What is the solution of loneliness?
This topic was created in the Pisces forum by haffo on Monday, February 5, 2007 and has 18 replies.
I can see alot of people acting lonely. Perhaps I am some of it too. What do you think is solution of loneliness?
Sometimes I think people lack of certain perception of things. What do you thing those perceptions might be?
Sometimes I think people lack of certain perception of things. What do you thing those perceptions might be?
"Most of the time it's the individual's own doing when it comes to loneliness."
I have seen alot of people who does not enjoy loneliness (mostly these people are encountered) and somehow "forced" to stay this way (perhaps apparently this way).
Maybe it's their inactivity both in physical and mental levels that stop them being close to people. Surely financial freedom is also another big issue here. Many people might not enjoy company of people because 1) they physically cannot attend 2) they mentally are unavailable for it. Surely when they are not mentally ready, it takes some time and effort to deal with this problem, but it becomes a big problem when they can't allocate their mental power and time to it due to the daily activities and needs (usually finance related). For example, a person who works on more than one job, usually comes to home very tired (mentally and perhaps physically too) and such things like social issues are very far from reach to them. Which makes the issue even deeper.
Some countries are victims of such things. I have seen this. I know how difference can be.
I have seen alot of people who does not enjoy loneliness (mostly these people are encountered) and somehow "forced" to stay this way (perhaps apparently this way).
Maybe it's their inactivity both in physical and mental levels that stop them being close to people. Surely financial freedom is also another big issue here. Many people might not enjoy company of people because 1) they physically cannot attend 2) they mentally are unavailable for it. Surely when they are not mentally ready, it takes some time and effort to deal with this problem, but it becomes a big problem when they can't allocate their mental power and time to it due to the daily activities and needs (usually finance related). For example, a person who works on more than one job, usually comes to home very tired (mentally and perhaps physically too) and such things like social issues are very far from reach to them. Which makes the issue even deeper.
Some countries are victims of such things. I have seen this. I know how difference can be.
I think not accepting life as it really is makes you lonely.
You are born alone, you die alone....there are alot of alone moments. I think we are meant to be comfortable with ourselves...
Thinking that another person can make us happy is wrong....we have to live up to our own internal values...although those are often fluctuating...
You are born alone, you die alone....there are alot of alone moments. I think we are meant to be comfortable with ourselves...
Thinking that another person can make us happy is wrong....we have to live up to our own internal values...although those are often fluctuating...
I'm with Sweet-P on this one .. lonliness doesn't seem to be an issue with me. High on a mountain top with only my dogs to keep me company and still I'm NOT lonely.
Boredom is definity a big one.
YOu're right, Eaglegirl, people fare rather nicely alone .. even when somebody is with us, we're still alone in a sense .. inside ourselves, aren't we? YOu'll have a conversation with another, cuddle with another .. but, there are things inside us that we keep to ourselves, secrets, personal stuff that really matters and is extremely sensitive to our feelings .. most of us keep to ourselves and don't talk about .. so, being alone is something I think we all do - a lot.
Boredom is definity a big one.
YOu're right, Eaglegirl, people fare rather nicely alone .. even when somebody is with us, we're still alone in a sense .. inside ourselves, aren't we? YOu'll have a conversation with another, cuddle with another .. but, there are things inside us that we keep to ourselves, secrets, personal stuff that really matters and is extremely sensitive to our feelings .. most of us keep to ourselves and don't talk about .. so, being alone is something I think we all do - a lot.
"What do you think is the solution of loneliness?"
Having fun...better yet, creating it!
Having fun...better yet, creating it!
I have to agree with Sweet-P; boredom can drive me crazy.
Their own depth and comlexity.
*complexity*
it's getting late.
it's getting late.
Participation in life is the cure for loneliness.
Lady_M
I agree.
I agree.
The solution to loneliness? Well, there's alot of answers for that one, but my own personal solution is to be so very comfortable with yourself to where you don't really need anyone else for entertainment. I'm a loner, and I'm trying to learn how to be a bit more social and more open. Even when I'm apart of a group that I'm well accepted it, I'll take moments or times of seclusion. I guess the solution would generally be the opposite of how you personally percieve it would be your solution. Dreamy-Eyez, out.
"honestly nobody really gets me"
Damn, solitas .. that's really sad .. I can't imagine how that must feel.
Don't worry, you're a really sweet man .. you'll find the woman who will make you feel valuable and who will know that because of you, she is complete ..
Lonliness doesn't bother the Pisces (most of us). In fact, we rather like being anti-social a lot .. gives us plenty of time to dream, lol
Damn, solitas .. that's really sad .. I can't imagine how that must feel.
Don't worry, you're a really sweet man .. you'll find the woman who will make you feel valuable and who will know that because of you, she is complete ..
Lonliness doesn't bother the Pisces (most of us). In fact, we rather like being anti-social a lot .. gives us plenty of time to dream, lol
Lonliness is a choice .. if it is felt, then most times it's because there aren't other people around and that may be the problem because it doesn't take just 'people' to make a person feel whole and valuable.
Participating in a hobby, or reading, or an art form .. will make a person feel as though this 'other' thing is their company because they are comfortable with it. In fact, most people I know would RATHER be void of other humans when they are doing their craft or hobby .. so, to prevent this "lonly" feeling, one must first come to terms with what makes them happy.
I've found with a lot of people I know, they will surround themselves with other people to fill the void .. and still feel lonly .. that's because they are trying to substitute PEOPLE for their own lack of self-worth and value.
Participating in a hobby, or reading, or an art form .. will make a person feel as though this 'other' thing is their company because they are comfortable with it. In fact, most people I know would RATHER be void of other humans when they are doing their craft or hobby .. so, to prevent this "lonly" feeling, one must first come to terms with what makes them happy.
I've found with a lot of people I know, they will surround themselves with other people to fill the void .. and still feel lonly .. that's because they are trying to substitute PEOPLE for their own lack of self-worth and value.
I find that too, archer .. in a social situation, all these people around, nobody really giving a damn about anything except their image and what is expected of them in social engagements .. when, really, the only thing I'm thinking about that would make me feel content is going home, curling up on my sofa and submerging myself into what really makes me happy.
hahahaha .. sick? lol
Ok, confession .. when I said, "the only thing I'm thinking about that would make me feel content is going home, curling up on my sofa and submerging myself into what really makes me happy."
I was talking about the same as you .. only by myself, lol
Ok, confession .. when I said, "the only thing I'm thinking about that would make me feel content is going home, curling up on my sofa and submerging myself into what really makes me happy."
I was talking about the same as you .. only by myself, lol
"the worst form of loneliness is when I am in a group of so called 'social interaction' where no one cares for others, every one pretending to listen but not giving a damn in really understanding. You speak, joke for it is unsaid rule of civilisation, try to impress others by marketing a certian image which is the right 'self product' to sale; nothing but commercially superficial..."
Not only you lonely here. They are too. But their brains are being occupied by others things at the moment (perhaps some stupid things, like acting cruely to gain some social recognition) and they wont hear you. They are actually more in trouble. Why? Because at least you realised that there is SOMETHING wrong. They not.
Not only you lonely here. They are too. But their brains are being occupied by others things at the moment (perhaps some stupid things, like acting cruely to gain some social recognition) and they wont hear you. They are actually more in trouble. Why? Because at least you realised that there is SOMETHING wrong. They not.
Maybe they will never need to realise that part in their entire lives. Possible. Unfortunately our life is built like that. Even stupid people can go up. What is your gain here? Well when you understand what is going on, you will forgive them. Yes, you will forgive them and stop finding faults in yourself. That's your gain.
there's depression. and there is loneliness. to me, loneliness is a tme for emptying out, maybe of the heart, or whatever it is that holds our gunk in, clogging up the hollow tube.
you may ask, "hollow tube?". well, i picture it as brilliant light connecting us, to All That Is. and that includes our relationships with others, as well as with ourselves.
Archer, having been through surgery too, i certainly agree. healing is a beautiful process!
what to do with loneliness? go feed the homeless.
(oops, if that sounded -itchy, it's not meant to)
consider loneliness as a sacred gift, and your mantra, KINDNESS.
you may ask, "hollow tube?". well, i picture it as brilliant light connecting us, to All That Is. and that includes our relationships with others, as well as with ourselves.
Archer, having been through surgery too, i certainly agree. healing is a beautiful process!
what to do with loneliness? go feed the homeless.
(oops, if that sounded -itchy, it's not meant to)
consider loneliness as a sacred gift, and your mantra, KINDNESS.
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