Posted by Coochiecoochiecooi feel like i laid enough of myself out before we officially broke-up that she knows how i feel. when i told her, her initial response was “i didn’t assume those feelings went away overnight” like wat why did u even assume they were real.
Tell her all of this in a heartfelt message. Explain yourself and tell her how you truly feel but then make it clear at the end that you will never contact her again and leave the ball in her court. After that one message absolutely leave it up to her. Don’t contact her again. See what happens. If she gives a half hearted response with no intention to communicate properly, leave it and move on. If she is responsive and receptive, then take it from there.
Posted by Waterbearerwearer
Cut your losses and move on. This combo can not work in intimate pairings.
Posted by SuninLibraThat’s what i guess i have to do. it’s a ball in her court situation right? i flat out said don’t talk to me unless you actually want to talk to me (since she was sending me messages just to get a quick ego boost / validation)
Wow Aquarius man writing about a Libra, when I dated an Aquarius he was too manipulative I could not take his BS anymore. He effed me up but I moved on eventually even when he tried to contact me again. Maybe you should move on too?
Posted by ratsackI totally get this because it happened to me with what I thought was a Libra female friend of 30 years + . we had some rough patches and then had a big blowout because I found out she was talking to my husband about me behind my back (he was to blame as well). She wanted to act like she was the total victim in that situation and blew me off when I wanted to get together to discuss in person and work on our friendship and boundaries etc in order to have an even better understanding/friendship and she was having none of that. So be it. I stepped up above her level and offered several times - she flat out refused. I did what I could and then I divorced her and my husband lol ... and good riddance on both parts !
thank you so much for your Libra insight!! I do feel like she has been doing the same things you listed to keep me in limbo. & i did make an honest effort to talk & reconcile.
i just don’t play games, giving someone my time & attention is a commitment for me. so i had to draw boundaries so she’d stop sending me breadcrumbs & only come to me when she’s serious about at least having a real conversation (i didn’t push for the “either we get back together or nothing” because i know it doesn’t even work like that lol)
i’m gonna step back from her & get back into my own life. relationships are so frustrating. i wouldn’t even be posting here if i didn’t think her & i were compatible
Posted by AerialView
No you don't need to fix anything. You've done nothing wrong.
She's the one that should fix it.
You need to get that straight man.
Posted by ratsackFrom Aries to Libra. Man that's not an upgrade lol.Posted by AerialView
No you don't need to fix anything. You've done nothing wrong.
She's the one that should fix it.
You need to get that straight man.
i do need to remind myself that i didn’t do anything wrong. i tend to fall back into that attitude when someone’s resistant to communicating with me. i did A LOT of things wrong after a relationship i had last year with an Aries who FUCKED my whole world up (she actually was a bad person lol) but luckily i am smarter now.
hopefully it won’t be a challenge that we have mutual friends & i am definitely going to see her out sometimes.click to expand
Posted by dilettantea walk in the park is a perfect opportunity to have a talk free of distractions!!! also the sun was setting. i ended up going with one of her good girlfriends because she liked the idea so much so i decided why not? i gave my ex a chance & she passed soPosted by ratsacklol meet at the park? thats cute
wouldn’t go to the park to talk it out face-to-faceclick to expand
Posted by 7sI'm not going into all of that - I was working full time, going to school full time and was tired of putting up with all their drama and stupid bs - but should have said I ended up divorcing - although it wasn't too long after that - that was just one part of what was/had been going on. I honestly wouldn't know where to start lol and well, it's pretty much forgiven at this point - just not forgotten - ever!Posted by tctaapPosted by ratsackI totally get this because it happened to me with what I thought was a Libra female friend of 30 years + . we had some rough patches and then had a big blowout because I found out she was talking to my husband about me behind my back (he was to blame as well). She wanted to act like she was the total victim in that situation and blew me off when I wanted to get together to discuss in person and work on our friendship and boundaries etc in order to have an even better understanding/friendship and she was having none of that. So be it. I stepped up above her level and offered several times - she flat out refused. I did what I could and then I divorced her and my husband lol ... and good riddance on both parts !
thank you so much for your Libra insight!! I do feel like she has been doing the same things you listed to keep me in limbo. & i did make an honest effort to talk & reconcile.
i just don’t play games, giving someone my time & attention is a commitment for me. so i had to draw boundaries so she’d stop sending me breadcrumbs & only come to me when she’s serious about at least having a real conversation (i didn’t push for the “either we get back together or nothing” because i know it doesn’t even work like that lol)
i’m gonna step back from her & get back into my own life. relationships are so frustrating. i wouldn’t even be posting here if i didn’t think her & i were compatible
Personally, what I would suggest is that you leave it alone and move on with your life and not let her drive you crazy!
divorce? all because they were talking about you behind your back?! What were they saying?click to expand
Posted by dilettantePosted by ratsackeww what??? u went to the park w/ her friend instead??? ugh gross aqua smh smhPosted by dilettantea walk in the park is a perfect opportunity to have a talk free of distractions!!! also the sun was setting. i ended up going with one of her good girlfriends because she liked the idea so much so i decided why not? i gave my ex a chance & she passed soPosted by ratsacklol meet at the park? thats cute
wouldn’t go to the park to talk it out face-to-face
not that anything happened, her friend is in a relationship anywayclick to expand
Posted by Antiochus
Nah, you made your point clear.
The ball is in her camp for now.
Posted by Timon
I think by the time you changed she had probably already lost her feelings for you so that's why she didn't want to take you back. You said you remained in contact after the breakup until you "lost your cool"? when you saw her going out with someone else and that's when she started replying shortly? What exactly did you say to her? Maybe she liked having you as a friend but as soon as you behaved like you wanted more she started distancing herself from you.
Posted by TimonPosted by ratsackSo she is upset because you asked her roommate if she was seeing that guy? I don't understand why that would set her off. She is mad at you for something. Why do you think that is? I think there must be more to the story than you're telling us. If she really didn't want anything to do with you she would not talk to you anymore but she is and she is calling you an idiot so she is mad lol. 😂😂Posted by Timon
I think by the time you changed she had probably already lost her feelings for you so that's why she didn't want to take you back. You said you remained in contact after the breakup until you "lost your cool"? when you saw her going out with someone else and that's when she started replying shortly? What exactly did you say to her? Maybe she liked having you as a friend but as soon as you behaved like you wanted more she started distancing herself from you.
i didn’t say anything to her when i lost my cool, her roommate got me frenzied & asking after she left the place where we saw each other “is she seeing THAT guy??” which ofc her roommate told her that i did so other than that i really kept my cool.
i was not responding to her mostly after the break-up but when i reached out she immediately mentioned it so i apologized because i did regret doing it. she accepted it, said we could move past it then what i mentioned before happened: we got on the phone the next day & she was being HELLA mean & was not feeling meeting me in the park. she referred to me to her roommate while we were still on the phone as “this idiot” yet still was breadcrumbing me after the fact. until i created boundaries to stop that & now here i am wondering how to fix other than just chillin
So what exactly did you do?click to expand
Posted by Jade_Alexander
How old are you two?
She’s done.... for whatever reason, it’s over.
It’s time to just move forward and give her space.
Typically I give the person 2-4 weeks if NC to cool down before I attempt to repair things. Even then I go in to create peace. Never asking to engage in the relationship or anything... then I let it be.
I haven’t heard of an aqua chasing a Libra ever... I’m so confused by this!
Posted by ratsackI’m the same, very forgiving.Posted by Jade_Alexander
How old are you two?
She’s done.... for whatever reason, it’s over.
It’s time to just move forward and give her space.
Typically I give the person 2-4 weeks if NC to cool down before I attempt to repair things. Even then I go in to create peace. Never asking to engage in the relationship or anything... then I let it be.
I haven’t heard of an aqua chasing a Libra ever... I’m so confused by this!
She’s 28 i’m 29. And i was going NC mostly, she kept sending me snaps & messages just to get my attention until i told her to stop unless she actually wants to talk to me. So that’s where i am.
When i catch feelings for someone i tend to forgive their imperfections & mistakes until the fuck up enough that there’s nothing in it for me at allclick to expand
Posted by WaterbearerwearerWow. one libra fd you up real bad huhPosted by ratsackThere’s no good pairing when there’s communication issues.
also i thought this was a good pairing? we worked together really well besides the communication issues we had
Communication is an air sign forte but unfortunately we do it very differently to Libra.
Libra are passive aggressive and very subliminal with their self expression.
They are experts at gaslighting.
They communicate through social media and this frustrates Aqua to the hilt cos we are shiiit at pretending and we mean what we say.
There’s no ambiguity to it. We say we love you and it stays that way.
We are also fixed af so we don’t switch lanes easy like fluffy Libra.
You’ll always know when Libra is rebounding off you cos they get real quiet (tuning a myriad of others online no less) then they wait 2 weeks to reach out for “peace”
Vomit
Find a Scorpio or Cancer. Hard work but you’ll be matched in every possible good way and life is too short for disloyal cunts.click to expand
Posted by Waterbearerwearer
Cut your losses and move on. This combo can not work in intimate pairings.
Posted by ladylibra21it’s all about open communication!! i’m believing this more & more. the better you get to know someone & the more honest you are the better your experience will bePosted by Waterbearerwearer
Cut your losses and move on. This combo can not work in intimate pairings.
I hate to say it but I'm starting to believe this as well. I feel like I'm doomed to fall in love with Aquarius only to keep walking away because I don't feel valued. It really sucks too because intellectual it works and most of the time sexually it works although they can get awkward about sex swing from being very giving to being borderline asexual. I am not sure if sex is overwhelming for Aquarius or not but anyways it's a big nasty cosmic joke. It always feels like something is not quite right. Like you are missing a major point but can't figure it out.click to expand
Posted by ratsack
i feel like this is my opportunity to patch things up & start fresh
Posted by ratsackBe honest and lay the cards on the table properly with an open heart. I’m a Libra. Listen to me. But also make it clear how things will be different going forward addressing her reservations about you. I see you wanting her back and this is the way Max.Posted by ratsack
i feel like this is my opportunity to patch things up & start fresh
i’ve read that me being honest about everything while still being light will be the best approach since it’s been a few weeks since we’ve had a face-to-face. Libras appreciate honesty & forgiveness?click to expand