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Mar 24, 2019Comments: 4959 · Posts: 10458 · Topics: 278
that romanticism poisoned people minds about genuine love and care? Enshrined the lovers' ego above all else and made properties out of human beings.
In a genuine friendship, people have a higher degree of patience, kindness and tolerance for each other that don't get stripped away little by little due to some injury to the ego. People are genuinely looking out for each other's best interests instead of just the self in connection to the other person.
Where is your venus housed?
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Jan 29, 2011Comments: 658 · Posts: 12420 · Topics: 3
Here’s my take on romanticism. It wasn’t fed to us. It’s a vision or proclivity that’s innate in some personalities that commercialism and religion exploited to make money and disillusion people further. The further disillusionment in these personalities translated somehow to tolerate evidently bad behaviour in the name of romanticism. Waiting for someone to get their act together, babysitting them, raising them somehow equated with being “kind, tolerable and caring.”
For example, I read some star’s obituary lionized as “a true love story” wherein this man 40 some year old man married a 21 year old naive actress and then went onto have a 7 yr extramarital affair with another actress which the wife knew about and stayed by him. Then, he died and his wife was crying. It was deemed a true love story.
It made me ask: women who leave a cheating partner loves their partner less or less devoted to them? It’s care and love if you turn a blind eye to
Someone’s bad behaviour? Commercialism and religion just basically preyed on romantic personalities and told them this was the definition of true love.
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Jan 10, 2015Comments: 1876 · Posts: 16918 · Topics: 108
Yes. I couldn't stand how bad my ex required romance, or a romantic partner. She is a Leo sun Aries moon, so I guess it made sense. I'm not really romantic. I like to do fun things with people I love and care about, and enjoy a good time. I also enjoy sex, but that is as romantic as I get. I'm not the type to plain a beautiful V day, anniversary, or birthday. Not saying I wouldn't want to go out and have a nice meal and a fun time, but I'm not the type to hide little letters everywhere or a rose petal trail to the bedroom. I just find that type of stuff cringy. I feel this is likely more genetic then chart related, since my father and grandfather are the same way. We all tend to show love through security and loyalty over romance.
Cancer Venus 1st house.
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Jan 22, 2016Comments: 1153 · Posts: 4982 · Topics: 13
The type you read about in romance novels, the type they sing about or the usual theme of some movie... Yes, that's usually pretty far fetched (from reality and what's feasible - long term). After all - most of that stuff is made up (a work of the mind). Not to mention, it's quite common for people to fall in love with stories and symbols. On the other hand... a romantic gesture here and there, even some poetry... that can work. If you write it yourself. Or even a painting - if you're gifted in that regard. Share a song you like - just don't make it your own (expression). That's the issue i have with songs... with someone else's work. You can fall for the words - might even relate to some extent - but i wouldn't call that an accurate expression of one's soul. More like - borrowed... romance.
Same can be said about poetry recitals. Some people have what it takes - to charm others with their voice - even tho, it's not a genuine expression. More like - being gifted at diction - at the way the words are balanced on one's tongue (a speech acrobat - if you will). Tom Hiddleston, Michael Caine or Anthony Hopkins (to name a few) - are true masters at the art of speech. Thus, their book readings can be quite phenomenal or charming - if you will... but it's just acting (entertainment for the masses). Then again, we're talking about the ocean or some lake where the moon glides for the night... in imagery. Nothing is set in stone, as they put it... to each their own.
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
The greatest romance is the one you have with yourself. In the immortal words of Ru Paul, if you can’t love yourself how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?
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Apr 26, 2013Comments: 4917 · Posts: 19264 · Topics: 148
doesn't poison anything and there's nothing wrong with romanticism.
But it's true that the literary ideal of romantic relationships create expectations, and everybody ends up disappointed
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Sep 03, 2016Comments: 36034 · Posts: 40656 · Topics: 321
No
Porn does especially to young males
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Jan 19, 2013Comments: 1552 · Posts: 9503 · Topics: 11
I very much doubt that. It must have been radical in the 18th century, promoting the concept of marrying out of love and enjoying passionate sex. But we grew up with many other ideologies to choose from.
I guess the way it influenced my understanding of love was that commitment means acceptance of a person as a whole, qualities and defects. Was it romanticism though, or a consequence of my upbringing, because I rarely felt accepted as a child? I believe we let ourselves be influenced by whatever suits our personality and needs.
I see romanticism in a relationship as a bonus, not a sacrifice. A sprinkle of magic, not a poison.
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Jan 29, 2011Comments: 658 · Posts: 12420 · Topics: 3
True love/romanticism comes from admiring a person. Admiration requires you to humanize a person, which hypersexualized individuals (both men and women) will never know because they objectify the person and can do so for years on end.