he's a cancer i'm a capricorn..om my god!! Falling

ok please help anybody..dammit..everybody..lol..his bday is ono june 22..im on dec 26..we met in jan this year and he was very into me..i was into him too..i still am..he would hug..hold my hand all this..but when i felt like he was backing away when i started talking about making it official i switched up and said well lets just take it slow..and he was super happy about that..i said no strings(cause i knew he had alot of other women he knew,) so then we kept going strong..then he backed away a lil..no more texting,,calling like he always did..he knows i like him cuz i told him..but i find lately like this past two weeks i'd have to cntact him if i wanted to talk..and i dont like doing that,,one time i called him crying about a situation i had andhe consoledmeand let me know i couldalways talk to him about anything..this past week i wentto his house and i saw a hickey onhis neck..but we havethat "understanding" so i couldn't even say anythingabout it but it was killing me..ugh..what should i do..i don't wanna push him away..i want him there asa friend regardlesss ifanyhting else..help i'm falling for my cancer

Posted by 0mycancerdancer
ok please help anybody..dammit..everybody..lol..his bday is ono june 22..im on dec 26..we met in jan this year and he was very into me..i was into him too..i still am..he would hug..hold my hand all this..but when i felt like he was backing away when i started talking about making it official i switched up and said well lets just take it slow..and he was super happy about that..i said no strings(cause i knew he had alot of other women he knew,) so then we kept going strong..then he backed away a lil..no more texting,,calling like he always did..he knows i like him cuz i told him..but i find lately like this past two weeks i'd have to cntact him if i wanted to talk..and i dont like doing that,,one time i called him crying about a situation i had andhe consoledmeand let me know i couldalways talk to him about anything..this past week i wentto his house and i saw a hickey onhis neck..but we havethat "understanding" so i couldn't even say anythingabout it but it was killing me..ugh..what should i do..i don't wanna push him away..i want him there asa friend regardlesss ifanyhting else..help i'm falling for my cancer

I feel like a broken record saying this...
But never make a man your priority if he only keeps you as an option.

You have to figure out if your "little understanding" is something you really can understand.

If I have that agreement with somebody, I have it because I'm keeping my options open.

Are you dating anybody else? You should...

brian well well said.....I would think hes not interested anymore and move on

I'd slap the shit out of him.

He was testing you .. he knew, because you told him, that you are into him and want more in the relationship because this is the reason why he backed away and so you two have that understanding ...... so he knows how you feel about him, he knows that you need an emotional crutch for leaning because you did indeed lean on him when you called him upset about whatever your emotional drama was ..... he knows all of it.


And then let you see him with a hickey on his neck.


He knew then ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ that you would be upset. He didn't have to let you see that.

But, he did let you ... which means, he knew he was fucking with your heart because he knows that he has your heart.



Don't be a fool ....... be in love all you want, be hurt all you want .. but don't be a fool and fall stupidly into a trap.


Step away .. view this is though it was happening to your friend ... pull out all emotions and view this from a perspective outside of yourself ..... you'd see this with clarity, then, wouldn't you?

Just because it is your heart that is feeling .... doesn't change the situation.

I wqanted to say thanx to everyone for your input,,i took something from all of you..and starfish i did get Steve's book..a while back i even read a book named the "rules" its obvious i totally ignored what i was supposed to do..but Steve's book helped alot..especially the sportsfishing section..and i know i'm beter thn that..but i wanted to share with u all the poem i wrote about this situation yesterday..here goes.

I cant believe i let myself get that low..settling for second best it hit me
like a blow.. To the head when i saw that hickey on your neck..but oh no one
must act as if i have no emotion..meanwhile in my head im going thru the
motions..remembering who i am and what i deserve and how i need to kick yo ass
to the curb tellin you this is how i wanted it knowin it wasnt tru..what made of
lie..is it cuz i fell for u well someone threw of a rope and i pulled myself
up..poured me a glass of knowledge and i drank the whole cup...now dont get me
wrong im not blaming u at all cuz at first in the beginning it was my call..but
now i see how its gotten out of hand..took me a minute..but now i understand.. I
let u disrespect of and take my kindness for weakness cmon tai stand up i want
you to meet this..woman i knew i was inside...strong beautiful intelligent with
pride..never again will i get on that ride! Thats my poem..u like?

oh..and i'm just gonna tell him the truth..about how i really didnt want an open relationshi[p but i'm not pushing him..i'm just gonna let him know this is not me...it's foreign to me and if i cant be number one then friends it is..what do u guys think?

well good for you omy....just take this as a learning experience...youll be okay

ok please help anybody..dammit..everybody..lol..his bday is ono june 22..im on dec 26..


lol, this is funny. 3 years ago when I had problems with a cancer guy -- his birthday was June 21 and mine was Dec. 25


I just find it funny how close together the birthdays are lol

But cappysweetie, June 21 is a Gemini.