any successful female cap/ aries male stories?

Plenty. You have to have the nerves of steel to be able to deal with an aries man. Its a lot of work but if you are both mature individuals and can embrace each other's individuality, things will work. Of the cap gals/aries guys, it was lot of blood, sweat and tears but they are still together.

thanks, Cappy. i'm finding that i seem to be doing all the bending and giving so far... nerves of steel is right!

Of course caps do all the bending but you have to be careful not too bend too far without feeling like a doormat. Its almost like having a parent child relationship. Caps are the father figure and aries are the child having a temper tantrum. Sometimes you have to resort to putting them in the corner and make them think of their behavior but they are stubborn. If you ever read linda goodman's sun signs for capricorns, only the goat can wear down the ram. That is sooo true. Once they fall in love and respect you, it'll be hard to get rid of them. But be prepared for the roller coaster ride. Only the strong will survive this one and caps have all the strength to make it. It'll just be a long annoying,emotional ride.

They say us caps are masochistic. Being ruled by saturn, I guess it makes it easier for us to deal with the hard times. Its not all bad times with aries but if you know how aries are and how caps are, they are alike but also opposite. Aries may rub a lot of people the wrong way as do caps but the underlying factor is understanding which a lot of people don't have at first.
That's the reason why the divorce rate is high. People don't want to take the bad with the good. Nothing in life is ever that easy and you have to work hard to make things work and to find that groove that both people can work on. Just like how you want that promotion at work, you work hard at proving yourself worthy of climbing that ladder. Relationships are no different. Dividends vary but there is a common goal.

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"Only the strong will survive this one and caps have all the strength to make it. It'll just be a long annoying,emotional ride."

Sometimes I just ask myself..

Why do people bother anyway? Do they really think the only way they can experience joy with someone is by them making you suffer? some people are just masochistic by nature I guess.

i don't think cappy was indicating that they do it on purpose...i think it is a matter of finding out how each other works, the way we communicate with each other.... maybe i'm wrong... but personally, i know that i do not actively seek out relationships or even friendships for that matter, that are so difficult that it's an uphill battle every day. as in my case, we click, there is attraction and a connection, but we just have different ways of communicating which is a new concept for me since i've never encountered this in a relationship before. ...but this aries is completely lovely, so i'm not going to toss in the towel just because we communicate differently... 🙂

cappy, i think it helps that he is 15 years my senior because (please don't think i'm insulting him) i think it places us on a level playing field since at times he is like a child. however, because he likes to lead i have to be careful not to make my suggestions seem like i'm trying to tell him what to do. i actually love the challenge of this because it engages me constantly....i love a challenge, and i've been told aries do too! i've heard to keep it light, don't be so serious, etc.... any other advice from your experiences and/or that of your friends?

I've read your other posts in regards to your aries. Mine too has a sag moon with a taurus venus and cancer rising. He's about 5 years older than me. I equate the age difference to be the same since aries men take a long time to grow up. Even then they'll let their immature sides peek through sometimes. Its better to date an older aries then a younger one since us caps age in reverse so it kinda evens it out. I have an aquarius venus so I'm not really too clingy and gemini moon has me all over the place. He actually grounds me. We clicked and have this irreplaceable bond that is hard to break that's why I'm so unwilling to leave him alone. Being emotional does not bother them as long as your not smothering him. Expressing my feelings to him was never a problem because I didn't overwhelm him with them. I always maintained my independence and had my own life as I allowed him to do the same. But we always made sure to make time to be together @ least once a week due to my schedule. He's my best friend and I treat him as such probably due to my venus but it makes for a comfortable relationship. We've been on a break for 7 months now with minimum contact because of things I have been going thru (I imposed it) I need to get my affairs in order. Maybe we'll get back together,maybe not but he is the love of my life and there is nothing I would have changed about it.
It also probably helps that because you are a cardinal feminine sign and he is a cardinal masculine sign, it makes the relationship feel so natural. So don't be afraid to wear your heart on your sleeve with him, he'll appreciate it since us caps are so misunderstood anyway. With us caps, I think actions speak louder than words. I would cook for him, always be there in times of need when he needed me and was his rock of support in all aspects of his life. Aries men want to be spoiled but don't let him forget that you have needs too.

And let me just add that I am surrounded by aries. My best friend, my parents, two of my children and others that I have dated before. I have life long experiences. I have friends with aries moons too and I find that they are no different than aries suns sometimes.

cappy, you are surrounded by aries! how do you do it? my father is an aries and we've always had such a difficult time getting along, but mostly because we're both stubborn....however, we are sooo much alike that we understand each other on another level and when it's good, it's good. i'm guessing that's how it might end up with this aries, except --- thankfully, there is a difference between giving in to a mate versus a parent. i'm great at not smothering....i think space is important, and because he is older and never married nor any kids he has been a bachelor for so long so he is very independent...though i will say he always wants to do things with me and our weekends are always together when our schedules permit. i will remember and try the emotional thing, though i have a scorpio moon to his sag moon so i'm already more emotionally deep than he is. i suppose we'll see how this pans out. i love challenges, so this could be exciting, and he is really and truly lovely. one thing though - he hardly texts/emails/calls during the day, on days when we don't see each other. the past two days i've taken the initiative to text/call him, but today/tonight i'm leaving it up to him. i hate these games...but i feel almost like when i'm out of sight, i'm out of mind... is this an aries thing, or maybe it's just him? i have other men that actually want to date me contacting me more than he does on the days/nights we don't see each other. feels strange as i've never run into this with other men. i suppose i like to be chased....hmm...new discovery for me. thanks so much for your help. 🙂 xoj

Sag mooners are tough to pin down and with him being double fire, he's probably all over the place. @ least you have the weekends together. As long as he is maintaining consistency there. I wouldn't be too worried. The way I used to do it, everytime he called me one day, I would call the next day and so forth. So it kinda made it even in means of keeping in contact with each other.

Sag mooners are tough to pin down and with him being double fire, he's probably all over the place. @ least you have the weekends together. As long as he is maintaining consistency there. I wouldn't be too worried. The way I used to do it, everytime he called me one day, I would call the next day and so forth. So it kinda made it even in means of keeping in contact with each other.

sheesh, are you right about that - he IS all over the place. he doesn't have ADD but he constantly bounces from one thing to another and his business is operated out of his home and it doesn't even look like a home anymore - papers, papers everywhere! he is organized like me with labeling everything but he does bounce around. if he'll allow it, i think i would ground him. well, i waited until he contacted me yesterday and i think it's all around better that i remain a little bit aloof because it made me feel better to be chased and i think it helps him that i am not prone to smother.