Are there Different love strokes for sign folks?

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I think some moments with people are just that. In the moment and nothing more. That one moment (assuming it was good for the time) should be respected and appreciated for what it was and nothing more. It's actually kind of selfish to expect more.

I know some expect every moment to equal the rest of their life being perfect, or exactly like a book or movie. Reality it's much more mundane though. Just have your moment and move on.

The way to live nowadays is just keep an opening for something that might be real, but don't get an attachment to absolutley everything you encounter.
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its not true for cancers ...anxiety

Precisely this. Dealing with a cancer right now and we would message each other often. I would want to text her all day, but I don't want to seem like I'm all in her shit. Would put it off for hours and finally shoot her a text. She'd answer as if she had been waiting by the phone for it.

She admitted that she felt she would be bothering me if she texted. I told her to text me anytime. She still doesn't. But, the moment I do, shes there in no time.
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So for her - you are the one who finds time for her.

For you - if you find time time for her it means you care. This way both of you actually communicating and I don’t expect none of you come here with post ‘my love interest don’t care enough, ghosted, making me feel like shit etc.’

because it’s simple...you care - you let her know and she finds time not to keep you in read for days.

Isn’t it ‘normal’ and how it is supposed to BE?

And if she kept you on read and haven’t replied for days - wouldn’t you understand that this shit isn’t gonna work? What would you do then?
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I think some moments with people are just that. In the moment and nothing more. That one moment (assuming it was good for the time) should be respected and appreciated for what it was and nothing more. It's actually kind of selfish to expect more.

I know some expect every moment to equal the rest of their life being perfect, or exactly like a book or movie. Reality it's much more mundane though. Just have your moment and move on.

The way to live nowadays is just keep an opening for something that might be real, but don't get an attachment to absolutley everything you encounter.


Reality is simple!

If you care - you finds that time to stay in touch with those you care about.

If you don’t find that time - let them go so they know they can move in with their lives!

And if you keeping them on once a week Hello how are you and they tell you how they are and you don’t have time to reply - begone! You can text your relatives if you are bored. Don’t make anybody feel unimportant if you CARE. Because I’m reality - after you’ve been silent - they get rights to move on and then you’ll be like WTF!

Then you’ll be here with inane complaints. Writing walls of text ‘WHY?’ and that’s why!!! Because you can’t find a minute in 24 hours day to be kind and consider their feeling which means YOU DONT Care!
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That logic doesnt work for introverts.


Yeah? Do introverts eat when they are hungry? There we go!

They buy that sandwich and chew on it right? It’s not a logic. It’s a need!

So is keeping feelings alive. Feelings need to be feed. If you don’t - it means there aren’t any and you only fooling that person who likes you into believing you like them back because of your lazy fucking ass indifference and ego that needs to be stroked by telling others you have someone in your life...to show others you aren’t a loser. But you don’t give a shit about that person who is maybe waiting for your ass to make an effort.

That’s what I am saying to THEM - not to YOU - dump mtfker and don’t let them use you as their ego feeder because if you have an excuse to not to respect them enough - you aren’t worth it their feelings.
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That logic doesnt work for introverts.

Yeah? Do introverts eat when they are hungry? There we go!

They buy that sandwich and chew on it right? It’s not a logic. It’s a need!

So is keeping feelings alive. Feelings need to be feed. If you don’t - it means there aren’t any and you only fooling that person who likes you into believing you like them back because of your lazy fucking ass indifference and ego that needs to be stroked by telling others you have someone in your life...to show others you aren’t a loser. But you don’t give a shit about that person who is maybe waiting for your ass to make an effort.

That’s what I am saying to THEM - not to YOU - dump mtfker and don’t let them use you as their ego feeder because if you have an excuse to not to respect them enough - you aren’t worth it their feelings.
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You're going to make this complicated aren't you?

Your expectations on how someone should act according to your own beliefs/interactions/experience is purely out of convenience for yourself.

Perspectivly it's far too bias to go through life with a cookie cutter outline based on social constructs for how one person should be/act or maintain for affection.

If that is your personal preference so be it. But is not ideal.
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That logic doesnt work for introverts.

Yeah? Do introverts eat when they are hungry? There we go!

They buy that sandwich and chew on it right? It’s not a logic. It’s a need!

So is keeping feelings alive. Feelings need to be feed. If you don’t - it means there aren’t any and you only fooling that person who likes you into believing you like them back because of your lazy fucking ass indifference and ego that needs to be stroked by telling others you have someone in your life...to show others you aren’t a loser. But you don’t give a shit about that person who is maybe waiting for your ass to make an effort.

That’s what I am saying to THEM - not to YOU - dump mtfker and don’t let them use you as their ego feeder because if you have an excuse to not to respect them enough - you aren’t worth it their feelings.

You're going to make this complicated aren't you?

Your expectations on how someone should act according to your own beliefs/interactions/experience is purely out of convenience for yourself.

Perspectivly it's far too bias to go through life with a cookie cutter outline based on social constructs for how one person should be/act or maintain for affection.

If that is your personal preference so be it. But is not ideal.
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It’s not MY preferences and it not MY ideal.

It’s true as 2+2=4

If YOU don’t understand how universal that is - I am sorry for you. You want to be stand alone apposite example of what? That not paying attention to people who care about you will bring you happiness? No!

Have an example of happy ‘I don’t give a shit about you’ couple?
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Women and men have different communication style s.

Not if they care about each other.

I am talking examples of 2 baddest asses signs here.

When men involved cares - he acting just like a human being. 😂😂

Which signs are you talking about Gem?
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Scorp and Aries...DUH— 😂😂😂

They don’t have ‘different communication’ technique.

If they love you they want to talk to you.

Even those...🙄