What is your love language?

Tonight my question for my Pisces was, "What is your love language?" and now I'd like to ask the rest of you.....

So fishies.... what is your preferred love language?

What are the 5 Love Languages?

excerpt from: DR. GARY CHAPMAN EXPLAINS THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES

1. Words of Affirmation: Actions don't always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, —I love you,?? are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

2. Quality Time: In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, —I love you,?? like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

3. Receiving Gifts: Don't mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

4. Acts of Service: Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an —Acts of Service?? person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: —Let me do that for you.?? Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don't matter.

5. Physical Touch: This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Dont know if you can have two, but i would say 1&5 haha

I too agree with poisson

4 and 5! I'm definitely comfortable providing a female force in a man's otherwise chaotic life. I love being of service. And as for the physical stuff-- I am not touchy, as with poisson, but with my guy I play with his hair, hug him always, etc. Lots if talking is not my thing.

Posted by fishkebab
4 and 5!

haha phewf... I was waiting for another 4 person. in a reciprocal way though... I show love through service heavily.

and 5 as well, less touchy feely, more about physically having them near me.

no one cares about #3 hahaa

i prefer #1 and #5 as fire-water

I am totally a 3!!!!!!!!!!!!! And some 4 I guess because for me, they overlap a lot.... like a fancy home cooked meal is a gift, but also could be considered a service....

I give gifts a lot... small things that I consider gifts - notes taped to the bathroom mirror, pick up something silly as I am walking through the checkout somewhere like a silly pen or a weirdly named candy bar, always make sure to have their favorite beverage on hand (and readily pour it for them when they walk in), will make cookies or other sweets for them. It's all the little things for me!

I also do the service stuff.... cook and clean for my man, laundry, lady type stuff. Even as a hard core business woman, I am a-ok with gender roles.

I also really enjoy receiving #3 and #4.... all of the reverse gentlemanly types of service - opening doors, ordering for me.... a shared doting on each other. 🙂 Gifts - well I am never opposed to flowers.

However, I think this is why it's best to talk about these things... it helps you to be mindful of how your partner prefers to "receive", but also makes them mindful of how you naturally "show".

For the record, my Pisces was much like you guys.... and I quote him - "I'm definitely #5 with a side of #1." 🙂 LOL!

Speaking of being a 3....

So we were texting today and...

Him - "Your bf sure is a lucky guy to get to see you this weekend."
Me - "No way, I'm such a lucky girl to have such a fantastical and charming boyfriend. I waited for a long time and then.... SWOOP, there he was."
Him - "Awe baby! Yeah, I'm sorry it took so long, took a couple of wrong turns on my way to find you."

Follows and equally adorable and vomit worthy conversation about men never being able to ask for directions.... just your basic lighthearted cute flirty talk.

Sooooo..... I was thinking about printing out a map from his house to mine (we're in different states so it could look pretty cool) dressing it up a bit and then framing it. Something small, not really even "wall worthy", but just a little cute gift.

See..... I am such a #3.

#1 for sure hearing those three words is always enough to melt my pisces heart especially if they are repeated multiple times in a softer and sweeter sound to my ears 🙂)

Posted by juke
i'll take a little of each with some cheese crackers, gar?on

haha I read this with a hard c on the 'con'. I imagine this is how you would present it, with you being you and all jukey.