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Posted by tizianiI've never seen one!
There are plenty of stories from regular members here of leaving their partners just because they chose to leave, no other reason.
And o don't think there is good search engine for it here. 😢
I think people take marriages far too lightly nowadays, and are too use to instant gratification. Instead of working through issues, and working as a couple, they give up. Always thinking that a "spark" has to always be there. One or the other person, then goes in search of that "honeymoon" period, because they get "bored".
In your particular case, you could have worked on your marriage, but choose to give your attention and affection to another person. Your marriage was doomed for failure right then and there, because you focused the attention you should have been giving to your husband to someone else.
In your particular case, you could have worked on your marriage, but choose to give your attention and affection to another person. Your marriage was doomed for failure right then and there, because you focused the attention you should have been giving to your husband to someone else.
Posted by TheTinManUnless you see way to be happy instead of not!
I'm pretty sure we all have spouses that can be lazy and pretty annoying at times. but we all (not just you) still accept that. I wouldn't think that would be an excuse to call your marriage quits.
Posted by -elle-Well we both had been married 23 and 28 years. So you can hardly say marriage is not for us.
Not hating....promise....
I just have a question.
Right now, you are very interested in your scorp and he appears interested in you.
You are both married.
What's to say you go ahead and get divorced...marry the scorp and then come to the conclusion that he is boring too?
That's three marriages that were ultimately destroyed in the end.
Maybe marriage is not for you?
No shade.
Some people just can't do with the stability, consistency and the monotony of marriage and need the opposite to be happy.
Nothing wrong with that, but something to consider before you introduce anything new in your life so you don't set yourself up for the same screenplay....just with different characters.
Our relashionships is 8 y/old so boring or not there is more! I can watch him sleep and be on a cloud 9!
Don't we have rights to be happy at least at the finish line of our lives?
But it wasn't a question!
Question was how to divorce nice guy!
Not if I should do it? Yes I should!
How though?
You need a very, very good lawyer.
This though...
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?Â
You can't.
What unfolded with the Scorp?
Posted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
Posted by TheTinManScorpio isn't my husband and I am may 26 so not so early!Posted by Gemitatiwell what do you really want in your relationship in order to be happy? if you not happy with your Scorpio husband, why continue to be with him? you must be an earthy Gemini.Posted by TheTinManUnless you see way to be happy instead of not!
I'm pretty sure we all have spouses that can be lazy and pretty annoying at times. but we all (not just you) still accept that. I wouldn't think that would be an excuse to call your marriage quits.
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I had explained why o am with my husband!
After 23 years who remembers— Lol
And I am happy for 8 years with a Scorpio.
Now we are talking about what's next. So I can't imagine how to break the news without killing my Cap husband!
Posted by EllygantEXACTLY
You're not doing him any favors by providing him a false sense of love. It sucks for him. But having been divorced three times prior, I'm sure he knows the deal by now.
You've already cheated and perpetuated a false sense of security by lying about it. At this point telling him is the nicest thing you can do. There's no painless way to break someone's heart, you might as well get it over with.
But love of God, if things don't work out with the Scorp do not go back to the cap for sake of safety cause he will gut you lol.
Posted by EllygantI've behaves civil and haven't not anyone's head have I?
Elle makes some good points OP. She's not knocking on you, just suggesting ways to improve your relationships actually.
Pop astrology says Scorpios are mysterious but I think Geminis are the true zodiac mystery lol. Scorpios aren't mysterious just constipated, emotionally speaking. 😛 Geminis need a whole detective unit for me to try and keep up with them though. 😆
So keep them coming!
Posted by GemitatiYes but if and when you live with him day in, day out, he may become boring tooPosted by -elle-Well we both had been married 23 and 28 years. So you can hardly say marriage is not for us.
Not hating....promise....
I just have a question.
Right now, you are very interested in your scorp and he appears interested in you.
You are both married.
What's to say you go ahead and get divorced...marry the scorp and then come to the conclusion that he is boring too?
That's three marriages that were ultimately destroyed in the end.
Maybe marriage is not for you?
No shade.
Some people just can't do with the stability, consistency and the monotony of marriage and need the opposite to be happy.
Nothing wrong with that, but something to consider before you introduce anything new in your life so you don't set yourself up for the same screenplay....just with different characters.
Our relashionships is 8 y/old so boring or not there is more! I can watch him sleep and be on a cloud 9!
Don't we have rights to be happy at least at the finish line of our lives?
But it wasn't a question!
Question was how to divorce nice guy!
Not if I should do it? Yes I should!
How though?click to expand
Posted by Gemitatihow to divorce a nice guy and not hurt him bad?Posted by -elle-Well we both had been married 23 and 28 years. So you can hardly say marriage is not for us.
Not hating....promise....
I just have a question.
Right now, you are very interested in your scorp and he appears interested in you.
You are both married.
What's to say you go ahead and get divorced...marry the scorp and then come to the conclusion that he is boring too?
That's three marriages that were ultimately destroyed in the end.
Maybe marriage is not for you?
No shade.
Some people just can't do with the stability, consistency and the monotony of marriage and need the opposite to be happy.
Nothing wrong with that, but something to consider before you introduce anything new in your life so you don't set yourself up for the same screenplay....just with different characters.
Our relashionships is 8 y/old so boring or not there is more! I can watch him sleep and be on a cloud 9!
Don't we have rights to be happy at least at the finish line of our lives?
But it wasn't a question!
Question was how to divorce nice guy!
Not if I should do it? Yes I should!
How though?click to expand
when you decided to step out, you already decided to hurt him. you just lack of courage to face his reaction. If you have a heart after all, be honest. Tell him there is no real love in this marriage and you have been unhappy. your heart is somewhere else and you cannot stay in this marriage any longer. You are really sorry that it ends this way. And don't fight for his money if you are a human being
Posted by MontgomeryI frigging know. That's why I am agonizing!
You need a very, very good lawyer.
This though...
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?Â
You can't.
What unfolded with the Scorp?
Scorp told me we have to try and finally get life we want though a few months ago he said we have what we have not what we want.
Now we are talking about how to change it so less bodies be left on battlefield.
It seems all I wanted. Now I am shitless.
And no! I don't need a good lawyer but he will need the best there born!!!
Unless we can agree on free marriages and try first. I don't know!!!
I agree a marriage just may not be for you. Maybe you should divorce and be in an open relationship. Then again how do you know that the whole idea of keeping your Scorp a secret is not what is appealing to the whole relationship you have with your Scorp.
I had a friend who was cheating on her boyfriend who was fathering both of her children and the way she talked about it, it was like she only cheated because she wanted to get caught so her boyfriend would value her more she didn't say that but it was obvious she wanted to get caught so he would realize their relationship was in danger because he wasn't hearing her. Now that he knows I don't think she really cares about the other guy I think she just wants her relationship to work even though it is pretty damaged now.
You have to ask yourself what are your reasons for cheating because if you are just filling a temporary need it could turn into Unrequited love very fast because he probably wouldn't take the relationship serious if it was just the two of you because he would always be wondering if you were going to cheat. Hypocritical I know, but that is the nature of men.
Have you and Scorp talked in all seriousness about a future together? Don't get me wrong I still think that you should leave either way because your husband deserves the right kind of love, but just know that Scorp may not be your forever love. So before entering a full relationship with him think about what you really want.
I had a friend who was cheating on her boyfriend who was fathering both of her children and the way she talked about it, it was like she only cheated because she wanted to get caught so her boyfriend would value her more she didn't say that but it was obvious she wanted to get caught so he would realize their relationship was in danger because he wasn't hearing her. Now that he knows I don't think she really cares about the other guy I think she just wants her relationship to work even though it is pretty damaged now.
You have to ask yourself what are your reasons for cheating because if you are just filling a temporary need it could turn into Unrequited love very fast because he probably wouldn't take the relationship serious if it was just the two of you because he would always be wondering if you were going to cheat. Hypocritical I know, but that is the nature of men.
Have you and Scorp talked in all seriousness about a future together? Don't get me wrong I still think that you should leave either way because your husband deserves the right kind of love, but just know that Scorp may not be your forever love. So before entering a full relationship with him think about what you really want.
Posted by DepthAndDeathSee? If my husband paid attention by taking his head out of his ass - he would know! I told him!!! He laughed! He still calling my Scorp 'your lover'...and he knows him! And he knows we are mad about each other!Posted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
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He had never changed to save our marriage! As long as he is served his dinner - that's all he needs! He is happy!
My MOM can do it for him!
I've moved to another room - no reaction!
He asked why - I said I go to bed much earlier so...
He takes me for very granted! Like a piece of furniture it's cozy and comfy!
But he is still a nice guy so I feel awful!
Posted by DepthAndDeathPosted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢click to expand
+1,000 Do you think he knows about your relationship ? I mean 8 years is a long time.
Posted by -elle-Well. It's actually funny! I am from Europe. So I serve my man! When I had heard that Scorp does his own laundry - I most fell ill! Then I told my mom and she went WHY?
Okay, but will he be that interesting to watch sleep every day? How about...When he leaves a wet towel on your side of the bed. When his beard stubble is left in the sink. When he eats the last digestive. When he doesn't take his clothes out of the dryer. When he leaves the knobby thing up in the shower and you forget and get soaked when you turn the water on. Or when he leaves the toilet seat up (which mine, surprisingly doesn't do this). When he doesn't put a fresh roll of toilet paper on the holder. When he leaves the kitchen a mess. When you just want to watch law and order after a tough day and he wants to talk politics.
Being together and *BEING* together are two completely different worlds.
*BEING* together *is* always slightly boring...and something scorps actually enjoy....as all those things listed...I am not all that unhappy about...because they aren't all that exciting and they are consistent.
Scorps fall into ways just like your Cap husband.
I don't see much of a difference between the two long term.
If you are happy now....if everyone is happy now...why screw with the dynamic?
So here is a direerent stuff! Scorp does EVERYTHING! He cooks, cleans, building houses and fixing everything!
He is just like me - if you call my name - my reaction - how can I help you?
My husband...when I call his name he looks at me petrified! God forbid she wants me to DO something!!!
So I see a MAN!!! We were laughing that we going to wrestle each other for doing things like 'no it's MY turn to do dishes' or 'don't you there touch my laundry!'
Yeah we talked about life together forever now...
Posted by GemitatiWeh!! Really?Posted by DepthAndDeathSee? If my husband paid attention by taking his head out of his ass - he would know! I told him!!! He laughed! He still calling my Scorp 'your lover'...and he knows him! And he knows we are mad about each other!Posted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
He had never changed to save our marriage! As long as he is served his dinner - that's all he needs! He is happy!
My MOM can do it for him!
I've moved to another room - no reaction!
He asked why - I said I go to bed much earlier so...
He takes me for very granted! Like a piece of furniture it's cozy and comfy!
But he is still a nice guy so I feel awful!click to expand
Well then proceed. Divorce him at once!
As a matter of fact, find him a maid. To prove a point.
Wait.
Are you financially dependable to him, or does he sense you so? Real question here.
Posted by Gemitatiif he already called scorp 'your lover', then you probably won't break his heart. that makes it way easier. just don't take his money. if money can solve it, it's not really a probem. he is a capricorn after all lolPosted by DepthAndDeathSee? If my husband paid attention by taking his head out of his ass - he would know! I told him!!! He laughed! He still calling my Scorp 'your lover'...and he knows him! And he knows we are mad about each other!Posted by Gemitati
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Ohh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
He had never changed to save our marriage! As long as he is served his dinner - that's all he needs! He is happy!
My MOM can do it for him!
I've moved to another room - no reaction!
He asked why - I said I go to bed much earlier so...
He takes me for very granted! Like a piece of furniture it's cozy and comfy!
But he is still a nice guy so I feel awful!click to expand
Posted by ladylibra21APPARENTLY HE KNOWS!! AND HE MOCKS THAT.Posted by DepthAndDeathPosted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
+1,000 Do you think he knows about your relationship ? I mean 8 years is a long time.
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Posted by DepthAndDeath@Gemitati then this should be a no brainer. Maybe take him to the park he has never been to before and tell him.Posted by ladylibra21APPARENTLY HE KNOWS!! AND HE MOCKS THAT.Posted by DepthAndDeathPosted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
+1,000 Do you think he knows about your relationship ? I mean 8 years is a long time.
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Posted by -elle-Posted by ladylibra21This ^^^^
...how do you know that the whole idea of keeping your Scorp a secret is not what is appealing to the whole relationship you have with your Scorp.
I still think that you should leave either way because your husband deserves the right kind of love, but just know that Scorp may not be your forever love. So before entering a full relationship with him think about what you really want.
It could be the same with the scorp.
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No he actually tired of it - this is why we talking 'changes'
Posted by ladylibra21He doesn't go out parks! There is no tv!!!Posted by DepthAndDeath@Gemitati then this should be a no brainer. Maybe take him to the park he has never been to before and tell him.Posted by ladylibra21APPARENTLY HE KNOWS!! AND HE MOCKS THAT.Posted by DepthAndDeathPosted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
+1,000 Do you think he knows about your relationship ? I mean 8 years is a long time.
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Posted by GemitatiHe doesn't have a reaction because when he questions you you give him excuses to justify your actions, and he believes them.Posted by DepthAndDeathSee? If my husband paid attention by taking his head out of his ass - he would know! I told him!!! He laughed! He still calling my Scorp 'your lover'...and he knows him! And he knows we are mad about each other!Posted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
He had never changed to save our marriage! As long as he is served his dinner - that's all he needs! He is happy!
My MOM can do it for him!
I've moved to another room - no reaction!
He asked why - I said I go to bed much earlier so...
He takes me for very granted! Like a piece of furniture it's cozy and comfy!
But he is still a nice guy so I feel awful!click to expand
Basically you want him to do the dirty work because your too chicken shit.
I felt the way you do over the last guy i was seeing...(for almost 5 years)...we were like obsessed with each other, but looking back i know that most of the appeal was that we couldn't be together in a conventional way, the yearning for each other was what kept it fresh
I also know, had we lived together, it wouldn't have the same feeling or appeal
Be careful of any illusion around the Scorpio man.....he may not be the same once you decide to be together?
I also know, had we lived together, it wouldn't have the same feeling or appeal
Be careful of any illusion around the Scorpio man.....he may not be the same once you decide to be together?
I wonder if you'd be so willing to consider divorce if you didn't have another mans arms to jump into. Doubt you'd leave your husband otherwise.
Posted by GemitatiIf I may...Posted by MontgomeryI frigging know. That's why I am agonizing!
You need a very, very good lawyer.
This though...
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?Â
You can't.
What unfolded with the Scorp?
Scorp told me we have to try and finally get life we want though a few months ago he said we have what we have not what we want.
Now we are talking about how to change it so less bodies be left on battlefield.
It seems all I wanted. Now I am shitless.
And no! I don't need a good lawyer but he will need the best there born!!!
Unless we can agree on free marriages and try first. I don't know!!!
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Your Scorp said 'We have what we have... ' a few
months ago, now he says something totally
different.
'We have to try and get a life we want... '
Why?
What made him change his mind?
Do you think he'll change it again?
What if you start the divorce process and he
doesn't?
What if you both divorce and its not the same?
Soo many variables-- and you're staking your
life on it.
I like what @-elle- said too.
I think you should sleep on it for a while.
Posted by ladylibra21Why the park?Posted by DepthAndDeath@Gemitati then this should be a no brainer. Maybe take him to the park he has never been to before and tell him.Posted by ladylibra21APPARENTLY HE KNOWS!! AND HE MOCKS THAT.Posted by DepthAndDeathPosted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
+1,000 Do you think he knows about your relationship ? I mean 8 years is a long time.
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If I were her, I would take him to the basement. Prepare it to be so dirty by then and proceed telling him again.
Eyes wide open for his reactions.
Posted by GemitatiLol damn I couldn't imagine marrying three times it sounds exhausting. You better hope he doesn't say I don't have time to get a divorce. This should be easy to ask for though because you don't have small children didn't you say your daughter was 18 or 19?Posted by ladylibra21He doesn't go out parks! There is no tv!!!Posted by DepthAndDeath@Gemitati then this should be a no brainer. Maybe take him to the park he has never been to before and tell him.Posted by ladylibra21APPARENTLY HE KNOWS!! AND HE MOCKS THAT.Posted by DepthAndDeathPosted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
+1,000 Do you think he knows about your relationship ? I mean 8 years is a long time.
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Posted by DepthAndDeathLol idk because I like to break bad news to people in places that they probably won't go back to again that way they don't associate something they once viewed as comforting or pleasant with something bad.Posted by ladylibra21Why the park?Posted by DepthAndDeath@Gemitati then this should be a no brainer. Maybe take him to the park he has never been to before and tell him.Posted by ladylibra21APPARENTLY HE KNOWS!! AND HE MOCKS THAT.Posted by DepthAndDeathPosted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
+1,000 Do you think he knows about your relationship ? I mean 8 years is a long time.
If I were her, I would take him to the basement. Prepare it to be so dirty by then and proceed telling him again.
Eyes wide open for his reactions.click to expand
Posted by -elle-that's what a decent human being would do - not taking his money when you are the one who is breaking the commitmentPosted by iCloud9The right thing to do, since *she* wants out...is to leave his money alone.Posted by Gemitatiif he already called scorp 'your lover', then you probably won't break his heart. that makes it way easier. just don't take his money. if money can solve it, it's not really a probem. he is a capricorn after all lolPosted by DepthAndDeathSee? If my husband paid attention by taking his head out of his ass - he would know! I told him!!! He laughed! He still calling my Scorp 'your lover'...and he knows him! And he knows we are mad about each other!Posted by Gemitati
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Ohh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
He had never changed to save our marriage! As long as he is served his dinner - that's all he needs! He is happy!
My MOM can do it for him!
I've moved to another room - no reaction!
He asked why - I said I go to bed much earlier so...
He takes me for very granted! Like a piece of furniture it's cozy and comfy!
But he is still a nice guy so I feel awful!
If I remember past posts correctly....she wasn't willing to do that.
It's one thing to break the man's heart...it's another to then take things away from him.click to expand
Posted by ladylibra21Weh, reality hits to the bottom in such a place as beautiful as park.Posted by DepthAndDeathLol idk because I like to break bad news to people in places that they probably won't go back to again that way they don't associate something they once viewed as comforting or pleasant with something bad.Posted by ladylibra21Why the park?Posted by DepthAndDeath@Gemitati then this should be a no brainer. Maybe take him to the park he has never been to before and tell him.Posted by ladylibra21APPARENTLY HE KNOWS!! AND HE MOCKS THAT.Posted by DepthAndDeathPosted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
+1,000 Do you think he knows about your relationship ? I mean 8 years is a long time.
If I were her, I would take him to the basement. Prepare it to be so dirty by then and proceed telling him again.
Eyes wide open for his reactions.
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Sting is sharp there.
But very psychologically healing indeed.
Posted by DepthAndDeathPosted by ladylibra21Weh, reality hits to the bottom in such a place as beautiful as park.Posted by DepthAndDeathLol idk because I like to break bad news to people in places that they probably won't go back to again that way they don't associate something they once viewed as comforting or pleasant with something bad.Posted by ladylibra21Why the park?Posted by DepthAndDeath@Gemitati then this should be a no brainer. Maybe take him to the park he has never been to before and tell him.Posted by ladylibra21APPARENTLY HE KNOWS!! AND HE MOCKS THAT.Posted by DepthAndDeathPosted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
+1,000 Do you think he knows about your relationship ? I mean 8 years is a long time.
If I were her, I would take him to the basement. Prepare it to be so dirty by then and proceed telling him again.
Eyes wide open for his reactions.
Sting is sharp there.
But very psychologically healing indeed.click to expand
*shrugs*
Posted by -elle-You were married to a Scorp, Elle? 😱
lol...can I just take a time out and say how much I love my boring capricorn? ♡
I was married to a scorp for 7 years.
Love the scorp guys, but.....yeah...I would now choose the stoic goat any day.
How did that work? Is he the father of your boys?
I can't be with a boring guy...did that for years and years, so i tend to be with myself now, who i don't find boring at all 😛
Posted by LadyNeptuneNo I wouldn't. I used to live in a stale pond for years. Until someone threw a stone and waters moved...and o saw that mud just on the top - there something clearer under it!
I wonder if you'd be so willing to consider divorce if you didn't have another mans arms to jump into. Doubt you'd leave your husband otherwise.
Posted by JustJulesSuch a long one...for the fantasy!
But it's not clearer, right now it's a fantasy
Posted by iCloud9Why are you guys talking about money?Posted by -elle-that's what a decent human being would do - not taking his money when you are the one who is breaking the commitmentPosted by iCloud9The right thing to do, since *she* wants out...is to leave his money alone.Posted by Gemitatiif he already called scorp 'your lover', then you probably won't break his heart. that makes it way easier. just don't take his money. if money can solve it, it's not really a probem. he is a capricorn after all lolPosted by DepthAndDeathSee? If my husband paid attention by taking his head out of his ass - he would know! I told him!!! He laughed! He still calling my Scorp 'your lover'...and he knows him! And he knows we are mad about each other!Posted by Gemitati
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Ohh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
He had never changed to save our marriage! As long as he is served his dinner - that's all he needs! He is happy!
My MOM can do it for him!
I've moved to another room - no reaction!
He asked why - I said I go to bed much earlier so...
He takes me for very granted! Like a piece of furniture it's cozy and comfy!
But he is still a nice guy so I feel awful!
If I remember past posts correctly....she wasn't willing to do that.
It's one thing to break the man's heart...it's another to then take things away from him.
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I am not taking anything. Where did you get that idea?
Posted by MyStarsShineSo you 'proposed' ending?
I can't be with a boring guy...did that for years and years, so i tend to be with myself now, who i don't find boring at all 😛
What did he say?
Posted by JustJulesShe is 22 and we are living in huge city and she is on my side loving her father dearly but seeing how miserable I became vs past. And she knows my Scorp as well and big fan of him so he is of her.
True, but it's easy to glamorize someone when you don't live together. At the end of the day, you have to follow your heart and conscious...
My parents divorced when I was 15. My dad moved out and 6 months later my brother moved out, the first two men in life that I loved. I was angry with my mom for the longest time, in fact I hated her for it. Consider what this will do to your daughter, especially if you live in a small town where everyone will know and talk. And if she's close with her father...
So like I said considering Scorp is a go-getter and a huge nut about doing things - that's what I am missing my whole married life! I am sick of being THE man. I want to be a woman!
Posted by ladylibra21When man is 23, 28, 32 - by now he forgot all of it beings staidly married for 23 years.Posted by GemitatiLol damn I couldn't imagine marrying three times it sounds exhausting. You better hope he doesn't say I don't have time to get a divorce. This should be easy to ask for though because you don't have small children didn't you say your daughter was 18 or 19?Posted by ladylibra21He doesn't go out parks! There is no tv!!!Posted by DepthAndDeath@Gemitati then this should be a no brainer. Maybe take him to the park he has never been to before and tell him.Posted by ladylibra21APPARENTLY HE KNOWS!! AND HE MOCKS THAT.Posted by DepthAndDeathPosted by GemitatiOhh Gemi.. Can I suggest you something?
Well. Something had unfolded with my Scorp yesterday.
I am supposed to be smart about my future and I honestly can't imagine divorce!
It's not a thing you do every day and though my husband survived 3 - he says he didn't love anyone as much as he loves me and he is older now.
How is it all of a sudden one comes to another and say I want divorce?
How?
He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
How can I hurt him so much and live happily ever after?
Have anyone of you left non-abusive spouse just because you fell out of love and you had tried to talk but they just don't listen...
Tell your husband that you have fallen out of love with him and you have fallen in love with another person.
Why do you have to carry this burden alone?
Why?
Look at him, your husband, he has been with you for long. Doesn't he deserve some truth??
Share it with your husband. First and foremost. He has to hear it first from you.
Respect him enough to be true to yourself.
😢
+1,000 Do you think he knows about your relationship ? I mean 8 years is a long time.
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And she is 22 living in her own.
You could always kill the hubby 
Posted by -elle-Oh GodPosted by MyStarsShineYes. Scorp sun/Taur moon.Posted by -elle-You were married to a Scorp, Elle? 😱
lol...can I just take a time out and say how much I love my boring capricorn? ♡
I was married to a scorp for 7 years.
Love the scorp guys, but.....yeah...I would now choose the stoic goat any day.
How did that work? Is he the father of your boys?
First half was great. Second half was pure hell.
No, he was not the father. I was married to a cap previous to that. The scorp and I had no children together.click to expand
Same placements as me
Sorry
Lol
😛
Posted by TheTinManAwwwww...you are a Gemini....how can you be boring?Posted by MyStarsShinethen you wouldn't find men like me to be appealing.
I can't be with a boring guy...did that for years and years, so i tend to be with myself now, who i don't find boring at all 😛
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By default, that sign is never boring
🙂
Posted by GemitatiIt was very mutual, thankfully....it was coming on for a long time and we decided to live separately but are still very much in each others' lives, just as friends now 🙂.Posted by MyStarsShineSo you 'proposed' ending?
I can't be with a boring guy...did that for years and years, so i tend to be with myself now, who i don't find boring at all 😛
What did he say?click to expand
Works very well
Posted by JustJulesI didn't ask one. This all just happened last morning with 'we need to talk' and whole 'talk' about it's not what we want so let's think of other ways to do it.
Okay, so she's an adult and aware... Just wanted to give the perspective as a teenaged daughter. What's your daughter's advice?
He told me a year ago - imagine telling your husband about you leaving.
I did for a whole week. The imagining.
And I had never got back to the conversation. Because I knew he meant imagine me as well telling my wife...
So we kind of left that thought.
But time goes, relationships evolving.
So we went back to it.
Then he did something that I couldn't even imagine a while ago! Last morning.
So I freaked out and now thinking how to survive all this!
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI said he is a nice guy! Not nasty guy!
You could always kill the hubby
Posted by MyStarsShineNot boring! Bored! LolPosted by TheTinManAwwwww...you are a Gemini....how can you be boring?Posted by MyStarsShinethen you wouldn't find men like me to be appealing.
I can't be with a boring guy...did that for years and years, so i tend to be with myself now, who i don't find boring at all 😛
By default, that sign is never boring
🙂click to expand
Except when I am with him.
Posted by TheTinManYou don't sound boring at all. A man that can make a woman laugh is always a good thing 🙂Posted by MyStarsShinewell I don't know. I am after all a very chill laid back kind of guy who doesn't really care about going out or having fun. those days are numbered for me. all I ever want this day and age is have enchanted evenings at home and enjoy nice romantic candlelight dinners and have these moods of giving a good foot massage after a nice dinner. I'm not about having wild sex anymore. that's why I said you probably wouldn't find those types of men appealing. for laughter's, I do like telling good jokes and stories. that's about as fun you'll get out of a Gemini like me.Posted by TheTinManAwwwww...you are a Gemini....how can you be boring?Posted by MyStarsShinethen you wouldn't find men like me to be appealing.
I can't be with a boring guy...did that for years and years, so i tend to be with myself now, who i don't find boring at all 😛
By default, that sign is never boring
🙂
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He is very lazy and extremely annoying but nice guy whom I don't feel anything for except cozy boring 'friendship'.
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