Girls - cool with your boyfriend making new friends that are girls?

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by MilaniKisses on Thursday, June 8, 2017 and has 38 replies.
So just wondering ladies..



(Saying that you're in a secured and loyal relationship) If your man wanted to go on POF or wherever to "make new friends" that just so happen to be girls, are you okay with that?


If so, why?


If not, why?
If he runs over her dog backing out of his driveway while she's jogging and takes her for an apologetic coffee and they hit it off, no problemz.


Joining a specified dating site to seek female friendship- probs not heyLaughing
I'm not in a relationship but if I was, it wouldn't bother me if he made new female friends through other friends or work, but on a dating site? No, I wouldn't be ok with that! It sounds sketchy af
No.


I would be even angrier at the fact that he


thought I would believe that.
On a dating website?...no thanks boo-bear!


If he's out living his life and meets a chick that he enjoys on a friendship level, and genuinely at that, and is honest and upfront about having a significant other then cool beans...he's not only JUST my boyfriend but a fellow human being who needs other connections in his life...not just mine.


It's in the way he goes about this situation. PoF doesn't seem to be the best way...lol.
Posted by wagtail
If he runs over her dog backing out of his driveway while she's jogging and takes her for an apologetic coffee and they hit it off, no problemz.


Joining a specified dating site to seek female friendship- probs not heyLaughing
I don't know... I might still have a problem with the former scenario.


"You sure she didn't put her dog there as you were backing out?"


Posted by MilaniKisses
So just wondering ladies..



(Saying that you're in a secured and loyal relationship) If your man wanted to go on POF or wherever to "make new friends" that just so happen to be girls, are you okay with that?


If so, why?


If not, why?
Looking for new friends on a dating site? Absolutely not. Why go on a dating sight to look for a new friend? I'm too possessive to be comfortable with that, or to trust it. It's genuinely incomprehensible to me that any person would find that acceptable. I'm not judging them. I wish I could, but no.


Any established friendships with the opposite sex, even if they're ex-lovers or ex-wives, that's completely different. But a new friendship found on a dating site is out of the question.

Posted by tooba
Incredibly mixed feelings about this...


My jealousy is definitely unmatched. But my need to be fair and give my partner the utmost freedom and sense of happiness outweighs my own desires.


If he (whoever I was with for a long time, there's been established a sense of understanding and a strong degree of loyalty) happens to feel closest to women friends than men, his choosing to be with women friends means that they fulfill a need he has which I probably cannot. Meaning, maybe one of his female friends is a physicist who can better understand and entertain questions he has about something like the quantum world, or maybe his woman friend is a philosopher and he's trying to figure out some rational explanation for some personal theory or perspective of life he has, etc... He wants growth, and having friends outside his love life allows him to have that personal growth. I, despite being excessively jealous, could not dare react on my jealousy and take away that sense of self-righteous growth that he has. It's unfair to him that, for my sake, in this life I prevent him from meeting people who allow him to grow... And honestly, I feel like this allows for there to be a stronger connection between us, because there's more trust, and through other people we could also teach each other new things and give each other valuable perspectives that we may otherwise not have...


Rewind several years back, and there's no way in hell I'd be saying what I'm saying now. But fast forward all these years later, and I've realized that loving someone means giving them the utmost freedom to be his or her self, even if that means getting out of your own comfort zone for it.


I completely understand anyone who said they wouldn't allow their men to do that though. It's natural...
"Rewind several years back, and there's no way in hell I'd be saying what I'm saying now. But fast forward all these years later, and I've realized that loving someone means giving them the utmost freedom to be his or her self, even if that means getting out of your own comfort zone for it." This is a perfect example of why I'm in awe of certain Scorpios. I know that I don't have the same capacity for that kind of change in me. I wish I did.

hey i recently wrote a article in the zirgo section tittled "pisces crshing on female virgo" but i have a gf

ithink you may find it interesting as we share similar views that others dont understand.. i try everyday to be intouch with my inner self.. and have got to know the 'exspression of love better

in your situatio have a good talk with him openup everything tell him you wont judge him differently

ask if hes feeling sexual towards other females etc

tell him its ok to communicate with females . but actiely lookig for them may not be the best way.. growth allways begins from with in

& yes we can disscuss more
Posted by fish_andchips_yeah
hey i recently wrote a article in the zirgo section tittled "pisces crshing on female virgo" but i have a gf

ithink you may find it interesting as we share similar views that others dont understand.. i try everyday to be intouch with my inner self.. and have got to know the 'exspression of love better

in your situatio have a good talk with him openup everything tell him you wont judge him differently

ask if hes feeling sexual towards other females etc

tell him its ok to communicate with females . but actiely lookig for them may not be the best way.. growth allways begins from with in

& yes we can disscuss more
See this kinda scares me...

Are you still with the aqua girl? When the virgo friend came to visit, I'm sure she could sense the pheromones you were putting out... anyways were you not as affectionate to your aqua girl because your mind was more focus on virgo girl? Do you still get the same feelings every time you see the Virgo girl?


I'm a Virgo girl - We are the most loyal and honest people. Since we're ruled by Mercury, we have really great communication skills too - I noticed you mentioned about having good communication with Aqua girl... But also read how rocky you guys have been.
Posted by Wonderlesswave
The fuck... Firstly i would never believe that line and secondly if I'm not enough you gotta go.
Exactly what I was thinking.. TF!?!!


Why is this question even relevant??


That's a NO!
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
The fuck... Firstly i would never believe that line and secondly if I'm not enough you gotta go.


Why is this question even relevant??



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Lol! This is exactly what I thought. Why is this a question even? Making female friends by chance is ok. Going on a dating site to make female friends? On what planet is this not a joke??

Posted by MilaniKisses
So just wondering ladies..



(Saying that you're in a secured and loyal relationship) If your man wanted to go on POF or wherever to "make new friends" that just so happen to be girls, are you okay with that?


If so, why?


If not, why?
Hells NO.


Should there be a reason?


Posted by VCastrillon
Posted by tooba
Incredibly mixed feelings about this...


My jealousy is definitely unmatched. But my need to be fair and give my partner the utmost freedom and sense of happiness outweighs my own desires.


If he (whoever I was with for a long time, there's been established a sense of understanding and a strong degree of loyalty) happens to feel closest to women friends than men, his choosing to be with women friends means that they fulfill a need he has which I probably cannot. Meaning, maybe one of his female friends is a physicist who can better understand and entertain questions he has about something like the quantum world, or maybe his woman friend is a philosopher and he's trying to figure out some rational explanation for some personal theory or perspective of life he has, etc... He wants growth, and having friends outside his love life allows him to have that personal growth. I, despite being excessively jealous, could not dare react on my jealousy and take away that sense of self-righteous growth that he has. It's unfair to him that, for my sake, in this life I prevent him from meeting people who allow him to grow... And honestly, I feel like this allows for there to be a stronger connection between us, because there's more trust, and through other people we could also teach each other new things and give each other valuable perspectives that we may otherwise not have...


Rewind several years back, and there's no way in hell I'd be saying what I'm saying now. But fast forward all these years later, and I've realized that loving someone means giving them the utmost freedom to be his or her self, even if that means getting out of your own comfort zone for it.


I completely understand anyone who said they wouldn't allow their men to do that though. It's natural...
"Rewind several years back, and there's no way in hell I'd be saying what I'm saying now. But fast forward all these years later, and I've realized that loving someone means giving them the utmost freedom to be his or her self, even if that means getting out of your own comfort zone for it." This is a perfect example of why I'm in awe of certain Scorpios. I know that I don't have the same capacity for that kind of change in me. I wish I did.

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I agree.. I'm a Scorpio and I'm too possessive over my mate to allow a NEW friendship to be established off of a PUBLIC dating site... A friendship established before me and him ever existed is a different story and I'm okay with that.. Now.. If a female he was already friends with seems sketchy to me, I will bring them up like , "Uh, check your friend, BEFORE I do.." I don't play bout mine..


I don't see how anyone could be comfortable with this.. But to each their own.. Some ppl are too naive and would accept this lame excuse to meet new ppl, whilst their S/O is basically cheating..


**Kanye shrug**

Posted by Teena
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
The fuck... Firstly i would never believe that line and secondly if I'm not enough you gotta go.


Why is this question even relevant??



Lol! This is exactly what I thought. Why is this a question even? Making female friends by chance is ok. Going on a dating site to make female friends? On what planet is this not a joke??

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RIGHT! lolLaughing


It's called a "dating" site for THAT said purpose.. TO DATE.. NOT look for friends.. SMH
If my S/O even got up the nerve to even ask this, I would question my trust in him..
Posted by poison_ivy
If my S/O even got up the nerve to even ask this, I would question my trust in him..
??
Posted by Teena
Posted by poison_ivy
If my S/O even got up the nerve to even ask this, I would question my trust in him..
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LOL! I'm serious.. Big Grin


You wanna do what??? O_O
Posted by cheekyfaerie
We're social animals. I don't get the hate over making new friends. The dating site part's a huge, red flag, however.
I agree.. I'm very outgoing and social.. I go out and meet new ppl all the time.. My bf (cap).. he's not AS social but he has female friends that he use to date and were his exes or simply platonic.. I don't mind that..


HOWEVER;


The whole making new friends on a dating site is not okay with me.. >_
Posted by MilaniKisses
So just wondering ladies..



(Saying that you're in a secured and loyal relationship) If your man wanted to go on POF or wherever to "make new friends" that just so happen to be girls, are you okay with that?


If so, why?


If not, why?
No.


Because POF isn't a place to meet new friends it's a DATING APP.


We now need to address if he thinks I'm stupid af for trying to slide that explanation past me.
My dude has female friends. I'm fine with that cause I spent time hanging out with them and could see it was platonic. Helps that he wanted me to meet them and develop a friendship with them as well.


If he was hiding them from me I'd definitely feel another way bout it.
Him having female friends- totally cool

Him making female "friends" on a dating site- fuck no unless we're setting up a 3 way

Me making male "friends" on a dating site- same as #2
What kind of question is this?
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
The fuck... Firstly i would never believe that line and secondly if I'm not enough you gotta go.
Exactly what I was thinking.. TF!?!!


Why is this question even relevant??


That's a NO!
Right ?! Completely disrespectful

She does well to pack her emotions and get the fuck away from this fool

Dudes like this are bad for your health

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Utter disrespect .. lol

They really are bad for your health... what will he ask for next?? Just no.. ? Run away ??
I am fine with my boyfriend having girlfriends, or making new friends that are girls. As long as the girls stay in their lanes, and don't expect support that is more partner/spouse like than friend. Respect those boundaries, and that's fine.


But meeting new friends on sites that has a connotation for individuals meeting for romantic or sexual relationships like POF, OKC, Tinder, etc... No. Nope. Not happening.


Why? Simple, that's my hard boundary. There is no reason to be on those apps/sites, when there are other places that are tailored towards meeting people that share the same common interest that is not tailored for dating, such as Meet-Ups.
Posted by MilaniKisses
So just wondering ladies..



(Saying that you're in a secured and loyal relationship) If your man wanted to go on POF or wherever to "make new friends" that just so happen to be girls, are you okay with that?


If so, why?


If not, why?
No new friends... he doesn't need any new friends that are girls ..I'm cool with a platonic friend or 2 before I came along cuz I have guy friends myself
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
The fuck... Firstly i would never believe that line and secondly if I'm not enough you gotta go.
Exactly what I was thinking.. TF!?!!


Why is this question even relevant??


That's a NO!
Right ?! Completely disrespectful

She does well to pack her emotions and get the fuck away from this fool

Dudes like this are bad for your health



Utter disrespect .. lol

They really are bad for your health... what will he ask for next?? Just no.. ? Run away ??
Open relationship bih!

So not worth the drama , I love his courage though . He definitely knows who to ask

Because he would have gotten a tax in the face

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LaughingUmm no.. No finding friends on POF, No open relationship..


RIGHT!.. asking for a curse out & slap in the face... Ain't no wayyyy.... LMAO!
Who does this guy think he's talking to? A five year old child? LOL.


Intelligence insulted.
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
The fuck... Firstly i would never believe that line and secondly if I'm not enough you gotta go.
Exactly what I was thinking.. TF!?!!


Why is this question even relevant??


That's a NO!
Right ?! Completely disrespectful

She does well to pack her emotions and get the fuck away from this fool

Dudes like this are bad for your health



Utter disrespect .. lol

They really are bad for your health... what will he ask for next?? Just no.. ? Run away ??
Open relationship bih!

So not worth the drama , I love his courage though . He definitely knows who to ask

Because he would have gotten a tax in the face

LaughingUmm no.. No finding friends on POF, No open relationship..


RIGHT!.. asking for a curse out & slap in the face... Ain't no wayyyy.... LMAO!
POF more like plenty of hoes

You got me several shades of fucked up big fella.

Lol i wanna meet this dude, he's nervey. I wonder how he came up with this shit like what was your thought process ???

How did you come to this shit ass conclusion?


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LMAO @ "POF more like plenty of hoes"Laughing


Like really... Some men (well, ppl in general) test the limit to see how far they can get.. But they know who they can get away with and who they can't.. I don't give off those vibes that that kinda question is okay to even open your mouth and say..


Now, I will say this.. He was honest and came straight out with it.. LMAO.. But still.. WTF!?!! He's got some elephant sized balls to ask that..


UNLESS, the basis of the relationship was "OPEN" then.. okay, fine.. But if not.. I'd be planning my exit from the relationship soon after that convo.

Nope. I'm your girl friend.


If he meets her through me, thats fine, but he can't come home and say


him: hey babe, I met this really cool chick! we're gonna get drinks later.


me: *stab*
No to the dating site, obviously.


But, moving that sketchiness aside, I don't get involved with men who aren't capable of having friendships with women and/or think that women can't/shouldn't have friendships with men.
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
The fuck... Firstly i would never believe that line and secondly if I'm not enough you gotta go.
Exactly what I was thinking.. TF!?!!


Why is this question even relevant??


That's a NO!
Right ?! Completely disrespectful

She does well to pack her emotions and get the fuck away from this fool

Dudes like this are bad for your health



Utter disrespect .. lol

They really are bad for your health... what will he ask for next?? Just no.. ? Run away ??
Open relationship bih!

So not worth the drama , I love his courage though . He definitely knows who to ask

Because he would have gotten a tax in the face

LaughingUmm no.. No finding friends on POF, No open relationship..


RIGHT!.. asking for a curse out & slap in the face... Ain't no wayyyy.... LMAO!
POF more like plenty of hoes

You got me several shades of fucked up big fella.

Lol i wanna meet this dude, he's nervey. I wonder how he came up with this shit like what was your thought process ???

How did you come to this shit ass conclusion?




LMAO @ "POF more like plenty of hoes"Laughing


Like really... Some men (well, ppl in general) test the limit to see how far they can get.. But they know who they can get away with and who they can't.. I don't give off those vibes that that kinda question is okay to even open your mouth and say..


Now, I will say this.. He was honest and came straight out with it.. LMAO.. But still.. WTF!?!! He's got some elephant sized balls to ask that..


UNLESS, the basis of the relationship was "OPEN" then.. okay, fine.. But if not.. I'd be planning my exit from the relationship soon after that convo.

Yes honesty is always appreciated hell the way he sees it if he asked and you ssid yes

By golly you gave him the green light and you better not feel bad about that shit either


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LOL! Right!!


His thoughts-


No such thing as a stupid question.. I'll either get a yes or no. worth the try.."


Is this even Real Life tho OP?? @MilaniKisses


Posted by Scorpico
Nope. I'm your girl friend.


If he meets her through me, thats fine, but he can't come home and say


him: hey babe, I met this really cool chick! we're gonna get drinks later.


me: *stab*
LaughingXD.. Exactly.
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
Posted by poison_ivy
Posted by Wonderlesswave
The fuck... Firstly i would never believe that line and secondly if I'm not enough you gotta go.
Exactly what I was thinking.. TF!?!!


Why is this question even relevant??


That's a NO!
Right ?! Completely disrespectful

She does well to pack her emotions and get the fuck away from this fool

Dudes like this are bad for your health



Utter disrespect .. lol

They really are bad for your health... what will he ask for next?? Just no.. ? Run away ??
Open relationship bih!

So not worth the drama , I love his courage though . He definitely knows who to ask

Because he would have gotten a tax in the face

LaughingUmm no.. No finding friends on POF, No open relationship..


RIGHT!.. asking for a curse out & slap in the face... Ain't no wayyyy.... LMAO!
POF more like plenty of hoes

You got me several shades of fucked up big fella.

Lol i wanna meet this dude, he's nervey. I wonder how he came up with this shit like what was your thought process ???

How did you come to this shit ass conclusion?




LMAO @ "POF more like plenty of hoes"Laughing


Like really... Some men (well, ppl in general) test the limit to see how far they can get.. But they know who they can get away with and who they can't.. I don't give off those vibes that that kinda question is okay to even open your mouth and say..


Now, I will say this.. He was honest and came straight out with it.. LMAO.. But still.. WTF!?!! He's got some elephant sized balls to ask that..


UNLESS, the basis of the relationship was "OPEN" then.. okay, fine.. But if not.. I'd be planning my exit from the relationship soon after that convo.

Yes honesty is always appreciated hell the way he sees it if he asked and you ssid yes

By golly you gave him the green light and you better not feel bad about that shit either




LOL! Right!!


His thoughts-


No such thing as a stupid question.. I'll either get a yes or no. worth the try.."


Is this even Real Life tho OP?? @MilaniKisses


Lol yes they teach you that shit in grade school

Excuse me but here is a prime example

Of a stupid fucking question!!


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LOL! I agree..Laughing
Yeah it was the dating site that threw all that off...?


Friends are fine... going on a dating site? Nope.
Posted by poison_ivy


LOL! Right!!


His thoughts-


No such thing as a stupid question.. I'll either get a yes or no. worth the try.."


Is this even Real Life tho OP?? @MilaniKisses




Nope - The guy I'm talking to deleted his POF app.

Posted by MilaniKisses
Posted by fish_andchips_yeah
hey i recently wrote a article in the zirgo section tittled "pisces crshing on female virgo" but i have a gf

ithink you may find it interesting as we share similar views that others dont understand.. i try everyday to be intouch with my inner self.. and have got to know the 'exspression of love better

in your situatio have a good talk with him openup everything tell him you wont judge him differently

ask if hes feeling sexual towards other females etc

tell him its ok to communicate with females . but actiely lookig for them may not be the best way.. growth allways begins from with in

& yes we can disscuss more
See this kinda scares me...

Are you still with the aqua girl? When the virgo friend came to visit, I'm sure she could sense the pheromones you were putting out... anyways were you not as affectionate to your aqua girl because your mind was more focus on virgo girl? Do you still get the same feelings every time you see the Virgo girl?


I'm a Virgo girl - We are the most loyal and honest people. Since we're ruled by Mercury, we have really great communication skills too - I noticed you mentioned about having good communication with Aqua girl... But also read how rocky you guys have been.
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yes i am still with the aqua ill be seeing her in 2weeks.. we are gonna need to have a talk and if all goes well the communication lines will be completely open.. setting new boundaries or even disregard all boundaries and having total love for each other no matter what.. its gonna be upto her what the next move is.. ill have to take a long hard think & meditate about what i really want out of life only for myself. because if you dont love yourself 100% u are not capable of expressing it fully to another nor are u fully able to receiving it.. no matter what u do or trie there will always be a void in the relationship (missing self love) are u acting from a place of fear, doubt, low self esteem, or is this in alignment of your true nature of love take time to think get away from each other for a few days and meditate. you seem very intelligent & mature in nature to be able to transcend stupid society's beliefs of a relationship.

alot of guys have in relationships.. only when they developed a bond with another. only if they think this persons better suited.. will they then leave.. doesnt matter what age, zodiac, religion its the nature of man! although (i broke up wid aqua 4 a year with no relationships befor getting back together tho) being alone with women how ever faithful.. something could happen.. be ready for the worst but expect the best


idk if she could smell the pheromones as i was trying not to release any as my gf was there.. but we were deffs vibing each others energy on the low... everytime we first seen each other when she visited there was that spark then she would act shy but still pay attention.. with her energy, & her body (the body is a good indication of whats going on in the subconscious. which means she more then likely had mental chatter of me at the time) very subtle iknow & could be nothing.. is it true virgo's act shy towards potential but can be very subtle with hints possible the dark freak side talking to her as they tend not to be PDA or flirty...

in all cases 1 on 1 time was very limited & unable to take anything far, also only have visited around 4 times yet.. last was 6months ago. my partner can be a jealous type.. then again use virgos know how to own your beauty. (:

not to mention idid see visions (in pisces other unknown dimensions) where ihad a lucid dream with her in it.. which lead to me watching some synchromystic events unfold where the next arvo, found out she was gonna be visiting soon... ido agree theres no way she would have intercourse with me if i got a partner (im ok & aware of that)

but im curious to know if iwas at this moment.. somehow use magic in my words, being truthful & not deceiving & playing cool.. could she open up the lines of communication lines or be disgusted.

non virgos may think nothing but me also introverted has a understanding the different capacities that shyness is capable of. man id love to see that kinky side


Posted by MilaniKisses
Posted by poison_ivy


LOL! Right!!


His thoughts-


No such thing as a stupid question.. I'll either get a yes or no. worth the try.."


Is this even Real Life tho OP?? @MilaniKisses




Nope - The guy I'm talking to deleted his POF app.

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Oh good! I was gonna say,


You deserve SO much better!! smile

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