how astrology bias affects relationships

i try to take astrology with a grain of salt but it's really hard to not be biased about someone after knowing what sign they are, especially when forming new relationships.. platonic or otherwise. it's almost a deterrent/accelerant. (deterrent as an earth sign: fire/air signs, accelerant: earth/water). i hung out with someone and surprisingly enjoyed it... but then i found out he was an aquarius and now i'm hesistant with even continuing to talk to him. (i just do not click with aquarius people. in the long run, they always turn out weird or off to me) it's completely ridiculous if you discount the notion of astrology, but it's hard to not view things through the compatability schema of astrology if you're a semi-believer (which i am). is it just me? have you ever lost interest in someone based on your bias against a certain sign or knowing that the two signs aren't compatible? or were you ever pleasantly surprised that the former was the case in the beginning but turned out to be a great relationship?

I think you can use astrology to learn about a person, but don't let it determined how your relationships will go or who to date. Its like your parents saying you can't date who you want to or arranging your marriage like in the oldem days lol. I wouldn't go for it. So if you was attracted to that person & really like them, Don't let astrology stop you & you end up missing out on a good person. You'll always be single doing that lol. So date who you wanna date 🙂

Some women make me tingly inside based solely on them being a certain sign, while some signs have the opposite effect... in case of the latter I try to focus on that person's other placements, if any redeeming 😛 So yeah, playfully biased here too and something of a "relationship elitist."

But I mean I wouldn't stop returning phone calls based on someone's sign lol, that's when it's time to seek proffessional help imo!

Posted by tiziani
Don't be so mean, bloodflood.


I also make the exact same typo on hesitant all the time btw.

ah hah! i didn't even realize i typed it out that way! was wondering what you were on about...

but yes, i am mean! 😛

It's funny, you cannot fail to see the posts which say stuff like "ugh Leo men are not for me" or "I stay away from Cancer chicks" or whatever due to some negative experience. Future relationships can then be scuppered by people's bad experiences and the poor guy or girl never gets a chance! At the end of the day, if a person likes you, or not this will show - or not show in their actions, regardless of sign..

Posted by bloodflood
i try to take astrology with a grain of salt but it's really hard to not be biased about someone after knowing what sign they are, especially when forming new relationships.. platonic or otherwise.

This is why I don't ask. I just find out naturally once an impression has already been made.

Posted by bloodflood

i try to take astrology with a grain of salt but it's really hard to not be biased about someone after knowing what sign they are ...

What a contradiction !!

To take something with a grain of salt means, you barely believe it.

then you turn around and insinuate that you care so fucking much that you make decisions based off of it.

Typical Virgo ... talking out of your ass

Posted by P-Angel

Typical Virgo ... talking out of your ass

yeah i wouldn't date a virgo either. the astrology gods have spoken < / 3

to elaborate, i oscillate between two opposing sides in this case--one that believes in the otherworldly, the spiritual, the healing forces of the unseen etc. naturally this is where astrology also belongs. in fact i was initially drawn to astrology mainly because that side of me exists. the other side is more structural, scientific, close-edged with no space for any sort of things that deal primarily with the gray in-between such as astrology for instance, or the paranormal. this is the side of me that tells me there aren't any monsters under the bed because monsters don't exist.. or that shadow in the corner isn't a ghost because ghosts don't exist.. echoes from my parents, learning guides from childhood. i guess this is the side that one is trained to have early on... the typical standard procedure... and anything else is a subculture... and the people who believe it, eccentric and "weird".

so yes, to say i take things with a grain of salt would be incorrect but it was the closest idiom :/

Astrology is a tool for understanding, not a blunt instrument.

Science is not based on faith, Tiz. The faith you need to have is in your good judgement.



As for the astrology bias...... if you like someone, you like someone, no matter what their sign is. If it were up to me, I would have preferred to date each time a different sign sign, in the same way I dated each time a different nationality. Not anymore, though. I think my Sag rising had enough 🙂.

In the mean time I've learned something about synastry/composite and started to look at relationships a bit differently. Once you know something, it cannot be undone in your mind. It plants a few red flags and/or perhaps validate your choices.

I like to know what to expect. It may help me understand our interactions better, but there is no way I would reject someone based on astrology. Conversely, I would not go after someone based on astrology either.

For example, Aries and I have the highest indexes I have ever seen on astrotheme.com. Communication: 88% . Physical: 87% , Affective: 100% , Conjugal:100% ! "Love requires no effort", lol. Will I try to make it happen? Nope. He is my married boss. In the best case, we'll have an wonderful working relationship. Actually, It's been a rollercoaster for the past two years, but I've enjoyed the ride.

Once you see how accurately astrology & all its placements seem to describe you personally, it's only natural to assume that that's true for others when you read up about people of certain signs/placements.

However, even astronomers advise others to consider sooooo many other factors that have nothing to do with astrology, to take into consideration before forming an entire opinion about someone's character.

Things outside of astrology that may interfere with astrology's "assessment" of what someone is supposed to be like:
-Age (A 15 year old Taurus may have a completely different personality or self-awareness than a 35 year old Taurus, hence the reason a teen who hasn't fully come into their personality studying astrology may not feel that astrology describes them as accurately as they'd feel it would persay they were 25 coming across the same information)

-Past. They say Libras are very outgoing & social. But if someone was abused, bullied or experienced some type of trauma in their past, their ability to be social, get close to others, etc. may have changed or significantly decreased.

-Culture. Culture has a huge influence on certain outward behaviors people have. They say Leo's can be very boastful & showcasing of any of their "assets." Well that may true in the U.S. but a woman in India may not be as flirtatious or show-boat

-Self-awareness. Someone who doesn't even know or understand themselves will disagree with almost everything an astrology site/book says about them lol not b/c it's not accurate but b/c it's unrealistic to expect someone unaware of who they really are to wanna take tips about who they are from an anonymous source lol

Posted by HeavySky
how are you able to get your friends' moons and rising signs?

I send them to ask their mum or search their birth certificate, if they want to discover a secret about themselves.

Posted by bloodflood
have you ever lost interest in someone based on your bias against a certain sign or knowing that the two signs aren't compatible?

No. Never

I joke a lot about being biased with air sign men but in real life, this is the group that approaches me the most.

I usually only ask for their sun sign and this only if it fits into conversation somehow. I don't care about birth date at all..I know I am an extremely curious person so researching someone's chart at the offset wouldn't help me. It would draw my mind into believing stuff either positive or negative, based on what I see in there.

I genuinely get to know and interact with the other person. I really use Astrology more not to understand myself..because I know myself but more like seeing some of the influences behind my thoughts processes and emotions. Even with that, I don't lose sight of reality.

At the end of the day, we either get along or we don't. And if we get along despite me being a Virgo, thus infuriating as hell, then all the better 😄

I'm just looking for an easy flow and a genuine chemistry, to sum it up.

It's hard to consider all the variables of astrology since we are still discovering it. If the relationship feels good, then stick with it. What astrology really does is let you know why you're drawn to that relationship. If you want to let it predict doom for you, go ahead. If you're willing to work for it like you would for any relationship, go ahead.

If you still feel bias is bothering you then I suggest you know the ins and outs of your own chart to see what you'd prefer, relationship wise. It will narrow down what you're willing to put up with in terms of cost and benefit.

Another good starting point is to make sure you have a lot of aspects in the synastry, good or bad. So long as there's aspects, somethings going on and something can happen. 😉

Posted by bloodflood

Posted by P-Angel

Typical Virgo ... talking out of your ass

yeah i wouldn't date a virgo either. the astrology gods have spoken

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Yes that would be a smart move to stay away from Virgo men... they are a nightmare.