Help me understand this Libra man.

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by narsgirl1 on Friday, April 4, 2014 and has 38 replies.
Soooo I met him online december 2012. For the record, I'm 25 years younger than him (I'm a 24 year old taurus and he's a 49 year old libra) anyways, he flew me to new york a couple months after "meeting" and we hit it off really well. I ended things in the spring of 2013 because of a disagreement. We eventually hooked up again a couple weeks ago and we planned on meeting when he came down to fl for his mother's birthday. So we went to dinner on Tuesday, everything seemed good and I was really feeling him. He called me Wednesday morning to tell me that he had to cancel our weekend plans (he got a hotel and whatever for us) because his mom is sick and they have to fly to Columbia hospital in New York. Weeks ago he told me that his parents still go to their doctors in New York even though they live in FL. At first I didn't think anything of it and I felt so bad for him. But the more and more I think, I feel like he is lying. Just my intuition. He was apologetic and told me that he would fly me to New York. I don't know why I feel like he is lying. Maybe I just expect the worst from men but he hasn't shown me that he is a liar. He is a big family man but the timing of everything makes me feel like he just didn't want to see me and felt like us reconnecting was a big mistake.
I hope it's just me being insecure because if he lied about his mother being sick even went as far as saying he doesn't know how long she has. Idk what to think. What do you guys think?
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49 years old is old nowadays? lol
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49 years is too old for a 25 year old. Where did you meet him online? Sugardaddy.com?
The timing seems a bit ironic but hey he could either be telling the truth or he could be flying down a new 21 year old to NYC. Who knows?
If you broke up with him then why not just leave it at that? Listen to your gut instincts, something about him turned you off.
A couple more years and he'll be popping viagra and you'll be in your sexual prime in a few more years.
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He has no kids and never been married. LOL.
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Posted by DonAmanMarat
The man is TOO fuckin old anyway. He gonna die inside you one night, and your gonna have to pull him out and drag him down the stairs. Quite a job! Go take some weight training classes to bulk up in case.


Omg! Hahahahahaha!
What a visual!!!
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Posted by geminicandIe
Obviously, man has money and thus power to fuck who he wahts. Men like that often have charm and charisma. I knew a player like that, an older guy too. He had options. Men age like wine...he was like George Clooney type.
He is probably fucking and dating several women. Because he still can.
And 49 is not old by any means. It's a good age for man. He knows what he is doing, in and out of bedroom.


Lol he would have to be in DAMN good shape!
Sometimes when guys start nearing that age they kind of walk round trying to puff their chests out but out pops their bellies as well and they end up looking like a barrel lol
Come on... Someone's gotta put some pics on here!!
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Posted by geminicandIe
Obviously, man has money and thus power to fuck who he wahts. Men like that often have charm and charisma. I knew a player like that, an older guy too. He had options. Men age like wine...he was like George Clooney type.
He is probably fucking and dating several women. Because he still can.
And 49 is not old by any means. It's a good age for man. He knows what he is doing, in and out of bedroom.


Lol he would have to be in DAMN good shape!
Sometimes when guys start nearing that age they kind of walk round trying to puff their chests out but out pops their bellies as well and they end up looking like a barrel lol
Come on... Someone's gotta put some pics on here!!
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he's not george clooney...at all.
But he's not bad looking for his age.
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Posted by duchessedenemours
There is a limit to how old you should go. Maybe there is chemistry but you will probably have nothing in common other than issues.


how do you know what we have in common though? We have a lot in common and the reason we broke up the first time had nothing to do with age or him cheating or lying. There have been no issues since we hooked back up again.
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Posted by narsgirl1
Posted by duchessedenemours
There is a limit to how old you should go. Maybe there is chemistry but you will probably have nothing in common other than issues.


how do you know what we have in common though? We have a lot in common and the reason we broke up the first time had nothing to do with age or him cheating or lying. There have been no issues since we hooked back up again.


I don't mean music or likes and dislikes. Do you guys have the same values?
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I think we do.
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Posted by duchessedenemours
If a guy lies and cheats he doesn't respect you and without respect there can be no love.


well I've never caught him in a lie and I don't know of him ever cheating.
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Posted by duchessedenemours
Posted by narsgirl1
Posted by duchessedenemours
If a guy lies and cheats he doesn't respect you and without respect there can be no love.


well I've never caught him in a lie and I don't know of him ever cheating.


Sorry I misread that... lol. Need more coffee!
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lol that's okay.
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Posted by duchessedenemours
Posted by narsgirl1
Posted by duchessedenemours
Posted by narsgirl1
Posted by duchessedenemours
There is a limit to how old you should go. Maybe there is chemistry but you will probably have nothing in common other than issues.


how do you know what we have in common though? We have a lot in common and the reason we broke up the first time had nothing to do with age or him cheating or lying. There have been no issues since we hooked back up again.


I don't mean music or likes and dislikes. Do you guys have the same values?


I think we do.


I can't tell you not to date him. But be careful... I know it happens in Hollywood sometimes, but that age gap isn't normal and the fact that he's OKAY with dating someone as young as you screams issues to me as an outsider.
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okay, thanks. I'm still young so its not like I have plans on settling down or anything. BUT whats your take on that story? do you think hes lying?
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Posted by duchessedenemours
Did he tell that in the beginning or after he canceled? I'd be more likely to believe that if it made clear from the beginning.
It could be a lie, could not, but does seem unrealistic. People will say anything, especially online.


he came down for his mom's birthday and made plans to hang with me this weekend. We went to dinner on Tuesday and then wednesday morning he called me and told me his mom is sick (she had an appointment in the morning) and they had to fly out to go to her doctor at columbia hospital. he even went as far as to say he doesn't know how much time he might have with her. if he would lie about his old mother being sick and "not knowing how much time he has left with her" then he is gross and i don't want nothing to do with him.
The thing is, he doesn't come across as a liar but i'm not gonna lie like this isn't suspect.
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Way too old. Sorry but love doesn't conquer 25 years difference, especially when the health problems start to kick in.
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Sorry we didn't really give you any proper advice did we :/
Age and all other stuff aside, and not meaning to judge your situation...
If things have been ok, there is no reason to think he is lying. Men are not good at multitasking and if they are hit with some crisis that takes all their time (his very poorly mother being an obvious one) then usually the women are left -particularly if it's not a serious relationship - wondering while they deal with their shit.
Try not to take it personally; I don't think you need to feel insure for now but you will have to accept that you will be put on the back burner while he sorts this stuff out.
He's gonna think it a bit weird if after he's told you his mother is ill you start whining that you think he is lying; I'm sure he won't take that well.
It's just an issue of bad timing right now. If he's worth it then hang in there and stay strong. smile
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What is wrong with him that he can't find a woman his own age?
Sorry, but the entire situation is weird. You're right that your gut thinks that something is up. Since you have no definitive proof, all you can do is just keep an eye out.
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Astrologically, he's a Libra. There's a good chance he is lying. *cough*
I don't mean that in all seriousness, but I really wouldn't be shocked if this guy was some ass hat working his way around his harem, tbh. The fact that you're young and naive would work for someone like that. :/
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Posted by narsgirl1
Soooo I met him online december 2012. For the record, I'm 25 years younger than him (I'm a 24 year old taurus and he's a 49 year old libra) anyways, he flew me to new york a couple months after "meeting" and we hit it off really well. I ended things in the spring of 2013 because of a disagreement. We eventually hooked up again a couple weeks ago and we planned on meeting when he came down to fl for his mother's birthday. So we went to dinner on Tuesday, everything seemed good and I was really feeling him. He called me Wednesday morning to tell me that he had to cancel our weekend plans (he got a hotel and whatever for us) because his mom is sick and they have to fly to Columbia hospital in New York. Weeks ago he told me that his parents still go to their doctors in New York even though they live in FL. At first I didn't think anything of it and I felt so bad for him. But the more and more I think, I feel like he is lying. Just my intuition. He was apologetic and told me that he would fly me to New York. I don't know why I feel like he is lying. Maybe I just expect the worst from men but he hasn't shown me that he is a liar. He is a big family man but the timing of everything makes me feel like he just didn't want to see me and felt like us reconnecting was a big mistake.
I hope it's just me being insecure because if he lied about his mother being sick even went as far as saying he doesn't know how long she has. Idk what to think. What do you guys think?


First of all...Columbia Hospital is one of the BEST in the states. Second of all my father (a retired vet) who resides in Florida also uses NY hospitals if surgery or anything like that is needed because the health facilities in Florida simply SUCK. With that aside, what the hell are you doing with a man who could be your father? Did you ever think that he (who you say is a BIG FAMILY MAN) is embarrassed to be dating someone his daughter's age and doesn't want his family to know he is? I mean really...and I'm curious because I see women like you all the time with a Daddy on their arm..what the hell kind of future do you think you are going to have other than wiping his ass clean from shit when he's disabled? Is it about money and being taken care of? Was your Daddy absent growing up? I don't get this at all.
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Posted by narsgirl1
he came down for his mom's birthday and made plans to hang with me this weekend. We went to dinner on Tuesday and then wednesday morning he called me and told me his mom is sick (she had an appointment in the morning) and they had to fly out to go to her doctor at columbia hospital. he even went as far as to say he doesn't know how much time he might have with her. if he would lie about his old mother being sick and "not knowing how much time he has left with her" then he is gross and i don't want nothing to do with him.
The thing is, he doesn't come across as a liar but i'm not gonna lie like this isn't suspect.


The only thing suspect here is visualizing you pushing a wheel chair when you are in your thirties instead of a baby carriage.
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lol. We are in early stages of dating so Im not expecting to meet his family.

I'm not saying I will marry this man or have kids with him. Right now we are just hanging out. I'm still young and I'm not tied down. Whats the problem if I try an older man?
I don't normally date old men. Before him the oldest guy I've been with is 36 years old. Before that guy the oldest I dated was 30.
I just have a good connection with this guy from what I see.
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Posted by LetltB
Posted by narsgirl1
he came down for his mom's birthday and made plans to hang with me this weekend. We went to dinner on Tuesday and then wednesday morning he called me and told me his mom is sick (she had an appointment in the morning) and they had to fly out to go to her doctor at columbia hospital. he even went as far as to say he doesn't know how much time he might have with her. if he would lie about his old mother being sick and "not knowing how much time he has left with her" then he is gross and i don't want nothing to do with him.
The thing is, he doesn't come across as a liar but i'm not gonna lie like this isn't suspect.


The only thing suspect here is visualizing you pushing a wheel chair when you are in your thirties instead of a baby carriage.
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really? lol.
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Posted by narsgirl1

lol. We are in early stages of dating so Im not expecting to meet his family.

I'm not saying I will marry this man or have kids with him. Right now we are just hanging out. I'm still young and I'm not tied down. Whats the problem if I try an older man?
I don't normally date old men. Before him the oldest guy I've been with is 36 years old. Before that guy the oldest I dated was 30.
I just have a good connection with this guy from what I see.


I guess it's Daddy Syndrome then. Making up for what you didn't have growing up. It's common, and sad at the same time. There's help for that, and dating/fucking someone old enough to be your father/grandfather isn't the cure. Trust me on that one.
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Posted by LetltB
Posted by narsgirl1

lol. We are in early stages of dating so Im not expecting to meet his family.

I'm not saying I will marry this man or have kids with him. Right now we are just hanging out. I'm still young and I'm not tied down. Whats the problem if I try an older man?
I don't normally date old men. Before him the oldest guy I've been with is 36 years old. Before that guy the oldest I dated was 30.
I just have a good connection with this guy from what I see.


I guess it's Daddy Syndrome then. Making up for what you didn't have growing up. It's common, and sad at the same time. There's help for that, and dating/fucking someone old enough to be your father/grandfather isn't the cure. Trust me on that one.
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My dad has nothing to do with this. LOL. Focus on the issue on hand. I should've never mentioned his age.
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You mentioned the age difference on purpose - to get reactions.
That's obvious.
Furthermore, every attempt a person makes to reason with you ... you come back with excuses for yourself and for him.
So, the bottom line, as is appears from everything said in this thread .... you're an attention whore, which would make sense why you're with a man his age because you certainly draw that attention to yourself, now don't you?
You're not fooling me.
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Attention whore still looking for Daddy's attention any way she can...
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
What is wrong with him that he can't find a woman his own age?





Yet..on the flip side, ^^^this too is a valid question. My guess is save money on a real whore and use up a desperate 24 year old suffering from Daddy Syndrome.
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Posted by P-Angel

You mentioned the age difference on purpose - to get reactions.
That's obvious.
Furthermore, every attempt a person makes to reason with you ... you come back with excuses for yourself and for him.
So, the bottom line, as is appears from everything said in this thread .... you're an attention whore, which would make sense why you're with a man his age because you certainly draw that attention to yourself, now don't you?
You're not fooling me.


Attention for what? Lol, its a minor detail really.
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Posted by LetltB
Posted by rockyroadicecream
What is wrong with him that he can't find a woman his own age?





Yet..on the flip side, ^^^this too is a valid question. My guess is save money on a real whore and use up a desperate 24 year old suffering from Daddy Syndrome.
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use up? You sound disgustingly BITTER about something. Are you mad that you are older and probably haven't had positive relationships? Thats what it sounds like to me. I asked for advice and this chick/man is in this thread acting like he/she is a psychologist when you probably never graduated from high school. Bye.
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Posted by narsgirl1
Posted by P-Angel

You mentioned the age difference on purpose - to get reactions.
That's obvious.
Furthermore, every attempt a person makes to reason with you ... you come back with excuses for yourself and for him.
So, the bottom line, as is appears from everything said in this thread .... you're an attention whore, which would make sense why you're with a man his age because you certainly draw that attention to yourself, now don't you?
You're not fooling me.


Attention for what? Lol, its a minor detail really.
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Attention from the viewing audience .... not him.
You are so enthralled into your need to gain an audience that you're not even aware of it?
You came here to a viewing audience, and then laid shit down that you knew would get notice .... because nothing in what you ask about his intent has value, you then come up with an excuse for his behavior every time a person answers you .......
.... that means you only have one intent, and it's to seek an audience for attention
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use up? You sound disgustingly BITTER about something. Are you mad that you are older and probably haven't had positive relationships? Thats what it sounds like to me. I asked for advice and this chick/man is in this thread acting like he/she is a psychologist when you probably never graduated from high school. Bye.


No I'm not mad. I'm both disgusted and sad that 21-30 year old female species have lost all qualities and meaning to the words "LADY", "CLASS", "SELF RESPECT" and "DIGNITY" which took a shit dive somewhere along the way either from lousy upbringing, drugs or whatever resulting in women like you to think that a real man/good man would come along and sweep you all from your misery and play band-aid to your fucked up thinking process. In fact a lot of the times "thinking" doesn't exist.
What makes me very frustrated is the good men that come my way, have to waste time to make sure I'm not anything like the above and remind them of what a self respecting woman is with a head on her shoulders. Something you sadly were not raised/introduced to or have learned YET. That would be your problem not mine. I brought it to your attention...do with it what you will. My guess is..your life path will be miserable if you stay on the path you are now. Again..your problem and your insecurities if your "DADDY" is lying or not.
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So you like chasing after man children?
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Posted by LetltB
Posted by narsgirl1
use up? You sound disgustingly BITTER about something. Are you mad that you are older and probably haven't had positive relationships? Thats what it sounds like to me. I asked for advice and this chick/man is in this thread acting like he/she is a psychologist when you probably never graduated from high school. Bye.


No I'm not mad. I'm both disgusted and sad that 21-30 year old female species have lost all qualities and meaning to the words "LADY", "CLASS", "SELF RESPECT" and "DIGNITY" which took a shit dive somewhere along the way either from lousy upbringing, drugs or whatever resulting in women like you to think that a real man/good man would come along and sweep you all from your misery and play band-aid to your fucked up thinking process. In fact a lot of the times "thinking" doesn't exist.
What makes me very frustrated is the good men that come my way, have to waste time to make sure I'm not anything like the above and remind them of what a self respecting woman is with a head on her shoulders. Something you sadly were not raised/introduced to or have learned YET. That would be your problem not mine. I brought it to your attention...do with it what you will. My guess is..your life path will be miserable if you stay on the path you are now. Again..your problem and your insecurities if your "DADDY" is lying or not.
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like I suspected. Bitter and old. LOL Do you want me to send older gentleman your way after they are done wining and dining me? LOL. Mad ass.
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How sad.
You really don't get what is being said ... and how sad that is for you.
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Posted by narsgirl1
He has no kids and never been married. LOL.


Yep! Red flag alert
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Posted by P-Angel

How sad.
You really don't get what is being said ... and how sad that is for you.


yeah that bitch can call me a whore but I'm supposed to "get" what she is saying to me? Go sit down on the bitter bench next to her. Bye
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Posted by P-Angel

How sad.
You really don't get what is being said ... and how sad that is for you.


yeah that bitch can call me a whore but I'm supposed to "get" what she is saying to me? Go sit down on the bitter bench next to her. Bye
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Posted by narsgirl1
Soooo I met him online december 2012. For the record, I'm 25 years younger than him (I'm a 24 year old taurus and he's a 49 year old libra) anyways, he flew me to new york a couple months after "meeting" and we hit it off really well. I ended things in the spring of 2013 because of a disagreement. We eventually hooked up again a couple weeks ago and we planned on meeting when he came down to fl for his mother's birthday. So we went to dinner on Tuesday, everything seemed good and I was really feeling him. He called me Wednesday morning to tell me that he had to cancel our weekend plans (he got a hotel and whatever for us) because his mom is sick and they have to fly to Columbia hospital in New York. Weeks ago he told me that his parents still go to their doctors in New York even though they live in FL. At first I didn't think anything of it and I felt so bad for him. But the more and more I think, I feel like he is lying. Just my intuition. He was apologetic and told me that he would fly me to New York. I don't know why I feel like he is lying. Maybe I just expect the worst from men but he hasn't shown me that he is a liar. He is a big family man but the timing of everything makes me feel like he just didn't want to see me and felt like us reconnecting was a big mistake.
I hope it's just me being insecure because if he lied about his mother being sick even went as far as saying he doesn't know how long she has. Idk what to think. What do you guys think?


Narsgirl1,
You ending it last year, why do you allow yourself back with him again? If he is serious with you, he'll let you see his Mom before she died. You can run a background check on the guy, if you want. It's not hard.
Either way, good luck!




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Posted by narsgirl1
Posted by P-Angel

How sad.
You really don't get what is being said ... and how sad that is for you.


yeah that bitch can call me a whore but I'm supposed to "get" what she is saying to me? Go sit down on the bitter bench next to her. Bye
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I don't know who the "she" is you're talking about.
sounds like you wanted to have a foe, because that energy is what you focused on in your responses.
You've been fed good information ... but, you really didn't get any of it ... and that's sad.
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