Games, Why do you play them?
This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by evermour on Monday, April 22, 2013 and has 8 replies.
(Mind games involved with tumultuous relationships)
I'll go a little bit further than the topic. I don't play games. Never have. That is my conundrum because if people are honest with themselves, they play them. Why, people rarely think fully about their words and actions and the implications. They become so trained in playing that it becomes instinctive and an automatic response. For the one who thinks about their actions and is truly out to love and redirect, they get set up to be hurt. All of this comes from the pessimism and cynicism about love because so many have been hurt so they protect themselves.
The mind games are dishonest. As a Sag and more importantly as a person, I refuse to play them. I'm now making peace with the fact that I may never find that one. That's okay. There are other ways I can love and give. I'm no longer afraid. Hopefully, I'll find someone who isn't afraid either.
The mind games are dishonest. As a Sag and more importantly as a person, I refuse to play them. I'm now making peace with the fact that I may never find that one. That's okay. There are other ways I can love and give. I'm no longer afraid. Hopefully, I'll find someone who isn't afraid either.
I guess I play games.
a). They are not intentional, meaning I dont sit and think of ways to play or manipulate someone, nor is that my goal. I just respond and do everything that comes natural to me. Its not until Ill have a convo with someone about the situation that they'll point out what I did, or ask why I did or said it. Sometimes Ill realize it, but after the fact. If my feelings are involved I realize I say and do a lot of weird @hit...Im guessing its all to see how much i can trust you, or how much you desire me.
b) Im 90% honest. The 10% is me brushing off a question I dont want to answer or changing the subject. Its very rare that I straight up lie about something.
a). They are not intentional, meaning I dont sit and think of ways to play or manipulate someone, nor is that my goal. I just respond and do everything that comes natural to me. Its not until Ill have a convo with someone about the situation that they'll point out what I did, or ask why I did or said it. Sometimes Ill realize it, but after the fact. If my feelings are involved I realize I say and do a lot of weird @hit...Im guessing its all to see how much i can trust you, or how much you desire me.
b) Im 90% honest. The 10% is me brushing off a question I dont want to answer or changing the subject. Its very rare that I straight up lie about something.
Posted by lnana04
I guess I play games.
a). They are not intentional, meaning I dont sit and think of ways to play or manipulate someone, nor is that my goal. I just respond and do everything that comes natural to me. Its not until Ill have a convo with someone about the situation that they'll point out what I did, or ask why I did or said it. Sometimes Ill realize it, but after the fact. If my feelings are involved I realize I say and do a lot of weird @hit...Im guessing its all to see how much i can trust you, or how much you desire me.
b) Im 90% honest. The 10% is me brushing off a question I dont want to answer or changing the subject. Its very rare that I straight up lie about something.
I don't see that as game playing. It is honest and sincere since you're not doing it on purpose. I can see how the other person thinks it is a game though.
Posted by beautifulsoul74
I'll go a little bit further than the topic. I don't play games. Never have. That is my conundrum because if people are honest with themselves, they play them. Why, people rarely think fully about their words and actions and the implications. They become so trained in playing that it becomes instinctive and an automatic response. For the one who thinks about their actions and is truly out to love and redirect, they get set up to be hurt. All of this comes from the pessimism and cynicism about love because so many have been hurt so they protect themselves.
The mind games are dishonest. As a Sag and more importantly as a person, I refuse to play them. I'm now making peace with the fact that I may never find that one. That's okay. There are other ways I can love and give. I'm no longer afraid. Hopefully, I'll find someone who isn't afraid either.
I believe you; Sag males are so brutally honest--I admire that about them. It's so refreshing and for me it's a good things. For those who are extra sensitive; not so much!
The female Sags are another story. The ones I know seem to be intimidated by me; I don't know why. But I always sense they have some agenda and aren't showing their true colors. Could be wrong; however I'm not interested that much to dig and deeper with them.
Posted by truecapPosted by lnana04
I guess I play games.
a). They are not intentional, meaning I dont sit and think of ways to play or manipulate someone, nor is that my goal. I just respond and do everything that comes natural to me. Its not until Ill have a convo with someone about the situation that they'll point out what I did, or ask why I did or said it. Sometimes Ill realize it, but after the fact. If my feelings are involved I realize I say and do a lot of weird @hit...Im guessing its all to see how much i can trust you, or how much you desire me.
b) Im 90% honest. The 10% is me brushing off a question I dont want to answer or changing the subject. Its very rare that I straight up lie about something.
I don't see that as game playing. It is honest and sincere since you're not doing it on purpose. I can see how the other person thinks it is a game though.click to expand
lnana04... you have said it just as it really is... and truecap... you have agreed with grace. This is what most people cannot ever seem to wrap their ways of thinking around.
Personally, I don't like to use this word... 'GAMES'... at least not in the sense that people usually perceive it. There are GAMES of course... but I would submit that most people are not really playing them. Can one be blamed for how they act in a certain situation if they have never learned how to handle said situation ? Fear for example: Some stand in spite of it... some flee... some freeze up... and we label them accordingly... never asking 'why' this became there natural response. Love, as another example... some 'needy' (or too 'needy' for our liking)... while some seem detached (or too detached for our liking)... again, we never ask 'why'... and emotional responses will always get the best of us... prompting us to do things we never would have predicted ourselves doing.
A GAME... a game is something played with a perceived opponent... sometimes for profit, gain, or title... even for silly bragging rights to state only... that the other is the 'LOSER'... and it doesn't matter if the 'loser' was out-matched. We see it in business, in war, on the street, in love... anything in life really... the strong demonstrating their strength on the weaker or the weakened... which to me, shows no strength at all.
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Sure... there are REAL players out there... I can't say that I understand them... outwardly I do not respect them... but there is probably a reason they are like this too. What I hate most... is for one to kick someone else in the face when they were already kneeling down on their knees.
You will often find me here preaching 'games'... but I prefer to refer to them as 'love tactics' in most cases. We have probably all been too detached for someone at some point... and too 'sticky' for someone else... it happens... we know we are losing but refuse to change our strategy... instead we just try harder with what we are doing... which doesn't really work. Sometimes we even find ourselves stuck in a bad situation... but our hearts compel us to disobey our own logic... which tends to keep us bowing on the ground.
It gives me much pleasure to arm those who have come here because they felt they were losing their personal battle... it is just what I do.
"Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up." - Jesse Jackson
Sure... there are REAL players out there... I can't say that I understand them... outwardly I do not respect them... but there is probably a reason they are like this too. What I hate most... is for one to kick someone else in the face when they were already kneeling down on their knees.
You will often find me here preaching 'games'... but I prefer to refer to them as 'love tactics' in most cases. We have probably all been too detached for someone at some point... and too 'sticky' for someone else... it happens... we know we are losing but refuse to change our strategy... instead we just try harder with what we are doing... which doesn't really work. Sometimes we even find ourselves stuck in a bad situation... but our hearts compel us to disobey our own logic... which tends to keep us bowing on the ground.
It gives me much pleasure to arm those who have come here because they felt they were losing their personal battle... it is just what I do.
"Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up." - Jesse Jackson
I never play games when it comes to my relationships but I think that's because the Aquarian in me just can't be bothered with BS and would rather just tell it like it is. I've seen some of my friends play games with their partners and it always backfires
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