Blocked after a perfectly nice evening together

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by ScopioConfused on Friday, December 15, 2017 and has 37 replies.
I'm a Capricorn woman and was getting to know this Scorpio man for a few months. It was hard to spend time together, because of my own issues with another man and his schedule. We met up and hung out a few times, he would also pick and drop me from places and parties and take me home if he knew I was going home in a cab alone. After many months we met last night. I messaged him and he wanted to meet immediately so we did. He had never been to my place before, but he said he didn't have much time to spend with me as he had work at 5 am and needed to sleep. He showed at 11 pm and planned to leave by 12, but he ended up leaving at 5.30 am and was very late for work. We didn't even kiss, we just caught up on our lives and I told him how bad I've had it with men being sexually inappropriate with me in recent times. Told him I hated it, and he asked me to call him next time. When he was falling asleep, I tried to leave him be so he can get some sleep before work, but he'd hug me even tighter, and wanted me to rest my head on his shoulder. He told me he wished we did this more, that he struggles to get close to anyone except me (he's 38 and a workaholic who hasn't been in a relationship for years). He told me how I make him feel comfortable, and asked about my plans for NYE, wanted to meet tonight and said he hated that he has to leave me and go to work. He hugged and kissed my forehead and cheeks a lot. We spoke on the way home and he still wanted to know more about me, he started calling me baba and babe, said he really wants to see me again in the night and that he will call me. After which he blocked me.. Can someone please help me make sense of this?
I wonder if he took your sexual inappropriate comment to heart since you guys haven't done it yet. Seems like he didn't want to waste time if you weren't gonna be intimate for a while. I know it's shallow, but I would do something like this. Maybe my fire side though.
It hurts because, there was another guy that wouldn't let me date anybody and if he found out I was getting to know someone, he would come over to my place and cause a scene. I wanted to make sure that he was completely out of my life before I got to know this guy, as I didn't want to bring drama in to his life, and this is what he does to me.

He knows I haven't slept with anyone in 3 years from the time we met, and that I won't unless I'm in a steady relationship, but he still kept in touch with me for months and would never even try.

Thanks for the advice, if this is his game, then I'm not playing it. I've blocked him too. I have enough on my plate than to deal with manipulation.
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Posted by saggurl88
I wonder if he took your sexual inappropriate comment to heart since you guys haven't done it yet. Seems like he didn't want to waste time if you weren't gonna be intimate for a while. I know it's shallow, but I would do something like this. Maybe my fire side though.

Sex isn't intimate for most men. Plus it definitely seems shallow if you're trying to rush intimacy.
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Posted by saggurl88
I wonder if he took your sexual inappropriate comment to heart since you guys haven't done it yet. Seems like he didn't want to waste time if you weren't gonna be intimate for a while. I know it's shallow, but I would do something like this. Maybe my fire side though.
What sexually inappropriate comments?
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Y'all caps are detached I'm scorp moon and my cap still plays that detached crap. You might've came across much to preoccupied for what it is he was looking for. No worries though he's probably giving you the space you act like you need
I just wrote to the other topic, I am not sure which one you see, but I copy it here as well:

you know, I was thinking about your morning ..... OP, you said "he and even took time in his rush to leave to see pictures of my friends and their kids (kids I've talked to him about, telling him how much I love them like my own). He asked if I was free to meet in the night when he got back, I said I was and would love to. He kissed me on the cheek, and left. I called him to see if he got home alright. We spoke for 15 minutes more whilst he was on the way and until he got home and went in to the shower. He told me to take care and even in this conversation, we spoke about our dreams, what we like, about work and our star signs and how we're s much alike. "

you know, maybe it was a mistake to call him and talking to him for a 15 mins in the morning.... maybe it seemed somehow too "suffocating" or "too much" ? its a different thing to talk about these things in a night, and it can be different to talk about dreams and star signs and such when you are in rush to work, your mind is elsewhere and the conversation just doesnt stop..... know what I mean?

I think the 15 mins morning call is what was a bit much...... but I think he will be back after some space, you had a intense time, he maybe needs time to absorbe it
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Posted by saggurl88
I wonder if he took your sexual inappropriate comment to heart since you guys haven't done it yet. Seems like he didn't want to waste time if you weren't gonna be intimate for a while. I know it's shallow, but I would do something like this. Maybe my fire side though.
What sexually inappropriate comments?
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He asked me if I'd gone out recently? I told him, I hadn't in a month, as I've had some bad moments with drunk friends, trying to grope me or pulling out their dick in the car whilst dropping me home. He was shocked and asked me who these stupid friends were, I told him some nut jobs, and that this is why I'm safer in an unknown Uber driver than I am with stupid drunken friends. This is when he told me that if I ever was in a similar situation next time to call him and he will come and get me. I also told him that two of them are married and engaged and that it pissed me off, as I knew their partners. I told him that I plan to avoid them entirely and can't be bothered telling their wives/finance as they won't believe me anyways, and I hate drama.

Posted by Pandora101
I just wrote to the other topic, I am not sure which one you see, but I copy it here as well:

you know, I was thinking about your morning ..... OP, you said "he and even took time in his rush to leave to see pictures of my friends and their kids (kids I've talked to him about, telling him how much I love them like my own). He asked if I was free to meet in the night when he got back, I said I was and would love to. He kissed me on the cheek, and left. I called him to see if he got home alright. We spoke for 15 minutes more whilst he was on the way and until he got home and went in to the shower. He told me to take care and even in this conversation, we spoke about our dreams, what we like, about work and our star signs and how we're s much alike. "

you know, maybe it was a mistake to call him and talking to him for a 15 mins in the morning.... maybe it seemed somehow too "suffocating" or "too much" ? its a different thing to talk about these things in a night, and it can be different to talk about dreams and star signs and such when you are in rush to work, your mind is elsewhere and the conversation just doesnt stop..... know what I mean?

I think the 15 mins morning call is what was a bit much...... but I think he will be back after some space, you had a intense time, he maybe needs time to absorbe it
You could have a point there. But It started off with, hey did you get home safe? He said he was still on the way and feeling like crap and wished he didn't schedule a site visit considering he just landed from a business trip that morning. He said he doesn't know why he does this to himself and not just take a break and that he should retire soon. That's when I told him, it probably has something to do with him being a scorpio, cos they're known for that. He then asked if I believe in it, and I said yes, to an extent, he said he does too as the energies might have something to do with molding someone's personality, and I agreed and said yes and of course there are other factors too like the environment you grew up in, your role models and even your parents traits that one might pick up, and he said yeah, my dad is a workaholic too. he then asked me what my horoscope was and I said I was a Capricorn and that we're similar in traits, and he said oh yeah,, like what? I said cappies are also known to put work before anything and struggle to find a work-life balance and that I too was just like him and would work 14/15 hours day until I crashed some time back. This is when he asked me if i missed working, I said I did now that I've taken a break from the hectic life style .. and the conversation went on.. I can't type it all, but that's how it started and went on.. I don't know now, if he was just being nice or if he was really interested in talking to me...It ended with babba I'm just about to get in to the shower now and rush to work, I'll call u in the evening ok? you're free right, I said I was, but that he didn't have to meet if he got back tired and not to worry about cancelling as it might be tough without any sleep at all, He thanked me for being considerate and told me to take care ok. Talk soon.

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Posted by saggurl88
I wonder if he took your sexual inappropriate comment to heart since you guys haven't done it yet. Seems like he didn't want to waste time if you weren't gonna be intimate for a while. I know it's shallow, but I would do something like this. Maybe my fire side though.
What sexually inappropriate comments?
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I was talking about this

"We didn't even kiss, we just caught up on our lives and I told him how bad I've had it with men being sexually inappropriate with me in recent times."

Posted by ScopioConfused
Posted by Pandora101
I just wrote to the other topic, I am not sure which one you see, but I copy it here as well:

you know, I was thinking about your morning ..... OP, you said "he and even took time in his rush to leave to see pictures of my friends and their kids (kids I've talked to him about, telling him how much I love them like my own). He asked if I was free to meet in the night when he got back, I said I was and would love to. He kissed me on the cheek, and left. I called him to see if he got home alright. We spoke for 15 minutes more whilst he was on the way and until he got home and went in to the shower. He told me to take care and even in this conversation, we spoke about our dreams, what we like, about work and our star signs and how we're s much alike. "

you know, maybe it was a mistake to call him and talking to him for a 15 mins in the morning.... maybe it seemed somehow too "suffocating" or "too much" ? its a different thing to talk about these things in a night, and it can be different to talk about dreams and star signs and such when you are in rush to work, your mind is elsewhere and the conversation just doesnt stop..... know what I mean?

I think the 15 mins morning call is what was a bit much...... but I think he will be back after some space, you had a intense time, he maybe needs time to absorbe it
You could have a point there. But It started off with, hey did you get home safe? He said he was still on the way and feeling like crap and wished he didn't schedule a site visit considering he just landed from a business trip that morning. He said he doesn't know why he does this to himself and not just take a break and that he should retire soon. That's when I told him, it probably has something to do with him being a scorpio, cos they're known for that. He then asked if I believe in it, and I said yes, to an extent, he said he does too as the energies might have something to do with molding someone's personality, and I agreed and said yes and of course there are other factors too like the environment you grew up in, your role models and even your parents traits that one might pick up, and he said yeah, my dad is a workaholic too. he then asked me what my horoscope was and I said I was a Capricorn and that we're similar in traits, and he said oh yeah,, like what? I said cappies are also known to put work before anything and struggle to find a work-life balance and that I too was just like him and would work 14/15 hours day until I crashed some time back. This is when he asked me if i missed working, I said I did now that I've taken a break from the hectic life style .. and the conversation went on.. I can't type it all, but that's how it started and went on.. I don't know now, if he was just being nice or if he was really interested in talking to me...It ended with babba I'm just about to get in to the shower now and rush to work, I'll call u in the evening ok? you're free right, I said I was, but that he didn't have to meet if he got back tired and not to worry about cancelling as it might be tough without any sleep at all, He thanked me for being considerate and told me to take care ok. Talk soon.

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yeah, I can see the confusion. But consider this: he was leaving, you two had a confirmed date for the night.... then you called him and kept on a conversation for 15 mins... yes, I know he contributed to this, but just calling him right away was maybe too much... (I know you were concerned about his safety, but he is a man, he can deal with it).... and, in the evening you messaged him again (it doesnt matter that he blocked you - I now talking about your actions.... if he wouldnt block you, you would be calling and messaging him - I know you two have history and you finally wanted to give him the attention, but it must be balanced, otherwise he will be overwhelmed)

I dont think he only wanted sex.... but maybe he was not prepared to this kind of emotional intense closeness right away.... he has to process it maybe... the pictures of the children of your friends and the calling right away

so be calm, dont overreact, and focus on your Cap thing: finding work, even if you hate the hectic thing...

he will be back, as soon as he process the emotions, so in the meantime do your thing, focus on bettering your life

PS. I am not sure the story with the friends in the car was a good thing to tell him..... I mean, it sounds you cant take care of these type of situations and took it way too seriously... and your stalker guy.... it was just maybe too much information for him..



Pandora101 - I think you're really putting some perspective to this, I think I might have overdone it. Thing is I have been cold towards him before. When he's told me that he's glad we're hanging out, I would say nothing, cos i freeze when nice things are said to me. So since we met 9 months ago and we were meeting after a long time, I promised myself that I will be more open with him when I met him. The pictures of my friend's kids came up, cos he asked me what I had planned for the day, and I told him I have do some work for my company (small less hectic thing) and then most probably babysit my way through the afternoon. He asked if it was the same kids I baby sat sometime ago, I said yes, that i had done it that day too and they're so adorable and I don't mind. He is the one who asked if i had pictures, I pulled out my phone and showed him the one that told me that I'm a really nice person and that she will miss me until i come back and visit her again. He asked politely if he could hold my phone and zoomed in her face, and said she was absolutely adorable but looks mischievous, I said she was a handful, but that I loved her, he then asked to scroll through the album and saw another of my friends kids videos, telling me how I'm his fav aunt and that I should make it for his birthday and asked me for a star wars present.. he said he was very cheeky and reminded him of his nephew.. anyways i guess he wouldn't have been able to handle a new me actually being open to him. I will give it some time. I dont message or call him unless he's called me, he's told me many a time that he thinks Im very private and closed up as a person and he sometimes feels that i want to be left alone.. I said that I am a private person but that I do enjoy his company or I wouldn't have invited him over if i didn't. Anyways i have no plans of getting in contact with him unless he does.. if he does.. Ive blocked him on whatsapp too.. Should I unblock him?

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Posted by Gemitati
Oh yeah? How do you know? Have you ever been intimate? Don’t lie! You haven’t...

Lmao I'm 100% pure intimacy.
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With yourself...
Posted by Pandora101
I just wrote to the other topic, I am not sure which one you see, but I copy it here as well:

you know, I was thinking about your morning ..... OP, you said "he and even took time in his rush to leave to see pictures of my friends and their kids (kids I've talked to him about, telling him how much I love them like my own). He asked if I was free to meet in the night when he got back, I said I was and would love to. He kissed me on the cheek, and left. I called him to see if he got home alright. We spoke for 15 minutes more whilst he was on the way and until he got home and went in to the shower. He told me to take care and even in this conversation, we spoke about our dreams, what we like, about work and our star signs and how we're s much alike. "

you know, maybe it was a mistake to call him and talking to him for a 15 mins in the morning.... maybe it seemed somehow too "suffocating" or "too much" ? its a different thing to talk about these things in a night, and it can be different to talk about dreams and star signs and such when you are in rush to work, your mind is elsewhere and the conversation just doesnt stop..... know what I mean?

I think the 15 mins morning call is what was a bit much...... but I think he will be back after some space, you had a intense time, he maybe needs time to absorbe it
Yep. Scorps hate to be suffocated, however when you know them long enough they can tell you that. At this stage he was probably felt trapped and went to get an air.

It could also be that he felt something for you and it made him feel vulnerable. I’ve known mine for 8 years and when we have some heated up conversation on the phone - he then disappearing for a few days because emotions interfering with his concentration on his work.

At the beginning he was trying to break up with me several time due to inability to do his job officiently. It lasted 1 day max...lol

Unblock him and let him sort his shit out.

If you like him so much - you will have to deal with it...mood swings and crap all the time. But in my case it’s worth it.

Wishing you best luck on this journey.

❤️
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Posted by Gemitati
With yourself...

Shrug, there was Melody. But honestly I'd much prefer just basking in self-love. It's vastly better than dealing with everybody else who are a bunch of mindless dumbass cucks and cuckqueens.
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I knew it! You are a jerk off. It’s transpiring in your posts and you can’t hide it...
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Just tell him to take a long walk off of a short bridge and be done with it
Whyyyy? Who said he is a bad news here?

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Just tell him to take a long walk off of a short bridge and be done with it
Whyyyy? Who said he is a bad news here?

I did lol
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I say he is too deep! And my word counts because...how many Scorpio have you dated?

See? 😎
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Posted by Gemitati
I knew it! You are a jerk off. It’s transpiring in your posts and you can’t hide it...

Lmao, I can get laid whenever and get a date whenever. Nice try tho.
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Like...I could quit smoking anytime type of shit? I know it’s easier for you to think that!

Makes you less inferior...
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Whyyyy? Who said he is a bad news here?

He's playing games with her like a total spazz.
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If he was playing games he would court her into sex and then blocked...that’s what you would do right? Except no one cares about you...ahhhh
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Posted by ScopioConfused
It hurts because, there was another guy that wouldn't let me date anybody and if he found out I was getting to know someone, he would come over to my place and cause a scene. I wanted to make sure that he was completely out of my life before I got to know this guy, as I didn't want to bring drama in to his life, and this is what he does to me.

He knows I haven't slept with anyone in 3 years from the time we met, and that I won't unless I'm in a steady relationship, but he still kept in touch with me for months and would never even try.

Thanks for the advice, if this is his game, then I'm not playing it. I've blocked him too. I have enough on my plate than to deal with manipulation.


Yeah - too much baggage without a doubt.

I'm laughing at some of the "advice" posted here. Really shitty advice, but hey. Good luck.
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He doesn't know anything about the other guy that was being possessive of me. And as for the guy trouble, he pulled it out of me. Anybody who talks to me, including him can never get me to tell them any of my problems. Like, he knew that I am estranged from my family, and he's asked many times, and I always just say we have a difference of opinion and I'm happier alone. He asked me before how many siblings I had, and I always just said I had none. This time he asked me if I had been out lately, and I said I hadn't in a few weeks. He said how come, you're always out. I said yeah sometimes you need a break from the same places and faces. He said how come, I said well some things that happened kinda put me off wanting a social life for a while.. then he probed some more and asked me what do you mean by this? I said you know how drunken friends can get sometimes.. Then he said " were you raped?" I laughed and said, no nothing that serious just some of them being sexually inappropriate with me.. He said you're pretty girl and it's easy to bring that out in a guy, but that by no means justifies it. Then he asked me, are you ok? I said, yeah, these things happen all the time to me and every other woman out there.. nothing to be affected by.. He then asked me what happened? Who are these friends you hang out with? what are their names? I said nothing much just that one groped me and other took his dick out in the drive home asking for a BJ. He jumped out from my bed and said " What?!!! What did you do? I hope you told him off, I then told him that I politely asked him to put his junk back in the trunk or I'll tell his wife about it.. and he did.. He was like for fuck sake, if this happens again, just jump out of the car and call me,I'll come get you no matter what time it is.. I said thanks .. but I'm a big girl, I can handle this. I handle this all the time.. this is why i prefer taking an uber home than freaking idiot friends.. He was curious as to whether I was going to tell the guys wife, and I said, well he put his dick back in, so no. And anyways I don't want drama nor is the wife going to believe me.. so I don't really care.. just going to avoid those freaks from now onwards and never be alone with them again.. He then said you're pretty independent aren't you? I remember even when we first met, how you insisted on dropping your girl friends home who were drunk.. you seem take care of yourself and your friends too.. I smiled and that's about it. I commented saying you do what you have to do to be safe. So it's not like I whined to him or complained about it.. he wanted to know everything.. and he had to literally pull it out of me..
Since nobody here knows me.. I can reveal what I've kept from him, and why I struggled to be open with him before. I had 3 siblings, an older bro and sis(who abused me my entire life) passed away and an younger one, who also did the same. Both my sisters have sent me to the emergency room many times.I left home, as my mother did the same to me.. I was engaged to a man, and he was very hot tempered and did the same. He took my money and wealth and left me homeless after cheating on me. I had built a career from nothing, and he fought with me and even throttled my neck to leave, since I'd lost everything else, I left my job, so as to not lose him and was tired of fighting. After losing my sister, my family, my home, my money, my wealth, my fiance, his family, my career ..and my best friend who I found back stabbed me, I found myself alone and for the first time happy.. Instead of wanting to fill the gaping hole in my life. I got a random job to pay the bills, made new friends and partied it up.. So it's very hard for me to let anybody in to my life.. This is only, the second guy that Ive shown any interest in and even with him, it took me ages to invite him over. He's tried before but I always ignored his subtle hints to visit me at mine.. I get really scared about spending time alone with someone, cos I dont want to get hurt again.. This last visit, I had to drink 3 glasses of wine when he told me he was coming over, so I would ease up around him a bit. (My tolerance for alcohol is very high, although a woman.. I can drink a whole pitcher of beer and nothing happens: so no I wasn't drunk and said anything stupid). The 3 glasses of wine kind of made me open to conversation with him, unlike the one word answers I usually gave him previously. But now after what he did, I know I have gone back many years of the progress I made to learn to trust people. After this, I don;t know if I can trust anybody again.. Sucks.. cos Im tired of being alone and just want one guy to push through my walls and help me feel loved again.. I guess he isn't it.. I chose him out of 100's of guys I met recently (he is only one of two) because he made me feel comfortable. His demeanor was right, he was chilled, attentive and interested in getting to know me, gave me space, wouldnt message me all the time, respected my boundary, seemed protective of me when he used to come get me from places and drop me home on his own intiative.. he would sit up wanting to get to know me and keep probing in to my life.. so I invited him home over for the first time and got blocked..
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Posted by Gemitati
Like...I could quit smoking anytime type of shit? I know it’s easier for you to think that!

Makes you less inferior...

Lay off the meth ya batshit crack whore.
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Based on what? Your loneliness? Lmao
@chuckcem can you come explain to the op how players use the hot and cold, push and pull, to get you hooked.
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Since nobody here know me,, my past is I had 3 siblings, my older bro and sis past away and the only younger one I had abused me sending me to the hospital after which i left home. My mother did the same to me.. In one year, I lost my older sister who died and abused me too, my home, my family, my ex demanded that I quit my career, he took my money and wealth, I got sick and operated on, abused my entire life and then my ex cheated on me all in 1 year and we broke up. He too physically abused me.. After losing my sister, my family, my home, my money, my wealth, my fiance, his family, my career ..and my best friend who i found back stabbed me, I found myself alone and for the first time happy.. Instead of wanting to fill the gaping hole in my life when I had no one, I made new friends and partied it up.. So it's very hard for me to let anybody in to my life.. This is only the second guy that Ive shown any interest in and even with him, it took me ages to invite him over. He's tried before but I always ignored his subtle hints to visit me at mine.. I would get really scared about spending time alone with someone, cos I dont want to get hurt again.. This last visit, I had to drink 3 glasses of wine when he told me he was coming over, so I could ease up around him a bit. My tolerance for alcohol is very high, although a woman.. I can drink a whole pitcher of beer and nothing happens. But the 3 glasses of wine kind of made me a little open to talking to him instead of shutting his questions down.. like I usually did with him.. But now after what he did, I know I have gone back many years of the progress I made to learn to trust people. After this, I don;t know if I can trust anybody.. Sucks.. cos Im tired of being alone and just want one guy to push through my walls and help me feel loved again.. I guess he isn't it.. I chose him out of 100's of guys in the past years I met.. he is only one of two. I dont feel comfortable being alone with many guys.. His demeanor was right, he was chilled, relaxing, gave me space, wouldnt message me all the time, respected my boundary, seemed protective of me when he used to come get me from places and drop me home.. he would sit up wanting to get to know me and keep probing in to my life.. so i invited him home and got blocked..


After reading this I can tell you only that you need to start with getting good friends first to trust, then to start trusting men. You seemed to have gone through a lot of in your life. I don't really understand why all this happened to you and how, how could fiance take your money and everything? Why they put you in hospital? For what?

Regardless, I strongly advise you to not open door just as easy to such guy even if he comes back. I don't understand those comments blaming you for baggage and saying too much etc. But I do agree on the part that you said too much with that part about inappropriate friends. That doesn't justify someone blocking you for sure! But remember not to say that again to guy because they don't see it the way you do trust me. I have a lot of ugly things that happened in my life that I had never told anyone, specially not guys! And people believe I'm an open box just because we Sags come as we're putting everything out there for everyone to see it. But our deepest secrets no one knows and never will, simply because of the fact we know people might abuse them at some point against us. And then you regret you said anything. So isn't it better to spare yourself from all that and keep it to yourself only?

I wish you had some good friend who you could trust and talk about your problems. And I know how hard it is for you Caps to open p to anyone and can only imagine how much it hurts once you d open up to be betrayed by that person. I was trying to get one Cap to open up but didn't succeed quite and it's just a shame cause I know I could help a lot and believe me there is so few people who would actually want to help you and so many of those who will turn their backs on you. But guess you know this already.

You shouldn't feel bad when you open up to someone and they turn their back on you. It only says that they were wrong people and doesn't make you bad for trusting them. We can't know who is good and who is bad from such little knowing them, we can only put trust in it and hope we're not wrong.

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yeah I also believe in not telling anyone anything. I honestly can't be bothered relating stories from my past. They bore me out and I am not even directly affected by it. I am not upset or depressed that I don't have family or been hurt by everyone I've cared for and loved. But it has made me sensitive to ever loving again and the emptiness inside is starting to get on my nerves. More than having someone to love me, I actually miss having someone to love and care about. My older sister was sick since she was a child, and her height was only 4'11. My younger one was slightly obese and 5'3. I was always slim and tall. And had no health problems. So they would get mad when I was able to go out and do things they couldn't. The older one threw boiling hot water on my face one day, because an admirer came home and asked my dad if he could take me out. My younger sister burned my shoes and school books because a guy asked my mom if he could marry me. I wasn't interested in any of them. My sister needed to be in hospital 3 times a week, it was I who would take her and bring her back cos my mom was also sick.. My dad was trying to keep the older one from destroying her newly donated kidney, so keep her away from drinking, he reduced her allowance. To get back at him, she threw a 2 feet ceramic vase on my head which is what sent me to the hospital. After she did that, she called him and told him he ruined her weekend, so she has ruined his favorite daughter's weekend too. I knew everyone in the family was sick, so I always did my own stuff, homework, and even took care of the household work to reduce the work load on the maids and my dad.. He would tell that to people who visited saying that he wouldn't be able to handle all these sick patients if I wasn't the kind of daughter I was. Honestly I still didn't care what they did to me.. I knew it was their own insecurities and short comings they were mad at and not me.. so I let it go.. This is why when people including this guy tried relentlessly to get my past out of me, I could never talk about it.. because its over as far I am concerned and I would rather not tell everybody who knows me and have them feel sorry for me. cos I don need that kind of shit.. I'm keeping away from those creeps that are no good..

As far as my ex goes, I had money, he didn't But he had just graduated with a finance degree and wanted me to let him manage my money and wealth. which i refused to. He then would fight with me everyday and then did an online transfer when I wasn't home and forced me to his lawyers to make him my wealth manager because he said that men should be in charge of the money.. After which he cheated on me and left. Good riddance to bad rubbish really..

I was reading everybody's comment wondering what I should do about this guy? Should I leave him blocked or unblock him.. and I think the advice has helped me decide. I am keeping him blocked. last night was the first time we hung out properly. If he felt the need to block me after a very casual evening and not some intense relationship then it's his problem. If he really wants to get in touch with me, he'll find a way.. My worry was, how long will it be before i can find someone I can hang out with again.. It took this guy 8 years and the one before that 5 years.. I don't even want to think about going through another year alone.. I have so many friends but cos of everything that I am.. I still feel empty Oh well.. thanks everyone for all the advice and time spent trying to help me make sense of this.. I have also ended up speaking about things I have kept to myself for years and think it feels good to let it out if only to strangers that I have never met. probably why it's a lot easier for me.. Take cares

Posted by ScopioConfused
I'm a Capricorn woman and was getting to know this Scorpio man for a few months. It was hard to spend time together, because of my own issues with another man and his schedule. We met up and hung out a few times, he would also pick and drop me from places and parties and take me home if he knew I was going home in a cab alone. After many months we met last night. I messaged him and he wanted to meet immediately so we did. He had never been to my place before, but he said he didn't have much time to spend with me as he had work at 5 am and needed to sleep. He showed at 11 pm and planned to leave by 12, but he ended up leaving at 5.30 am and was very late for work. We didn't even kiss, we just caught up on our lives and I told him how bad I've had it with men being sexually inappropriate with me in recent times. Told him I hated it, and he asked me to call him next time. When he was falling asleep, I tried to leave him be so he can get some sleep before work, but he'd hug me even tighter, and wanted me to rest my head on his shoulder. He told me he wished we did this more, that he struggles to get close to anyone except me (he's 38 and a workaholic who hasn't been in a relationship for years). He told me how I make him feel comfortable, and asked about my plans for NYE, wanted to meet tonight and said he hated that he has to leave me and go to work. He hugged and kissed my forehead and cheeks a lot. We spoke on the way home and he still wanted to know more about me, he started calling me baba and babe, said he really wants to see me again in the night and that he will call me. After which he blocked me.. Can someone please help me make sense of this?
Unless you said something HORRIBLE to him (which I'm sure you'd remember), all that you need to know is that he blocked you for absolutely no reason. Why he blocked you really isn't really that important. What this tells you is that he's a terrible communicator who is actually apathetic to your feelings. His feelings are all that matter to him. Is that someone you'd want to pursue? In order to not leave you hanging thoguh, here are a few reasons he may blocked you:

1. He's emotionally messed up. He knows he has emotional/attachment issues (issues that you CAN'T fix) so when things get to serious, he pushes you away. People like this need professional help, so don't take it personally. He literally may not know how to maintain a healthy relationship with another human being. The deep emotional connection may actually feel wrong to him. This is an issue thats came WAY before you (probably from past trauma and/or family issues) and won't be disappearing any time soon.

2. He's emotionally manipulative. As @LadyNeptune mentioned, certain people (players, narcissists, etc) get their jollies from running hot and cold on people. It's a tactic that grants them emotional control over someone else. Being lovey dovey, then pushing you away is a quick way to get you to question yourself and chase them. This is what they want because now they have you emotionally hooked as you hang on their every word and action. They can keep you waiting forever if you let them.

3. He's extremely insecure. While insecurity is not sign specific, Scorpios can be downright afraid of being emotionally vulnerable. Regardless of the sign though, a persona with low self esteem or extreme paranoia may torch a relationship first out of fear of getting hurt. This is also an issue that you CAN'T fix and something he'll need to address on his own or seek professional help to remedy.

4. He's passive aggressive. He could be the type who breaks things, just to have someone put them back together. A passive aggressive person is constantly creating problems and "testing" the people around them. In reality they are extremely insecure and selfish. They never learned how to work through their own issues. So instead they create problems and wait for someone else to fix them. It's possible this guy wants to see you "work" for his attention in order to make himself feel better about himself. Don't validate this behavior. If you do, he'll only continue "testing" you in the future.

The moral here is, at the end of the day this guy showed you his true colors. In all of the scenarios I mentioned, there's literally nothing you can do. This issue is his alone, not yours. If he can't see your value, that's his problem. Don't worry about why he blocked you, just know that he did and that's disrespctful to you. If he wants you in his life, he needs to find you and make things right. If he doesn't, oh well, someone else will surely be happy to take his place.
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Posted by ScopioConfused
It hurts because, there was another guy that wouldn't let me date anybody and if he found out I was getting to know someone, he would come over to my place and cause a scene. I wanted to make sure that he was completely out of my life before I got to know this guy, as I didn't want to bring drama in to his life, and this is what he does to me.

He knows I haven't slept with anyone in 3 years from the time we met, and that I won't unless I'm in a steady relationship, but he still kept in touch with me for months and would never even try.

Thanks for the advice, if this is his game, then I'm not playing it. I've blocked him too. I have enough on my plate than to deal with manipulation.


Yeah - too much baggage without a doubt.

I'm laughing at some of the "advice" posted here. Really shitty advice, but hey. Good luck.
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Posted by ScopioConfused
I'm a Capricorn woman and was getting to know this Scorpio man for a few months. It was hard to spend time together, because of my own issues with another man and his schedule. We met up and hung out a few times, he would also pick and drop me from places and parties and take me home if he knew I was going home in a cab alone. After many months we met last night. I messaged him and he wanted to meet immediately so we did. He had never been to my place before, but he said he didn't have much time to spend with me as he had work at 5 am and needed to sleep. He showed at 11 pm and planned to leave by 12, but he ended up leaving at 5.30 am and was very late for work. We didn't even kiss, we just caught up on our lives and I told him how bad I've had it with men being sexually inappropriate with me in recent times. Told him I hated it, and he asked me to call him next time. When he was falling asleep, I tried to leave him be so he can get some sleep before work, but he'd hug me even tighter, and wanted me to rest my head on his shoulder. He told me he wished we did this more, that he struggles to get close to anyone except me (he's 38 and a workaholic who hasn't been in a relationship for years). He told me how I make him feel comfortable, and asked about my plans for NYE, wanted to meet tonight and said he hated that he has to leave me and go to work. He hugged and kissed my forehead and cheeks a lot. We spoke on the way home and he still wanted to know more about me, he started calling me baba and babe, said he really wants to see me again in the night and that he will call me. After which he blocked me.. Can someone please help me make sense of this?
Unless you said something HORRIBLE to him (which I'm sure you'd remember), all that you need to know is that he blocked you for absolutely no reason. Why he blocked you really isn't really that important. What this tells you is that he's a terrible communicator who is actually apathetic to your feelings. His feelings are all that matter to him. Is that someone you'd want to pursue? In order to not leave you hanging thoguh, here are a few reasons he may blocked you:

1. He's emotionally messed up. He knows he has emotional/attachment issues (issues that you CAN'T fix) so when things get to serious, he pushes you away. People like this need professional help, so don't take it personally. He literally may not know how to maintain a healthy relationship with another human being. The deep emotional connection may actually feel wrong to him. This is an issue thats came WAY before you (probably from past trauma and/or family issues) and won't be disappearing any time soon.

2. He's emotionally manipulative. As @LadyNeptune mentioned, certain people (players, narcissists, etc) get their jollies from running hot and cold on people. It's a tactic that grants them emotional control over someone else. Being lovey dovey, then pushing you away is a quick way to get you to question yourself and chase them. This is what they want because now they have you emotionally hooked as you hang on their every word and action. They can keep you waiting forever if you let them.

3. He's extremely insecure. While insecurity is not sign specific, Scorpios can be downright afraid of being emotionally vulnerable. Regardless of the sign though, a persona with low self esteem or extreme paranoia may torch a relationship first out of fear of getting hurt. This is also an issue that you CAN'T fix and something he'll need to address on his own or seek professional help to remedy.

4. He's passive aggressive. He could be the type who breaks things, just to have someone put them back together. A passive aggressive person is constantly creating problems and "testing" the people around them. In reality they are extremely insecure and selfish. They never learned how to work through their own issues. So instead they create problems and wait for someone else to fix them. It's possible this guy wants to see you "work" for his attention in order to make himself feel better about himself. Don't validate this behavior. If you do, he'll only continue "testing" you in the future.

The moral here is, at the end of the day this guy showed you his true colors. In all of the scenarios I mentioned, there's literally nothing you can do. This issue is his alone, not yours. If he can't see your value, that's his problem. Don't worry about why he blocked you, just know that he did and that's disrespectful to you. If he wants you in his life, he needs to find you and make things right. If he doesn't, oh well, someone else will surely be happy to take his place.
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Thanks so much Chuckcem for taking time out of your day to give a random stranger some really solid advice. What you said has helped me not blame myself. The stuff about him feeling uncomfortable about being too close to someone made sense. Cos something struck me; when I was trying to pull away from when he was sleeping, he woke up immediately and said: "I never have this, so hug me" May be he does have his own issues that he hasn't dealt with and it freaked him out. I mean he is 38 and hasn't been in a relationship for god knows how long. I don't know much about him either.

Even if he was a player/narcissist - I have dodged a bullet then, because I am never the type to chase after anybody and once I close myself up to someone I have never been able to take them back again.

One thing is certain though, considering I have a lot of issues with opening up, I need someone without issues to help me feel safe and secure. I don't have the energy or the mental capacity to deal with too much right now.

Thanks again for all advice. I really appreciate it..

Posted by UnicornSag
Posted by ScopioConfused

yeah I also believe in not telling anyone anything. I honestly can't be bothered relating stories from my past. They bore me out and I am not even directly affected by it. I am not upset or depressed that I don't have family or been hurt by everyone I've cared for and loved. But it has made me sensitive to ever loving again and the emptiness inside is starting to get on my nerves. More than having someone to love me, I actually miss having someone to love and care about. My older sister was sick since she was a child, and her height was only 4'11. My younger one was slightly obese and 5'3. I was always slim and tall. And had no health problems. So they would get mad when I was able to go out and do things they couldn't. The older one threw boiling hot water on my face one day, because an admirer came home and asked my dad if he could take me out. My younger sister burned my shoes and school books because a guy asked my mom if he could marry me. I wasn't interested in any of them. My sister needed to be in hospital 3 times a week, it was I who would take her and bring her back cos my mom was also sick.. My dad was trying to keep the older one from destroying her newly donated kidney, so keep her away from drinking, he reduced her allowance. To get back at him, she threw a 2 feet ceramic vase on my head which is what sent me to the hospital. After she did that, she called him and told him he ruined her weekend, so she has ruined his favorite daughter's weekend too. I knew everyone in the family was sick, so I always did my own stuff, homework, and even took care of the household work to reduce the work load on the maids and my dad.. He would tell that to people who visited saying that he wouldn't be able to handle all these sick patients if I wasn't the kind of daughter I was. Honestly I still didn't care what they did to me.. I knew it was their own insecurities and short comings they were mad at and not me.. so I let it go.. This is why when people including this guy tried relentlessly to get my past out of me, I could never talk about it.. because its over as far I am concerned and I would rather not tell everybody who knows me and have them feel sorry for me. cos I don need that kind of shit.. I'm keeping away from those creeps that are no good..

As far as my ex goes, I had money, he didn't But he had just graduated with a finance degree and wanted me to let him manage my money and wealth. which i refused to. He then would fight with me everyday and then did an online transfer when I wasn't home and forced me to his lawyers to make him my wealth manager because he said that men should be in charge of the money.. After which he cheated on me and left. Good riddance to bad rubbish really..

I was reading everybody's comment wondering what I should do about this guy? Should I leave him blocked or unblock him.. and I think the advice has helped me decide. I am keeping him blocked. last night was the first time we hung out properly. If he felt the need to block me after a very casual evening and not some intense relationship then it's his problem. If he really wants to get in touch with me, he'll find a way.. My worry was, how long will it be before i can find someone I can hang out with again.. It took this guy 8 years and the one before that 5 years.. I don't even want to think about going through another year alone.. I have so many friends but cos of everything that I am.. I still feel empty Oh well.. thanks everyone for all the advice and time spent trying to help me make sense of this.. I have also ended up speaking about things I have kept to myself for years and think it feels good to let it out if only to strangers that I have never met. probably why it's a lot easier for me.. Take cares



You had a really hard life and it's only good that you're a strong person to cope with all that. Those are some hard things to go through and deal with, I feel sorry that you had to go through all that but not in a way that I pity you, I just wouldn't wish anyone ever have to go through so much if you get what I mean. You're right for not telling people about it and also I'm glad if it helped you telling it out to strangers, it's always easier that way and I know how hard it can be keeping hard things about your life just to yourself and not being able to talk to anyone about it. Sincerely I wish you to find a good man that will understand you and respect you above everything else. I've had a friend from high school who had really hard life herself too so have some insight in such things in life and always tried to talk to her about hard things but never made her think I pity her for it. I just like to help people feel better if they're going through something so I guess it helped her as well to feel better knowing she has someone to listen and advise if needed without abusing it against her at some point. That's what friends are for after all anyway.

You're right to remove this guy from your life. I have exactly the same opinion as you just wrote here. If someone is ready to run away so easy you don't need them in your life. Personally I want someone who stays through hard times too and fights for it instead of leaving on first clue it might get hard. I don't see why people try to explain his behavior and try to find what went wrong in it. It's very simple, guy isn't stable and why would you need to deal with it? Any stable person would definitely not block you after being close and open to you. We may try to find explanations for such behavior but there is no justification for it tho. I know it's hard to get close to people specially when they betray you like this what happened to you but luckily not everyone is bad and not everyone will do that at some point. I always say some people just come in our life as lessons to learn. It's not bad tho, we still learned something even from those bad ones and may not see the purpose right now but sometime later maybe. Best way is to be casual with everyone and those special ones will out stand in crowd any way at some point. Hope you have better luck and better guys in your life and not need to wait nearly as long for the next one smile
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Thanks Unicorn Sag. I know what you mean, I wish I didn't have to go through it all either but, whats happened is happened and it's over now. The one thing I was born with is mental/emotional strength It's very rare that people are willing to listen to somebody's problems purely for the benefit of the person struggling. Usually, in my experience, people (men) either tell me their problems, looking for sympathy and eventually for me to get in to bed with them. Or they want to hear my life story for the same reasons but I never give in. learning to trust is the hardest for me right now, because just everybody I have ever trusted so far as let me down. We're 14 days away from the end of the year, I might be jinxing my luck right now, but I really hope I meet someone in the near year. I hope we all find what we're looking for. I can't believe that in my desperate urge to make sense of what happened to me with this guy, has opened up a world of friendly strangers willing to hear me out and advice me when they've never met me. So for that thanks everyone.
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Posted by ScopioConfused
I'm a Capricorn woman and was getting to know this Scorpio man for a few months. It was hard to spend time together, because of my own issues with another man and his schedule. We met up and hung out a few times, he would also pick and drop me from places and parties and take me home if he knew I was going home in a cab alone. After many months we met last night. I messaged him and he wanted to meet immediately so we did. He had never been to my place before, but he said he didn't have much time to spend with me as he had work at 5 am and needed to sleep. He showed at 11 pm and planned to leave by 12, but he ended up leaving at 5.30 am and was very late for work. We didn't even kiss, we just caught up on our lives and I told him how bad I've had it with men being sexually inappropriate with me in recent times. Told him I hated it, and he asked me to call him next time. When he was falling asleep, I tried to leave him be so he can get some sleep before work, but he'd hug me even tighter, and wanted me to rest my head on his shoulder. He told me he wished we did this more, that he struggles to get close to anyone except me (he's 38 and a workaholic who hasn't been in a relationship for years). He told me how I make him feel comfortable, and asked about my plans for NYE, wanted to meet tonight and said he hated that he has to leave me and go to work. He hugged and kissed my forehead and cheeks a lot. We spoke on the way home and he still wanted to know more about me, he started calling me baba and babe, said he really wants to see me again in the night and that he will call me. After which he blocked me.. Can someone please help me make sense of this?
Unless you said something HORRIBLE to him (which I'm sure you'd remember), all that you need to know is that he blocked you for absolutely no reason. Why he blocked you really isn't really that important. What this tells you is that he's a terrible communicator who is actually apathetic to your feelings. His feelings are all that matter to him. Is that someone you'd want to pursue? In order to not leave you hanging thoguh, here are a few reasons he may blocked you:

1. He's emotionally messed up. He knows he has emotional/attachment issues (issues that you CAN'T fix) so when things get to serious, he pushes you away. People like this need professional help, so don't take it personally. He literally may not know how to maintain a healthy relationship with another human being. The deep emotional connection may actually feel wrong to him. This is an issue thats came WAY before you (probably from past trauma and/or family issues) and won't be disappearing any time soon.

2. He's emotionally manipulative. As @LadyNeptune mentioned, certain people (players, narcissists, etc) get their jollies from running hot and cold on people. It's a tactic that grants them emotional control over someone else. Being lovey dovey, then pushing you away is a quick way to get you to question yourself and chase them. This is what they want because now they have you emotionally hooked as you hang on their every word and action. They can keep you waiting forever if you let them.

3. He's extremely insecure. While insecurity is not sign specific, Scorpios can be downright afraid of being emotionally vulnerable. Regardless of the sign though, a persona with low self esteem or extreme paranoia may torch a relationship first out of fear of getting hurt. This is also an issue that you CAN'T fix and something he'll need to address on his own or seek professional help to remedy.

4. He's passive aggressive. He could be the type who breaks things, just to have someone put them back together. A passive aggressive person is constantly creating problems and "testing" the people around them. In reality they are extremely insecure and selfish. They never learned how to work through their own issues. So instead they create problems and wait for someone else to fix them. It's possible this guy wants to see you "work" for his attention in order to make himself feel better about himself. Don't validate this behavior. If you do, he'll only continue "testing" you in the future.

The moral here is, at the end of the day this guy showed you his true colors. In all of the scenarios I mentioned, there's literally nothing you can do. This issue is his alone, not yours. If he can't see your value, that's his problem. Don't worry about why he blocked you, just know that he did and that's disrespctful to you. If he wants you in his life, he needs to find you and make things right. If he doesn't, oh well, someone else will surely be happy to take his place.
👆👆 chuckcem said it all!!!!

And unicornsag too!!

I hope youll find out that you worth more then this. Cause you do..

We humans have a way of always trying to find the fault in our self.

And that is not a bad thing. We should, to some level... however.... There are two sides... The trick is to understand that it could be something from both sides or something from one side that just doesnt work

In this case... Definitely both... One: you should do what unicornsag said. Work on yourself!! And get good friends... A trustworthy social network. You matter!.... Its not your fault but you do need to put yourself first now.

Two: what chuckcem said!! Whatever reason he has. One thing is clear. This man isnt ready for any relationship. Maybe unhealthy ones.

Leave him behind Honey.

Blocking is realllly childish and not done!!!

I know a vew men who are really bad in making deep connections but they never block unless its a stalker female. But otherwise nooo

They may find it hard to Hurt the poor girl but then they never went as far he did. Just have sex without all the romantic stuff

This man went wayyyyyyyy fast and then dropped you and cut you off

What chuckcem said. Even if that man comes back

What IS coming back to you? A open door to an unhealthy relationship???

Trust me.... Better alone and the possibility that a great man comes along then stuck and wasting your time with a relationship that will Hurt you

Sounds like you have work to do in your own life and he has work to do in his own.

Life!!! Get stronger!! And then strong men who wont block you will come along 😉😉💪😘

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All of you have been just awesome. Awesome advice and I'm not even upset anymore. Feel as though I haven't lost much. You're right, I'm still quite broken and need a lot of fixing on my part.. Starting off with being more open to people. I might be going for the wrong guys because I can't open up to more possibilities??

You know that's actually that what went through my mind when I realized he's blocked me. I almost never messaged him, except when he does. I've never called him except that day when he left and I aint no stalker, no was I his Gf that he had a huge fight with.. This is why I was left completely flabbergasted. I have a long block list of my own, but they're usually for men, who won't leave me alone when I barely know them or creeps that ask for nudes when I don't know them.. I've never spent time with someone and then blocked them out of the blue.

What ever it is, it's his problem. I was looking forward to someday hearing from him and was wondering if I should unblock him on my part, but you have all made me feel good about myself that I don't need that kind of negativity nor do I need that sort of drama or games. I'm just going to count my blessings and move on from him..

Thanks everyone.. Thanks so much..



@Scorpioabuse,

I empathize with your situation.

I'm real sorry for what you had to go through in life with your friends and family members.

However, I disagree with some of the posters.

Blocking someone is drastic.

Game-players who want emotional control, or insist on playing emotional games, keep those communication lines open. How else are they're going to feel empowered? Communication may now be sporadic instead of consistent, but it will never permanently cease at the spur of the moment. The cat and mouse game requires two parties involved.

When someone has been blocked, it screams "Game Over."

There are no more players involved.

You weren't blocked by a child throwing a tantrum, you were blocked by a grown man who knows what he wants.

From my experiences with Scorpios who fear emotional closeness, they don't dive right in, they play their cards closer to their chests, and will unveil themselves in doses depending on the level of trust that they have established with their partners.

But to block someone out of fear of closeness?

Nah, that's not likely.

You may never get your answer.

Find peace with it, and move on.
OP, I still dont think he is a player

maybe he is messed up with a lots of baggage and cant deal with your baggage at the moment....

as you said, you dont need negativity in your life, maybe he thought the same? Maybe he felt too protective of you but later on realized, he is not in a right place to help you or deal with your baggage?

I still think he will be back, because there was a connection.... just maybe too intense for a beginning

if he is messed up emotionally, he just maybe cant deal with more mess at the moment...
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Posted by ScopioConfused
I'm a Capricorn woman and was getting to know this Scorpio man for a few months. It was hard to spend time together, because of my own issues with another man and his schedule. We met up and hung out a few times, he would also pick and drop me from places and parties and take me home if he knew I was going home in a cab alone. After many months we met last night. I messaged him and he wanted to meet immediately so we did. He had never been to my place before, but he said he didn't have much time to spend with me as he had work at 5 am and needed to sleep. He showed at 11 pm and planned to leave by 12, but he ended up leaving at 5.30 am and was very late for work. We didn't even kiss, we just caught up on our lives and I told him how bad I've had it with men being sexually inappropriate with me in recent times. Told him I hated it, and he asked me to call him next time. When he was falling asleep, I tried to leave him be so he can get some sleep before work, but he'd hug me even tighter, and wanted me to rest my head on his shoulder. He told me he wished we did this more, that he struggles to get close to anyone except me (he's 38 and a workaholic who hasn't been in a relationship for years). He told me how I make him feel comfortable, and asked about my plans for NYE, wanted to meet tonight and said he hated that he has to leave me and go to work. He hugged and kissed my forehead and cheeks a lot. We spoke on the way home and he still wanted to know more about me, he started calling me baba and babe, said he really wants to see me again in the night and that he will call me. After which he blocked me.. Can someone please help me make sense of this?
Unless you said something HORRIBLE to him (which I'm sure you'd remember), all that you need to know is that he blocked you for absolutely no reason. Why he blocked you really isn't really that important. What this tells you is that he's a terrible communicator who is actually apathetic to your feelings. His feelings are all that matter to him. Is that someone you'd want to pursue? In order to not leave you hanging thoguh, here are a few reasons he may blocked you:

1. He's emotionally messed up. He knows he has emotional/attachment issues (issues that you CAN'T fix) so when things get to serious, he pushes you away. People like this need professional help, so don't take it personally. He literally may not know how to maintain a healthy relationship with another human being. The deep emotional connection may actually feel wrong to him. This is an issue thats came WAY before you (probably from past trauma and/or family issues) and won't be disappearing any time soon.

2. He's emotionally manipulative. As @LadyNeptune mentioned, certain people (players, narcissists, etc) get their jollies from running hot and cold on people. It's a tactic that grants them emotional control over someone else. Being lovey dovey, then pushing you away is a quick way to get you to question yourself and chase them. This is what they want because now they have you emotionally hooked as you hang on their every word and action. They can keep you waiting forever if you let them.

3. He's extremely insecure. While insecurity is not sign specific, Scorpios can be downright afraid of being emotionally vulnerable. Regardless of the sign though, a persona with low self esteem or extreme paranoia may torch a relationship first out of fear of getting hurt. This is also an issue that you CAN'T fix and something he'll need to address on his own or seek professional help to remedy.

4. He's passive aggressive. He could be the type who breaks things, just to have someone put them back together. A passive aggressive person is constantly creating problems and "testing" the people around them. In reality they are extremely insecure and selfish. They never learned how to work through their own issues. So instead they create problems and wait for someone else to fix them. It's possible this guy wants to see you "work" for his attention in order to make himself feel better about himself. Don't validate this behavior. If you do, he'll only continue "testing" you in the future.

The moral here is, at the end of the day this guy showed you his true colors. In all of the scenarios I mentioned, there's literally nothing you can do. This issue is his alone, not yours. If he can't see your value, that's his problem. Don't worry about why he blocked you, just know that he did and that's disrespctful to you. If he wants you in his life, he needs to find you and make things right. If he doesn't, oh well, someone else will surely be happy to take his place.
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Chuck, its a two way street, both has to be emotionally and mentally prepared to not burden the other with their past

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Posted by ScopioConfused
I'm a Capricorn woman and was getting to know this Scorpio man for a few months. It was hard to spend time together, because of my own issues with another man and his schedule. We met up and hung out a few times, he would also pick and drop me from places and parties and take me home if he knew I was going home in a cab alone. After many months we met last night. I messaged him and he wanted to meet immediately so we did. He had never been to my place before, but he said he didn't have much time to spend with me as he had work at 5 am and needed to sleep. He showed at 11 pm and planned to leave by 12, but he ended up leaving at 5.30 am and was very late for work. We didn't even kiss, we just caught up on our lives and I told him how bad I've had it with men being sexually inappropriate with me in recent times. Told him I hated it, and he asked me to call him next time. When he was falling asleep, I tried to leave him be so he can get some sleep before work, but he'd hug me even tighter, and wanted me to rest my head on his shoulder. He told me he wished we did this more, that he struggles to get close to anyone except me (he's 38 and a workaholic who hasn't been in a relationship for years). He told me how I make him feel comfortable, and asked about my plans for NYE, wanted to meet tonight and said he hated that he has to leave me and go to work. He hugged and kissed my forehead and cheeks a lot. We spoke on the way home and he still wanted to know more about me, he started calling me baba and babe, said he really wants to see me again in the night and that he will call me. After which he blocked me.. Can someone please help me make sense of this?
Unless you said something HORRIBLE to him (which I'm sure you'd remember), all that you need to know is that he blocked you for absolutely no reason. Why he blocked you really isn't really that important. What this tells you is that he's a terrible communicator who is actually apathetic to your feelings. His feelings are all that matter to him. Is that someone you'd want to pursue? In order to not leave you hanging thoguh, here are a few reasons he may blocked you:

1. He's emotionally messed up. He knows he has emotional/attachment issues (issues that you CAN'T fix) so when things get to serious, he pushes you away. People like this need professional help, so don't take it personally. He literally may not know how to maintain a healthy relationship with another human being. The deep emotional connection may actually feel wrong to him. This is an issue thats came WAY before you (probably from past trauma and/or family issues) and won't be disappearing any time soon.

2. He's emotionally manipulative. As @LadyNeptune mentioned, certain people (players, narcissists, etc) get their jollies from running hot and cold on people. It's a tactic that grants them emotional control over someone else. Being lovey dovey, then pushing you away is a quick way to get you to question yourself and chase them. This is what they want because now they have you emotionally hooked as you hang on their every word and action. They can keep you waiting forever if you let them.

3. He's extremely insecure. While insecurity is not sign specific, Scorpios can be downright afraid of being emotionally vulnerable. Regardless of the sign though, a persona with low self esteem or extreme paranoia may torch a relationship first out of fear of getting hurt. This is also an issue that you CAN'T fix and something he'll need to address on his own or seek professional help to remedy.

4. He's passive aggressive. He could be the type who breaks things, just to have someone put them back together. A passive aggressive person is constantly creating problems and "testing" the people around them. In reality they are extremely insecure and selfish. They never learned how to work through their own issues. So instead they create problems and wait for someone else to fix them. It's possible this guy wants to see you "work" for his attention in order to make himself feel better about himself. Don't validate this behavior. If you do, he'll only continue "testing" you in the future.

The moral here is, at the end of the day this guy showed you his true colors. In all of the scenarios I mentioned, there's literally nothing you can do. This issue is his alone, not yours. If he can't see your value, that's his problem. Don't worry about why he blocked you, just know that he did and that's disrespctful to you. If he wants you in his life, he needs to find you and make things right. If he doesn't, oh well, someone else will surely be happy to take his place.
Chuck, its a two way street, both has to be emotionally and mentally prepared to not burden the other with their past

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He was probably drunk during your entire interaction with him, woke up from his stupor, realized what he did, and decided to keep it moving,
Hmm.. The reasons are endless

1) He was uncomfortable getting too close or couldn't handle having feelings for me and he freaked and left.

2) He felt I needed protection and he's been protective of me in the past, but didn't feel he was in the right place for it now.

3) He was dating somebody else in the time we weren't together and popped in to see me and then regretted it. (This turned on a light bulb: When I told him the friends that were inappropriate with me were with S/O, he was probably with someone too, I mean we hadn't met for months so may be he found someone in the mean time and got scared when I made my principles clear to him. I won't do anything with taken men.

4) I had too much baggage for him

5) He had too much baggage for me

6) I wasn't being too open with him and he felt I needed space

7) He's a player and does this all the time to manipulate

8) I may have said or done something that I don't know that ticked him off and I may never know

9) He was tired and blocked everyone. I highly doubt this, cos his phone is an official phone and he can't not answer client calls.

10) He was drunk the whole time and regretted it after. He doesn't drink and drive. He was after a dinner party but he had just a glass of alcohol early on at the dinner cos he said he'd been tired to drink. He was very sober when he came over.

11) Something else that went on in his mind that I couldn't know or pick up on.

I went through the entire conversation with him in my head, in an attempt to figure this out, but the rest of it was just random chatter; music, movies, etc..

Ganon: I only blocked him back, because I don't want him to think that he can play with my feelings. If he wants out of my life, then he can stay there. I can't be waiting for him to someday get in touch with me again. This way I know never will and I can move on. I also feel blocking me was way too drastic of an action to take because I'm not some crazy psycho stalker or someone that messages him at all. So if he blocked me, I felt it was a permanent decision on his part.

Anyways I've made my peace with this..



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just maybe he was soo tired (he told you he was) that he blocked EVERYBODY in order to get a good rest without disturbance?

Yes thats it. Its common practice to block ppl when you want to sleep and not put your phone on not disturb or shutting it off.

I BBBBLOCK EERYBODY I NEED TO GET ME SUM PILLOW TIME!

Posted by ScopioConfused
I'm a Capricorn woman and was getting to know this Scorpio man for a few months. It was hard to spend time together, because of my own issues with another man and his schedule. We met up and hung out a few times, he would also pick and drop me from places and parties and take me home if he knew I was going home in a cab alone. After many months we met last night. I messaged him and he wanted to meet immediately so we did. He had never been to my place before, but he said he didn't have much time to spend with me as he had work at 5 am and needed to sleep. He showed at 11 pm and planned to leave by 12, but he ended up leaving at 5.30 am and was very late for work. We didn't even kiss, we just caught up on our lives and I told him how bad I've had it with men being sexually inappropriate with me in recent times. Told him I hated it, and he asked me to call him next time. When he was falling asleep, I tried to leave him be so he can get some sleep before work, but he'd hug me even tighter, and wanted me to rest my head on his shoulder. He told me he wished we did this more, that he struggles to get close to anyone except me (he's 38 and a workaholic who hasn't been in a relationship for years). He told me how I make him feel comfortable, and asked about my plans for NYE, wanted to meet tonight and said he hated that he has to leave me and go to work. He hugged and kissed my forehead and cheeks a lot. We spoke on the way home and he still wanted to know more about me, he started calling me baba and babe, said he really wants to see me again in the night and that he will call me. After which he blocked me.. Can someone please help me make sense of this?


all i saw was...he's a workaholic in his 30s and has not had a relationship for YEARS..

red flag.