Why are People Cruel?

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by haffo on Wednesday, February 7, 2007 and has 16 replies.
Haffo, are you by chance experiencing these things in your life at the moment or just asking questions?
"Haffo, are you by chance experiencing these things in your life at the moment or just asking questions?"
Some experience. Some just ask.
I would think that in most cases it would be because the person feels a bitterness inside of them where they feel helpless to make it right .. so, to feel better about themselves, they would punish another person .. the whole misery loves company thing.
Just love those CUTE little panties, ianthefish! *reaches over ever so lightly snaping that sexy garter of yours* Winking
Haffo....you be attracting "cruel" people into your world?
vgm, There's a difference between the truth and cruelty, dumbass.
Someone was cruel to you, Sweet-P? You sound fed-up, that would indicate a sore spot.
You go, girl .. toss the losers aside and show the world how strong we fish-girls really are.
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"Haffo....you be attracting "cruel" people into your world?"
No. But it possible that I will in future.
"and then there are those who do not even realise that they are - that's what gets me, because if they're not aware of it then there is no remorse for their actions/behaviour and no understanding of how it affects other people."
One of them was me.
*Gives Virgogotme a royal ignore.
I believe that cruelty stems from a lack of self-love, self-acceptance and self responsibility for their lives.
People are not happy with the way their lives have turned out, they feel frustrated and angry, looking for someone to blame, so they single out people and turn them into scapegoats for the percieved failures of their life.
Only when they begin to accept their choices and see that they can change their lives and their inner natures and feelings, even if slowly, right now, can they break free of the cycle of hate and cruelty.
it's their choice....they've got free will, as do you....
people are cruel in my view becuase they are far to obsesed with themselves, and putting on a front to make themselves appear stronger if only in their own mind....stop trying to impress, and just starting being yourself, flaws and all! Even you older folks would be surprised at how much of the adult world rings true to the walls, and peer groups of high school; still surrounded by the same, social castes/sets, just in a bigger school......
"I would think that in most cases it would be because the person feels a bitterness inside of them where they feel helpless to make it right .. so, to feel better about themselves, they would punish another person .. the whole misery loves company thing"
I agree. People who intentionally hurt others are usually hurt themselves.
I like to joke around and put s.h.i.t on people, but I would hate to think that I had seriously offended or hurt someone's feelings; but I'm certainly not perfect, and some people are just too sensitive (I use to be one of them). I also really admire honesty in people, and I rather bluntness than a white lie.
I'm thinking that some people enjoy being cruel. If they have been hurt, it's not really an excuse to pass it on, build a bridge and get over it. It's part of life, most people have been hurt some time in their life, and there's alaways someone worse off than you. I don't talk to my mum cause she still hangs onto the bitterness; and I have better things to do with my life than to put up with her insults.