How to make Pisces and Aquarius relationship work?

Basically, I am a pisces female. I jus got to know this current bf of mine who is an aquarius. I do like him and trying my best to keep this relationship going. However, I do have a lot of setback which i need someone who has similar experience to give me some advice. My aquarius guy is really nice and a sincere man. He is very good natured. However, he is a very big problem....he has communication problems. I can be not receiving an text messages from him for week or even weeks. And also he does not have the habit to call as well. When he is busy, i dont hear from him, dont get to see him for weeks and simply...something like "missing in action". In fact, I did confront him a few weeks back in a very gentle manner, I told him that he does have communication problems and I need him to try to improve on it. He admitted and say that he will try to call me every few days or so. However, till now, it is almost 2 weeks...again i dont hear from him at all..... i am really very disappointed. I do not know how to handle an aquarius man. The conclusion is i like him, i wan to make this relationship work...however relationship needs two hands to clap. How can I adjust myself to be able to feel lesser frustration in this relationship ?

Can someone who is an aquarius ( preferred ) man advice me ? or someone who is currently a pisces and aquarius couple.

Damsel you sound like a nice and well adjusted woman and it does indeed sound like your aqua guy has a communication problem. Just one question: do you always initiate the contact every few days when you don't hear from him? I know how miserable this can make you feel when these bigs gaps of days and weeks not hearing from him start to make you wonder whether he cares at all. I reckon you should just try to make yourself pull back. You have told him that his behavior is not acceptable, he has admitted that he has a problem, so if he's not gonna make a firm effort to change himself for you, then you should start withdrawing your interest in him. Start introducing other hobbies and people into your immediate line of vision. This will help you to find solace in others who actually enjoy being around you and are able to show it and also it might even make this aqua man click into gear and start improving himself for you if he wants to keep you.

Damsel, he's waiting way too long to call you especially that you've voiced your needs to him and you have a relationship together. It takes two to make a relationship work and you're already struggling too hard with no sign from him to meet you in the middle. I would usually use the aquarius card cause it['s sometimes valid, but in your case I'm afraid that you have to look at it from a man/woman perspective: as in he's not tryin hard enough and you need to either stay or go.

Writing this cause I learnt the hard way,

Maia

Hi Damsel....just want to share my experience with an Aquarian

Like you, am a water sign - a Scorp who dated an Aquarian for 1 year 15 yrs ago...we hooked up again late last year. I hear your frustration!!! He would do exactly the same thing....would only call me maybe once a week...I would have to initiate planning dates, saw him once every couple of weeks...he didn't really seem to put in any effort, although I knew that he cared about me.

Our 'reunion' lasted 4 months before I finally said enough is enough. He tried to give me some lame excuse, but I wouldn't let him ... when I finally got it out of him, he admitted that he wasn't in love with me. It hurt but at least he finally gave me the closure that I needed. He broke up with me the day before Valentine's over the phone.

A week later we got together to say goodbye. had an awesome talk....the longest, most honest talk - the only talk about feelings we have ever had and left each other with lighter hearts and a promise from him to keep in touch. It took him 4 months to call me, lol, but we had a nice friendly chat.

Am not saying things won't work out for you guys, but right now am so thankful my Aquarian let me go as I went on to meet a Taurus who gave me a lot of attention and affection, both of which are important to me.

Good luck 🙂

Thanks everyone for giving me advice.

MellowDee...to answer your question on whether I am the one who initiated the contacts every other day ? The answer is "Yes". The reason why I feel frustrated is simply becoz i dont think it is healthy for me to be always the one initiating a meet-up or a line of concern for him via sms etc. Thats also precisely why i cant take it anymore and talk to him in a very gentle way to let him know that I dont like the way he communicated. In fact, when I met-up with him that day with the whole objective of talking to him to solve this issue, he is totally ignorant of what has gone wrong in our relationship. When I asked him whether he is seeing other girls....he stared at me and was angry with me. He then said that he never knew he had any problems at all. That is also the reason when I mentioned to him the communication problem he has....he was stunned. I guessed he does realised/admit his problem finally. However, what I am angry was that he still did not make an effort to call me ever since the last meet-up session with him. He told me that he would try to call me.....to me, this becomes a promise...but when days passed and promised were not fulfilled, it is a disappointment. Right now, I have told myself not to contact him anymore until he make the move. Of course again...i know that by the time he make the move, my anger with him may have already burst. Somehow...it seem hard. I wanted to try to work this relationship becoz I really think he is a good man...but given such communication problems, how many woman can really take this ? it is like having a bf who doesnt care abt u..who cant be around to hear u whenever u need it etc etc. And most importantly, I do not wan to be a woman who is like a stickly glue to him...I have my pride too...i cant always be the one who give...SIGH ! I am really disappointed...very very very disappointed !

Wow Damsel, I feel for you. I am an aqua women and was with a Pisces male for seven years. The relationship kept going on because he wanted it to. If I had been left without a word from him, I would have gone on my merry way. I did not have a very strong mental connection with him and I felt the relationship lacking in excitement. If I were in your shoes and a man showed me such lack of interest I would say lets keep things light, date others, get together when we might feel like it if we have not made any other committments and not have any expectations. Under no circumstances do I put more energy into something than a man is willing to put in himself or to appreciate the energy I have put into it. Maybe that is why I have been single for almost 9 years but I sure wouldnt want a man that merely exists with me because I want him to. I say he may have interest in you but he sure doesnt have a strong interest and if he really wanted you, he would definitely make you aware of that.

Hi Unreal. thanks for your sharing. Its good to hear that your man has finally been able to "commit" himself to you by changing his own habits. Really envious of you.

i am wondering whether there are any pisces and aquarius couples out there who have gone thru their fair share of ups and downs in the relationship and finally settled down and show that there is definitely a possible successful match of pisces and aquarius. Would really like to know how u have went thru the hard times to be able to bear the fruits of all your hardwork in compromising to make the relationship work ? Is there anyone out there to share w me ?

I am trying my best to work out the problems in my relationship ... thus i need some real good role models to be my inspiration :-)

You could throw this on the aqua and pisces board also to get more opinions,theres other pisces and aquas who are in or have been in this match up here who hang on thier own boards mostly.

damsel...i am a cancer, but i was with an aqua for two years and he just broke up with me 2 months ago. so, i can probably answer some of your questions/relate to what you are going through. my aqua and i have been talking lately and i think his feelings are still with me b/c of his actions, but i have also found out that he has been seeing another girl over the last couple of months.
anyway, let me know if you want to chat!

unreal...

how many times did you and your aqua breakup in five years? what was the cause of the break ups...was it your decision or his? did you just decide to give him his space and then he ended up coming around in the end? just curious b/c i am going through a situation with my aqua right now (we are broken up at the moment) and i am wondering if i should keep contacting him or let him come around when he is ready (although we have been in contact for the last month).

Hi Aquiella
Nice to hear your views. Maybe u can advise me on this, " ..leave him alone because he will make time when he wants to". if that is the case, do u mean to say if it take about 1 or 2 months and u still dont hear from aqua man...does it still make sense that he is still interested ? Also, in wat way can u share on how would aqua man behave when he start to really take interest in the relationship??

I read somewhere that Aquarian men mostly have flings and infatuations but they don't really hold up over time. If you can train one to respect you then great, because they are trainable. Others are quite inflexible and determined to have it all their way. Aquas do go off by themselves a lot.

Here's something I found on the net.

GENERAL FEATURES:
Air sign ruled by Saturn and Uranus. Aquarians are sincere, altruistic, free and active. Usually, they are quiet, but sometimes they can be extremely nervous or strained. They ask a lot from other people, and when they are disappointed, they suffer and bear grudge against them. Aquarians are vain, they love compliments and never leave anything to chance. They are intuitive, fanciful and critical. They can be good and pleasing friends as well as passionate lovers. They have lots of interests and creative ideas. Suited jobs: poet, astronomer, actor, pilot and smith.

SEDUCING AQUARIAN MEN: Aquarian men are brilliant, free and active. They are easy to seduce, but it is difficult to maintain their love for a long time. You don't have to part him from his friends and it is important to leave him free. He loves living in luxury, he likes what's new and he can make his partner's life brighter.