What's the next move I do with my Pisces Man?

Hi everyone

Here's hoping someone will be able to give me some insight on how to construct a great text to my Pisces man.

It's been 8 weeks since we last saw each other at work, he left under bad circumstances and our last day at work was teary and very heated, I didn't go to his farewell drinks because of our last day together. He was in so much pain on our last day and took it out on everyone, especially me. When I got home on that Friday night I found a text by him simply saying "I'm not interested, do not contact me, goodbye" and I haven't since then.

I did though 3 weeks after his departure from work send him a card, apologising alot and wishing him well in his future, didn't get a response.

Since then little things have occured, he opened up his facebook wall, so I can read his posts, he started a page on Facebook called Just for You, and makes references to his "shorty" and all these other pictures of love and faith etc. He's latest wall post which I could read was that he missed everyone from work especially the "Sunshine" (his nickname for me).

Now how do I play this situation, I gave him exactly what he wanted, no more communication, except the card which he didn't respond to, does he want me to contact him or is he just messing around and playing games?

His birthday is the 22nd Feb 1974 and I'm the 26th Sept 1973....I'm at a loss, I desparately want to send him a text, but fear the whole rejection thing again.

He bruised my heart the first time around, I'm trying to avoid it breaking completely.

Any ideas anyone?

Hi piranhaparadiise

Thank you for your response, yes his favourite saying to me was Sunshine, even with his text messages it was always hello Sunshine or morning Sunshine...I miss it 😢.

So I'm going to ask, "show him it's worth the heartache" can you elborate a little bit more?

I'm more than happy to contact him, I just need to know HOW, text? phone call? My stomach is all over the place by the thought of both because I want it to be absolutely perfect, after 8 weeks of nothing, I just want to get it right to make sure that he knows my intentions are true and real with no more work drama's to come between us.

So any help piranhaparadiise would be greatfully appreciated. I miss him alot, and I think he misses me too. May sound stupid but I think I've felt him thinking about him and visa versa, because when I have, within 30mins there's a new post on the facebook account about feelings, lonelyness and love from him.

I'm definately NOT the bravest person in the world so this will be the boldest thing I've done since giving natural birth to my son lol.

I think you are providing him with a place to continue to dump his accountibility.

You said that when he left work, that he took things out on people, especially you ..... and that isn't acceptable.

For you to pardon him, and not hold him to what he did or said to you without sensitivity to how you felt ... enables the Fish to wash away any guilt inside their bubble of delusion.

If you plan on being with a Fish, you better learn how to first.

If you contact him at all, it should be to tell him that if he contacts you in the future with intentions of attempting to rekindle a relationship ... then he's going to have to hold himself responsible for dumping on you during his departure from work, because you aren't his whipping post.



You have painted a story in here to suggest his complete ignorance to your feelings .... and how you have put forth effort in sucking up to him for it .. and that is totally unacceptable. If you have no more pride and honor than that in yourself, then he will surely not.

I don't think it's admirable, pb, I think it's disgraceful.


He has to do nothing in terms of holding himself responsible for making her feel like shit, as he walked out of the door .... and now it's up to her to put forth all effort in mending the bridge he burned?


A Pisces will never take responsibility for hurting a person if the person they hurt has no backbone ... we are experts at diassociating, escape artists if you will ... this is Pisces 101, and any person will fail relating to us if they ignore this very important information.


Mark my words .... if you allow him back into your life .. he'll do it again when he feels put upon or aggrevated because he will feel justified in doing it because you would let him. You'll see.

* disassociating

Posted by P-Angel
I don't think it's admirable, pb, I think it's disgraceful.


He has to do nothing in terms of holding himself responsible for making her feel like shit, as he walked out of the door .... and now it's up to her to put forth all effort in mending the bridge he burned?


A Pisces will never take responsibility for hurting a person if the person they hurt has no backbone ... we are experts at diassociating, escape artists if you will ... this is Pisces 101, and any person will fail relating to us if they ignore this very important information.


Mark my words .... if you allow him back into your life .. he'll do it again when he feels put upon or aggrevated because he will feel justified in doing it because you would let him. You'll see.

Not sure if I agree completely with this actually P Angel. Im a Pisces and I have had people shut out of my life and make their way back in again. Here is how I see it.. I think even I would get hurt if someone I regard "special" did not turn up on my farewell, for whatever reason. The sms was just a manifestation of that hurt.

If I get hurt, I do not like anyone to pester me or follow me.. but i do let it go after some time passes. So if I get a text from them after a month, i actually feel good about it. Even then, i am slow to open up again. And interestingly I also open up in the same manner.. Making the FB wall available kinda signals that yes I have let go of that hurt..

Id say if you like the guy, just gradually increase your interaction with him. And things would well get back to normal. That is assuming that it was only something as small as this incident that led you to part ways..

Posted by P-Angel


He has to do nothing in terms of holding himself responsible for making her feel like shit, as he walked out of the door .... and now it's up to her to put forth all effort in mending the bridge he burned?

P-Angel the above has struck an almighty big chord with me and made me sit up and taken notice. He did burn the bridge not me, he opted out for no communication and he said he wasn't interested and exactly WHY am I putting this effort in at all when he hasn't contacted me in 8 weeks yet just doing stoopid messages over FB, great point I have to say P-Angel, great point indeed.

Posted by fullconfus

Posted by P-Angel
I don't think it's admirable, pb, I think it's disgraceful.


He has to do nothing in terms of holding himself responsible for making her feel like shit, as he walked out of the door .... and now it's up to her to put forth all effort in mending the bridge he burned?


A Pisces will never take responsibility for hurting a person if the person they hurt has no backbone ... we are experts at diassociating, escape artists if you will ... this is Pisces 101, and any person will fail relating to us if they ignore this very important information.


Mark my words .... if you allow him back into your life .. he'll do it again when he feels put upon or aggrevated because he will feel justified in doing it because you would let him. You'll see.

Not sure if I agree completely with this actually P Angel. Im a Pisces and I have had people shut out of my life and make their way back in again. Here is how I see it.. I think even I would get hurt if someone I regard "special" did not turn up on my farewell, for whatever reason. The sms was just a manifestation of that hurt.

If I get hurt, I do not like anyone to pester me or follow me.. but i do let it go after some time passes. So if I get a text from them after a month, i actually feel good about it. Even then, i am slow to open up again. And interestingly I also open up in the same manner.. Making the FB wall available kinda signals that yes I have let go of that hurt..

Id say if you like the guy, just gradually increase your interaction with him. And things would well get back to normal. That is assuming that it was only something as small as this incident that led you to part ways..

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There was nothing more too it other than him have a rough last week at work, us being sh*tty at communication that week, him having a shutdown and meltdown all in one and us and myself baring the brunt of it all.

The reason why I didn't go to his farewell drinks because quiet frankly after the text of "not interested" I didn't want to be put into or even put myself into an awkward night, if he really wanted me to be there all he had to do was ask. From what I heard from the night he was miserable all night, again that is not my fault, all he had to do was talk to me.

This was our problem from the beginning and

OK just a quick update to this situation as of today, apparently he told our work collegues that I was the one who had the melt down on his last day of work not him, no wonder a couple of weeks afterwards people were very stand offish with me.

I can't believe this putz now....so honest opinion now peoples, would you call him up on this and the other shyte or just keep on walking?

I'm soooooo mad at this moment.

Upside, work collegues have calmed down now, but it's embarrasing to say the least to be painted in such a horrible way that wasn't even me..ffs.

Posted by fullconfus

That is assuming that it was only something as small as this incident that led you to part ways..

I didn't catch a mention of a small incident ... perhaps, I need to read again .. I thought I read where he left work under bad circumstances and took all his grief out on the people around him, especially her, telling her to basically fuck off.

Seems pretty typical for a Pisces to turn/twist the facts around .... he has to save face, at your expense.


My only advice would be to stop focusing on getting him back, because he will never come back as the person he was, even if he dedice to want to be with you again. As each experience happens in life, perspective changes .... so there is no such things as, "the way we were"


Thus far, it seems as the only thing you are considering is what he wants, what he does, his life, his choices .... as if the only in your life is a consideration of him, according to his approval and terms.


So, you don't consider what is appropriate for you, what is respectable for you?


Whatever he wants or does?


He's lied to people who know you, so that you look bad ... and you are still here updating this thread, as if he is even worth your devastation? Your life's energy and feelings aren't worth any more than that? YOu would regard your worth as being expendable so you can put attention into wrenching your heart over a guy who would trash you to your collegues?

This Pisces is now Sushi on my plate. I'm done, first time my Libra instincts have just kicked in and I've been able to make a decision quickly and efficiently.

Thanks everyone

This Pisces is now Sushi on my plate. I'm done, first time my Libra instincts have just kicked in and I've been able to make a decision quickly and efficiently.

Thanks everyone

This Pisces is now Sushi on my plate. I'm done, first time my Libra instincts have just kicked in and I've been able to make a decision quickly and efficiently.

Thanks everyone for your thoughts.

Posted by piranhaparadiise

Posted by Hails26
OK just a quick update to this situation as of today, apparently he told our work collegues that I was the one who had the melt down on his last day of work not him, no wonder a couple of weeks afterwards people were very stand offish with me.

I can't believe this putz now....so honest opinion now peoples, would you call him up on this and the other shyte or just keep on walking?

I'm soooooo mad at this moment.

Upside, work collegues have calmed down now, but it's embarrasing to say the least to be painted in such a horrible way that wasn't even me..ffs.

let it go if he now bothers you...I mean my ex Pisces spread some lies to family etc and you know what I did ? absolutely nothing !! said nothing to him too !! I knew he said it all for revenge because I didn't want him anymore lol...plus the thing is if I were to get upset about it [angry] it would have made him feel better..not having that lol

It doesn't really matter who said who ...the thing is your work colleges never asked how you were when they were told you had a melt down now did they ? !
I can't stand gossip...at...all....I avoid being friendly personal for that reason

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They are a breed onto themselves these little slippery, mealy mouthed Pisces, bunch of fckwits to say the least.