Life's Little Challenges, Your Birth Chart and Soulmates

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by malloryor on Monday, April 18, 2016 and has 21 replies.
Hello Dxpnetters,

So I'm a Pisces Sun, Aries Moon, Leo Asc. but my mom's a Scorp/Sagg (Nov. 22) and my dad's the typical playboy, emotionally aloof (until he's angry...swear the man goes from 0 to 60 in a blink of an eye) Aquarius, born on Jan. 10. Originally I was going to ask for advice on how to deal with these types of people, because I don't understand them and they don't understand me. But now I think this is all a part of the bigger plan to help me grow and develop into my higher being. So I'm wondering if anyone else has stories about difficult parental relationships, familial relationships...difficulty with people you are SUPPOSE to feel extremely close with and how did it POSITIVELY affect you?

I relate... well mother is a cancer and my father a taurus, and growing up watching their relationship impacted me in a positive way. My dad has always been very violent with us, especially my mom, with his words. He would criticize everything she says or does, for basically no reason. He also cheated on her and did many things that made her feel sad. But what was shocking to me was how she kept it for herself. She would not tell anyone about it, not her best friends neither her family... and of course they never understood me neither : my dad used to tear down my drawings, threw my records, read my diary, and my mom put all of her expectations on me as i am the oldest of my brothers and sisters, and so put a lot of pressure on me too, as she would see me as her only hope.
Now how did that affect me ? Of course it made me insecure, hating myself, feeling guilty, being antisocial for a while, but today i am a different person. Now i avoid any kind of abusive relationship and wont tolerate any Man abusing me, it also made me independant. It took a very long time... it also made me compassionate i think, as being exposed to this develops compassion. It took a lot of time and i am still working on it, but i guess these kind of relationships make us more mature and stronger in time. It also made my relationship with my brother and sister extraordinary. We love and support each other so much, i would do anything for them. Also seeing my mom never talking and going through a long depression helped me realising how much talking to other people about personal issues is important, it helps thinking outside our heads and seeing the big picture, beyond the comfort it brings too
Honestly i don't think i would be the person i am if i did not go through this, just looking back and accepting myself and analyzing the whole thing would make one more mature and more sensitive. I don't think sensitivity is a bad thing neither.
Posted by malloryor
Hello Dxpnetters,

So I'm a Pisces Sun, Aries Moon, Leo Asc. but my mom's a Scorp/Sagg (Nov. 22) and my dad's the typical playboy, emotionally aloof (until he's angry...swear the man goes from 0 to 60 in a blink of an eye) Aquarius, born on Jan. 10. Originally I was going to ask for advice on how to deal with these types of people, because I don't understand them and they don't understand me. But now I think this is all a part of the bigger plan to help me grow and develop into my higher being. So I'm wondering if anyone else has stories about difficult parental relationships, familial relationships...difficulty with people you are SUPPOSE to feel extremely close with and how did it POSITIVELY affect you?



Jan.10 is Capricorn, Malloryor.


funnily enough, the two scorpio/sag ladies in real life celebrities (Miley Cyrus AND Scarlett Johannssen) both married to Capricorn sun men. how ironic. but both have scorpio moons.
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by malloryor
Hello Dxpnetters,

So I'm a Pisces Sun, Aries Moon, Leo Asc. but my mom's a Scorp/Sagg (Nov. 22) and my dad's the typical playboy, emotionally aloof (until he's angry...swear the man goes from 0 to 60 in a blink of an eye) Aquarius, born on Jan. 10. Originally I was going to ask for advice on how to deal with these types of people, because I don't understand them and they don't understand me. But now I think this is all a part of the bigger plan to help me grow and develop into my higher being. So I'm wondering if anyone else has stories about difficult parental relationships, familial relationships...difficulty with people you are SUPPOSE to feel extremely close with and how did it POSITIVELY affect you?



Jan.10 is Capricorn, Malloryor.


funnily enough, the two scorpio/sag ladies in real life celebrities (Miley Cyrus AND Scarlett Johannssen) both married to Capricorn sun men. how ironic. but both have scorpio moons.
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Hahaha oops, oh well me and my dad aren't close. He acts like an aqua. But when did Miley get married??
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Posted by malloryor
Hello Dxpnetters,

So I'm a Pisces Sun, Aries Moon, Leo Asc. but my mom's a Scorp/Sagg (Nov. 22) and my dad's the typical playboy, emotionally aloof (until he's angry...swear the man goes from 0 to 60 in a blink of an eye) Aquarius, born on Jan. 10. Originally I was going to ask for advice on how to deal with these types of people, because I don't understand them and they don't understand me. But now I think this is all a part of the bigger plan to help me grow and develop into my higher being. So I'm wondering if anyone else has stories about difficult parental relationships, familial relationships...difficulty with people you are SUPPOSE to feel extremely close with and how did it POSITIVELY affect you?




I don't think it positively affected me at all.

The only positive thing I can say about my experience growing up is that it made me a strong person who's not easily broken.
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Well that is a positive. I guess that's what I'm searching for, some sort of explanation or reasoning as to why I had to have the people in my life that I do have. Sigh that sounds wayyy too harsh but idk, I either try to look at it as a plus or I let it make me all bitter and angry inside and I rather not go that route.
Posted by VirgoSquirrel
Honestly i don't think i would be the person i am if i did not go through this, just looking back and accepting myself and analyzing the whole thing would make one more mature and more sensitive. I don't think sensitivity is a bad thing neither.

Wow you internalized that all so well. I think that's a wonderful perspective to have on your upbringing. I guess why I am searching for positivity out of these hard circumstances is that I believe in the idea of soulmates, that everyone who plays a significant role in your life is in your life for a particular purpose...they are there to teach you a lesson. So I see you found value and a lesson to be learned in your experience and I think I am finding a lesson to be learned and gained in my experience with my rough upbringing.
I'm trying to think of ways in which its positively affected me, but any positive things I can think of also come along with negatives. For instance, I'm emotionally strong, however along with that, I became closed off and never learned how to relate well to others. The negatives far outweigh the positives and I can't say whether I would have been emotionally strong or weak had I not experienced what I did. Maybe I would have been emotionally strong either way. If that's the case, I would have chosen the less toxic path to becoming that
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Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by malloryor
Hello Dxpnetters,

So I'm a Pisces Sun, Aries Moon, Leo Asc. but my mom's a Scorp/Sagg (Nov. 22) and my dad's the typical playboy, emotionally aloof (until he's angry...swear the man goes from 0 to 60 in a blink of an eye) Aquarius, born on Jan. 10. Originally I was going to ask for advice on how to deal with these types of people, because I don't understand them and they don't understand me. But now I think this is all a part of the bigger plan to help me grow and develop into my higher being. So I'm wondering if anyone else has stories about difficult parental relationships, familial relationships...difficulty with people you are SUPPOSE to feel extremely close with and how did it POSITIVELY affect you?



Jan.10 is Capricorn, Malloryor.


funnily enough, the two scorpio/sag ladies in real life celebrities (Miley Cyrus AND Scarlett Johannssen) both married to Capricorn sun men. how ironic. but both have scorpio moons.

Hahaha oops, oh well me and my dad aren't close. He acts like an aqua. But when did Miley get married??
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um you have aquarius venus and aquarius mars.

my mother in law has aquarius venus and she is very detached, although very kind, nurturing, but she seems to want a lot of space.


but she also has Jupiter aquarius.

and my husband's pisces sun uncle has aquarius venus, and he's married to a double libra with libra venus. Obviously that aquarius venus is strong, and so much so with you having aquarius mars.

and your energy is very detached I noticed.
i mean you feel emotionally aloof yourself. So, it's very very strange you say what you say. lol and ask for how to deal with it. heehee.

and i'm afraid to find out your anger, because you have aries moon to boot.

aquarius mars for men in my personal experience is one scary mofo.

the women are good though, at least in my personal experience.

EDIT -- as for MIley and Liam....

they supposedly had a "secret" wedding.

http://hollywoodlife.com/2016/02/17/liam-hemsworth-miley-cyrus-married-secret-wedding-australia-marriage/
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by malloryor
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by malloryor
Hello Dxpnetters,

So I'm a Pisces Sun, Aries Moon, Leo Asc. but my mom's a Scorp/Sagg (Nov. 22) and my dad's the typical playboy, emotionally aloof (until he's angry...swear the man goes from 0 to 60 in a blink of an eye) Aquarius, born on Jan. 10. Originally I was going to ask for advice on how to deal with these types of people, because I don't understand them and they don't understand me. But now I think this is all a part of the bigger plan to help me grow and develop into my higher being. So I'm wondering if anyone else has stories about difficult parental relationships, familial relationships...difficulty with people you are SUPPOSE to feel extremely close with and how did it POSITIVELY affect you?



Jan.10 is Capricorn, Malloryor.


funnily enough, the two scorpio/sag ladies in real life celebrities (Miley Cyrus AND Scarlett Johannssen) both married to Capricorn sun men. how ironic. but both have scorpio moons.

Hahaha oops, oh well me and my dad aren't close. He acts like an aqua. But when did Miley get married??

um you have aquarius venus and aquarius mars.

my mother in law has aquarius venus and she is very detached, although very kind, nurturing, but she seems to want a lot of space.


but she also has Jupiter aquarius.

and my husband's pisces sun uncle has aquarius venus, and he's married to a double libra with libra venus. Obviously that aquarius venus is strong, and so much so with you having aquarius mars.

and your energy is very detached I noticed.
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Hmm not sure how you can pick that up online but like I told you before, I dont relate to my placements at all. I'm not detached at all, I feel too much emotion, perhaps overcompensating for the lack I felt growing up from my parents. I am very outgoing and like a true extrovert feed off of the energy of others, I dont like distance or seek out "space" and if I dont feel I'm getting that connectedness I need...like today, I'll come on an online forum like this. I hate quiteness, alone time, all of that. It's not necessarily because I dont like who I am all alone but I feel so depleted half the time from emotional connectedness and love that I am always hoping into relationships, that always get deep and serious really, really fast. For me there is no such thing as taking it slow (except sexually, i need trust for that) but idk, i need to feel close to people and would much rather be out somewhere socializi
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Rather be out socializing than being off on my own somewhere, but I understand most people dont always want that connection 24/7 so Ill come on here haha
Posted by lisabethur8
i mean you feel emotionally aloof yourself. So, it's very very strange you say what you say. lol and ask for how to deal with it. heehee.

and i'm afraid to find out your anger, because you have aries moon to boot.

aquarius mars for men in my personal experience is one scary mofo.

the women are good though, at least in my personal experience.

EDIT -- as for MIley and Liam....

they supposedly had a "secret" wedding.

http://hollywoodlife.com/2016/02/17/liam-hemsworth-miley-cyrus-married-secret-wedding-australia-marriage/

I feel you're putting too much weight in my birth chart, I think our environments and experiences have just as much, if not more influence on our lives than the placement of planets at the time of birth. I know I am suppose to feel and act aloof, but trust me I do not. I'm very much the personification of my Leo Asc., outgoing, talkative, energetic...I wouldnt say I am emotionally clingy but hell thats me talking, but I like to talk about my feelings and I like to feel connected to people. I dont have much of an anger either, my Aries moon comes into play with me being impulsive about love. I jump into relationships fast, falling in love fast and I know I shouldnt but I cant help to fall in love quick (working on it). But if anything I need to learn how to express anger more because I can be a bit of a door mat, always crying over or worrying how I made someone feel, or suffering in silence because I dont want to cause confrontations.

I had a pretty rough childhood, so perhaps I should be boisterious like you characterize an Aries moon, but I'm not. I should want my space and hate emotion, like an Aqua venus amd mars, but I don't. I like romance and all that mushy stuff unapologetically. Maybe this is all due to my upbringing and I am compensating, actually I am sure that I do. But like I said, you really cant put all that emphasis on someone's birth chart, especially if you arent living in their shoes, experiencing their experiences that are shaping and molding them.
Posted by Scenic
I'm trying to think of ways in which its positively affected me, but any positive things I can think of also come along with negatives. For instance, I'm emotionally strong, however along with that, I became closed off and never learned how to relate well to others. The negatives far outweigh the positives and I can't say whether I would have been emotionally strong or weak had I not experienced what I did. Maybe I would have been emotionally strong either way. If that's the case, I would have chosen the less toxic path to becoming that

Yeah I understand you completely. I would say it has definitely made me not so sensitive, I mean I am pretty sensitive, I care a lot about what people think and I hate to feel like I am not living up to someone I care for standards but I can take DIRECT criticism pretty well. If someone chews me out, I am much better dealing with it than I was as a kid. Then I use to just flat out cry right then and there haha. But yes, I guess there is really no positive, just hard life lessons learned.
Posted by malloryor
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Rather be out socializing than being off on my own somewhere, but I understand most people dont always want that connection 24/7 so Ill come on here haha

well you said you are outgoing, like a true extrovert feeding off people's energy.

that's airy/fire dominant.
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Posted by malloryor
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Rather be out socializing than being off on my own somewhere, but I understand most people dont always want that connection 24/7 so Ill come on here haha

well you said you are outgoing, like a true extrovert feeding off people's energy.

that's airy/fire dominant.

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Perhaps, but thats not aloof to me. I interpret my mom's emotional distance and my dad's literal physicsl, out of sight out of mind mentality as aloofness. Perhaps my definition is wrong haha
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Rather be out socializing than being off on my own somewhere, but I understand most people dont always want that connection 24/7 so Ill come on here haha

well you said you are outgoing, like a true extrovert feeding off people's energy.

that's airy/fire dominant.


Perhaps, but thats not aloof to me. I interpret my mom's emotional distance and my dad's literal physicsl, out of sight out of mind mentality as aloofness. Perhaps my definition is wrong haha
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aloof, emotionally unavailable, that's not being very affectionate to your family and Significant other.

you don't reach out and cuddle, or huggles, and they (your family) can sense that.

you don't reach out to hold, or want closeness.

personal touch is part of a very affectionate and loving personality.

some parents just aren't very touchy and affectionate. but they do make up for it in ways of financial support and being there. but they lack in the sitting with you, holding you, and the snuggles.
Posted by VirgoSquirrel
I relate... well mother is a cancer and my father a taurus, and growing up watching their relationship impacted me in a positive way. My dad has always been very violent with us, especially my mom, with his words. He would criticize everything she says or does, for basically no reason. He also cheated on her and did many things that made her feel sad. But what was shocking to me was how she kept it for herself. She would not tell anyone about it, not her best friends neither her family... and of course they never understood me neither : my dad used to tear down my drawings, threw my records, read my diary, and my mom put all of her expectations on me as i am the oldest of my brothers and sisters, and so put a lot of pressure on me too, as she would see me as her only hope.
Now how did that affect me ? Of course it made me insecure, hating myself, feeling guilty, being antisocial for a while, but today i am a different person. Now i avoid any kind of abusive relationship and wont tolerate any Man abusing me, it also made me independant. It took a very long time... it also made me compassionate i think, as being exposed to this develops compassion. It took a lot of time and i am still working on it, but i guess these kind of relationships make us more mature and stronger in time. It also made my relationship with my brother and sister extraordinary. We love and support each other so much, i would do anything for them. Also seeing my mom never talking and going through a long depression helped me realising how much talking to other people about personal issues is important, it helps thinking outside our heads and seeing the big picture, beyond the comfort it brings too

water is long suffering, and they won't say anything to anyone at all.

and to say anything outside of the family is forbidden.

so it is kept in SECRET.

at least this is my personal experience with water dominant.


but of course, I've also known some watery loving relationships and they have the most beautiful relationships I've ever seen/heard.
when it's loving it's so lovely. when it's not, it's kept in secret and in secret pain.

it's good you didn't follow in your mother's footsteps.

sometimes, children follow the father or the mother I notice, or do the opposite and never be either one.
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Rather be out socializing than being off on my own somewhere, but I understand most people dont always want that connection 24/7 so Ill come on here haha

well you said you are outgoing, like a true extrovert feeding off people's energy.

that's airy/fire dominant.


Perhaps, but thats not aloof to me. I interpret my mom's emotional distance and my dad's literal physicsl, out of sight out of mind mentality as aloofness. Perhaps my definition is wrong haha

aloof, emotionally unavailable, that's not being very affectionate to your family and Significant other.

you don't reach out and cuddle, or huggles, and they (your family) can sense that.

you don't reach out to hold, or want closeness.

personal touch is part of a very affectionate and loving personality.

some parents just aren't very touchy and affectionate. but they do make up for it in ways of financial support and being there. but they lack in the sitting with you, holding you, and the snuggles.
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You're coming to conclusions you dont know about me. I am very affectionate with my signifcant others and friends. My dad abandon me when I was young, so he is not around, only sparingly, so I'm not sure how you would expect me to feel comfortable cuddling him when I hardly know him. I was abused as a child and my mother's response was "get over it, I was abused and so have many other women," so yeah, she's not the most affectionate person either. When you get emotionally burned like that, no you dont just want to cuddle, I wouldnt even dare try with my parents out of fear of rejection. But my bfs (past) and friends, I am actually very affectionate haha
no, you don't understand, that's what I feel from you, the aloofness.
I don't know how you are in personal relationships. that's horrible about what happened to you, sorry to hear about what he did, and even worse that your mother said to get over it.

it's just a feeling, of aloof distance from your posts.
Posted by thesculptor
I haven't seen my Aquarian mother in 21 years. She left after cheating on my Sag father. I couldn't remember her ever being affectionate with me. She had mostly ignored me and left me to be taken care off, along with my two brothers to the servants. The only thing I could always remember about her was how well-dressed she was, full-on make-up and passed out on the couch-drunk after another party. And I remember how I cried more than I ever did for her when one of the servants decided it was time to leave and go back to her family. She had never been much of a mother to me.

it sounded like you and your mother came from a very wealthy family.

and your mother sounded very addicted.

that's horrible about your upbringing, thesculptor, Only thing I can offer as a poster here is my condolences, that you were given such a terrible mother.

we can't choose our family, but we can choose what we do with the life we're given.