Do we really attract the energy we broadcast?

Ive been thinking alot about why I attract the people I attract. Friends or more than friend relations. Are they a reflection of who I am or what I'm feeling on the inside? How does this shit work lol and how do I change it??

I used to attract horrible friends and lovers. Insecure and also not really a good person overall. i would be rude and horrible to the people that are good to me and nice to the ones that i tried to superficially be with. The classic case of always being socially accepted. One day, when i was 21? i looked in the mirror and literally i hated who i was and i thought about who i really am and who i strive to BECOME. Nowadays, i'm pretty centered and found a good balance. I now attract a lot of hipster/nerd/dorks/intelligent/ type of friends. From all shapes and sizes. I think a great way to test yourself and reflect is to change your enviornment! i moved out of my hometown to another, in the short amount of time i learned so much about myself. its really great! I've met folks that i usually wouldn't think i'll get along with back home..but since i moved, im hanging out with people that just surprise me everyday. Really great people...

You must envision your future, imagine what type of interactions you would have with people, how are they like? what type of values do they share with you in this future? who are you? and what can you improve? etc etc... I've learned THAT is all that matters, is who you strive to be...i tossed out the old friends/lovers/life style . It didn't reflect what i cared for or who i am..and who i hope to become. Where i hope i will be 5,10,15 years from now.

Posted by Theultra79
Yes, it is about you. If you feel bad about what you're doing in life or who you are as a person, you do attract others who feel the same about themselves. People who don't treat themselves rt aren't gonna treat you right either. Once I got a career that made me feel fulfilled and useful and started to accomplishing some of my goals, became financially stable, l started attracting others who were like that too. It was like magic.

Amen to this. Post of the week.


Any hints on making the switch will be gratefully received🙂

You are a great inspiration Theultra79.

Posted by libnicole84
Ive been thinking alot about why I attract the people I attract. Friends or more than friend relations. Are they a reflection of who I am or what I'm feeling on the inside? How does this shit work lol and how do I change it??

I think there is something in that, but maybe you are attracting what complements you too. Or what you need in your life right now - e.g. what will help you grow. Are you learning lessons from the particular people you are thinking of? Are they forcing you to examine your boundaries perhaps? Just throwing those thoughts in there for consideration.

People should follow that to the core since change is no where in that message and rarely seen in peoples lives. It sums up aplenty. If its look at right in broken down steps you can see what you dont need to do but how many take it to heart and abide by it.

Good advice it seems oddly placed though.

-Goes to find out who the hell Ghandi is-

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Posted by libnicole84
Ive been thinking alot about why I attract the people I attract. Friends or more than friend relations. Are they a reflection of who I am or what I'm feeling on the inside? How does this shit work lol and how do I change it??

I think there is something in that, but maybe you are attracting what complements you too. Or what you need in your life right now - e.g. what will help you grow. Are you learning lessons from the particular people you are thinking of? Are they forcing you to examine your boundaries perhaps? Just throwing those thoughts in there for consideration.

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YES YES YES! The one person I'm thinking of amazes me every day in the things he is teaching me. But at the same time i sense pain in him as well even if he really tries to hide it. Maybe I'm teaching him some things as well?

Posted by Theultra79
That's nice of you to say. I remember asking myself the same question when I was the OPs age. I've been through the ringer.

But true to what librarose said, there was a lesson to be learned in all those situations and messed up relationships.

yea for some reason this age i'm more lost than ever. I think so much about all kinds of things and sometimes i like to post it to see if anyone else has these thoughts as well... I usually think that in everything that happens to you is a lesson but I couldnt help but wonder about the patterns that happen and the reasons for these patterns and when do you know to break a pattern? but thanks for the responses they are helpful

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Posted by libnicole84
Ive been thinking alot about why I attract the people I attract. Friends or more than friend relations. Are they a reflection of who I am or what I'm feeling on the inside? How does this shit work lol and how do I change it??

You don't try to change anything. Stop being a girl for one and thinking like that. Get your hands off of things.
Step two. strengthen your weaknesses. Be a woman. Keep to the ways of NON doing.
step three. Dont expect anything of anyone and dont change for others. Change only for yourself.
Step four. Nothing may change exactly when you want it to, what you're actually changing is how you respond.

When you can no longer tell the difference between being yourself and being the changes you are looking for, you are not far from waking up. This is still not transformation, but most people die without even making it this far so good luck and take your shit serious if not why post these threads about how to live your life. All of the questions you've been asking are basic things you already know.

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thanks loving the bluntness all i want is to just be myself and not this lost person.. i'm working on it