Aries Woman - Pisces Man: His interest level?

This topic was created in the Aries and Pisces Compatibility forum by Arianro on Thursday, December 15, 2016 and has 4 replies.
I'm an Aries (with Virgo moon, Scorpio rising, Venus in Taurus). He is Pisces, although I'm not familiar with the rest of his chart.

I met him a few months ago at work, and quickly fell for him. Initially, I felt there was some attraction/interest on his part as well. He was very attentive, flirty, and would have real conversations with me. Last week, he "found out" that I had an interest in him (rather, a co-worker told him that he should ask me out), and since then he has been distant and not as communicative. I did try to ask him if all was ok, but was just left with a "Good, I'm just here." I've really been getting the cold shoulder, unless it's directly related to work assignments - although he denies this, I can sense it.

It makes me both sad AND mad because I care for this man and am getting the cold shoulder, with no real reason as to why. For me, it's just best to tell me what the issue is and how it can be resolved. Did I do something to bother you? I have been intentionally silent with him this week because I'm hurting. As much as I want to talk to him, it just feels like...he has no interest in chatting with me anymore, and I'd only be hurting myself more if I try. So I just leave him be. But gosh I miss him like crazy.

Is it typical for Pisces men to give the cold shoulder so abruptly, and then deny doing so? I can't think of anything that I've done to him, yet in a matter of one week it feels like he has just completely disappeared from my life.
He was probably just getting to know you when he was told you liked him too and may have felt pressured to ask you out, we like our partners to be our friends as well (close to us) so he may have been enjoying the getting to know you bit, id just talk to him if I were you, ask him if everything is ok and see if he wants a coffee and a chat or something, I wouldn't worry, if he values you then he will, if he turns negative towards you id move on hun.

Hope its all ok x
It sounds to me as if you believe that he is obligated to like you, and to treat you as if he likes ... merely because you like him.

this isn't rocket science here ...... he found out that you were getting the wrong impression, so he had to cut it off so that you would stop getting the wrong idea.

He's not interested in you the way you want him to be. Here you are attempting to make him be accountable for something he doesn't want or feel.

Example: "with no real reason as to why. For me, it's just best to tell me what the issue is and how it can be resolved. Did I do something to bother you?"

You are expecting him to answer to you because you fell for a man who isn't interested in you. He doesn't have to tell you anything .. he doesn't owe you anything. You got the wrong impression, and so he took a giant step backwards so that you would STOP having that wrong impression.


Seriously .... why is that so difficult to grasp?


If you were giving someone the wrong impression of you, wouldn't you take a giant step backwards? Of course you would ... so, what's the problem here, other than you not rationalizing the real deal because you don't want to, you want him to have feelings he doesn't have, so you ignore the truth of it.
"Is it typical for Pisces men to give the cold shoulder so abruptly, and then deny doing so?"

Yep. He's trying to give you hints without hurting your feelings. The problem with pisces is that at times how we are is perceived as flirty or that we are into a person, but we can just only be being nice.

If he is keeping things short after he found out he likes you...he's letting you know in his own way that he doesn't feel the same way. He doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but he is still being kind to you.

It's not his fault this happened...at times feelings are unrequited.

Keep it moving and keep it friendly. Don't lash out to him or feel like he is being dickish because he's not pouncing on your. The heart doesn't work as such. It will get better.