Posted by CocoKat
I'm at the local dive bar with my gf and I see my neighbor whos living with his girlfriend, a Taurus (and her young son) *passionately* kissing a another woman. I am very friendly with my neighbor and I care about her yet I have an internal struggle about how to deal with this. FYI, He saw me and I left soon after. What do I do??? Btw, she financially supports him. I'm upset because he always seemed so INTO her and in LOVE with her and obviously this is not the case.
Posted by capricornmoon
Do not, I repeat, do not tell her. Let the chips fall where they may. You will regret getting involved, however this this thing ends, if you tell her.
Posted by Montgomery
Yeesh... normally I'm an advocate of telling-- esp when the
the one being cheated on is financially supporting the cheater.
I'm still not convinced you shouldn't tell her.
Yes, she may see you as the enemy and he may feed her a line
of bullshit that she will choose to believe... but I would be in knots
keeping it a secret.
Ugh... and she's your friend.
Can you just frame it like: You're my friend, and I know you would
do the same for me-- maybe you two have an arrangement, idk.
bleh, I hate situations like this.
His fault for going in public with it.
Posted by flowingwater
Wow, who's stupid enough to cheat like that in public?? Lol
Posted by LuckyLibra979
Tell her, that's what id do. My friend was getting cheated on so bad in high school. Everybody knew and never told him but I did I couldn't let my boy go out like that
Posted by GemitatiPosted by CocoKat
I'm at the local dive bar with my gf and I see my neighbor whos living with his girlfriend, a Taurus (and her young son) *passionately* kissing a another woman. I am very friendly with my neighbor and I care about her yet I have an internal struggle about how to deal with this. FYI, He saw me and I left soon after. What do I do??? Btw, she financially supports him. I'm upset because he always seemed so INTO her and in LOVE with her and obviously this is not the case.
Ask her if she would tell you if she saw your partner cheating.
She must get the drift.
Brilliant idea!
She practically worships him, I think this maybe a good first step, I can get some idea of her possible reaction and how she takes it.click to expand
Posted by aquavita8
Tell and ask if they had an arrangement say u not sure how to say this but u saw it and u were surpisred and dint like it but may be she does. U never know I would like to know if I was her. Leos... u are bad. ...
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
Write an anonymous letter to your friend.
Posted by mysteriousTaurus
Tell her! If you were her, would you want to be told?
Posted by LuckyLibra979Posted by CocoKatPosted by LuckyLibra979
Tell her, that's what id do. My friend was getting cheated on so bad in high school. Everybody knew and never told him but I did I couldn't let my boy go out like that
Yup, I feel her pain. The issue I'm having is whether or not she will believe me. Shes always BRAGGING on him, like hes some saint or something. Every other sentence is like "Joey this.. Joey that, my Joey."
O wow man she may not then if she's that enamored that kind of shit is foul. If you wanna cheat stay single even men can be co dependent smh
Had a friend like that. He uses women up, seeks out the lonely and vulnerable. The one he's with now, he's brought a few girls in and out her house while she was gone, they told her what her house looks like. Smh she asked me what should she do, I told her leave him and do what's best for your family but she didn't, still with him. He got an std and gave it to her, guess who he got it from? Her 20 year old daughter, that's just sad. You've got to be careful these days, even men play the emotional manipulation game and I get disgusted by that behaviorclick to expand
Posted by Jenna77Posted by LuckyLibra979
Tell her, that's what id do. My friend was getting cheated on so bad in high school. Everybody knew and never told him but I did I couldn't let my boy go out like that
I agree. I know it's complicated but you should tell her. I'd feel awful if I was being cheated on and my friends knew about it and hid it from me.click to expand
Posted by SassyKiwi
Maybe I'm creepy but I'd take a picture and pretend like I was taking a selfie (Leos totally kno what I'm talking about ayy) and anonymously mail it to her.
Pictures speak a thousand words.
But if you don't run into something like that again a letter should be fine.
Posted by CocoKatPosted by SassyKiwi
Maybe I'm creepy but I'd take a picture and pretend like I was taking a selfie (Leos totally kno what I'm talking about ayy) and anonymously mail it to her.
Pictures speak a thousand words.
But if you don't run into something like that again a letter should be fine.
Yeah, Im thinking stage 3 is the letter.click to expand
Posted by capricornmoonPosted by LuckyLibra979Posted by CocoKatPosted by LuckyLibra979
Tell her, that's what id do. My friend was getting cheated on so bad in high school. Everybody knew and never told him but I did I couldn't let my boy go out like that
Yup, I feel her pain. The issue I'm having is whether or not she will believe me. Shes always BRAGGING on him, like hes some saint or something. Every other sentence is like "Joey this.. Joey that, my Joey."
O wow man she may not then if she's that enamored that kind of shit is foul. If you wanna cheat stay single even men can be co dependent smh
Had a friend like that. He uses women up, seeks out the lonely and vulnerable. The one he's with now, he's brought a few girls in and out her house while she was gone, they told her what her house looks like. Smh she asked me what should she do, I told her leave him and do what's best for your family but she didn't, still with him. He got an std and gave it to her, guess who he got it from? Her 20 year old daughter, that's just sad. You've got to be careful these days, even men play the emotional manipulation game and I get disgusted by that behavior
Eww, that's just nasty. I would beat her ass then run him over.click to expand
Posted by SensitiveBlues
She's not going to leave him! She'll just hate you!
I wouldn't bother! And how great is a guy who doesn't work? Sounds completely useless
Posted by Scruffles
I dunno but if you're questioning what her reaction might be and the possibility of her seeing you as an enemy and potentially making where you live an uncomfortable environment... do yourself a favor and don't get involved. : /
Sounds like she's more of an acquaintance to you rather than a close friend. I think it's in your own best interest not to tell her and mind your own business. I only say this because if she was really a good friend of yours, you would have already told her.
Granted, it's an awkward position to be in but your neighbors' lives aren't your concern. Besides, if he's shitting where he eats... she will find out on her own sooner rather than later.
Posted by NevermorePosted by Scruffles
I dunno but if you're questioning what her reaction might be and the possibility of her seeing you as an enemy and potentially making where you live an uncomfortable environment... do yourself a favor and don't get involved. : /
Sounds like she's more of an acquaintance to you rather than a close friend. I think it's in your own best interest not to tell her and mind your own business. I only say this because if she was really a good friend of yours, you would have already told her.
Granted, it's an awkward position to be in but your neighbors' lives aren't your concern. Besides, if he's shitting where he eats... she will find out on her own sooner rather than later.
This. It's not our business of their problems. No matter that you wanted to help them, just.. don't. You know their story, just don't get involved.click to expand
Posted by SensitiveBlues
Hey overanaltical drama oriented Virgo. Stfu! It's none of your business! Mind your own!
Posted by CocoKatPosted by Montgomery
Yeesh... normally I'm an advocate of telling-- esp when the
the one being cheated on is financially supporting the cheater.
I'm still not convinced you shouldn't tell her.
Yes, she may see you as the enemy and he may feed her a line
of bullshit that she will choose to believe... but I would be in knots
keeping it a secret.
Ugh... and she's your friend.
Can you just frame it like: You're my friend, and I know you would
do the same for me-- maybe you two have an arrangement, idk.
bleh, I hate situations like this.
His fault for going in public with it.
Montgomery get out of my brain! these are exactly my thoughts...it is his fault, God I wish I didn't see this!!!click to expand
Posted by xoxoRain
If you really really wanted to tell her. I'd go for an anonymous letter.
But you do have to realize it isn't your business to "help" another's relationship unless they asked for it.
If you told her directly, she'd probably get angry at first, than thankful for knowing the truth. But still, angry. Than it would be a lot of drama between yall 3 if u told her directly.
I'm a taurus dating a leo guy, and I'm imagining how I'd react.
But truthfully, Leo's are good at hiding their "discretions" & they'll get defensive fast if someone tries to soil their good name. Even if you told her, he'd find a way to manipulate it so he'd come out looking innocent.
This thread makes me sad kinda..
I'm a bull dating a leo.
Longterm relationship at that.
:-/
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by CocoKatPosted by Montgomery
Yeesh... normally I'm an advocate of telling-- esp when the
the one being cheated on is financially supporting the cheater.
I'm still not convinced you shouldn't tell her.
Yes, she may see you as the enemy and he may feed her a line
of bullshit that she will choose to believe... but I would be in knots
keeping it a secret.
Ugh... and she's your friend.
Can you just frame it like: You're my friend, and I know you would
do the same for me-- maybe you two have an arrangement, idk.
bleh, I hate situations like this.
His fault for going in public with it.
Montgomery get out of my brain! these are exactly my thoughts...it is his fault, God I wish I didn't see this!!!
Hmm... what if you don't mention the other woman at all?
What if you just tell her that you missed her the other night up at Le Shitty Bar?
When she gives you the WTF Look... just say something like
Yeah, we saw ______ (her pos bf) up there last Saturday, and we were hoping to
see you too -- I'll call you next time we're going![]()
Her imagination will take care of the rest.
She can ask questions if she wants... if she doesn't, you're off the hook.
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Posted by xoxoRain
If you really really wanted to tell her. I'd go for an anonymous letter.
But you do have to realize it isn't your business to "help" another's relationship unless they asked for it.
If you told her directly, she'd probably get angry at first, than thankful for knowing the truth. But still, angry. Than it would be a lot of drama between yall 3 if u told her directly.
I'm a taurus dating a leo guy, and I'm imagining how I'd react.
But truthfully, Leo's are good at hiding their "discretions" & they'll get defensive fast if someone tries to soil their good name. Even if you told her, he'd find a way to manipulate it so he'd come out looking innocent.
This thread makes me sad kinda..
I'm a bull dating a leo.
Longterm relationship at that.
:-/
Posted by xoxoRainPosted by MontgomeryPosted by xoxoRain
If you really really wanted to tell her. I'd go for an anonymous letter.
But you do have to realize it isn't your business to "help" another's relationship unless they asked for it.
If you told her directly, she'd probably get angry at first, than thankful for knowing the truth. But still, angry. Than it would be a lot of drama between yall 3 if u told her directly.
I'm a taurus dating a leo guy, and I'm imagining how I'd react.
But truthfully, Leo's are good at hiding their "discretions" & they'll get defensive fast if someone tries to soil their good name. Even if you told her, he'd find a way to manipulate it so he'd come out looking innocent.
This thread makes me sad kinda..
I'm a bull dating a leo.
Longterm relationship at that.
:-/
I think y'all are crazy... I would want to know.
The idea that its nicer to let someone be talked about
and pitied with no power to do anything is ridiculous--
and really its just to spare your own hide.
Life is too short for that shit.
No offense intended xoxox.
Never said i wouldn't want to know hun. Just said from my perspective I'd get angry from knowing. From taurus perspective. Mostly anger because to find out the guy i love is cheating. It's messy.
But i digress.
No offense taken luv xoxoclick to expand
Posted by dewiklaessen1991Posted by CocoKat
I'm at the local dive bar with my gf and I see my neighbor whos living with his girlfriend, a Taurus (and her young son) *passionately* kissing a another woman. I am very friendly with my neighbor and I care about her yet I have an internal struggle about how to deal with this. FYI, He saw me and I left soon after. What do I do??? Btw, she financially supports him. I'm upset because he always seemed so INTO her and in LOVE with her and obviously this is not the case.
Leo got bored Taurus are not very existing must explain it I would not do anything because if you get between it maybe you get into a fightclick to expand
Posted by Montgomery
Whats your sign, CocoKat?
Sun & moon
Posted by CocoKatPosted by MontgomeryPosted by CocoKatPosted by Montgomery
Yeesh... normally I'm an advocate of telling-- esp when the
the one being cheated on is financially supporting the cheater.
I'm still not convinced you shouldn't tell her.
Yes, she may see you as the enemy and he may feed her a line
of bullshit that she will choose to believe... but I would be in knots
keeping it a secret.
Ugh... and she's your friend.
Can you just frame it like: You're my friend, and I know you would
do the same for me-- maybe you two have an arrangement, idk.
bleh, I hate situations like this.
His fault for going in public with it.
Montgomery get out of my brain! these are exactly my thoughts...it is his fault, God I wish I didn't see this!!!
Hmm... what if you don't mention the other woman at all?
What if you just tell her that you missed her the other night up at Le Shitty Bar?
When she gives you the WTF Look... just say something like
Yeah, we saw ______ (her pos bf) up there last Saturday, and we were hoping to
see you too -- I'll call you next time we're going![]()
Her imagination will take care of the rest.
She can ask questions if she wants... if she doesn't, you're off the hook.
This is really good.click to expand
Posted by SensitiveBlues
She's not going to leave him! She'll just hate you!
I wouldn't bother! And how great is a guy who doesn't work? Sounds completely useless
Posted by RedbullPosted by dewiklaessen1991
@CocoKat I know alot of Taurus who have been cheated on because they are most of the time too busy with work/money they are stubborn materialistic and it is a sign that doesn't see anything until it happens to them
But, there is truth here in this statement. I dont have time to date. Im focusing on me. Having a house with no mortgage and getting my career and affairs together is more of a priority. Its a comfort reduced stress type life Im attracted to. Just honest statement attracting women is easy. It just happens without trying. So job one is getting me right. And then Im not taking care of anyone and putting myself in a position to be someone people can and feel its the thing to do to take advantage of. So who knows what the woman described is about.
Then if you tell her she will probably bring it up to him, he'll put 2 and 2 together and realize you are the one who saw him...but personally I would rather know regardless. Also its how you say things.click to expand
Posted by dewiklaessen1991
Still * if you can only think about yourself then that's selfish nothing wrong with being selfish but not all the time love should also give you extra support and make you feel even better
Posted by CocoKat
My scorp is flip flopping too. Hes also close with her son and he keeps calling me hes really worried now about both of them. He thinks being indirect will just cause confusion, in true plutonian fashion he's all or nothing about this so Ive decided to let it go for today and tomorrow come to a decision about this. SingaSong (fellow Infj!) I agree with you I would be really pissed if my friend knew and didn't tell me. I may have my scorp with me if I do decide to tell her, she tends to trust men a lot so Idk. Will keep everyone updated tomorrow.
Posted by CocoKat
Btw, she financially supports him.
Posted by CocoKat
I'm upset because he always seemed so INTO her and in LOVE with her and obviously this is not the case.
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Posted by CocoKat
I'm at the local dive bar with my gf and I see my neighbor whos living with his girlfriend, a Taurus (and her young son) *passionately* kissing a another woman. I am very friendly with my neighbor and I care about her yet I have an internal struggle about how to deal with this. FYI, He saw me and I left soon after. What do I do??? Btw, she financially supports him. I'm upset because he always seemed so INTO her and in LOVE with her and obviously this is not the case.
Posted by CocoKat
He got home late last night and there was soo much screaming, breaking things for 2 hours before he left again.
Lets see...
Posted by P-AngelPosted by CocoKat
Btw, she financially supports him.
You don't know that. You know that is what you are told.
Secondly, that has absolutely nothing to do with him kissing another woman.
So, since you mentioned it, you must believe that finances are a condition of kissing another woman.
It makes the suggestion that if he supported himself, then it's ok to kiss another woman.
How absurd, and goes to prove that you only wanted to gossip.
Posted by CocoKat
I'm upset because he always seemed so INTO her and in LOVE with her and obviously this is not the case.
You have no clue as the level of "into" that other have for each other. you even say at the end here, "obviously this is not the case" .... as if you decide what is real for other people.
You sound like a control freak, and maybe this person did it on purpose, just to prove to the other how much you stick your nose into their business.
You have no clue what is the case here, but, look at your ass ...... you made conclusions, as if you are personally involved and then came to gossip about it.
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