Help Virgo Female/ with Libra Male
This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by Mim on Friday, September 28, 2007 and has 6 replies.
We are in fact 4 days apart (09/20 -Me & 09/24- He). We met one year ago and have been togther (if you want to call it that)all this time. There have been times when he has dropped out of communication for a week, so I just wait until he comes back to earth and realizes I'm alive.
He has a smile that would slip the halo off of an angel, the way he focuses on me is divine (when he actually does) and darn it if he hasn't stolen my shriveled virgo heart.
Now here is the rub: I want to make clear to him my feelings and desire to have a committed relationship. It'll be great if he agress but if he doens't I don't want to lose the (ahem) 'extras'.
I can't get a firm grip on things because when he lays on the charm he is attentive, sweet, affectionate and honest and I get smitten and there is no objectivity. But then he turns around and goes AWOL for however long (btw when this happens I never call him, I just keep on with my life until he contacts me).
I don't know if it is wishful thinking on my part (that he cares and is attracted to me) or I'm misreading his schizophrenic signals.
Anyone?
He has a smile that would slip the halo off of an angel, the way he focuses on me is divine (when he actually does) and darn it if he hasn't stolen my shriveled virgo heart.
Now here is the rub: I want to make clear to him my feelings and desire to have a committed relationship. It'll be great if he agress but if he doens't I don't want to lose the (ahem) 'extras'.
I can't get a firm grip on things because when he lays on the charm he is attentive, sweet, affectionate and honest and I get smitten and there is no objectivity. But then he turns around and goes AWOL for however long (btw when this happens I never call him, I just keep on with my life until he contacts me).
I don't know if it is wishful thinking on my part (that he cares and is attracted to me) or I'm misreading his schizophrenic signals.
Anyone?
Just thinking (and wanted to add)after all I have read on this message board about Libras that maybe dating a Libra is a waste of time. They appear to be indecisive, emotionally bereft, they don't even seem to know their own feelings. Maybe I have answered my own question just flipping through. Talk or no Talk I'll never know the truth. What a strange astro-sign. Are there any Virgo/ libra hook-ups ever? Something tells me the decisive and clear headed virgo may not be able to handle Libras constant state of confusion.
I spent some time with a Libra guy.
He was more clingy than that though.
Even when I would ask for a little space he wouldn't stop calling.
But, from what I've read about a lot of Virgos & Libras (since you both are on the cusp of Virgo/Libra) they/we tend to need space sometimes to just be on our own. If he keeps coming back to you after a week "off" he probably has feelings for you and likes you otherwise he would just stay gone.
More info on other planet placements would help.
My Libra had a Pisces moon, while I have an Aries moon - I am A LOT more independant emotionally even though I do get attached, have feelings, and can be passionate & impulsive. He was *very* emotional. Found myself walking on eggshells with him a lot. Like I said, he was also very clingy - called ALL DAY LONG! and wouldn't give me any space to breathe or do what I had to do. He also had a "martyr/victim" complex that turns my stomach.
As far as a committed relationship, if you don't want to lose the "extras" you could just ask him in a playful manner if he's ever thought about sharing more with you. If he says no, changes the subject, or even says yes but gives excuses - there's your answer right there without putting any pressure on him and risking losing the "extras."
He was more clingy than that though.
Even when I would ask for a little space he wouldn't stop calling.
But, from what I've read about a lot of Virgos & Libras (since you both are on the cusp of Virgo/Libra) they/we tend to need space sometimes to just be on our own. If he keeps coming back to you after a week "off" he probably has feelings for you and likes you otherwise he would just stay gone.
More info on other planet placements would help.
My Libra had a Pisces moon, while I have an Aries moon - I am A LOT more independant emotionally even though I do get attached, have feelings, and can be passionate & impulsive. He was *very* emotional. Found myself walking on eggshells with him a lot. Like I said, he was also very clingy - called ALL DAY LONG! and wouldn't give me any space to breathe or do what I had to do. He also had a "martyr/victim" complex that turns my stomach.
As far as a committed relationship, if you don't want to lose the "extras" you could just ask him in a playful manner if he's ever thought about sharing more with you. If he says no, changes the subject, or even says yes but gives excuses - there's your answer right there without putting any pressure on him and risking losing the "extras."
So you've been 'together' for a year and you still don't have a commitment???? Um, don't think it matters what the signs are, that's just not right. Period. Have you or he ever discussed being exclusive or the fact that you may be in a relationship?
Well Starfish, almost every relationship I've had always involved a man with venus and/or mars in scorpio and none of them ever stalked me.
Fair enough. I can live with 'just sex'. Just wanted to get objective opinions on the situation. Like I said, I'm a bit smitten and when that happens (which isn't often) it tends to colour my view of things. I still go on dates with other gentlemen but while they have come and gone he seemed to still be in the background, I thought maybe it was time I (actually) made an attempt to settle down. But, you guys are right he and I clearly aren't on the same page. I think I always knew just needed someone else to say it. Mind you I will still keep him around, no sense in cutting off my nose to spite my face. Thanks.
Leave Your Feedback
We'd love to hear your thoughts! If you're not logged in, you can still share your feedback below. Your input helps us improve the experience for everyone. To post your own content or join the conversation, please log in or create an account.
Related Topics
What ones have you experience? or Noticed? I've noticed - Leo Women and Virgo Men (Never the other way around) Hal
@SagittariusMale
Joined: Sep 28, 2007 · Topics: 3 · Posts: 4
@houstonpeach74
Joined: May 18, 2006 · Topics: 267 · Posts: 6936
so i have been broken up from my last virgal for about 7 months after dating 1.5 years. i am over her but would like to
@cansir
Joined: Apr 10, 2007 · Topics: 4 · Posts: 851
yeah we broke up...strangely enough, i caught him planning to move to san diego with his ex girlfriend..the one he was w
@mcamera
Joined: Aug 20, 2007 · Topics: 4 · Posts: 14
Just saying that word divorce is so painful. I'm not even sure what it is that I want to write. I'm still in shock ove
@CapyWife
Joined: Sep 12, 2007 · Topics: 35 · Posts: 501
I have been looking at this zodiac thing since january....And i think there is more to it than people think....Maybe it
@SagittariusMale
Joined: Sep 28, 2007 · Topics: 3 · Posts: 4
Here it goes...The Low Down on aries women. 1. When They lay eyes on you, they will make it obvious they like you....
@SagittariusMale
Joined: Sep 28, 2007 · Topics: 3 · Posts: 4
@angeleyes
Joined: Sep 28, 2007 · Topics: 7 · Posts: 161
Here's a few to name so far.. =) Mario Andretti (American race car driver) Bobby Unser (Indianapolis 500) Ryan Smit
@~mystic_fish
Joined: Nov 08, 2006 · Topics: 283 · Posts: 4746
Howdy all, First time here on the Scorp board. :) Just a quick story and curious about people's thoughts.....
@coach41
Joined: Sep 17, 2005 · Topics: 20 · Posts: 81