on her reaction when I ended things.

Posted by Nemesis


do you need/want this person in your life as a friend? qui bono?

Don't *need* as a friend.
But, I don't mind being friends with her. She does have nice qualities about her.
I just know that anything beyond that won't work.

BTW--I went back and looked.
I know the birthdate and location, but had to use 12 noon.

Moon Libra
Venus Aries
Mars Taurus

Posted by MissFisk
My personal thoughts? Either #1 or #2. Number #3 isn't the "typical" Pisces style . Where's her moon, do you know?

After some text exchanges with a suggestion thrown out by her, I think it's choice two.

Posted by MissFisk
Be careful not to get sucked into her relationship problems what ever they may be.

You can count on that.

Just a follow up.
Definitely number two.
Suddenly got a lot of explicit questions.
A case of monkey branching and there isn't no branch there....

Well, maybe there is a branch...

Dude, fucking communicate with this girl.

If you want to try again with her, then tell her.

If not, then tell her that.

Either way, don't fucking string her along with half-answers, inaction, malaise and other bullshit.

Women respect men if they know what they want.

Otherwise, you are just being a typical jackass who can't communicate like a man can.

So, what's your relationship life looking like? Seems like you like the attention, while we're analyzing.

Posted by ScorpioFish
Dude, fucking communicate with this girl.

If you want to try again with her, then tell her.

If not, then tell her that.

Either way, don't fucking string her along with half-answers, inaction, malaise and other bullshit.

Women respect men if they know what they want.

Otherwise, you are just being a typical jackass who can't communicate like a man can.

You have made a lot of assumptions here without knowing details.
Assumptions that are wrong.
But, like on the Cancer board, you keep reinforcing the impression you're a real jackass.
If you're going to cast aspersions at me without helping, stay the fuck off this thread.

But since you're here, I'm curious: were you able to convince the one Cancer gal to leave her boyfriend to be with your magnificent self?
And...what sort of physical violence would you care to threaten on me, keyboard commando?

To clarify:
She split with the dude she was dating recently.
That was a piece of information I did not know until now.
I think she's looking back, or like Fisk pointed out, could be that Libra moon.

Here's the thing (heads up, Scorpiojackass), I've made it clear that friends I will do but nothing beyond that.


Question is, ladies (and you also fall into this category Scorpiojackass):

Given we did have a past, she's made it known she missed what we had...
And I have made it clear I can do friendship but beyond that isn't happening...

Is she going to respect those parameters or is drama ahead because she wants to push for something more? (Don't know how Pisces goes about this)

Posted by Alir0x
So, what's your relationship life looking like? Seems like you like the attention, while we're analyzing.

Not really for the attention.
This ones a little weird-kind have a soft spot for her based on her life circumstances and would like to maintain a friendship if possible.
Relationdhip life is decent, since you're asking.

Hey asshole, at least I know how to communicate while you sit there with your thumb up your ass.

I'm not the one whining about an easy solution to what to do with a newly single woman who is contacting you.

That's your "difficulty" to figure out, crybaby.

Haha, man you are such a fucking baby about even the most obvious fucking things.

Wah Wah, a newly single girl is contacting meeeee....

What do I doooooo?

Queerbait.

Posted by ScorpioFish
Hey asshole, at least I know how to communicate while you sit there with your thumb up your ass.

I'm not the one whining about an easy solution to what to do with a newly single woman who is contacting you.

That's your "difficulty" to figure out, crybaby.

Haha, man you are such a fucking baby about even the most obvious fucking things.

Your reading comprehension skills are obviously not up to par.
Based on your posts, I think your students should ask for their money back.

Hey fucker, since when does your opinion matter?

You have a newly single girl contacting you, and you are on DXP crying like a chickenshit about it.

Fucking baby.

At least I have the fucking testicular fortitude to go after what I want, even if it means stomping a mud hole in your flippant ass to get there.

Posted by ScorpioFish
Hey fucker, since when does your opinioyou'reter?

You have a newly single girl contacting you, and you are on DXP crying like a chickenshit about it.

Fucking baby.

At least I have the fucking testicular fortitude to go after what I want, even if it means stomping a mud hole in your flippant ass to get there.

You obviously can't even follow your own "rule" that you imposed on that thread in the Cancer forum with the Pisces guy/Cancer girl thread-you're chiding there and mocking here.

You obviously have not understood the nature of what is going on, even after I clarified.

There you go with the threat of physical violence again. You did it at least twice to two different people on the Cancer board while fetishizing about Cancer females.
I'm going to offer you some free advice-you keep making threats like that and one day it's going to be to the wrong person.
I'd tread carefully. Besides it makes you look puny and out of control. Not exactly a shining example of testicular fortitude.

As mentioned before, who gives a shit what you think?

You fucking sit there like a little bitch crying about this girl who CLEARLY wants to be with you.

....And you have the fucking audacity to say I don't have my life in order?

Hahahaha, oh that's rich.

Quit being such a chickenshit and a baby about everything, and maybe you would have an easier time speaking with me.

Posted by ScorpioFish
As mentioned before, who gives a shit what you think?

You fucking sit there like a little bitch crying about this girl who CLEARLY wants to be with you.

....And you have the fucking audacity to say I don't have my life in order?

Hahahaha, oh that's rich.

Quit being such a chickenshit and a baby about everything, and maybe you would have an easier time speaking with me.

You are obtuse.
Crying about things would be something along the lines of :"Oh why didn't that Cancer girl I had my eye on leave her boyfriend for me when I'm so much better...."(sound familiar, fetish boy?)

Back to my topic before a certain person derailed this thread in a fit of e-peen:


She split with the dude she was dating recently.
That was a piece of information I did not know until now.
I think she's looking back, or like Fisk pointed out, could be that Libra moon.

Here's the thing: I've made it clear that friends I will do but nothing beyond that.

Question is,

Given we did have a past, she's made it known she missed what we had...
And I have made it clear I can do friendship but beyond that isn't happening...

Is she going to respect those parameters or is drama ahead because she wants to push for something more? (Don't know how Pisces goes about this)

You are obtuse.
Crying about things would be something along the lines of :"Oh why didn't that Cancer girl I had my eye on leave her boyfriend for me when I'm so much better...."

Hey asshole, I would definitely have gone out with her months ago if it weren't for her Libra boyfriend, but I don't believe in forcing a woman to leave someone.

Even a fucking lowlife idiot like you must know about all the bad karma that comes to people who break up and destroy the relationships of other people for selfish purposes.

Question is,

Given we did have a past, she's made it known she missed what we had...
And I have made it clear I can do friendship but beyond that isn't happening...

Is she going to respect those parameters or is drama ahead because she wants to push for something more? (Don't know how Pisces goes about this)

You are further validating the belief that you are a selfish and myopic asshole.

If she is making clear that she wants to be with you, and you are putting her into the FRIEND ZONE...

It's clear that you are thinking only of yourself.

Fuck off, and leave this girl alone.

You are only dragging her emotions around as a child drags a toy if you allow her to pursue you after making clear she is FRIEND ZONE only.

Wish I could talk to her myself.

She would figure things out pretty quickly after that....

On the contrary, I'm trying not to drag her emotions around by establishing clear parameters.
Selfish would be to let her believe things could be rekindled, use that to manipulate, and then run off.

You really need to work on your comprehension skills.

Scorp and I are right, and you are as wrong as two guys fucking.

Now STFU, and let this girl go so she can find a real man.

Scorp and I are right, and you are as wrong as two guys fucking.

Now STFU, and let this girl go so she can find a real man.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Crabcakes;

Be honest. Do you *really* want to be her *friend*? Or at most is acquaintance the most you're willing to tolerate. Because as you know friendly Crab, being friends with someone is its own type of commitment--know what I mean jellybean?

You should just nip this is the bud.

Good luck. 🙂

Thanks.
That's pretty much been the internal debate, well, with some external here.
Been leaning towards the latter because I don't think a friendship could be maintained without the lines blurring.
Acquaintance might be best that can do.

Posted by ScorpioFish
Scorp and I are right, and you are as wrong as two guys fucking.

Now STFU, and let this girl go so she can find a real man.

I can guarantee that man wouldn't be you.

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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by ScorpioFish
Scorp and I are right, and you are as wrong as two guys fucking.

Now STFU, and let this girl go so she can find a real man.

I can guarantee that man wouldn't be you.

This can only be resolved through a duel.

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As if chickenshit can even hold a weapon right, let alone beat me in armed combat.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by ScorpioFish
Scorp and I are right, and you are as wrong as two guys fucking.

Now STFU, and let this girl go so she can find a real man.

I can guarantee that man wouldn't be you.

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Hahaha, says the loser who debates on whether or not to treat a human being's emotions like some kind of plaything to serve his own needs in a "friendship" loaded with unrequited love.

You are lower than slime simply because you had to "debate" something so easily understood as wrong.

Posted by DonumDei

Posted by ScorpioFish
As if chickenshit can even hold a weapon right, let alone beat me in armed combat.

"Force and mind are opposites; morality stops where a gun begins!" ~ Ayn Rand

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Hey, a fellow fish suggested we resolve this with a duel.

....And I am more than willing to challenge shitbrick to it this evening if he weren't too busy pissing his pants on how to handle a girl who clearly wants to be with him.

I don't understand why CotC is being picked on for not going after this girl just because she clearly wants him. Just because someone wants someone else doesn't mean the other person has to reciprocate.

Posted by LadyOfRebirth

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
On the contrary, I'm trying not to drag her emotions around by establishing clear parameters.
Selfish would be to let her believe things could be rekindled, use that to manipulate, and then run off.

You really need to work on your comprehension skills.

Tbh, I think you should look out for yourself at this point.

Reason I say this is that there's a chance she's come back to you because of the hurt she's going through of the break up. She's looking for affection to make her forget about the hurt. I should know I've done a similar thing in the past, and with her libra moon I could see that need to be loved being strong in her.

Just proceed with caution and be clear and strict on the boundaries you want to have in place. If she crosses the boundaries then you know what to do.

Or you could just tell her to come back in a few months when she's over her heartbreak, if you really care more for her well being than her company.

But tbh it's doubtful she will if she gets on with her life and gets past the hurt.

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Actually, I've already done the last part, precisely because of the other things you have mentioned.
We'll see..

Posted by MoonArtist
I don't understand why CotC is being picked on for not going after this girl just because she clearly wants him. Just because someone wants someone else doesn't mean the other person has to reciprocate.

Shhhh.
Scorpiofish is trying to be a man.

Posted by MoonArtist
I don't understand why CotC is being picked on for not going after this girl just because she clearly wants him. Just because someone wants someone else doesn't mean the other person has to reciprocate.

He's not being "picked on."

He is being justifiably ridiculed for "debating" on whether or not to continue to keep this poor girl in his life after he FRIEND ZONED her for life and she has communicated her feelings for him.

He is as thoughtless as he is selfish, and there is nothing worth defending in regard to his behavior.

It's very cut and dry when it comes to her demonstrated and unrequited love and his selfish "debate," when there is no debate at all.

Since he has no feeling for her, he should let her go altogether instead of "keeping her as a friend."

It's disgusting how SOME of you people use the word "friend" around here.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by MoonArtist
I don't understand why CotC is being picked on for not going after this girl just because she clearly wants him. Just because someone wants someone else doesn't mean the other person has to reciprocate.

Shhhh.
Scorpiofish is trying to be a man.

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Hey chickenshit,

At least I have the emotional stability and maturity to know better than to "debate" on whether or not to treat a decent human being as some kind of fucking toy.

Too bad you don't have the balls to be honest with her.

You were saying something about being a man?

Thanks for the laugh, queerbait.

PS....

GO FUCK YOURSELF.

I haven't gotten the impression that CotC is trying to use her as a toy. The two of them had a romance and it didn't work. He cares for her as a person but knows the romance part isn't going to work for the two of them. We Cancers hate turning our backs on someone if we don't have to. We'll do it when there's no choice, but we'll thoroughly investigate from all sides the pros and cons before deciding to make a complete cut with someone.

Posted by DonumDei

Posted by ScorpioFish
Hey, a fellow fish suggested we resolve this with a duel.

So, a "fellow fish" suggests you jump off of the bridge, you'd do it?!

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No, but if chickenshit were to be forced into a duel with me...

I know he would shit himself right there on the field, but that's okay.

I will be at least 20 paces away from him, and hopefully downwind before putting him out of his misery.

Posted by MoonArtist
I haven't gotten the impression that CotC is trying to use her as a toy. The two of them had a romance and it didn't work. He cares for her as a person but knows the romance part isn't going to work for the two of them. We Cancers hate turning our backs on someone if we don't have to. We'll do it when there's no choice, but we'll thoroughly investigate from all sides the pros and cons before deciding to make a complete cut with someone.

Doesn't matter if he is "trying to use her" or not.

To permanently FRIEND ZONE a human being while knowing they have feelings for you is SELFISH and SHAMEFUL behavior.

If chickenshit had any balls at all, he would tell her that it's not best to be "friends" with her due to the fact that she will only hurt and torture herself in the process. I am sorry if I am the only fucking compassionate person in this whole fucking board today who understands that unrequited love in a "friendship" is fucking torturous and unfair.

But then again, I refer to that turd as "chickenshit" for a very distinct reason.

I have a friend who has a very huge unrequited love for me. He's a scorpio. He's also 25 yrs older than me. He quietly and with no drama went off my grid and stays away from me and I don't pester him. I'm completely certain he somehow keeps tabs on how I am. If that's what he needs to do for his own peace of mind then so be it. I have always valued him as a friend but the sexual thing is one sided and I will not be some playtoy just so he can get his fantasies to happen in real life and he respects me enough to not demand that I give him what he wants. I do hope that he doesn't hurt over me and that he can find someone who has a mutual chemistry with him. I have a feeling he'll pop back into my life now and then. This is how it's always been. Because of this I can see where CotC is coming from. I don't think it's selfish on his part. If it was then he truly would string her along. Instead he's weighing his decision.

Posted by MoonArtist
I haven't gotten the impression that CotC is trying to use her as a toy. The two of them had a romance and it didn't work. He cares for her as a person but knows the romance part isn't going to work for the two of them. We Cancers hate turning our backs on someone if we don't have to. We'll do it when there's no choice, but we'll thoroughly investigate from all sides the pros and cons before deciding to make a complete cut with someone.

Bingo.
And thank you.

Oh, and to add to this: why is it so bad to permanently friend zone someone? Is the person who feels the attraction the only one who's feelings matter? Does the person who doesn't return that feeling have some obligation to reciprocate?

Posted by MoonArtist
Oh, and to add to this: why is it so bad to permanently friend zone someone? Is the person who feels the attraction the only one who's feelings matter? Does the person who doesn't return that feeling have some obligation to reciprocate?

No, but it is selfish to expect this person to be your "friend" after making clear it will never go anywhere.

The fact that there is any "debate" here is what makes it so disgusting.

She made clear she likes him, and he showed her the FRIEND ZONE card.

He should now man up, and tell her that being friends with someone who wants to be with them will only torture that person from the inside.

But like I said a thousand times already, the guy has no shame (let alone balls) to deal with this the right way.

If he friend zones her then it's in her ball park to decide what she can or cannot handle in regards to her feelings. To make the choice for her is condescending and basically treating her like a child.