Pisces women....
This topic was created in the Pisces forum by manaicmcgoo on Thursday, July 19, 2007 and has 5 replies.
Ok i don't want to vent here but i have a question. I'm a pisces male who was dating a pisces woman and well i'm pretty positive we are in love. Of course things were, well, rocky she and i did the whole make up break up thing for awhile and then i got discharged from the army and i moved back to my home state. She and i decided to try the long distance thing while i was trying to figure out where i'm going. She tells me that she is willing to move across the country to live with me and says that she wants to eventually marry me... Now i buy this line and then one day out of the blue she ends things, stating problems at home but she doesn't talk to me about it. so i try to call her and to find out what is going on but no answer so i try for a few days and her father calls me and tells me that she is going through alot right now and that i should just move on.
This brings me to my question, what the hell? how am i supposed to react to that? I've tried to just move on from her before and she came back every time so should i even bother trying to move on or just think that things will go back to the way they were before given some time and space? I'm tempted to move back to where she lives b/c i'm so worried about her. I don't know no one i know has been able to really give me any guidance on this so i'm asking a message board....wow i sound sort of pathetic.
This brings me to my question, what the hell? how am i supposed to react to that? I've tried to just move on from her before and she came back every time so should i even bother trying to move on or just think that things will go back to the way they were before given some time and space? I'm tempted to move back to where she lives b/c i'm so worried about her. I don't know no one i know has been able to really give me any guidance on this so i'm asking a message board....wow i sound sort of pathetic.
It's possible she's under a lot of pressure... but the phone call from her father seems a little unusual to me. If i told someone i was willing to move a long distance and marry them, i would hope i would be able to explain properly to them why i could no longer do that.
"I'm tempted to move back to where she lives b/c i'm so worried about her."
Could you go back for a day or two? She may not want to see you turn up announced but it may be the only way you can find out what's going on.
MCMG,
May be it would be better to write her a letter or, try again in a month. Her dad is clearly being protective which may be what she needs right now. That would give you both some time to work out your emotions. We female fish have a tendency to shutdown like a nuclear reactor when we're under stress or in trouble.
If you really love her then you'll require patience. You'll need it anyway if you're with a Pisces!
All the best to you and your lady mermaid.
CF36
May be it would be better to write her a letter or, try again in a month. Her dad is clearly being protective which may be what she needs right now. That would give you both some time to work out your emotions. We female fish have a tendency to shutdown like a nuclear reactor when we're under stress or in trouble.
If you really love her then you'll require patience. You'll need it anyway if you're with a Pisces!
All the best to you and your lady mermaid.
CF36
If I were in your position, this is what my brain would be pondering:
1) We were rocky when we were in the same vacinity .. now, that we're apart .. is our love strong enough to keep us, eventhough it was barely strong enough when we were in the close proximity?
2) She's a Pisces, and we all know full well that we cause our own grief 90% of the time by NOT speaking what is truly on our minds. So, in knowing this .. am I positive that she meant her love to me? Yet, now she bailed .. so, isn't it possible she was being her fishy self and only telling me what she thought I wanted to hear, rather than the truth about loving me and maybe marriage one day?
3) If she was loving me, and has been upfront about how she truly feels about me .. then why sick her dad on me, rather than facing me herself? If she did truly love me, and she knows I'm upset .. why be afraid to face me? What would make her send her dad as a messenger? Didn't she even love me enough to help me through losing her? Does this mean that she never really loved me the way she said she did and it now afraid to confront the truth?
4) Maybe her dad is domineering .. maybe she does want me and does love me and wants to talk to me, but, her dad isn't liking it. Maybe she didn't send him as a messenger at all and he just took charge over her life and is making her decisions for her. If this is the case, then why? Why would she allow another to control her? That seems greatly out-of-character for a Pisces .. we are ruled by NOBODY EVER unless we desire to hide .. then we'll pretend to allow another to be in charge of us, so we don't have to face something.
I'm sure all these things have been running through your head. Why would you be worried about her? That's an odd thing to say. Is she a child and not able to care for herself? Worried?
You mean you are worried about your feelings because you believe you have lost her and you don't know why. If you knew exactly why, would you still be worried?
Unfortunately, people live according to outside forces .. instead of relying on themselves to direct their happiness .. we see this daily. People will energize themselves with uncertainty on purpose, waiting for the decision of another to determine whether they want us or not .. we rely on their decision of wanting us as to whether we are going to be happy, or not.
With a Pisces, it's even worse .. because we don't "say" what it is you are supposed to be waiting for.
1) We were rocky when we were in the same vacinity .. now, that we're apart .. is our love strong enough to keep us, eventhough it was barely strong enough when we were in the close proximity?
2) She's a Pisces, and we all know full well that we cause our own grief 90% of the time by NOT speaking what is truly on our minds. So, in knowing this .. am I positive that she meant her love to me? Yet, now she bailed .. so, isn't it possible she was being her fishy self and only telling me what she thought I wanted to hear, rather than the truth about loving me and maybe marriage one day?
3) If she was loving me, and has been upfront about how she truly feels about me .. then why sick her dad on me, rather than facing me herself? If she did truly love me, and she knows I'm upset .. why be afraid to face me? What would make her send her dad as a messenger? Didn't she even love me enough to help me through losing her? Does this mean that she never really loved me the way she said she did and it now afraid to confront the truth?
4) Maybe her dad is domineering .. maybe she does want me and does love me and wants to talk to me, but, her dad isn't liking it. Maybe she didn't send him as a messenger at all and he just took charge over her life and is making her decisions for her. If this is the case, then why? Why would she allow another to control her? That seems greatly out-of-character for a Pisces .. we are ruled by NOBODY EVER unless we desire to hide .. then we'll pretend to allow another to be in charge of us, so we don't have to face something.
I'm sure all these things have been running through your head. Why would you be worried about her? That's an odd thing to say. Is she a child and not able to care for herself? Worried?
You mean you are worried about your feelings because you believe you have lost her and you don't know why. If you knew exactly why, would you still be worried?
Unfortunately, people live according to outside forces .. instead of relying on themselves to direct their happiness .. we see this daily. People will energize themselves with uncertainty on purpose, waiting for the decision of another to determine whether they want us or not .. we rely on their decision of wanting us as to whether we are going to be happy, or not.
With a Pisces, it's even worse .. because we don't "say" what it is you are supposed to be waiting for.
I think i understand the whole shutting down thing. I have done that before when i've felt completely overwhelmed. I wrote her a letter but have been reluctant to send it... generally it says that i know she's going through alot right now and i had hoped that she would have been able to come to me with her issues and that through all the problems my feelings for her have not changed. I promised her that i would never abandon her and i said that i don't intend to break that promise so when things are going better for her i will be there. ended it by telling her that i still love her very much.
I'm also going to take some time and refind my center. Hopefully by the time she's gotten through this i'll be able to handle her coming back into the picture without any resentment. I've been pretty good about not getting bent out of shape when she acts like this. I don't know if i'm a typical fish b/c i have not been able to hold a grudge against her for any prior problems, i tend to let them go b/c everything just seems right when we are together
I'm also going to take some time and refind my center. Hopefully by the time she's gotten through this i'll be able to handle her coming back into the picture without any resentment. I've been pretty good about not getting bent out of shape when she acts like this. I don't know if i'm a typical fish b/c i have not been able to hold a grudge against her for any prior problems, i tend to let them go b/c everything just seems right when we are together
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