How do you tell if someone is right for you?
This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by Stensco21 on Sunday, June 4, 2017 and has 24 replies.
You feel it maybe? But shouldn't matter as long as you're having fun.
But tell me what is "right"
But tell me what is "right"
Posted by magma2Does that ever happen
You don't have any doubt.
I disagree with the 'you just know' theory. How many times did you think you 'just knew' something only for it to turn out that you didn't know at all?
Here's a lot of links below for articles that I found exceptionally useful when trying to figure out the meaning of life, dating, picking/keeping partners, relationships etc.
I also did a list of things and qualities I wanted in a partner prior to rejoining an internet dating site back in Dec 2015. I wanted to be more clear and focused on what I would and would not compromise on, deal breakers etc. For example, taller than me so 5'10 min, non smoker, no kids but also things such as life goals, hobbies, how they interacted with their family. Some things were more superficial than others but my list was a whole A4 page! Not long after I met my now fella. He matched about 95% of that list - spooky! The 'chemistry' that people think they need to look for isn't always the chemistry they require in order to sustain a long term relationship (10 years, 40 years plus), not just physical/sexual chemistry that may only last a few fucks.
I hope any of this helps.
http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/02/pick-life-partner.html
http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/02/pick-life-partner-part-2.html
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/does-chemistry-matter-when-you-first-meet-someone/
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/intensity-isnt-the-same-as-intimacy/
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/phased-in-commitment-reality-based-instead-of-hope-based-commitment/
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-super-busy-the-modern-lame-excuse-for-managing-down-your-expectations/
http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/
http://markmanson.net/fuck-yes
Posted by AgentP911It sounds like you bought a product in a store just because it matched your demands but you don't seem too excited about it either
I also did a list of things and qualities I wanted in a partner prior to rejoining an internet dating site back in Dec 2015. I wanted to be more clear and focused on what I would and would not compromise on, deal breakers etc. For example, taller than me so 5'10 min, non smoker, no kids but also things such as life goals, hobbies, how they interacted with their family. Some things were more superficial than others but my list was a whole A4 page! Not long after I met my now fella. He matched about 95% of that list - spooky! The 'chemistry' that people think they need to look for isn't always the chemistry they require in order to sustain a long term relationship (10 years, 40 years plus), not just physical/sexual chemistry that may only last a few fucks.
Over time.
Posted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911It sounds like you bought a product in a store just because it matched your demands but you don't seem too excited about it either
I also did a list of things and qualities I wanted in a partner prior to rejoining an internet dating site back in Dec 2015. I wanted to be more clear and focused on what I would and would not compromise on, deal breakers etc. For example, taller than me so 5'10 min, non smoker, no kids but also things such as life goals, hobbies, how they interacted with their family. Some things were more superficial than others but my list was a whole A4 page! Not long after I met my now fella. He matched about 95% of that list - spooky! The 'chemistry' that people think they need to look for isn't always the chemistry they require in order to sustain a long term relationship (10 years, 40 years plus), not just physical/sexual chemistry that may only last a few fucks.click to expand
It sounds like you missed the point and didn't read at least the first two articles on the links. How is selecting a partner, ideally for life, different to making any other important decision?
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If they get my mental fidget spinner running, I know they're not the one.
Their credit score.
I also check their criminal history background.
I make them fill out an application and do a live scan.
I make them fill out an application and do a live scan.
Posted by AgentP911I didn't read any article.Posted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911It sounds like you bought a product in a store just because it matched your demands but you don't seem too excited about it either
I also did a list of things and qualities I wanted in a partner prior to rejoining an internet dating site back in Dec 2015. I wanted to be more clear and focused on what I would and would not compromise on, deal breakers etc. For example, taller than me so 5'10 min, non smoker, no kids but also things such as life goals, hobbies, how they interacted with their family. Some things were more superficial than others but my list was a whole A4 page! Not long after I met my now fella. He matched about 95% of that list - spooky! The 'chemistry' that people think they need to look for isn't always the chemistry they require in order to sustain a long term relationship (10 years, 40 years plus), not just physical/sexual chemistry that may only last a few fucks.
It sounds like you missed the point and didn't read at least the first two articles on the links. How is selecting a partner, ideally for life, different to making any other important decision?click to expand
I don't select women like cars based on a check list
Posted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911I didn't read any article.Posted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911It sounds like you bought a product in a store just because it matched your demands but you don't seem too excited about it either
I also did a list of things and qualities I wanted in a partner prior to rejoining an internet dating site back in Dec 2015. I wanted to be more clear and focused on what I would and would not compromise on, deal breakers etc. For example, taller than me so 5'10 min, non smoker, no kids but also things such as life goals, hobbies, how they interacted with their family. Some things were more superficial than others but my list was a whole A4 page! Not long after I met my now fella. He matched about 95% of that list - spooky! The 'chemistry' that people think they need to look for isn't always the chemistry they require in order to sustain a long term relationship (10 years, 40 years plus), not just physical/sexual chemistry that may only last a few fucks.
It sounds like you missed the point and didn't read at least the first two articles on the links. How is selecting a partner, ideally for life, different to making any other important decision?
I don't select women like cars based on a check listclick to expand
No, it was obvious you didn't read any of them.
Please continue on in your ignorance.
Posted by AgentP911lolPosted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911I didn't read any article.Posted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911It sounds like you bought a product in a store just because it matched your demands but you don't seem too excited about it either
I also did a list of things and qualities I wanted in a partner prior to rejoining an internet dating site back in Dec 2015. I wanted to be more clear and focused on what I would and would not compromise on, deal breakers etc. For example, taller than me so 5'10 min, non smoker, no kids but also things such as life goals, hobbies, how they interacted with their family. Some things were more superficial than others but my list was a whole A4 page! Not long after I met my now fella. He matched about 95% of that list - spooky! The 'chemistry' that people think they need to look for isn't always the chemistry they require in order to sustain a long term relationship (10 years, 40 years plus), not just physical/sexual chemistry that may only last a few fucks.
It sounds like you missed the point and didn't read at least the first two articles on the links. How is selecting a partner, ideally for life, different to making any other important decision?
I don't select women like cars based on a check list
No, it was obvious you didn't read any of them.
Please continue on in your ignorance.click to expand
I will
I am just not desperate enough to find the "love of my life" based on articles
One day it will just hit you like a sledgehammer, right in the face
Posted by TheSagOh I see what you did there.Posted by AgentP911lolPosted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911I didn't read any article.Posted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911It sounds like you bought a product in a store just because it matched your demands but you don't seem too excited about it either
I also did a list of things and qualities I wanted in a partner prior to rejoining an internet dating site back in Dec 2015. I wanted to be more clear and focused on what I would and would not compromise on, deal breakers etc. For example, taller than me so 5'10 min, non smoker, no kids but also things such as life goals, hobbies, how they interacted with their family. Some things were more superficial than others but my list was a whole A4 page! Not long after I met my now fella. He matched about 95% of that list - spooky! The 'chemistry' that people think they need to look for isn't always the chemistry they require in order to sustain a long term relationship (10 years, 40 years plus), not just physical/sexual chemistry that may only last a few fucks.
It sounds like you missed the point and didn't read at least the first two articles on the links. How is selecting a partner, ideally for life, different to making any other important decision?
I don't select women like cars based on a check list
No, it was obvious you didn't read any of them.
Please continue on in your ignorance.
I will
I am just not desperate enough to find the "love of my life" based on articlesclick to expand
You passed judgement on the content of all those articles... without actually reading any of them...
You never answered the earlier question.
In your world, how is selecting a partner, ideally for life, different to making any other important decision?
Please do share your wisdom for the masses.
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Oh you will know it. You know yourself better than anyone so you should know what you want the most in a partner. And when someone enters your life who embodies the perfect partner for you, it's nothing short of a magic feeling.
I should know.
I should know.
Posted by AgentP911No, I didn't judge the articles. If at all, I "judged" you for making a decision based on wirtten articles about your love life. If you are happy with it then so be it.Posted by TheSagOh I see what you did there.Posted by AgentP911lolPosted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911I didn't read any article.Posted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911It sounds like you bought a product in a store just because it matched your demands but you don't seem too excited about it either
I also did a list of things and qualities I wanted in a partner prior to rejoining an internet dating site back in Dec 2015. I wanted to be more clear and focused on what I would and would not compromise on, deal breakers etc. For example, taller than me so 5'10 min, non smoker, no kids but also things such as life goals, hobbies, how they interacted with their family. Some things were more superficial than others but my list was a whole A4 page! Not long after I met my now fella. He matched about 95% of that list - spooky! The 'chemistry' that people think they need to look for isn't always the chemistry they require in order to sustain a long term relationship (10 years, 40 years plus), not just physical/sexual chemistry that may only last a few fucks.
It sounds like you missed the point and didn't read at least the first two articles on the links. How is selecting a partner, ideally for life, different to making any other important decision?
I don't select women like cars based on a check list
No, it was obvious you didn't read any of them.
Please continue on in your ignorance.
I will
I am just not desperate enough to find the "love of my life" based on articles
You passed judgement on the content of all those articles... without actually reading any of them...
You never answered the earlier question.
In your world, how is selecting a partner, ideally for life, different to making any other important decision?
Please do share your wisdom for the masses.click to expand
What I was trying to say is, I don't look for love and I am not forcing it. If it happens it happens and if it doesn't, so what? You sound like a woman who needs to have a life partner, no matter what, as long as he matches your standards. Do you even like HIM?
Posted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911No, I didn't judge the articles. If at all, I "judged" you for making a decision based on wirtten articles about your love life. If you are happy with it then so be it.Posted by TheSagOh I see what you did there.Posted by AgentP911lolPosted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911I didn't read any article.Posted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911It sounds like you bought a product in a store just because it matched your demands but you don't seem too excited about it either
I also did a list of things and qualities I wanted in a partner prior to rejoining an internet dating site back in Dec 2015. I wanted to be more clear and focused on what I would and would not compromise on, deal breakers etc. For example, taller than me so 5'10 min, non smoker, no kids but also things such as life goals, hobbies, how they interacted with their family. Some things were more superficial than others but my list was a whole A4 page! Not long after I met my now fella. He matched about 95% of that list - spooky! The 'chemistry' that people think they need to look for isn't always the chemistry they require in order to sustain a long term relationship (10 years, 40 years plus), not just physical/sexual chemistry that may only last a few fucks.
It sounds like you missed the point and didn't read at least the first two articles on the links. How is selecting a partner, ideally for life, different to making any other important decision?
I don't select women like cars based on a check list
No, it was obvious you didn't read any of them.
Please continue on in your ignorance.
I will
I am just not desperate enough to find the "love of my life" based on articles
You passed judgement on the content of all those articles... without actually reading any of them...
You never answered the earlier question.
In your world, how is selecting a partner, ideally for life, different to making any other important decision?
Please do share your wisdom for the masses.
What I was trying to say is, I don't look for love and I am not forcing it. If it happens it happens and if it doesn't, so what? You sound like a woman who needs to have a life partner, no matter what, as long as he matches your standards. Do you even like HIM?click to expand
Why judge me at all for reading thought provoking articles that helped to assist me with aspects of focusing on finding a partner?
Have you not read anything about anything before in your life? You just suddenly woke up from your reverie and knew everything?
I posted those articles and shared my own experience as it might help the OP (and others) with her question. It might not but I wanted to share it.
Now you're making further unnecessary judgements and saying that I 'sound like a woman who needs to have a life partner, no matter what, as long as he matches your standards'. Where on earth do you make this bullshit up from?
I wanted to find a man to spend my life with. What is it about that that you find so appalling?
Yes, I love HIM very much. Plus he's a Taurus so he'd kick your donkey arse into next year...
Posted by AgentP911Posted by TheSagPlus he's a Taurus so he'd kick your donkey arse into next year...Posted by AgentP911No, I didn't judge the articles. If at all, I "judged" you for making a decision based on wirtten articles about your love life. If you are happy with it then so be it.Posted by TheSagOh I see what you did there.Posted by AgentP911lolPosted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911I didn't read any article.Posted by TheSagPosted by AgentP911It sounds like you bought a product in a store just because it matched your demands but you don't seem too excited about it either
I also did a list of things and qualities I wanted in a partner prior to rejoining an internet dating site back in Dec 2015. I wanted to be more clear and focused on what I would and would not compromise on, deal breakers etc. For example, taller than me so 5'10 min, non smoker, no kids but also things such as life goals, hobbies, how they interacted with their family. Some things were more superficial than others but my list was a whole A4 page! Not long after I met my now fella. He matched about 95% of that list - spooky! The 'chemistry' that people think they need to look for isn't always the chemistry they require in order to sustain a long term relationship (10 years, 40 years plus), not just physical/sexual chemistry that may only last a few fucks.
It sounds like you missed the point and didn't read at least the first two articles on the links. How is selecting a partner, ideally for life, different to making any other important decision?
I don't select women like cars based on a check list
No, it was obvious you didn't read any of them.
Please continue on in your ignorance.
I will
I am just not desperate enough to find the "love of my life" based on articles
You passed judgement on the content of all those articles... without actually reading any of them...
You never answered the earlier question.
In your world, how is selecting a partner, ideally for life, different to making any other important decision?
Please do share your wisdom for the masses.
What I was trying to say is, I don't look for love and I am not forcing it. If it happens it happens and if it doesn't, so what? You sound like a woman who needs to have a life partner, no matter what, as long as he matches your standards. Do you even like HIM?click to expand
Posted by Astrology101Why
I hate this thread.
Are you under the impression that there are soulmates?
And life is....magic?
And life is....magic?
Posted by breterpanYoungsters are soooooooooooooo cute ????????
you cross your fingers and give it a go
You always feel attracted to them and can never be without them for long.
Posted by PVJamzNice one, if someone can take something from any of this then that is good. I liked the traffic light description too.Posted by AgentP911
I disagree with the 'you just know' theory. How many times did you think you 'just knew' something only for it to turn out that you didn't know at all?
Here's a lot of links below for articles that I found exceptionally useful when trying to figure out the meaning of life, dating, picking/keeping partners, relationships etc.
I also did a list of things and qualities I wanted in a partner prior to rejoining an internet dating site back in Dec 2015. I wanted to be more clear and focused on what I would and would not compromise on, deal breakers etc. For example, taller than me so 5'10 min, non smoker, no kids but also things such as life goals, hobbies, how they interacted with their family. Some things were more superficial than others but my list was a whole A4 page! Not long after I met my now fella. He matched about 95% of that list - spooky! The 'chemistry' that people think they need to look for isn't always the chemistry they require in order to sustain a long term relationship (10 years, 40 years plus), not just physical/sexual chemistry that may only last a few fucks.
I hope any of this helps.
http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/02/pick-life-partner.html
http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/02/pick-life-partner-part-2.html
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/does-chemistry-matter-when-you-first-meet-someone/
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/intensity-isnt-the-same-as-intimacy/
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/phased-in-commitment-reality-based-instead-of-hope-based-commitment/
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-super-busy-the-modern-lame-excuse-for-managing-down-your-expectations/
http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/
http://markmanson.net/fuck-yes
I glanced at the articles. The only thing that really stood out for me is the Epic friendship part in the second link. I agree with that whole heartedly. And the discussion about the traffic test I liked. That was food for thought.click to expand
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