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Men' s dating stages in life 20's 30's 40's
The Guy in His Thirties
A guy in his thirties (depending on if he is married) may not feel much different from his twenties. He may be slightly irresponsible and selfish, but will soon realize that he is not as indestructible as he once thought. These are the years when he will realize his inevitable decline. This may benchmark a sadness over his lost youth, but can lead to a renewed drive to find a lasting love.
Working against his search for companionship will be the fact that he is becoming set in his ways as a single bachelor. This can bring about a lot of conflict in relationships, as while he may say he wants to be a team, he lacks the ability to think beyond himself. Getting a guy in his thirties to commit is a bit of a race against time. The longer he enjoys his bachelorhood, the more set in his ways he will become.
One of the first things a woman can do to ease a thirty-year-old into commitment is to understand his fears. One thing all men fear is failure. Failure at work, life, and in their relationships. Men like to be the hero, which means knowing he can please his partner, making her feel secure and loved. Men are more apt to listen and act upon relationship problems when criticisms are preceded by a compliment.
A guy in his thirties (depending on if he is married) may not feel much different from his twenties. He may be slightly irresponsible and selfish, but will soon realize that he is not as indestructible as he once thought. These are the years when he will realize his inevitable decline. This may benchmark a sadness over his lost youth, but can lead to a renewed drive to find a lasting love.
Working against his search for companionship will be the fact that he is becoming set in his ways as a single bachelor. This can bring about a lot of conflict in relationships, as while he may say he wants to be a team, he lacks the ability to think beyond himself. Getting a guy in his thirties to commit is a bit of a race against time. The longer he enjoys his bachelorhood, the more set in his ways he will become.
One of the first things a woman can do to ease a thirty-year-old into commitment is to understand his fears. One thing all men fear is failure. Failure at work, life, and in their relationships. Men like to be the hero, which means knowing he can please his partner, making her feel secure and loved. Men are more apt to listen and act upon relationship problems when criticisms are preceded by a compliment.
The Guy in His Forties
Being comfortable and secure in life, family, friends, and career are what every man hopes to achieve by the time he is forty — but not every man does. Some men have no more understanding of who they are at forty than when they were twenty. A confused guy in his forties may wish he could start over, pulling away from his long-term partner, cheating on his wife, buying a red sports car, and partaking in what's been described as a —mid-life crisis.??
The unmarried forty-year-old has lived for himself for over twenty years. He has seen enough weary married men dragged through the mall behind their wives to believe that there isn't always a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. He may fear commitment and marriage more than ever, and the chance that he will make a life style change is slim. If he doesn't want to get married (i.e., doesn't want kids), take his word at face value. What you see/hear is generally what you get.
One of the biggest complaints for older men is that they are stuck in their glory days, wearing the same clothes, listening to the same music, and using the same pickup lines as they did in college. Women, however, embrace the new by keeping up on the latest music, fashions, and hip dialect. This may lead some women to date younger men, but with age comes benefits. The older man is generally more stable (emotionally and financially), a better listener, and in some ways a superior (more controlled) sex partner.
So ladies, when you cast your line out to the man-sea, know that there really is no way to gauge which ones to throw back by their age. All men mature differently, offering a different experience depending on the outcome of each stage. Ultimately, what you are looking for is a man who knows who he is, or is at least well on his way to making that discovery!
What's your take on how men??mature??_ or don't?
Being comfortable and secure in life, family, friends, and career are what every man hopes to achieve by the time he is forty — but not every man does. Some men have no more understanding of who they are at forty than when they were twenty. A confused guy in his forties may wish he could start over, pulling away from his long-term partner, cheating on his wife, buying a red sports car, and partaking in what's been described as a —mid-life crisis.??
The unmarried forty-year-old has lived for himself for over twenty years. He has seen enough weary married men dragged through the mall behind their wives to believe that there isn't always a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. He may fear commitment and marriage more than ever, and the chance that he will make a life style change is slim. If he doesn't want to get married (i.e., doesn't want kids), take his word at face value. What you see/hear is generally what you get.
One of the biggest complaints for older men is that they are stuck in their glory days, wearing the same clothes, listening to the same music, and using the same pickup lines as they did in college. Women, however, embrace the new by keeping up on the latest music, fashions, and hip dialect. This may lead some women to date younger men, but with age comes benefits. The older man is generally more stable (emotionally and financially), a better listener, and in some ways a superior (more controlled) sex partner.
So ladies, when you cast your line out to the man-sea, know that there really is no way to gauge which ones to throw back by their age. All men mature differently, offering a different experience depending on the outcome of each stage. Ultimately, what you are looking for is a man who knows who he is, or is at least well on his way to making that discovery!
What's your take on how men??mature??_ or don't?
HUM
right!my thoughts exactly you cookie monsters are nuts!
As with all two legged beasties it depends on the man himself. Some have their shiz together in their twenties and some reach their eighties without a clue. I've seen younger men actually desire a wife, children and home. And men in their 40s and beyond that are still wildly embracing that inner Peter Pan and trying to crawl under every skirt they can.
watch it V/B watch it. Lets not go there.
Oh but I think we ought. In great detail. 😉
BAD WOMAN, BAD WOMAN.
Becides I am in a commited relationship for awhile.
You know my friends keep telling me I'M not a kid at 43.
Could be my last chance you never know.
The question is, is it worth it?
Becides I am in a commited relationship for awhile.
You know my friends keep telling me I'M not a kid at 43.
Could be my last chance you never know.
The question is, is it worth it?
Posted by venusianbull
As with all two legged beasties it depends on the man himself. Some have their shiz together in their twenties and some reach their eighties without a clue. I've seen younger men actually desire a wife, children and home. And men in their 40s and beyond that are still wildly embracing that inner Peter Pan and trying to crawl under every skirt they can.
totally true,but i think this is worth reading since its written by a dude...who knows
Posted by venusianbull
As with all two legged beasties it depends on the man himself. Some have their shiz together in their twenties and some reach their eighties without a clue. I've seen younger men actually desire a wife, children and home. And men in their 40s and beyond that are still wildly embracing that inner Peter Pan and trying to crawl under every skirt they can.
kinda like fonzie??
I am a GOOD WOMAN. And well you know it.
So you're not a kid, big deal. It's all on how you feel inside. The old adage holds true.
I scoff at the last chance bit, in life we are given many of them. It is up to us to grab hold of what we feel is right.
And absolutely it's worth it. Every maddening step of the way.
So you're not a kid, big deal. It's all on how you feel inside. The old adage holds true.
I scoff at the last chance bit, in life we are given many of them. It is up to us to grab hold of what we feel is right.
And absolutely it's worth it. Every maddening step of the way.
LOL angel, exactly like Fonzie. Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.
Half 8 half drunk can't think so no argument tonight. Have a good trip lov talk again some day.
Posted by VitasXisto
That's some good shit right there, and I agree with the article 100% . I also do agree with venusian, some men mature faster then others, some have their shit together early in life, however in my opinion some men don't wish to succeed early in life because they enjoy the liberties of not having strong responsibilities, a confident man knows when to pursuit, when to endure and when to engage a goal or task at full hand. Those who succeed early in life, would eventually have more challenges and battles to face, whether it'd be lost youth or sacrificing the times. One must know who he is before excelling in your profound passions or endeavors. Discipline of mind, discipline of body and discipline of emotions must be the priority of all men........
what do you mean by disipline of mind??do you guys brainwash yourselfs into thinking no emotions??what about all the good women in the world?are we to be left lonely —just curious my ex seemed like he showed no emotion sometimes,i just dont want him to be old fat and bald one day wishing he woulda called me and fixed things,because if he did i'd be right there with him making him a chicken pot pie lol,but i guess not apparently,f~it who gives a shit anyway lol but please answer still hahaha
Posted by VitasXisto
Very much, men are weaker when it comes to dealing with emotions then females, so we've been brought up to suppress our emotions, not necessarily become emotionally detached, but to become emotionally disciplined. Females are emotional creatures, an emotional man is a weak man. When a man projects any sense of emotions toward his affectionate then take it as a good sign, especially if he is a masculine man. Throughout the ages strong men were to the ones to survive, it is encoded onto our DNA an inductive norm throughout the times, emotions are associated with femininity and weakness, the most logical of them all are the strongest of the pack. What about all the good women? There is none, women are naturally the selector and the men are the selected, a woman who's in touch with her femininity and beauty is able to persuade and manipulate the masses to her likings...
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I think what you said is true. Except the last part ,yes it's true it is easy for me ( woman) to pick a guy .the part you don't get is I'm not about quantity,I want quality ,so the part I want to know is why can't I get the guy I pick to settle down and commit ( forever ) why is it so hard? Don't get me wrong it's easy to do with a low quality man .but seems like the ones I admire aren't so much inclined to get married or even be my boyfriend for longer then a year , do what is the problem?? Thanks buddy : )
Posted by VitasXistoPosted by angelbunnydarlinglibraPosted by VitasXisto
Very much, men are weaker when it comes to dealing with emotions then females, so we've been brought up to suppress our emotions, not necessarily become emotionally detached, but to become emotionally disciplined. Females are emotional creatures, an emotional man is a weak man. When a man projects any sense of emotions toward his affectionate then take it as a good sign, especially if he is a masculine man. Throughout the ages strong men were to the ones to survive, it is encoded onto our DNA an inductive norm throughout the times, emotions are associated with femininity and weakness, the most logical of them all are the strongest of the pack. What about all the good women? There is none, women are naturally the selector and the men are the selected, a woman who's in touch with her femininity and beauty is able to persuade and manipulate the masses to her likings...
.
I think what you said is true. Except the last part ,yes it's true it is easy for me ( woman) to pick a guy .the part you don't get is I'm not about quantity,I want quality ,so the part I want to know is why can't I get the guy I pick to settle down and commit ( forever ) why is it so hard? Don't get me wrong it's easy to do with a low quality man .but seems like the ones I admire aren't so much inclined to get married or even be my boyfriend for longer then a year , do what is the problem?? Thanks buddy : )
A high quality male will be attracted to a high quality female for the long term objective. Your right, it's never about quantity, quantities is the easy part, quality is what's difficult. Sometimes the problem isn't the person your looking for, sometimes the problem is you...click to expand
Yep , you are speaking truth! Not to brag or anything , but I'm a great catch , not dramatic,great career,smart ,funny,athlete,no kids .I think i'n my situation it has tons to do with my ex's job .he even told me once , I'm not a good husband or boyfriend type ,because my job requires I be gone most of the time .and he could die at any moment .but still there could be something he didn't like about me and I'll just have to work harder on bettering myself .there is an old saying ,I think it'
Posted by VitasXistoPosted by angelbunnydarlinglibraPosted by VitasXisto
Very much, men are weaker when it comes to dealing with emotions then females, so we've been brought up to suppress our emotions, not necessarily become emotionally detached, but to become emotionally disciplined. Females are emotional creatures, an emotional man is a weak man. When a man projects any sense of emotions toward his affectionate then take it as a good sign, especially if he is a masculine man. Throughout the ages strong men were to the ones to survive, it is encoded onto our DNA an inductive norm throughout the times, emotions are associated with femininity and weakness, the most logical of them all are the strongest of the pack. What about all the good women? There is none, women are naturally the selector and the men are the selected, a woman who's in touch with her femininity and beauty is able to persuade and manipulate the masses to her likings...
.
I think what you said is true. Except the last part ,yes it's true it is easy for me ( woman) to pick a guy .the part you don't get is I'm not about quantity,I want quality ,so the part I want to know is why can't I get the guy I pick to settle down and commit ( forever ) why is it so hard? Don't get me wrong it's easy to do with a low quality man .but seems like the ones I admire aren't so much inclined to get married or even be my boyfriend for longer then a year , do what is the problem?? Thanks buddy : )
A high quality male will be attracted to a high quality female for the long term objective. Your right, it's never about quantity, quantities is the easy part, quality is what's difficult. Sometimes the problem isn't the person your looking for, sometimes the problem is you...click to expand
Yep , you are speaking truth! Not to brag or anything , but I'm a great catch , not dramatic,great career,smart ,funny,athlete,no kids .I think i'n my situation it has tons to do with my ex's job .he even told me once , I'm not a good husband or boyfriend type ,because my job requires I be gone most of the time .and he could die at any moment .but still there could be something he didn't like about me and I'll just have to work harder on bettering myself .there is an old saying ,I think it'
think it's says ,when you don't look for the best you often end up with just that .lol .thanks buddy ,you made a lot if sence ,even if the truth hurts it helps 🙂
Interesting read. Thanks for that.
Awesome post. : D
It was a really great read.
It was a really great read.
^ Very well said.
Very good article.
I wish Eric J. Leech wrote in more detail.
I wish Eric J. Leech wrote in more detail.
Good read.
There's a lot of truth behind the belief that "men get better with age". This is not to say all men actually RIPEN 😛 but for the most part I find this to be the truth. I'm admittedly a late bloomer and I LOVE being in my 30's. I'm in better shape and far more focused than I ever was in the haze of my 20's.
My own adventures through life absolutely did not follow the expectations and results mentioned in the article. I'm cognizant of the choices that defined the different paths I've been able to walk. No regrets, baby!
There's a lot of truth behind the belief that "men get better with age". This is not to say all men actually RIPEN 😛 but for the most part I find this to be the truth. I'm admittedly a late bloomer and I LOVE being in my 30's. I'm in better shape and far more focused than I ever was in the haze of my 20's.
My own adventures through life absolutely did not follow the expectations and results mentioned in the article. I'm cognizant of the choices that defined the different paths I've been able to walk. No regrets, baby!
Posted by VirgoHero
Good read.
There's a lot of truth behind the belief that "men get better with age". This is not to say all men actually RIPEN 😛 but for the most part I find this to be the truth. I'm admittedly a late bloomer and I LOVE being in my 30's. I'm in better shape and far more focused than I ever was in the haze of my 20's.
My own adventures through life absolutely did not follow the expectations and results mentioned in the article. I'm cognizant of the choices that defined the different paths I've been able to walk. No regrets, baby!
I didn't know you were in your 30s!!!
Not that it's a bad thing ^_^. Just saying lol.
Am I the only one in my twenties here now— Hmm, I wonder
I actually enjoy my early 30s.
Having more seasoning and experience than I did in my 20s, I feel more confident and refined based on numerous and varied life experiences and travels.
If anything, I understand why many women prefer an older man.
We are much more calm and successful than the younger guys.
Having more seasoning and experience than I did in my 20s, I feel more confident and refined based on numerous and varied life experiences and travels.
If anything, I understand why many women prefer an older man.
We are much more calm and successful than the younger guys.
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