Someone help me understand

I've been talking to his guy for a few months now. He's been away visiting family for awhile so we haven't spent much time together. He is such a sweetheart and affectionate but it comes off as desperate sometimes. It just seems like he's way more into me and lives to please me.
He's super available and it makes me feel less interested. I opened up to him and told him I can't give him a relationship. I have a hard time letting people in and I'm afraid that it's because of my problem of only being attracted to negative and emotionally unavailable men.
I don't want to lead him on but I also don't want to let go of a potentially good thing. Help?

You don't need help understanding this Pisces man, you need help understanding yourself.

Posted by LadyNeptune
You don't need help understanding this Pisces man, you need help understanding yourself.

TRUUUUUUUUE. I just don't know if I should ask for space and try or just cut ties?

Posted by libralotus

Posted by LadyNeptune
You don't need help understanding this Pisces man, you need help understanding yourself.

TRUUUUUUUUE. I just don't know if I should ask for space and try or just cut ties?

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You admit in your Op that you are attracted to 'bad boys', emotionally distant men. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.

This pisces is emotionally available and is interested in pursuing more with you. Why not break your old habits and give him a chance?

You've only been talking for a few months, take it slow and easy. For all you know he is a wolf in sheep's clothing and will reveal his true self in time. Or perhaps he is everything he seems, only time will tell.

Either way relax, and enjoy the ride.

I would say give him a chance and stop falling for the crazy bad boys. Your world would be so much better.

But the truth is most are going to say, (like someone already did) you first need to figure your self out. Don't waste his time if you don't even know if you really want him. Look at yourself and try to understand WHY do you go for the bad boys instead of someone who wants to treat you right? Get that first and adjust your thinking before going for a nice guy and end up hurting him...

Don't hold him on a string.. He is looking for love and something to hold on to. It seems as though you don't even know if you are ready for it....(which is okay if you are not in a relationship.) Decide if he is someone you want to actually pursue a relationship with or let him go to swim with the other fishes and find someone who is sure.

Your self awareness might have opened the door to him taking notice in you.. Who isn't part of the rise cycle repeat pattern you had been in. I had a pattern long ago and immediately met someone who wasn't once I realized it. I pushed myself to date them. We didn't last but the pattern has been broken ever since. Go for it. It feels weird for a reason.

Rinse*

Posted by Arielle83
If you like emotionally unavailable men and this dude you're seeing, is turning you off by being too available, maybe you're just a commitment phobe.

You know things always end with distant men.

The thing with the available one, you know you might be moving forward to a place you aren't ready for yet.

You just put my thoughts into words.... Like I said, he's a good guy and I feel bad for not knowing what I want. I tried to explain that but he seemed pretty pissed which is understandable.

Well yeah, he probably feels like you let him on or that you're wasting his time.

If you feel like you can't respect it, which is what it sounds like, then leave the man alone. Keep him intact for the next woman who will take him as he is with open arms.

It sounds like you need to figure yourself which is good, but you keeping someone on the side burner while you do this is incredibly rude and selfish and a bit sadistic because you are engaging in that type of behavior with a Pisces.

Leave him alone, please just you do you, let him find his love.