Still Hope?

Okey guys,
me again.
Well the "how can I get him back by texting him" didnt work out really good. We still arent back together. I am still not over him. And I still want him back so desperately. It is ridiculous.

I asked my fish man to meet and at least talk about what happened one last time. He didnt agree at first, he said "I am sorry, I jsut cant do this relationship thing, I am not ready for a serious relationship. I am really sorry if I hurt you in any way. I dont like sad conversations..." But I asked him again and he promised we would tlak this week.
I am hurt, and even if I cant get him back at least I want him to know how he made me feel. Dont get me wrong, I am not angry well not like furious and I am not doing this to scream and shout and tell him how bad he is, I just need to talk to him, and tell him how I feel. If I dont, this whole stuff will stay in my mind, and drive me crazy.
Well we texted a couple of times and every time he ended the conversation with something like "you are so cute" "Goodnight, I wish you sweet dreams" vs...
Why?
Is there any chance... to at least make him talk to me again and well maybe get back together? Anything I can do? Or is it just time to move on... let go? Because i hate to loose, and I hate to give up.
I dont want to get over him, I want to get him back.

You're 20, eh? Do what you gotta do. That is the only way you'll learn. Chase him, pursue aggressively, demand closure, and watch what unfolds. Then use it to grow.

doesnt sound really promising to me. More like do what you want, and what everything fall to pieces...

That's what it sounds like she is saying, because that's what she is saying - and also because more than likely it is how it's going to go down. We've been there (so we speak from experience) - women love to try and force this sort of thing, and all it does is backfire.

Also, as much as you have convinced yourself that all you want to do is say what you need to say to him, that's not your deep intention. You're hoping that if you can just get him to talk to you, he'll realize you're right, and his feelings are wrong.

I'm not AT ALL coming down on you for this. I sympathize, fully. I know the feeling from my own past. Unfortunately, it just doesn't work that way. Men will not be convinced of your place in your life. And telling him how you feel will only accomplish a) making him feel bad, or b) absolutely nothing.

So you have to ask yourself this: You like him, and possibly think you love him - but your own need to speak up about the fact that he doesn't reciprocate those feelings takes precedence over your "like/love" for him. Read that over and over, and you will see that you don't indeed have the feelings for him that you think you do.

yeah, well I hate this...

Don't blame you, it sucks hard

I can feel your pain, because I too have been dueling it out with a Pisces who acts the exact same way. However, I am not demanding that he come back to me. All I care about is that we remain on good terms with each other. And that has been hard to do because he is so adamant about wanting his "space". Like your Pisces, mine has given me conflicting answers too. First he said he didn't want to leave me but just wanted some time to think about things. Then he said he didn't want to be with me or talk to me anymore. Now he's back to telling me that he likes me but just wants me to learn how to be less needy. And everyone here is right, you can't force a Pisces man to listen to what you have to say because unless it's HIS choice to listen to you, he won't. Anything you say will fall on deaf ears. Believe me, I know how frustrating it is to want to explain yourself and your thoughts/feelings to someone only to have them put up a brick wall and refuse to listen to a word you say. However, I do believe that my Pisces has been listening carefully when I tell him that I'm aware of my faults and what I want to do to work on changing them, but he just doesn't respond verbally. But I do think that my words have gotten through his head. I hope that he appreciates the fact that I can agree with him and that I am making efforts to change my mindset. Like I said, I'm not pushing him to reconcile with me, I just don't want us to be enemies or strangers who never speak anymore.

To be clear... I meant you can't force men in general to see your greatness. They either do or they don't. If they don't - keep it moving.

Posted by MidniteStar

No matter the outcome, life goes on and you will find happiness.

X-cellent response...

--Jack

Yes, i guess I got this. You are right, I am trying to force him to do something he doesnt want. And I want to talk to him because I hope he will realize how much he miss me and come back. But its not working, he doenst want to meet. He doesnt want to talk about this. He said "we are still friends, of course we will hang out again and talk... jsut not abou this, not now" and I am sure he means what he says. So I think I have 2 options. 1) To insist that he comes and we talk this over and afterwards he will be mad because I made him do something he doesnt want to do or 2) Let it be. move on. And at least be friends, or at least dont be enemies...

Its over., Life goes on. Shit happens. People change. And I wont die because of a broken heart.
But I still hate the thought that it is over for good and it still hurts me...

Posted by Sizzurp
Ladies....

I say that to say this, be careful of how much blame you shoulder and how much you're filling to "change."

what do you mean?

Posted by 4fish
Yes, i guess I got this. You are right, I am trying to force him to do something he doesnt want. And I want to talk to him because I hope he will realize how much he miss me and come back. But its not working, he doenst want to meet. He doesnt want to talk about this. He said "we are still friends, of course we will hang out again and talk... jsut not abou this, not now" and I am sure he means what he says. So I think I have 2 options. 1) To insist that he comes and we talk this over and afterwards he will be mad because I made him do something he doesnt want to do or 2) Let it be. move on. And at least be friends, or at least dont be enemies...

Its over., Life goes on. Shit happens. People change. And I wont die because of a broken heart.
But I still hate the thought that it is over for good and it still hurts me...

If you mean that, I'm super happy for you, and proud of you.
And you're SO allowed to hate it, and grieve it.

Just make sure you keep authentic to your actual needs/desires, otherwise you will find that in the end it all makes its way back out in the open, and then it's a real mess.