should i give up on her ??

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by lensdrangon on Wednesday, November 28, 2018 and has 18 replies.
hey

first time here,

so i got into a somewhat romantic relationship with a pisces that was been going on for 3+ months now, and we planned to finaly meet in person. i spend around 1 month planning everything to be perfect but she then told me that she wont make it, i was heart broken but i could not cancel the trip anymore so i ask a friend to go with me... during the vacation she told me that she was there and willing to meet... but at that point i was not so sure anymore.. to many changes, i felt rushed ( im a taurus btw) and i hate that the most.... after many attemps to get atleastz something planned i could not get a clear answer from her. i lost my cool and made the decision to not meet up anymore.... she got emotional about it, but i was not ready to meet like that. i had the perfect plan but that got shoot down.... now she wont talk to me

what should i do ?
Date people face to face, not online.

Skip the whole catfish bailing on the meet up and save yourself the time and heartache.
Also Pisces are go with the flow kinda people. Not for you seeing as how rigid and inflexible you are when plans change.

Don’t date mutables
ok thx guys much help ... sad but i guess its the right thing to do
Posted by lensdrangon

hey

first time here,

so i got into a somewhat romantic relationship with a pisces that was been going on for 3+ months now, and we planned to finaly meet in person. i spend around 1 month planning everything to be perfect but she then told me that she wont make it, i was heart broken but i could not cancel the trip anymore so i ask a friend to go with me... during the vacation she told me that she was there and willing to meet... but at that point i was not so sure anymore.. to many changes, i felt rushed ( im a taurus btw) and i hate that the most.... after many attemps to get atleastz something planned i could not get a clear answer from her. i lost my cool and made the decision to not meet up anymore.... she got emotional about it, but i was not ready to meet like that. i had the perfect plan but that got shoot down.... now she wont talk to me

what should i do ?
I'm a Taurus female and I was married to a Pisces male and dated and knew several Pisces men. This sounds typical of a young Taurus and Pisces. When the Taurus gets older it is just a bit easier to go with the flow and not be so rigid. But I get how you feel. What should you do now? Not sure. I mean do you think she was trying to hide something or truly could not get off like work to meet you or something ? What do you think the problem is. Or is it you thinking you did all that work and then she didn't show so you feel you are done with that ? Life isn't perfect and believe me when I say, sometimes the most perfect moments are not planned. That was one thing that I could do with my Pisces ex, travel and have great adventures well. It was the rest that was bad. But I think that mix is a hard mix because he never really tried to understand me. I tried to understand him but he was too wishy washy and I was solid - not sure why someone can't understand solid but hey - he also played some mind games so I think he was just a bad watery egg lol .... good luck
i talked to her almost everyday for 3 months straight, many times i told her that i wanted our first meet up our first date to be perfect because that was the way i felt about her... wenn she told me she was there i was shocked, happy, angry and nervous all at once... she said she wanted to suprise me... was sweet but i messed everything up.... not sure if it was mind games or she was scared too.. i guess ill never know

i realy thought she was my soul mate ... also was my first online love
Lmao @first ONLINE love...

Hon...it’s so far from LOVE when you can’t accept cancellation of a date.

Have you asked why is she cancelling? You don’t know a thing about love. Live and learn. Shit happens and people can’t make it.

Took me 3 weeks to meet someone local because of legit things happenned. After 3rd week we’ve met and it was awesome! We both could make it never happen but it takes brains to MAKE it happen. And you don’t need brains to ruin everything. Now just try to get her back. Taurus...my ass...lol

Good luck!
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Posted by Raakac

She already said you she was there and she could have been there to see you, but your pride and inflexibility pushed that away, you made this just to meet her, but after that you couldn't even get over yourself and your pride to get to meet the person you're suppose to meet in the 1st place. You should leave this relationship alone, it's nothing, find a real one and stop letting pride get in the way, saying i'm Taurus isn't an excuse.
You’re selfish person. This lady blow him away and then want to show up? No thanks. I will keep my plans with person who wanted to come
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Yesss! If she had diarrhea from nervousness...she should plug her butt and GO! Right? That would be ‘perfect’ date! Think!!!
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Posted by Raakac

She already said you she was there and she could have been there to see you, but your pride and inflexibility pushed that away, you made this just to meet her, but after that you couldn't even get over yourself and your pride to get to meet the person you're suppose to meet in the 1st place. You should leave this relationship alone, it's nothing, find a real one and stop letting pride get in the way, saying i'm Taurus isn't an excuse.
You’re selfish person. This lady blow him away and then want to show up? No thanks. I will keep my plans with person who wanted to come
Yesss! If she had diarrhea from nervousness...she should plug her butt and GO! Right? That would be ‘perfect’ date! Think!!!
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Posted by lensdrangon

i talked to her almost everyday for 3 months straight, many times i told her that i wanted our first meet up our first date to be perfect because that was the way i felt about her... wenn she told me she was there i was shocked, happy, angry and nervous all at once... she said she wanted to suprise me... was sweet but i messed everything up.... not sure if it was mind games or she was scared too.. i guess ill never know

i realy thought she was my soul mate ... also was my first online love


I think it was too much pressure on her and she got a bit scared. We Pisces change all the time depending the moment and you really disappointed her by not giving to her when she finally made her mind up.

Sorry it didn’t work out. But if you really care keep trying and don’t give up until she tells you straight.
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Posted by lensdrangon

i talked to her almost everyday for 3 months straight, many times i told her that i wanted our first meet up our first date to be perfect because that was the way i felt about her... wenn she told me she was there i was shocked, happy, angry and nervous all at once... she said she wanted to suprise me... was sweet but i messed everything up.... not sure if it was mind games or she was scared too.. i guess ill never know

i realy thought she was my soul mate ... also was my first online love


I think it was too much pressure on her and she got a bit scared. We Pisces change all the time depending the moment and you really disappointed her by not giving to her when she finally made her mind up.

Sorry it didn’t work out. But if you really care keep trying and don’t give up until she tells you straight.
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thank you for the insight .. she is also a taurus moon... how should i approach her? .. just keep writing her until she stops ignoring me ??
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Posted by lensdrangon

i talked to her almost everyday for 3 months straight, many times i told her that i wanted our first meet up our first date to be perfect because that was the way i felt about her... wenn she told me she was there i was shocked, happy, angry and nervous all at once... she said she wanted to suprise me... was sweet but i messed everything up.... not sure if it was mind games or she was scared too.. i guess ill never know

i realy thought she was my soul mate ... also was my first online love


I think it was too much pressure on her and she got a bit scared. We Pisces change all the time depending the moment and you really disappointed her by not giving to her when she finally made her mind up.

Sorry it didn’t work out. But if you really care keep trying and don’t give up until she tells you straight.


thank you for the insight .. she is also a taurus moon... how should i approach her? .. just keep writing her until she stops ignoring me ??
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Oh that explains.

Yes, don’t give up.

She will want you to keep showing her that you are interested but without pressure, if you pressured her she will back up.

For now just contact her and apologize for your part. The important thing is that you start again and keep going.

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Posted by lensdrangon

i talked to her almost everyday for 3 months straight, many times i told her that i wanted our first meet up our first date to be perfect because that was the way i felt about her... wenn she told me she was there i was shocked, happy, angry and nervous all at once... she said she wanted to suprise me... was sweet but i messed everything up.... not sure if it was mind games or she was scared too.. i guess ill never know

i realy thought she was my soul mate ... also was my first online love


I think it was too much pressure on her and she got a bit scared. We Pisces change all the time depending the moment and you really disappointed her by not giving to her when she finally made her mind up.

Sorry it didn’t work out. But if you really care keep trying and don’t give up until she tells you straight.
Not all of us Fishy's change all the time :p

I'm pretty solid and dependable, although that could be due to having quite a few Earth placements in my chart.
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Actually I have tons of earth.

But in my experience in the beginning shouldn’t be any pressure. We as Pisces go with the flow. If it gets too complicated we don’t like it.
Thread title is : should I give up on her?

News flash! You already did when you refused to meet with her.
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Posted by lensdrangon

i talked to her almost everyday for 3 months straight, many times i told her that i wanted our first meet up our first date to be perfect because that was the way i felt about her... wenn she told me she was there i was shocked, happy, angry and nervous all at once... she said she wanted to suprise me... was sweet but i messed everything up.... not sure if it was mind games or she was scared too.. i guess ill never know

i realy thought she was my soul mate ... also was my first online love


I think it was too much pressure on her and she got a bit scared. We Pisces change all the time depending the moment and you really disappointed her by not giving to her when she finally made her mind up.

Sorry it didn’t work out. But if you really care keep trying and don’t give up until she tells you straight.
Not all of us Fishy's change all the time :p

I'm pretty solid and dependable, although that could be due to having quite a few Earth placements in my chart.


Actually I have tons of earth.

But in my experience in the beginning shouldn’t be any pressure. We as Pisces go with the flow. If it gets too complicated we don’t like it.
I agree that there shouldn't be any pressure in the beginning, and as a Pisces myself I tend to go with the flow, in certain cases though. I'm pretty headstrong for the most part and I have a strong will - maybe it's my Scorp moon, or maybe I'm just a different fish.
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Well I am the same 😄 I think it’s my Taurus moon and Mars by it may be our Pisces sun lol

I just think that she likes him and she is feeling rejected and he should persuade her to forgive him.

It should be a bit lighter in the beginning when they haven’t even met.
ok ill try my best and be patient thank you guy a lot .... felt lost and this gives me a little stablility
Posted by LadyNeptune

Thread title is : should I give up on her?

News flash! You already did when you refused to meet with her.
yes i messed up... and i regret it... but i was just overwelmed with everything.... i try very hard to make it work, and then i got canceled on... and then lied to kinda i dont know, i was very confused
Posted by lensdrangon

Posted by LadyNeptune

Thread title is : should I give up on her?

News flash! You already did when you refused to meet with her.
yes i messed up... and i regret it... but i was just overwelmed with everything.... i try very hard to make it work, and then i got canceled on... and then lied to kinda i dont know, i was very confused
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When did she lie to you?